The Ultimate Guide to Wedding Dress Codes

Trying to decide what to wear to a wedding can be tricky. Thankfully, wedding dress codes can help you narrow down your wedding attire as a guest.

But what do they all mean? White tie, black tie, semi-formal, destination? Deciphering a wedding dress code can feel like navigating a maze. 

Don’t worry — we’re here to help. Check out our ultimate guide to wedding dress codes. Read on to unpack the 13 most popular wedding dress codes. This includes options for female, male, and non-binary or gender-neutral guests. Ready to get started? Let’s jump in. 

What is a wedding dress code?

Decoding Wedding Dress Codes
Decoding wedding dress codes: the ultimate guide for wedding guests

A wedding dress code is the dress code guidelines that the nearly-weds would like their guests to follow. This can either be a recommendation, for example, ‘There are lots of cobblestones at our venue, so we recommend no high heels!’ or a more stringent request, for example, ‘Please wear black tie only.’ 

Following the dress code will ensure you fit in with the nearly-weds’ vision and match the aesthetics of the day. It will also make sure you feel comfortable and enjoy the celebration to the fullest. 

Do I have to follow a wedding dress code?

You don’t have to, but it’s recommended. It’s a simple way to show your appreciation to the couple for inviting you and show that you want to contribute to their big day. It’s a small gesture, but it goes a long way. Plus, it’ll ensure you’re comfortable throughout the day. 

The ultimate guide to wedding dress code

Ready to jump into the ultimate guide to wedding dress codes? Let’s get started. 

White-tie

White-tie wedding clothing for guests is the fanciest of the fancy. It is formal, traditional, and usually reserved for the most sophisticated of occasions — perfect for a wedding. 

White-tie ladies

Ladies’ white tie attire includes a full evening dress or evening gown, elbow-length gloves, heeled shoes, elegant jewellery, and a clutch bag. Your gloves should be a matching or complementary colour to your dress. Alternatively, you can never go wrong with white gloves. 

White-tie men

Men should wear a black tailcoat with satin peak lapels, a waistcoat, a crisp white shirt, suit trousers, a bow tie, and a top hat. You should accessorise with cufflinks, a pocket square, and a pocket watch if you have one. 

In terms of suit colour, stick to black. However, a very dark navy or purple may also be appropriate.  

White-tie gender-neutral or non-binary

While traditional white-tie attire has been historically associated with specific gender norms, modern interpretations of formal dress codes are more inclusive.

A well-tailored suit is a great gender-neutral white-tie option. You could consider having a suit made and tailored to fit you perfectly and maintain an androgynous silhouette. This also means you have more freedom with the style and fabric. For example, you could pick a dark purple velvet or a suit lined with a beautiful pattern like paisley. 

Black-tie

A black-tie dress code is a formal dress code a step down from white-tie. It’s associated with elegant, upscale weddings and other formal events.

Black-tie ladies

Ladies should wear a floor-length gown and heeled shoes for a black tie dress code. You can forgo gloves for black-tie. However, your outfit should convey a sense of formality and sophistication. You should accessorise with elegant jewellery and a clutch bag or wristlet. 

Black-tie men

Men should wear a tailored tuxedo, black formal trousers, a crisp shirt, a bow tie, and a cummerbund in a complementary colour. You should accessorise with cufflinks and a pocket square.  

Black-tie gender-neutral or non-binary

A tailored tuxedo is another solid choice for gender-neutral black tie attire. Choose a crisp shirt, a tailored suit jacket, a vest or cummerbund, tailored trousers, smart shoes, and polished accessories for a gender-neutral and formal outfit. 

Formal or black-tie optional

Formal or black-tie optional is a dress code that gives guests more flexibility in what they wear to the big day. This dress code indicates that guests can wear black-tie if they choose. However, so long as they dress formally, they’ll fit in with the aesthetic of the day. 

Formal or black-tie ladies

Ladies have the option to wear a full-length gown or a stylish cocktail dress. Accessories and jewellery should be classy, and you can opt for a low heel if you’d prefer. Fascinators or hats are also appropriate for formal or black-tie optional events.

Formal or black-tie men

Men can choose to wear a formal dark suit or take it up a notch with a classic black-tie ensemble. This includes a tuxedo, formal shirt, and optional accessories like a bow tie or cummerbund.

Formal or black-tie gender-neutral or non-binary

A tailored suit is a great option for formal or black tie optional events. However, you could also opt for a stylish jumpsuit, a classy wrap dress, or even well-coordinated separates like a flowy blouse and trousers. Keep accessories refined and sophisticated for a polished overall look. For example, dangling earrings, a long necklace, an antique pocket watch, or a clutch handbag are all great options to complete your look. 

Cocktail

A cocktail dress code is a semi-formal style of dress typically chosen for events that fall between casual and formal. This dress code suggests a level of sophistication and style without the formality of black-tie attire. 

The best thing about cocktail attire is that you can really have fun with it. You can dress in a brighter colour than you may have picked for black-tie, can include sparkles, or even use flashy fabrics like satin. This will add a touch of glamour to your look. 

Cocktail ladies

Ladies have a ton of options for cocktail attire. From beautiful wrap dresses or a-line to a classic fit-and-flare, you really can wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. We recommend choosing a knee length cocktail dress or midi dress to match the occasion and wearing heeled shoes. 

Accessories can include statement earrings, a stylish belt, or a pretty bag to complete the look. 

Cocktail men

Men should opt for a classic suit in a dark colour for a cocktail wedding dress code. However, a cocktail dress code is the perfect opportunity to experiment with unusual suit colours and textures. If you aren’t comfortable in a suit, you could consider a well-fitted blazer paired with stylish trousers and a contrasting shirt. 

Experiment with accessories like colourful pocket squares, bold ties, or even stylish cufflinks to inject personality into your outfit.

Cocktail gender-neutral or non-binary

The flexibility of cocktail wear means it’s a great choice for gender-neutral guests. You could wear a stylish jumpsuit, a co-ordinated skirt set, or even a tailored suit in a colourful fabric. Keep accessories light and neutral so as not to distract from your outfit. 

Semi-formal or dressy casual

Semi-formal or dressy casual is a dress code that falls between casual and formal wedding guest attire. It is more sophisticated than everyday casual wear but doesn’t require the formality of black-tie or cocktail wear. 

Semi-formal or dressy casual ladies

Semi-formal or dressy casual means you can opt for a flowy dress, smart separates, a pretty wrap dress, or just about anything that makes you look polished and put together. You can wear heels or flats, and accessories should be tasteful and appropriate. For example, a nice watch, clutch bag, or jewellery set. 

Semi-formal or dressy casual men

Men should choose a well-fitted dress shirt in a solid colour or subtle pattern with dress pants in a complementary colour. You could also wear a blazer or sports jacket if the weather is chilly and accessorise with a smart tie and cufflinks. 

Semi-formal or dressy casual gender-neutral or non-binary

You can’t go wrong with tailored separates, a stylish jumpsuit, or a button-down shirt with chinos. Flat, dressy shoes are the most appropriate. Avoid overly casual sneakers or sandals.

Casual

Casual wedding guest attire is more relaxed than semi-formal or formal options but still requires thoughtful consideration. The level of casualness can vary, so it’s important to take cues from the wedding invitation, venue, and time of day. Casual weddings usually happen in the summer, so it’s important to dress to keep the sun off. 

Casual ladies

Try a sundress, a flowy maxi dress, or a casual skater dress in light or pastel colours for a casual wedding dress code. Floral prints or simple patterns work well for a daytime wedding. In terms of shoes, try a low heel, sandals, or pretty dress shoes. Accessories should be light and designed to keep the sun off your face if the wedding is outdoors. For example, a hat or visor. You could also try a woven bag for a summery touch. 

Casual men

It’s perfectly acceptable to wear a polo shirt, casual button-down, or a smart shirt for a casual wedding. Pair with chinos, loafers or boat shoes, and a stylish watch and belt, and you’re good to go!

Casual gender-neutral or non-binary

Try pairing a loose-fitting shirt with dress pants, chinos, or a flowy skirt for the perfect, versatile gender-neutral wedding attire as a guest. Pair this outfit with slip-on shoes, loafers, or even clean, stylish trainers to strike a balance between comfort and sophistication. 

Seasonal

Seasonal wedding guest attire will depend largely on the season. For example, you would dress differently for a spring wedding than you would an autumn wedding. 

Seasonal ladies

Spring or summer

Light fabrics, bright colours, and flowery dresses are all great options for spring or summer weddings. You could also try a summer suit or casual separates for a polished yet relaxed look. You can pair these with clean trainers or pumps and delicate accessories. 

Patterned summer dresses tend to have a lot of white in them, so be mindful of this when selecting wedding clothing for guests. Guests should avoid wearing white wherever possible so they don’t overshadow the bride. 

Autumn or winter

Wrap dresses, tasteful suits, or coordinated separates are all great options for an autumn or winter wedding. You’ll need a matching jacket to keep off the chill and sensible shoes to keep your feet warm. Stick to jewel tones, dark colours, and fur where appropriate.  

Seasonal men

Spring or summer

Lightweight suits in breathable fabrics like cotton or linen are excellent options for a spring or summer wedding. Choose a suit in pastel shades, neutrals, or bright colours to capture the essence of the season. Pair it with a crisp dress shirt, a complementary tie, and slip-on shoes for a modern but relaxed look. 

Autumn or winter

You can’t go wrong with a classic dark suit for an autumn or winter wedding. Heavy materials like wool or velvet can add extra warmth, and brogue or Oxford-style shoes are perfect for keeping your feet warm. You’ll need a longer coat to stave off the cold. However, these look quite fashionable. 

Accessorise with a watch, cufflinks, and a coordinating pocket square for a classy, put-together look.

Seasonal gender-neutral or non-binary

Spring or summer

Wide-leg trousers, a flowy top, and clean trainers give a modern but sophisticated wedding look. Stick to neutrals, pastels, or light colours to complement the fresh and vibrant atmosphere of a modern wedding.

Autumn or winter

Swap the lightweight fabric for warmer materials like wool or velvet. Wide-leg trousers in a deep, autumnal colour such as burgundy, forest green, or chocolate brown can add a touch of seasonal elegance. Pair them with a long-sleeved, flowy top in a coordinating hue or a rich jewel tone.

Layering becomes essential in cooler weather, so consider adding a tailored blazer or a stylish coat that complements the colour scheme.

Tropical or destination

Tropical or destination weddings bring relaxed vibes, patterned clothing, and casual footwear. Check the weather before you travel and pack accordingly!

Tropical or destination ladies

Flowy sundresses, maxi dresses, or jumpsuits are all perfect choices for ladies attending a tropical or destination wedding. These styles not only capture the laid-back and breezy ambiance of the location but also provide comfort in warmer climates.

Try a bright colour or tropical print to really lean into the aesthetic of a destination wedding. Footwear should be practical yet stylish. Consider strappy sandals, espadrilles, or even elegant flip-flops for beach weddings. Going barefoot, especially for beach ceremonies, can also be a charming and authentic choice.

Tropical or destination men

Lightweight and breathable clothing options are perfect for a destination wedding. Consider pairing these with tailored shorts or chinos for a laid-back look. Tropical prints, vibrant colours, and pastel hues add a playful touch to your ensemble.

Footwear should be comfortable and practical. Try loafers, boat shoes, or even stylish sandals to complement the tropical setting. 

Tropical or destination gender-neutral or non-binary

A flowy jumpsuit, wide-legged pants, or any clothes with a relaxed fit will contribute to the laid-back feel of a tropical or destination wedding. Neutral, light, or bright colours are all great choices for a beach or outdoor wedding. 

Footwear can include comfortable options like espadrilles, slip-on shoes, or sandals. Ensure they are suitable for the terrain and venue, especially if it’s an outdoor setting.

Come as you are

A ‘come as you are’ dress code means that guests are free to wear whatever makes them feel good, whether it’s casual, semi-formal, or even formal attire. The best thing about ‘come as you are’ is that you often don’t have to buy anything new. Instead, you can reuse items already in your wardrobe and save your money!  

Come as you are ladies

Although ‘come as you are’ indicates a laid-back affair, you should still try your best to look nice and respect the formality of the big day. You can’t go wrong with a knee-length dress, low heels, and tasteful accessories. 

Come as you are men

Try combining a crisp shirt with dress trousers and a complementary tie for a classic but sophisticated look. A well-fitted blazer or a tailored suit jacket can add a touch of refinement to the ensemble, elevating it to a more formal level. 

Come as you are gender-neutral or non-binary

‘Come as you are’ for gender-neutral or non-binary individuals is an inclusive and open invitation that prioritises self-expression and comfort over traditional gender norms. Feel free to express yourself authentically with your favourite outfit, jewellery, and shoes. 

Vintage or retro

A vintage or retro-themed wedding is the opportunity to channel the timeless elegance of a time gone by. The invitation should specify the vintage era the nearly-weds are going for. For example, 60s, 70s, or 80s. However, if it doesn’t, consider the overall aesthetic of the venue, the couple’s personalities, or any subtle clues in the invitation that might hint at the desired era. 

Vintage or retro ladies

Classic silhouettes like A-line or tea length are perfect for adding a vintage flair to your outfit. You should consider patterns like polka dots, check, or even bright, solid colours paired with black accessories. Pearls, gloves, and a small fascinator can also help add a vintage touch to your outfit. 

Vintage or retro men

Choose suits that reflect the fashion trends of the era. For example, slim-cut suits with narrow lapels for the 60s, or wide-legged trousers and bold patterns for the 70s. Hair was a big thing for men in years gone by, so try embracing a Grease-style hair-do for the 50s or a neatly combed style for the 40s. Skinheads were popular in the 80s and 90s. However, this may be drastic for just one day!

Vintage or retro gender-neutral or non-binary

Opt for gender-neutral or androgynous clothing styles that were prevalent in the chosen vintage era. For example, tailored suits with versatile silhouettes, jumpsuits, long skirts, and a-line dresses all work well for a classic, retro look.

Cultural attire

Dressing in cultural attire is the perfect opportunity to learn more about the culture of the nearly-weds. However, it’s important to draw the line between being respectful and appropriating the culture. 

Your specific dress will depend entirely on the culture of the bride and/or groom. For example, you’d dress differently for a Korean wedding than you would for a Middle Eastern wedding. 

If you have any questions about what you should wear to a cultural wedding, we recommend discussing it with the couple directly. As it’s their culture, they’ll be able to advise you on what would be appropriate to wear and how you should style yourself. 

Art Deco

Art Deco is a distinct and vintage fashion style known for its sleek, modern, and glamorous aesthetic. Think the roaring 20s or The Great Gatsby, and you won’t go far wrong. 

Art deco ladies

Choose dresses with distinctive Art Deco patterns like geometric shapes, chevrons, or zig zags. Sequins, fringe, dropped waists, and beadwork are also characteristic of classic 20s styles. 

Avoid wearing heels. Instead, opt for ballet flats or Mary-Jane style shoes. Accessories should be bold and flashy. Think headbands, chandelier earrings, beaded clutch bags, and long bead necklaces. 

Art deco men

Tailored suits with contrasting colour combinations were a classic choice for 1920s dressing. Think black and white, navy and cream, or deep jewel tones. You could also incorporate geometric patterns into your clothing for added flair. For example, patterned ties, pocket squares, or vests with Art Deco-inspired designs.

Art deco gender-neutral or non-binary

Choose tailored suits with a modern, androgynous cut. Look for suits that feature clean lines and a sleek silhouette. Experiment with two-piece or three-piece suits in contrasting colours, embracing the bold and geometric style of Art Deco. 

Alternatively, a glitzy jumpsuit or long, flapper-style dress with fringe can provide an equally stunning and gender-neutral interpretation of the Art Deco aesthetic.

Colour-coded

It’s becoming more common for couples to request guests stick to a specific colour scheme, rather than setting a specific dress code. This gives guests the opportunity to express their personal style while contributing to a cohesive wedding aesthetic. 

Colour-coded ladies

How you decide to apply the colour-coding request is completely up to you. For example, if the theme is blue, you could opt for a blue dress, blue shoes, a blue handbag, or even blue jewellery.

Colour-coded men

Again, if the dress code is blue, you could wear a blue suit, blue shirt, blue shoes, or a blue tie. We recommend you don’t dress entirely in blue. Instead, try picking one central blue item and building a complementary outfit around this. For example, blue trousers with a complementary shirt.

Colour coded gender-neutral or non-binary

Try a tailored suit, jumpsuit, wrap dress, or mix and match ensemble in the designated colour. You can also match your makeup, jewellery, or accessories to the colour scheme for an inclusive look. 

The bottom line on wedding dress codes

Although wedding dress codes give guidelines for wedding clothing for guests, there’s still a lot of flexibility within these parameters. Instead, think of them as a framework within which you can showcase your unique style, ensuring you both honour the couple’s vision and feel authentically yourself.

Within the defined parameters of formal, semi-formal, casual, or themed attire, there’s room for personal expression. Whether it’s choosing a gown that perfectly complements the colour scheme or adding a touch of flair with unique accessories, you have the freedom to tailor your outfit to reflect your personality.

Remember, the essence of dressing for a wedding is to celebrate love, joy, and the union of two individuals. So, whether you’re donning a classic black-tie ensemble or opting for a more casual look, the key is to feel comfortable, confident, and ready to revel in the festivities.

And if you’re still struggling to figure out the perfect wedding ensemble, check out our handy guide on what to wear to a wedding as a guest

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the best dress code for a wedding?

The best dress code for a wedding is whatever best represents you and your partner. If you’re laid back, try a ‘come as you are’ dress code. If you’d like to throw a more formal affair, opt for black- or white-tie. 

How do I choose a wedding dress code?

Choosing a wedding dress code comprises a lot of aspects. This includes your vision, the formality of the event, the venue, and any theme you had in mind. Take an inventory of the energy you’d like to feel on the day and translate that into your dress code. 

Is it OK to wear black to a wedding?

It is acceptable to wear black to a wedding, especially if it’s a modern wedding, a black tie wedding, or a colour-coded wedding. However, we recommend that you avoid wearing black for spring or summer weddings, outdoor weddings, or destination weddings. 

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What to Wear to a Wedding as a Guest? Dos, Don’ts and Top Tips

You’ve been invited to a wedding! Yay, free cake!

…But wait. What are you going to wear?

For as long as there have been weddings, there have been wedding guests struggling to know what to wear. Do you go traditional, simple, or show-stopping? Should you match your partner or go for complementary colours? And what’s the deal with hats? It’s enough to make anyone consider ‘losing’ their RSVP.

But, don’t worry — we’re here to help. From decoding wedding dress codes to navigating the fine line between fashionable and flashy, we’ll help you curate a look that not only complements the celebration but also shows off your personal style. Read on to learn the best colour to wear to a wedding, a breakdown of popular dress codes, and some top tips on wedding guest dressing. Happy styling!

What should I wear to a wedding as a guest?

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The most important thing about wedding outfits for guests is that they don’t upstage the bride and groom. That means no ball gowns, no top hats*, and definitely no white. 

The key is to find that sweet spot between expressing your style and adhering to the dress code set by the couple. You’ll also need to consider the weather and the location of the wedding. For example, a beach wedding in the summer will call for completely different attire from an autumnal forest wedding.

As a rule of thumb, you can’t go wrong with semi-formal. That means a knee-length cocktail dress, a tailored suit, or a chic jumpsuit. 

*Top hats are a standard part of white-tie dress codes. However, white tie is rarely used. As a general rule, no top hats unless explicitly stated on the invitation. 

What sort of wedding guest outfits are there?

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Winter wedding guest outfit

Winter wedding guests face the delightful challenge of balancing style with the practicality of staying warm. As the temperatures drop, it’s an opportunity to embrace luxurious fabrics, rich colours, and cosy layers to create a standout ensemble.

Consider a long-sleeve cocktail dress in a jewel tone or something with a little bit of sparkle. If you aren’t a fan of dresses, you can’t go wrong with a well-tailored suit and a long coat that staves off the cold. 

Close-toed shoes are always recommended, and you could try bringing a wrap or faux fur stole for both warmth and flair.

Summer wedding guest outfit

Summer weddings are all about being light and floaty. If you’re a fan of a dress, try a flowy chiffon number or a sundress in a cheerful print. Otherwise, try a light-coloured suit like pale blue or grey paired with a crisp, short-sleeved shirt. This strikes the perfect balance between formal and laid-back. 

Loafers or dressy sandals are a great choice for footwear.

Plus-size wedding guest dresses

Plus-size guests will look fabulous in wrap or fit-and-flare style dresses. Don’t shy away from bold colours for a dramatic yet feminine look. 

Slingback shoes are also a great option for those with wider feet as they provide comfort and style. 

Mature ladies’ dresses for wedding guests

Mature ladies might want to opt for an a-line dress or even a tea-length gown for a sophisticated look. When selecting colours, consider timeless options like classic navy or sophisticated neutrals. These hues are not only elegant but also super versatile, allowing you to pair your dress with a range of accessories and outerwear for different seasons.

Petite wedding guest dresses

Empire waist dresses are a great choice for petite guests as they can make you look taller. You could also try a high-low hem which adds length where you need it, or try a suit tailored to your petite frame. 

Maternity wedding guest dress

Maxi dresses are a great option for maternity wedding attire. The long, flowing silhouette provides ample room for your growing belly, allowing you to move with ease. If you’re not a dress kind of person, maternity jumpsuits are a modern and trendy choice. 

Look for styles with an adjustable waist or a wrap design for flexibility, and make sure you can get in and out of it comfortably in a toilet cubicle. You may need a few practice runs before the big day!   

What is the best colour to wear to a wedding?

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The best colour to wear to a wedding will depend on the season and the couple’s requests. For example:

Spring or summer wedding

Light or bright colours are perfect for a spring or summer wedding. Think pastels, mint green, coral, turquoise, or pink. 

Autumn or winter wedding

Keep your tones dark or muted for an autumn or winter wedding. Think navy, burnt orange, purple, mauve, or dark green. Jewel tones are always trendy and can add an air of sophistication to your outfit.

Match the dress code

It’s become increasingly popular for the couple to specify what colours they’d like the guests to wear. For example, you might see:

  • “We’d like everyone to dress in pastel colours” for a whimsical wedding.
  • “Please could everyone wear different shades of blue” if someone has a specific colour scheme in mind.
  • “We’d appreciate it if everyone could dress in black” for an ultra-chic wedding.

Don’t wear white as a guest

Unless specifically stated on the invitation that the couple would like you to wear white — just don’t do it. Most people consider it disrespectful. 

It’s best to steer clear of different shades of white too. That includes ivory, bone, cream, and other similar tones.

What if my dress has a white base but a pattern over the top?

White dresses with flowers, birds, or another pattern over the top might be acceptable if the dress is more than 60% pattern and the white base isn’t the predominant colour. If you’re certain you want to wear this dress, we’d recommend getting the bride’s approval first. 

What is the dress code for a wedding?

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You may see one of the following dress codes listed on your wedding invitation:

  • Black tie. Black tie usually means a tuxedo, elegant evening gown, or a cocktail dress. 
  • Formal. A formal dress code will mean a suit, knee-length dress, or cocktail dress. 
  • Beach formal. Try suit trousers with a button-down shirt and no tie, or a floaty maxi or midi-length dress. 
  • Casual. Casual can mean many things. However, you can’t go wrong with suit trousers and a short-sleeve button-down shirt. You could also wear a sundress or a blouse and skirt. 

If no dress code is listed, it’s best to dress semi-formal, which means a well-fitted suit or a pretty,  knee-length dress.

What is the most popular dress code for a wedding?

Most people tend to opt for semi-formal. This keeps everyone looking smart while still allowing the guests to be comfortable. 

Where to buy clothes for wedding guests

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Whether you’re bougie-on-a-budget or have a little more to spend, you’re sure to find beautiful options in these online shops.

Less than £50

Vinted

Vinted is a second-hand clothes-selling app where you can find beautiful dresses for as little as £1! You can search for specific brands, sizes, colours, materials, and more. Many clothes are brand new with tags, and those that aren’t are in great condition. Plus, buying second-hand clothes is way more sustainable than purchasing brand-new clothes. 

Asos

Asos is the perfect shopping destination for wedding dresses. You can set a budget using the ‘price range’ filter, and even sort dresses from lowest to highest price. You can also filter for size, colour, length, brand, and body fit. 

Zara

Zara has a mix of pricier and low-cost dresses. This European brand exudes sophistication with its unique contemporary style, and you can filter dresses by size, colour, and style. However, taller guests may struggle with the length of Zara’s dresses.

Quiz

Quiz is a beautiful option if you prefer traditionally feminine styles. Packed with flouncy and fluttery styles, Quiz offers great clothes for wedding guests at reasonable prices.  

£50-100

Abercrombie & Fitch

Abercrombie & Fitch has a whole section of their website dedicated to helping you be the ‘Best Dressed Guest’. Their dresses are beautiful, high quality, and suit a wide range of body types with their petite, regular, and tall sizing. 

John Lewis

The John Lewis department store stocks a range of beautiful brands; it’s the perfect destination if you’re not sure what you’re looking for. If you’re lucky enough to live near a John Lewis store, they offer a complimentary personal shopping service to help you find your dream wedding guest dress. 

Next

Next is another retailer that carries a range of brands. The website is easy to navigate, and you can easily filter by price, size, colour, and occasion. 

Over £100

Ted Baker

Ted Baker is another store known for its ultra-feminine styles. Although they’re a little on the pricey side, they have regular sales, and the quality is second to none. 

Karen Millen

Karen Millen is known for its high-quality and beautiful wedding guest dresses. You’ll never be outdone in a Karen Millen gown. Their wide range of dresses will suit many different body types and personal styles.  

Monsoon

Monsoon has been a staple of wedding guest dress shopping for years. Renowned for its bohemian-inspired designs, this brand effortlessly captures the essence of romantic and whimsical fashion. 

Top tips for wedding guest attire

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Watch those shoes

We know they look fabulous, but wearing ultra-high heels or brand-new leather shoes on a wedding day is a recipe for disaster. Tall heels will tire your feet out and prevent you from dancing, and brand-new shoes are likely to rub and cause blisters.

Instead, opt for shoes you know you’ll be comfortable in. Try wearing a lower pair of heels that you can dance all night in or wearing an already broken-in pair of brogues.

If you’re adamant you want to wear high heels, consider bringing a lower heel to change into later on. Your feet will thank you in the morning. 

Be mindful of culture

Weddings with a religious element may ask you to cover up before you enter the church, temple, or mosque. You generally need to have your knees and shoulders covered to enter a religious building, and may even be asked to remove your shoes or cover your hair. Although this may not be your preference, it’s important to respect the couple’s wishes. 

Consider the weather 

Check the weather on the morning of the wedding, and always have a backup outfit in mind. If there’s a chance of rain, consider bringing a foldable umbrella or a stylish raincoat that complements your outfit. For unexpected temperature changes, having a shawl or light jacket can make a significant difference.

If in doubt… double-check

If you’re not sure whether an outfit is in line with the couple’s requests — ask them. 

It’s perfectly acceptable to reach out to the bride, groom, or someone close to them to clarify any questions you may have about the dress code. This not only ensures that you’re on the right track, but also demonstrates your consideration and respect for their wishes. 

The bottom line on being the best dressed wedding guest

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Picking the perfect wedding guest outfit can be stressful. Between the cost, dress code considerations, and endless style options, the task may seem daunting. However, with a bit of planning and time spent internet shopping, you’ll be the belle of the ball. 

We recommend you closely adhere to the wedding dress code, dress for comfort and not just style, and double-check with the couple if you’re unsure. Happy shopping!

FAQs

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Do you have to wear heels to a wedding as a guest?

No, you don’t have to. The most important thing is that you’re comfortable.

While high heels add an air of elegance to any outfit, they are by no means mandatory. 

What should you not wear as a wedding guest?

You shouldn’t wear T-shirts, vest tops, football shirts, jeans, dirty trainers, flip flops, or other casual clothes to a wedding unless specifically asked to. This is the most special day of the bride and groom’s lives — make an effort for them!

Can anyone attend a wedding as a guest?

Anyone can attend a wedding ceremony in a registry office or religious building. However, you shouldn’t attend a reception you’re not invited to. It’s impolite. 

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Bridebook Engagement Trends Report: 13 Key Wedding Trends for 2024 and Beyond

If you’re curious about what the key wedding trends will be for 2024 and beyond, you’ve come to the right place. Our Engagement Report provides unparalleled insights into the ever-changing landscape of weddings. Based on feedback from over 3,500 engaged couples planning weddings for 2024 and beyond, the report sheds light on the evolving preferences and trends that shape today’s weddings. Read on to get the low-down on the biggest trends for the year ahead, along with some expert insights from Fran Everist, Director of Sales and Marketing at Hedsor House in Buckingshamshire, on what’s popular with today’s couples, and why.

As the average amount couples spend on their wedding continues to rise in recent years, and as Gen Z couples come of age, we’re seeing plenty of new wedding trends emerge. From changing proposal dynamics and evolving style trends, to prioritising personalisation and guest experience to blending tradition with innovation, to embracing both sustainability and technology, 2024 weddings promise to be a unique tapestry of meaningful connections and stand-out experiences. Today’s couples are redefining traditional norms to create bespoke celebrations that reflect their diverse tastes and interests. Here are our top 13 trends to watch…

1. Gen Z is coming of age

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According to our survey, the average length of dating before engagement stands at 4.7 years, with 30-year-olds dating for 4+ years most likely to plan an engagement. And yet, in a notable shift, 23% of engaged couples are now part of Gen Z, a 12% increase from those married in 2022.

Gen Z, who are currently represented by those aged 11-26, are known for being digital natives with short attention spans (8 seconds!). They’re visually and video-led, and value social proof, authenticity, personalisation, and sustainability.

Younger couples, particularly 20-somethings, favour outdoor proposals specifically, and 27% choose to pop the question while on holiday. Family involvement is highest among Gen Z couples, with 49% seeking parental blessings in advance.

Perhaps surprisingly in today’s digital landscape, 61-71% of all couples don’t film or photograph their proposals. However, 67% share their engagement on social media within one day.

2. Couples are discussing marriage in advance

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Our Engagement Report reveals a significant difference in how Gen Z couples approach engagements. A notable 53% of 20-somethings discuss plans for marriage in advance of the engagement, compared to 32% of 40-somethings, which suggests transparency and shared decision-making are a key priority for younger couples specifically.

Commenting on this trend, Hamish Shephard, Bridebook’s founder and qualified wedding planner, notes, “Gen Z is redefining the narrative of engagements. Their decisions reflect a generation that values considered, meaningful connections, with an emphasis on taking the time to build a solid foundation before making lifelong commitments. Gen Z is clearly challenging traditional norms, clearly valuing open communication and partnership. The modern couple is breaking away from stereotypical gender roles, viewing marriage as a shared and collaborative journey.”

3. Pets are getting wedding invites, while parents’ friends are out

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Less than half of today’s couples will invite their parents’ friends. Our Engagement Report reveals that only 42% of Gen Z, 38% of Millennials and 27% of Gen X will invite them.

On the other hand, nearly 1-in-5 (21%) of Gen Z couples will include pets on their guest list. So it’s good news for your furry friends, though not quite so good news for your parents’ friends! Fran Everist tells us that Hedsor House has “seen a big leap in the numbers of couples bringing their dogs to their wedding. Take-up of our Canine Concierge service has trebled in the last year, with couples very much seeing their dogs as an essential part of the family. Pet donkeys, llamas and cats have also made it onto the guest list!”

On the subject of guest lists, half of couples will also allow children at their weddings, with older Gen X couples being the most likely to include children. When it comes to children at weddings, Fran Everist adds that while this does not yet relate to Gen Z couples, Millennials also “seem to be increasingly having  the house and children first, and the wedding afterwards.”

4. TikTok as a wedding planning tool

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A notable 41% of Gen Z couples are using TikTok for wedding purposes, the highest among all segments. This represents a huge jump from 11% of all engaged couples in 2021, and not only suggests a preference for digital expression, but also highlights the profound impact that social media platforms can have on shaping the narrative of modern weddings.”

Hamish remarks, “As true digital natives, Gen Z couples are rewriting traditional approaches to wedding planning. We’re seeing a drive towards fostering a sense of community and inspiring others to embrace new and creative wedding trends.”

5. The rise of AI

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Today’s couples are embracing technology, with 7% using AI for music playlists and 5% turning to generative content for speeches, invitations and vows.

This again highlights that as weddings become both more personalised and tech-savvy, couples are embracing innovative tools to craft a truly unique celebration.

6. Sustainability takes centre stage

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Today’s couples are increasingly incorporating sustainability tactics into the weddings, from favouring lab-grown diamonds to upcycled decor and paper-free invitations. They also enjoy second-hand, meaningful items, especially jewellery:

  • 47% will have plant-based confetti, the most popular eco-friendly activity.
  • Preference for ethical jewellery has more than doubled from 6% to 14%.
  • Preference for pre-loved attire has also more than doubled from 7% to 16%.
  • Upcycled decor and paper-free invitations have risen by almost 10% since 2022.
  • 22% use second-hand items (such as grandmother’s ring, or family heirloom jewellery).
  • Many are considering selling their wedding decor and fashion items.

Gen Z are revealed to be most committed to sustainability, and are the group that is most likely to resell their wedding items, from decor to bridesmaid’s outfits and their wedding dress (21% of Gen Z will consider selling their wedding dress compared to 18% of Millennials).

Commenting on this trend, Fran Everist notes that “Hedsor House, which launched the very first carbon-neutral wedding package last year, is seeing a gradual shift in couples wanting more sustainable choices. Whether it’s swapping cut flowers in favour of faux blooms, or wanting their wedding breakfast to be locally sourced, couples are making meaningful changes to their day.”

7. Unique speciality catering is what it’s all about (especially pizza)

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Unique specialty catering gains popularity as couples look for new and different ways to entertain guests and create bespoke experiences. Couples want that stand-out, ‘wow’ factor.

Most notably, 16% of engaged couples want food trucks at their wedding. Of these planning for food trucks, nearly three-quarters (71%) will have a pizza van specifically. So if you’re fancying a fun and more laid-back catering option for your wedding next year, you won’t be alone! And this culinary customisation extends beyond savoury food: 1-in-4 (25%) couples plan to have pick ’n’ mix sweet stations, while 1-in-5 will have signature cocktails as the most popular specialty drink.

Fran Everist associates this trend with the rise of outdoor weddings, as more and more couples look for “relaxed dining options which mirror the vibe. Hedsor House is seeing an increase in requests for BBQs, hog roasts and street food. The classic English Afternoon Tea is also a growing favourite for those looking for elegance and insta-appeal.”

8. Champagne still rules as the top wedding drink

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Classic bubbly remains the favourite celebratory drink among today’s couples. Champagne will be served at 1-in-5 (21%) weddings in 2024. On the other hand, beer proves to be an unpopular wedding drink, with only 4% of couples planning to serve it.

Not many couples are going teetotal next year. Only 4% will have a completely alcohol-free wedding, while 3% will have a deliberately low-alcohol wedding. So it’s all about the bubbles!

9. Rustic vibes and green tones will reign supreme, while themed weddings gain in popularity 

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Rustic vibes will dominate 2024 weddings, with greens reigning as the top wedding colour. Unique gemstones like emerald and moss agate gain popularity as 39% of Millennials and Gen Z couples plan rustic-style weddings, including having a barn or farmhouse as their wedding venue. A rustic wedding is a more informal style of wedding than is traditional. It’s one which draw inspiration from the countryside, incorporating elements of nature, vintage decor, DIY touches and warm, earthy tones, and ties in nicely with today’s couples’ commitment to sustainability and environmentalism.

Couples are clearly being drawn to the authenticity and intimacy that rustic aesthetics provide, and want to create a wedding atmosphere that feels both timeless and personally meaningful. 2024 weddings will celebrate individuality and depart from the conventional. Move over luxury glam or elegance! Next year is all about natural charm grounded in charm and simplicity.

Fran Everist notes that Hedsor House is seeing “couples increasingly wanting to marry outside which is very much about wanting to enjoy the unique country setting.”

Among Gen Z in particular, themed weddings are also in, with 6% of these couples planning a themed wedding. Popular themed wedding styles include Disney, Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, Halloween, celestial, festival and throwbacks like the 80s or TV sitcoms or movies. 

Fran Everist agrees that “couples are increasingly bringing their unique personality to their nuptials. Hedsor House has seen a rise in themed weddings with Harry Potter, Pokémon and Mario Kart being recent examples.”

10. Top first dance songs combine the classic with the contemporary

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The top 25 first dance songs of 2024 feature legendary classics alongside contemporary hits, with Elvis Presley reigning supreme amidst male vocal ballads and country songs.

The no.1 first dance song of the year is an old favourite, “Can’t Help Falling In Love”, by Elvis Presley – no doubt seeing a revival following the 2022 biopic ‘Elvis’ – while Ed Sheeran, Shania Twain and Elton John each hold two songs in the top 25.

Male vocal ballads are trending as well. In particular, James Arthur, Lewis Capaldi, Biffy Clyro and Clinton Kane are firm favourites for 2024 first dance songs.

Country music songs are gaining popularity, with Luke Combs and Lonestar ranking the highest.

11. Weddings will be fun and games

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Weddings aren’t just the greatest parties of all time. They’re fabulous, showstopping spectacles, and a chance to enjoy unique experiences with the ones you love. Given today’s couples preference for unique, bespoke celebrations, it’s no wonder that couples are going beyond classic wedding music entertainment, like bands and DJs, opting to explore fun and quirky non-music entertainment too.

Couples getting married in 2024 don’t want stiff formal affairs, but are instead embracing informal playfulness. Most notably, our Engagement Report reveals that 23% of engaged couples want garden games to feature at their weddings. Think horseshoes, giant Jenga, lawn bowling, and croquet, and even old sports day classics like egg and spoon and sack or space hopper races. 

In general, couples are looking to showcase a wide variety of entertainment. 19% will have fireworks, while 8% enjoy the idea of secret singers or singing waiters. Other interesting wedding entertainment options for 2024 include magic mirrors, a live portrait artist or caricaturist, axe throwing, and even mini golf/crazy golf. Couples are embracing anything and everything. The point is to put fun at the heart of their wedding, and to really prioritise guest experience.

Commenting on this trend towards spectacular and unique wedding entertainment, Fran Everist observes that “fireworks continue to be very popular at Hedsor House, and classic English lawn games like croquet are on the rise as couples embrace the outdoor country house vibe.”

And to hold on to these unique memories, 1-in-10 (11%) will have an audio guestbook. What a great way to bring guests’ experience to life, beyond the more traditional written notes.

12. Out with (some of) the old

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In the realm of wedding traditions, the ‘first look’ trend remains en vogue. More specifically, 22% of Gen Z couples enjoy this trend, the highest among all generational groups. Some other traditions are standing the test of time. For example, walking down the aisle by one or both parents, exchanging rings and vows, first dance, wedding speeches, and cake-cutting.

Yet other old wedding traditions are on their way out. Half of couples won’t have confetti or rice thrown at their wedding (Fran Everist comments that bubbles and sparklers are popular alternatives these days), and only half of couples will offer wedding favours to their guests.

Tossing the bouquet and carrying the bride over the threshold represent some of the least used traditions in today’s weddings. Couples are instead tossing away tradition, and turning to social media instead – specifically viral TikTok trends – and we’ll only see more of this moving into 2024.

Weddings in 2024 will clearly be an interesting tapestry of tradition and innovation, showcasing the diverse tastes and values of today’s progressive couples, who on the one hand continue to uphold traditions that remain relevant to them, but who equally aren’t afraid of creating bespoke experiences that to fit their unique vision and values.

13. Multi-day weddings and bigger is better

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When it comes to wedding lengths and timings, our Engagement Report shows that younger couples are favouring longer multi-day affairs, with 36% of Millennials and 34% of Gen Z planning weddings spanning more than one day to truly celebrate in style. Who can blame them? After all, why have just a single wedding day when you can have a wedding weekend! The younger generation clearly want to stretch out the celebrations as much as possible and make the most out of their weddings, following the American trend of having a rehearsal dinner the night before.

Fran Everist agrees that “multi-day weddings are definitely on the rise, whether that’s at weekends, or during the week. Rather than the inconvenience and expense of going abroad for destination weddings, many couples are choosing to create more relaxed UK experiences with extended celebrations. Morning-after brunches and night-before BBQs are often highlights; couples enjoy using all of the venue’s spaces for different aspects of their experience, including the grounds.”

This relates to a wider cultural shift among the youth of today. After the years of enforced isolation at the hands of the pandemic, followed by the war in Europe and the cost of living crisis, those who can afford it want to party, and bigger is better than ever. It’s all about the energy and all about the fun. And here at Bridebook, where creating joy underpins everything we do, we’re all for it.

The bottom line on 2024 wedding trends

There you have our top 13 trends of next year! With the influential rise of Gen Z weddings, 2024 weddings are poised to be a fusion of tradition and innovation and, above all, celebrate each couple’s joy through hyper-personalisation. Weddings have changed a lot in recent years, and are set to change even more before next year is out, while still clinging on to what makes them so special. Which of these new trends will you be incorporating into your own big day?

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Top Engagement Party Games

Your engagement party is a great way to relax, unwind and celebrate your engagement before you get too deep into planning your wedding. There’ll be lots of food, plenty of drinks and loads of laughs as you spend time with your loved ones.

For many of your family and friends, it could be the first time they’re meeting. Will it be awkward? What will they talk about? What if they don’t have anything in common?

A great way to break the ice, help your guests get to know each other, and show them how much the two of you are in love is with some party games. Games bring people together, introduce some fun and excitement to the night and help create wonderful memories.

In this post, we’re going to take a look at why you should consider having games at your engagement party, which engagement party games are the best and offer you 21 ideas to help you host a party no one will forget in a hurry.

For more great engagement party tips and ideas, read our guide to throwing an engagement party.

Should you have games at your engagement party?

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Whether or not you have games at your engagement party is completely your choice, which can be influenced by several factors, including your:

  • Theme
  • Venue
  • Budget
  • Guest list
  • Guests’ preferences

It also depends on your own preferences and the feel you want to go for at your party. If you’re looking to host a formal engagement party with a three-course meal, you might not have the time or space to play games. If you’re hosting your party at home or in a park and things are more informal, games are a fantastic way to entertain your guests.

Then again, there’s such a wide variety of games you can play at an engagement party, some games that would suit the most formal of parties. 

Why have games at your engagement party?

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If you’re on the fence about whether or not to have games at your engagement party, there are plenty of reasons why they can be a great idea. Below are just a few reasons why you should hop off the fence and go ahead with a few games.

  • Introduces a brilliant icebreaker, particularly if there are guests who are coming together for the first time.
  • Provides entertainment and gives guests of all ages something to do.
  • Adds an extra level of personalisation to your engagement party.
  • Ensures a fun and memorable party.
  • Prevents any awkwardness or downtime.
  • Introduces friendly competition.
  • Encourages your guests to get involved.

What type of games should you have at an engagement party?

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The games you choose for your engagement party should be quick and snappy, and offer all of your guests the opportunity to take part. They should be easy to understand and learn, and shouldn’t require too many complex props. The last thing you need is to spend ages explaining the rules, which could really dampen the mood.

If you’ve planned your engagement party to take part outside, like in your back garden or at the beach, make sure your games can be brought inside or you have a plan B. Volleyball is a lot of fun in the garden, but if it starts raining it might be rather tricky to bring it inside and play in the dining room.

Should you have prizes?

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Prizes for the winners of your games can encourage your guests to get stuck in and try a little bit harder than they might otherwise. But, they’re not the be-all and end-all, so if you don’t want to or your budget doesn’t stretch that far, that’s fine too.

If you want to offer prizes, why not use them as your party favours? You could have a couple of bigger prizes for overall game winners, like a bottle of wine or a teddy bear, then smaller prizes for everyone else, like some sweets. That way, everyone still gets a little something to remember your engagement party by.

21 engagement party game ideas to inspire you

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If you know you want to have games at your engagement party but you’re not sure where to start, we’re here to help. Here are 21 engagement party game ideas to give your guests the time of their lives. For more party inspiration, read our post on how to plan an engagement party.

1. Couples quiz

Put a list of questions together to test the couples in attendance. Ask progressively harder questions to see if you can trip up some of your overconfident guests. It’s a great game to play to keep the focus on you and your engagement.

2. Pictionary

All you need is some paper, a marker pen and a few teams. Except, instead of the usual Pictionary rules, make it all about weddings and getting married.

3. Trivia

It’s your night and lots of your loved ones will be there, so why not create a bunch of trivia questions all about you and your new fiance? See who from your friends and family truly knows you best.

4. Guess the year

We all have old photos hidden in the loft or sitting in albums on our social media accounts. Put a collage together and ask your guests to guess the year they were taken.

5. Karaoke

Definitely one for your guests who know how to hold a note, but a lot of fun to listen to your guests who perhaps have a little too much confidence in their abilities. Karaoke is brilliant fun if you have friends and family who don’t mind belting out a tune or two.

6. Ring hunt

Print out some gold rings and cut them out, then hide them around the venue and encourage your guests to find them. Whoever finds one wins a small prize! A great family game that gets the kids involved.

7. Ring toss

To keep it ring-themed, put some props together and throw gold rings over them. The harder or further away a target is, the more points they’re worth.

8. Photo booth

Photo booths are so much fun, and perfect if you’re holding your engagement party at a venue away from home. All it takes is a box of props and your guests will have a great time creating fun and fantastical photos.

9. Two truths and a lie

A hilarious ice breaker, each of your guests announces two things about themselves that are true and one that’s a lie, and your other guests are encouraged to identify the lie. You might find out some interesting things in the process!

10. Cocktail making

All it takes is a few spirits, some mixers, some sugar and some fruit to let your guests become mixologist sensations. See who can create the tastiest cocktail of the night, as well as the guest who will inevitably make a drink that no one wants to finish.

11. Cornhole

A game that’s becoming increasingly more popular but is super easy to pick up, as well as being quite addictive. Throw bean bags to a board and get them through the hole in the centre. A great game to play indoors or outside.

12. Newlywed game

A game that puts you in the hot seat. You and your fiance sit facing away from each other, and you each have a pen and paper. Your guests fire questions at you and you write down your answers, then share them to see if they line up. Another variation is the shoe game, where you hold two shoes (one yours, the other your fiance’s) and hold up the corresponding shoe depending on what the answer is.

13. The memory game

Ask everyone at the party to write down a memory of you. The funnier the better. Then, one by one, they’re read out and your guests have to guess who the memory belongs to.

14. Charades

A party classic, Charades is funny and can be played by everyone. Except at an engagement party, make sure all the movies, books and TV shows are wedding and romance related.

15. Jenga

Part-stressful, part-exhilarating, Jenga is a huge crowd-pleaser. Just make sure your guests play it with their glasses out of the way – you don’t want to spend all your time cleaning up spilled drinks whenever the tower of blocks comes crashing down.

16. Tie the knot

A little naughty so maybe not one for the kids, take a bowl of cherries and invite your guests to see if they can tie a knot in the stalk using only their tongues. It’s sure to get everyone laughing at each other’s skills.

17. Card games

All it takes is a pack of cards and there are a ton of possibilities. Poker, Bridge, Pontoon and even Snap for the kids. You could even use matches or sweets as currency for placing bets.

18. Casino games

If you’re going for a casino theme, you could hire a casino table and dealer to put on some proper Las Vegas-style games. All the fun and thrills of Vegas without the risk of losing all your money – which is perfect ahead of planning your wedding!

19. How many sweets in the jar

Fill a big jar with sweets and ask your guests to guess how many there are. To keep it romance related, they could be jelly lips or love hearts. Then whoever guesses the closest gets to keep the whole jar. Yum!

20. Guess the famous couple

Use emojis, photo mash-ups, anagrams or clues to represent famous couples, then ask your guests to guess and tally up the final score.

21. Don’t say ‘wedding’

Challenge every guest at your engagement party to not say the word ‘wedding’ – it’s a lot harder than you might expect because everyone wants to talk about it! If someone says it, they get a point on the board. Whoever says it the least wins.

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Engagement Party Invitations: What to Write & Who to Invite

Planning your engagement party will give you a taste of what it’s like to plan a big celebratory bash where you’re the centre of attention. The best part is, unlike with a wedding when there are certain traditions and processes you might follow, what you do for your engagement party is entirely up to you. So, whether you want a big, formal do at a swanky countryside hotel, or you’d prefer to get your closest family and a few best mates around to your house for some drinks and nibbles – go for it.

But, whatever you do for your engagement party, there’s only one way to make sure your loved ones are there – invitations. But how do you invite guests to your engagement party, what do you write and who should you invite to celebrate with you? In this post, we’ll let you know the answers to those exact questions and more, so you can throw the perfect party to celebrate your wonderful engagement.

When’s the best time to throw an engagement party?

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Finding the perfect time to throw an engagement party is something of a balancing act. You and your fiance won’t want to dive straight into planning, and instead enjoy your time as a newly engaged couple. But at the same time, you’ll also not want to leave it too close to the wedding, because at that point your guests will be less excited about your engagement but super excited about your impending marriage.

The sweet spot is between two and four months after you get engaged. This gives you enough time to get used to the idea of calling your partner your fiance, plan a party from scratch and give your guests plenty of notice so as many of them as possible can come along.

For more help with what to do and when after you get engaged, read our detailed guide on what to do following your engagement.

Who typically throws an engagement party?

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Traditionally, the bride’s family are the ones to throw an engagement party, whether it’s at their home or a venue elsewhere. Of course, everyone’s situation is different, so this might not always be possible. Today, anyone can throw an engagement party and you can host it anywhere you please so long as it fits within your budget. Remember, the average cost of a wedding in the UK is £19,184, so you might not have all that much budget to spare.

Your budget may also influence the size of your party, so it’s worth bearing this in mind if you’re keen to invite 80+ guests.

For more information, read our guide on who traditionally pays for what at a wedding.

Who should you invite to your engagement party?

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Once you know exactly how many guests you can invite to your engagement party you can put your guest list together. Generally, you’ll at least want to invite your closest family and friends and any members of the wedding party, even if you haven’t asked them yet. Then you might want to invite your wider family, other friends, colleagues and neighbours from there. But, it all depends on the size of your party and, ultimately, who you want to be there.

An important thing to be aware of is that whoever you invite to your engagement party will often automatically expect an invitation to your wedding. So, just bear this in mind when it comes to putting your guest list together. If there’s someone you don’t want to be at your wedding, you probably shouldn’t invite them to your engagement party as well.

How do you invite guests to an engagement party?

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How you invite guests to your engagement party depends entirely on the level of formality you’re going for. If you’re hosting a three-course meal at a golf club or even a party with a buffet at your local pub, then you may want to send out invitations.

But, if you’re having a few people round for drinks or a movie night, a text might just do the trick. Then again, nothing’s stopping you from sending out invitations for this, either. Or to keep costs down, an evite can tell your guests everything they need to know but with a little less formality.

How far in advance do you send out engagement party invitations?

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Because your engagement party is a little more special than your average get-together, you’ll want to make sure as many guests as possible can make it. So, you need to give your guests as much notice as possible so they make sure they’re available. We’d recommend inviting your guests at least a month before the date of your party, but ideally six weeks if possible.

Basically, as soon as you’ve secured a date and your venue, one of the first things you should do is start letting your guests know so they can keep that date free.

Where do you buy engagement party invitations?

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If you want to keep things formal and send invitations through the post, there are plenty of options available. Couples spend an average of £414 on wedding stationery, which includes invitations that are usually highly personalised. With your upcoming wedding likely to cost a pretty penny, you may want to avoid spending nearly this much – thankfully, there are far more affordable options.

Card and stationery shops sell party invitations in bulk, which you can personalise by writing in each one. If you’d like them to look a little more formal, why not design your own and have them printed by a website like Vistaprint?

If you want to keep everything online (which is a super easy way to monitor RSVPs) then sites like Paperless Post are quick and easy to use. It’s a step up from a text or phone call, but not quite as formal as sending an invitation through the post.

Here at Bridebook we also have a huge range of wedding stationers, who can help you put together your perfect invitations.

Or, like we mentioned earlier, if your party is a lot less formal, there’s nothing wrong with a good ol’ WhatsApp group message to hit everyone at once. Just make sure you ask them to let you know by a certain date and keep track of who is and isn’t coming.

Read our post on ways to save money on wedding invitations, which apply just as well for cutting costs when it comes to your engagement party invitations too.

What do you say in an engagement party invitation?

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An engagement party invitation doesn’t need to say too much, just the who, what, why, where and when, in that approximate order. Then, your guests can ask you for all the juicy details of your engagement and your upcoming wedding at the party itself. Here’s how this information is broken down:

  • Who – You and your new fiance (and whoever is hosting the party).
  • What – You’re hosting a party!
  • Why – To celebrate an engagement!
  • Where – Where does your party take place? At home or another venue?
  • When – What date and time does the party start?

You can also include any other information if it’s important, which might be something to do with the dress code (if there is one) or whether you’d like them to bring anything along, like a bottle of wine or a few beers if it’s a barbecue at home.

You’ll also need to include how and by when your guests should let you know whether or not they’re attending, which could be an email address, postal address or phone number so they can drop you a text. At that point, if you’re putting on food you’ll need them to let you know if anyone attending has any dietary requirements.

How to word engagement party invitations

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The tone of your engagement party invitations should reflect the style and type of party you’re throwing, which means they can be formal, funny, minimalist or relaxed. For example, ‘Fancy coming to my engagement party, lads?’ is probably a little too casual if you’re laying out an expensive three-course meal, and ‘You’re cordially invited to join us for an evening of games and beverages’ may be a little too formal if you’re having a games night at home.

Use your judgement to decide how you should word your invitations. Then again, if your guests want to be there they wouldn’t mind however you asked them.

Examples of how to word engagement party invitations

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You don’t need to spend ages agonising over what to write and how to write it. Just write from the heart, be true to yourself and how you speak and put pen to paper (or finger to keyboard). If you’re not sure, here are a couple of examples to get you started:

Example 1:

She said yes!

Please join us to celebrate

the engagement of Alice White and Richard Baker!

Saturday 7th August at 7pm

Ridgeway Golf Club, Thornhill

Caerphilly, Caerphilly, CF83 1LY

RSVP [email protected] by 7th July

Please let us know of any dietary requirements

We hope to see you there!

Example 2:

Party time!

Peter Gardner and Ryan Eccles

would love you to join them for 

food, fun and drinks to celebrate their engagement!

When: Sunday 11th June @ 2pm

Where: 34 Robbins Grove, Tring, Herts, HP22 1PG

Hosts: Julie and Warren Gardner

Please bring a bottle of your favourite tipple!

RSVP by 23rd May by texting 0723410471

Do you need to include postal RSVPs in engagement party invitations?

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If you’re hosting a particularly formal engagement party, then you may want to include postal RSVPs with your invitations. However, because engagement party invitations aren’t quite as formal as the invitations you’ll send out for the wedding itself, it’s absolutely fine to ask for a text, phone call or email instead. Just be mindful of any older relatives who might not have an email address, and let them know they can give you a ring if they’d prefer instead.

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Top 12 Best Man Speech Examples

He’s your best mate. Your partner in crime. You’re brothers in spirit, if not always in blood. And now, you’re his best man. Congratulations!

The honour of being the best man is a true testament to your friendship and the faith the groom puts in you. The best way to pay him back is to write a best man speech that will have everyone in stitches and teary-eyed at the same time. 

Writing a best man’s speech might not be easy for everyone. But there’s no need to panic! Whether you were born for the stage or a little more reserved, we’ve got the best man speech ideas and examples to help you get started. Prepare to craft the perfect speech to make your guests laugh, cry, and reminisce on your best friend’s big day.

What is the best man speech?

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The best man speech is a speech made by the best man during the wedding reception. It should be about 5 minutes long and include some anecdotes, jokes, and your favourite memories about the groom. These stories should highlight your friendship, adventures, and any lessons you’ve learned together. 

The best man’s speech is usually third in the order of speeches: first is the father of the bride’s speech; second is the groom’s speech; and third is the best man’s speech. It can be delivered after the main meal or between courses. This will give guests a break from the monotony of long speeches and capture the attention of everyone present.

What should you include in the best man speech?

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Here are some key elements you should consider including in your best man speech:

  • Thick as thieves. Engage the guests from the get-go with captivating stories about your time with the groom. It’s the perfect time to share your adventures and describe your escapades surrounded by the people who love your groom the most. It’s important to strike the right balance between sharing your craziest moments and not embarrassing the groom too much on their special day!
  • Share their story. You likely knew the groom before he met his partner bride. Try sharing some stories of how they met, when he decided to propose, or when he told you they were the one. These special, intimate moments will no doubt make the couple smile and pull at the guest’s heartstrings. 
  • A playful roast. Throw in a few light-hearted (and appropriate) jabs at the groom. Keep it clean; keep it playful. The goal is to make everyone laugh, including the groom himself. Balance the teasing with genuine admiration, support, and love, and you won’t go far wrong.
  • Toast the happy couple. Raise your glass and lead the crowd in a toast to the couple’s future health and happiness. It’s the perfect opportunity to end your speech on a high note and leave everyone feeling uplifted.

Best man speech structure

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Following a clear structure can help you feel more confident when writing a best man’s speech. Try using this structure to get you started: 

Introduction

The first part of your speech should be focused on introducing yourself and explaining your relationship to the groom. You’re his best man, but are you also his childhood best friend, partner in crime, brother, or new brother-in-law?

This is your opportunity to build rapport with your audience and share some light-hearted anecdotes about how you met or your journey so far. 

Acknowledge the happy couple

Once you’ve introduced yourself, it’s time to shift your focus to the happy couple. This is the perfect opportunity to highlight how beautiful the bride looks and how much you admire her positive qualities. Express how happy you are for the newlyweds, your excitement for their special day, and explain how the bride has positively influenced the groom’s life. 

Stories and anecdotes

The next portion of your speech should be concerned with sharing your favourite stories about the groom. These stories could showcase his character, quirks, and any memorable moments you’ve shared. 

Balance your jokes with sincerity, ensuring the stories reflect the groom’s best qualities, highlight your friendship, and don’t embarrass him too much in front of his new family!

Reflect on your friendship

This portion of your speech should talk about how you’ve supported one another through the trials of life. You should discuss how you met, the lessons you’ve learned together, and how much your friendship means to you.

Although these types of speech may not come naturally to all, today is a sentimental day and the perfect opportunity to express your gratitude for their friendship over all these years.  

Closing and toast

Now is the time to close your speech and raise a toast to the happy couple. Thank all the guests for attending, express gratitude to the couple’s parents, and end on a heartfelt note before raising your glass to the happy couple. Cheers, you did it!

Best man speech template

To help you navigate the complete breakdown of your speech, it can be helpful to have a visual guide to refer to. Check out our handy infographic below:

Best Man Speech Template
Use this best man template to guide your writing

Top tips for delivering a great best man speech  

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  1. Don’t stress. It’s natural to feel nervous when making a speech in front of a large group. However, keep in mind that you couldn’t ask for a better audience! The guests will have already listened to two speeches, are expecting yours, and are likely to have met you before. Take deep breaths, speak slowly and clearly, and maintain eye contact with the audience. Remember, everyone is there to support you, and the couple will appreciate your efforts regardless.
  2. Respect boundaries. Avoid sensitive or controversial topics that could offend or upset anyone in attendance. Some light-hearted roasting is appropriate, but stay away from any stories that may embarrass the couple or make them uncomfortable. If in doubt, check with the groom what stories he’s happy for you to use and disclose beforehand. This way, you can make sure he’s comfortable with the stories you’ll share while keeping your speech’s content a secret.
  3. Practice makes perfect. As with anything – practice makes perfect! Rehearse your speech multiple times before the big day. Try practising in front of a mirror, to trusted friends, or even record yourself making the speech to watch back. This will help you feel more comfortable, ensure a smooth delivery, and help you remember the key points you want to cover. If you’re still feeling anxious, check out our speech delivery skills to help you prepare for your best man’s speech.
  4. Toasting etiquette. This may be one of the first times you’re instigating a toast, so it’s important to have proper toasting etiquette. When raising a toast, ensure your glass is filled with the drink of your choice beforehand. This is traditionally champagne. However, prosecco or a non-alcoholic fizzy drink is also acceptable. Make eye contact with the couple and raise your glass towards them. Encourage others to join in by signalling or making a simple gesture.

Top 12 best man speech examples

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If you’re looking for some inspiration, check out our top 12 examples of great best man wedding speech ideas, from the short and simple, to the funny and personal! 

A lot of traditional best man speeches and examples will refer to a bride and groom, but you can simply change the references to the groom’s partner and the appropriate pronouns if you’re attending an LGBTQ+ wedding.

Example 1: Classic best man speech  

Introduction: Hello, hello, hello everyone. Is everyone having a good time? My name is [Your Name] and I have the incredible privilege of being [Groom’s Name]’s best man. 

Reflect on your friendship: Now, let’s start by saying, being [Groom’s Name]’s best man is no small honour— it’s huge. I mean, out of all the people he knows, all the people he could have chosen to stand up here and speak… he picked me. Which either means I’m the most qualified, or the least likely to tell his more embarrassing stories. Sorry to disappoint, mate!

[Groom’s Name] and I go way back. We met when we were 5, and from the very beginning, I knew he was someone special. Mainly because he beat me at Mario Kart and never let me forget it. But in all seriousness, growing up together has been one of the greatest gifts of my life.

Stories and anecdotes: When we were about 10, [Groom’s Name] was absolutely convinced he could teach me how to backflip into a pool. Spoiler alert: he could not. But he stuck by me, encouraging me every time I belly-flopped. And that about sums him up— always cheering others on, even when it’s pointless and a little bit reckless.

Acknowledge the happy couple: As we grew older, I watched [Groom’s Name] become the man he is today. He’s a loyal friend, a generous soul, and now, the luckiest guy in the room. Because let’s be real, [Bride’s Name], you are absolutely stunning, intelligent, and everything a man could hope for. The fact that you’ve chosen to marry him is proof that love is blind, but hey, we’ll take it! Joking aside, you two are perfect together. The way you look at each other, take care of each other, and love each other is a genuine inspiration to everyone here today.

Closing and toast: So, everyone— please will you join me in a toast to [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name]. May your love continue to grow, may your adventures together be endless, and may [Groom’s Name] finally learn how to put his boxers in the washing basket. 

To love, laughter, and happily ever after! Cheers!

Example 2: Brother’s best man speech 

Introduction: Good evening, everyone! For those of you who don’t know me, my name is [Your Name], and I have the absolute pleasure of being [Groom’s Name]’s brother. And, as tradition dictates, his best man. Now, when I got the call to take on this prestigious role, I was thrilled. But let’s be honest, I probably would have started World War 3 if I hadn’t got it, so…

Stories and anecdotes: Growing up as [Groom’s Name]’s brother has been an experience, to say the least. He was always the one with the big ideas, the wild plans, and, occasionally, the questionable decisions. I remember when we were kids, [Groom’s Name] convinced me that Mum would be absolutely fine with it if we brought home these two fox cubs we found in the garden. I won’t lie, they were pretty difficult to wrangle. I think we lured them into the house with a bit of ham on some string in the end, but it didn’t take long for Mum to figure out what we were up to. Let’s just say, the foxes had a better chance of staying than we did that evening.

That’s [Groom’s Name] for you—always full of schemes, ideas, and a knack for turning an ordinary day into an unforgettable adventure (or complete chaos, as Mum called it).

Reflect on your friendship: But it wasn’t all mischief and madness. [Groom’s Name] has always had a big heart to match those big ideas. Like the time he spent an entire weekend building me a treehouse because I’d been grounded and couldn’t leave the garden—despite the fact it collapsed the moment I climbed into it. 

He’s the kind of brother who would go to the ends of the Earth for the people he cares about, even if you’re 80% sure he’s the reason you got grounded in the first place.

Acknowledge the happy couple: Now, let’s talk about [Bride’s Name]. From the moment you came into his life, it was like something shifted in him. Suddenly, this guy who used to leave the milk out and wear socks that didn’t match started showing signs of being… responsible. You’ve clearly had quite an effect on him, and for that, I owe you a massive thank you.

Closing and toast: So, as we raise our glasses tonight, let’s toast to [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name]. Here’s to a lifetime of love, health, and adventures—hopefully without any foxes this time. May your lives be filled with joy, your home always be warm, and your ham always stay on the plate, where it belongs.

Example 3: Childhood best man speech 

Introduction: Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, and everyone in between—good evening! My name is [Your Name], and I’m so proud to be here today as [Groom’s Name]’s best man. When [Groom’s Name] asked me to take on this role, I was deeply honoured. But more importantly, I knew this was my golden opportunity to share a few of the greatest hits from our childhood. Get ready, this is going to be fun. 

Stories and anecdotes: Growing up with [Groom’s Name] was bonkers. There was always laughter, always chaos, and usually, one of us doing something we definitely shouldn’t have been doing. Take, for example, the time we decided it would be a brilliant idea to turn our bikes into “rocket bikes.” All it took was a couple of fireworks, some duct tape, and absolutely zero adult supervision. 

We were convinced we’d invented something revolutionary—right up until the moment the fireworks went off and [Groom’s Name] ended up in the neighbour’s rose bushes. Two ruined bikes and a lot of TCP later, we learnt a valuable lesson: leave rocket science to NASA. But honestly, that was the magic of growing up with [Groom’s Name]. Life was never boring, and there was always a story to tell—even if it involved a bit of pain and a lot of explaining to Mum.

Reflect on your friendship: But for all the wild plans, [Groom’s Name] has always been the guy who’d do anything for the people he loves. He’s got this knack for turning the smallest moments into adventures and making you feel like you’re part of something special. You really are the life and soul, and I’m grateful for every moment of our wacky childhood. 

Acknowledge the happy couple: But, of course, all good things must come to an end. Well, almost all good things—because one wild chapter of [Groom’s Name]’s life may be wrapping up, but today marks the beginning of an even better one with [Bride’s Name]. Now, I’ll admit, when I first heard about [Bride’s Name], I was a bit sceptical. Not because of her, but because I thought, “Who in their right mind would willingly sign up for [Groom’s Name]’s shenanigans?” But then I met you, [Bride’s Name], and it all made sense.

You’re kind, funny, and you’ve clearly got the patience of a saint. You not only see the best in [Groom’s Name], but somehow, you’ve managed to make him an even better version of himself. Together, you’re the perfect match, and I couldn’t be happier for you both. No one deserves this as much as you. 

Closing and toast: On that note, please charge your glasses to the new Mr and Mrs [Surname]. May your life be filled with love, laughter, and fireworks in all the right places.

Example 4: Twin’s best man speech

Introduction: Good afternoon, everyone. Are you all  having a good time? For those of you who don’t know me, my name is [Your Name], and I’m not only the best man, but the Groom’s twin brother.

Stories and anecdotes: Now, if there’s one thing you need to know about being a twin, it’s that it’s a bond unlike any other. Growing up, [Groom’s Name] and I were inseparable. Not by choice, of course—our parents tethered us together with those silly baby reins and dressed us alike until we were old enough to protest. But even after we finally got to pick our own clothes, we were still a team. We’ve shared everything—birthdays, inside jokes, and more than a few questionable decisions.

It probably goes without saying, but [Groom’s name] and I are completely identical. Right down to the freckles on our arms. I know you know where this is going, but Mum, Dad—we have a few confessions. 

  1. We swapped places for 5 out of 7 secondary school picture days. Even I don’t know who is who in the Year 10 one. 
  2. [Groom’s Name] broke up with my ex for me because I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I honestly don’t think she noticed. 
  3. I took [Groom’s Name]’s driving test for him. To be fair, he’d failed twice already, and I thought, “How hard could it be?” Apparently, harder than I thought, because I failed too. 

But, that’s twins for you—always in it together, even when it’s a total disaster.

Reflect on your friendship: But beyond the mischief and the laughs, [Groom’s Name], you’ve always been my rock. We’ve shared every milestone, every challenge, and every triumph. You’ve been my best friend, my sounding board, and the one person I know I can count on, no matter what. Being your twin is the greatest privilege of my life, and I wouldn’t swap it for anything.

Acknowledge the happy couple: And then came [Bride’s Name]. I have to admit, when I first heard about you, [Bride’s Name], I wasn’t sure how anyone could handle [Groom’s Name]. But from the moment I met you, I knew you were perfect for him. You balance him out, keep him on track, and I think you might be the only person who can genuinely tell us apart… or so you say. 

You’ve brought out a side of [Groom’s Name] that I’ve never seen before—more thoughtful, more grounded, and, dare I say it, even more in love with life. Together, you’re an unstoppable team, and I couldn’t be happier to welcome you to the family. Though, fair warning: we might still try to rope you into a twin prank or two.

Closing and toast: So, as we raise our glasses, let’s toast to the incredible bond of love, laughter, and partnership. [Bride’s Name], thank you for making my brother the happiest he’s ever been. And [Groom’s Name], here’s to being the best twin, the best friend, and now, the best husband you can be.

Example 5: Nostalgic best man speech 

Introduction: Hi everyone, my name is [Your Name], and I’m lucky enough to be standing here today as [Groom’s Name]’s best man. For those of you who don’t know, [Groom’s Name] and I have been best friends since we were just a couple of kids running around in nursery, with scraped knees, a pocket full of Matchbox cars, and far too much energy.

Reflect on your friendship: Looking back, it’s hard to pinpoint the exact moment we became inseparable. Maybe it was the time we teamed up to build the tallest Lego tower the classroom had ever seen… until someone “accidentally” knocked it over (we never liked that girl). Or maybe it was when we discovered a mutual love for hiding from the teachers during nap time, convinced we were rebels. Whatever it was, it started something that’s lasted a lifetime.

Stories and anecdotes: Growing up together meant sharing all the milestones—big and small. I’ll never forget the time we started our first “business” selling conkers to other kids in the playground. We thought we were entrepreneurs, until the headteacher shut us down for “causing a distraction.” We re-grouped, obviously, and started swelling sweets at break time… but I’m pretty sure that’s what got us in internal exclusion, wasn’t it? Sorry if you didn’t know that, [Groom’s Mum’s Name]. We’re all learning things today.

But, the friendship was a lot more than being told off. In fact, [Groom’s Name] was the most sensitive friend I had. He’s the one I knew I could count on, even when things seemed hopeless. Like the time I lost my first football match and was inconsolable. [Groom’s Name] sat with me, telling me stories and insisting that I’d be the next Beckham—even though we both knew I couldn’t score a goal to save my life.

He’s the sort of person who makes you feel like you can do anything, who’s there when you need them most, and who can make you laugh even when you feel like crying. It’s no wonder that he’s found someone as incredible as [Bride’s Name] to share his life with.

Acknowledge the happy couple: [Bride’s Name], from the moment I met you, I knew you were something special. Not because of any big gesture or because you were clearly far too good for him, but because of the way you looked at [Groom’s Name]. It was as if you already saw the best parts of him—the kindness, the loyalty, the big heart that I’ve been lucky enough to know my whole life. You’re everything he could have hoped for and more, and I’m so proud of you both.

Closing and toast: So, as we raise our glasses, I’d like to toast to friendship, to love, and to the memories that shape who we are. [Bride’s Name], thank you for making my oldest friend happier than I’ve ever seen him. And [Groom’s Name], thank you for being the brother I chose all those years ago in nursery. To [Groom’s Name] and [Bride’s Name]!

Example 6: Uni days best man speech 

Introduction: Hi everyone, isn’t this an amazing day? For those of you I haven’t met yet, my name is [Your Name], and I have the immense privilege of being [Groom’s Name]’s best man. [Groom’s Name] is undoubtedly the closest thing I have to a brother, so I couldn’t be more thrilled to stand here today and celebrate this incredible moment with him and [Bride’s Name]. 

Reflect on your friendship: Now, [Groom’s Name] and I go way back, but some of my fondest memories are from our university days. Life was never dull with him around. Like the time he decided we should pull an all-nighter to prepare for exams—by which I mean playing FIFA until sunrise and deciding caffeine would somehow help us “absorb and process” information. Did we re-sit that one once… or was it twice? Twice for you, definitely. 

Acknowledge the happy couple: Something you might not know is that I played a small part in introducing [Groom’s Name] to [Bride’s Name]. I say “small,” but it was more like divine intervention. Picture this: a university party, a bit too much liquid courage on both sides, and me, ever the wingman, awkwardly blurting out to [Bride’s Name], “You have to meet my mate, [Groom’s Name]. He’s not bad looking once you’ve had a drink.”

Anyway, we turn around, and he’s casually vomiting into the mop bucket. Not his finest hour. But, somehow, [Bride’s Name] saw past that, and they went for a drink the following week. The rest, as they say, is history. 

Stories and anecdotes: From there, things only got better—well, mostly. [Groom’s Name] managed to charm [Bride’s Name] with his unique brand of humour, his questionable dance moves, and his uncanny ability to somehow always lose his wallet when it’s his turn to buy drinks. 

We went from being a dynamic duo—Nottingham’s answer to Ant and Dec—to [Bride’s Name] joining the team and upgrading us to a proper trio. And let’s be honest, it’s been all the better for it. [Bride’s Name] brought a touch of class, a lot of patience, and, most importantly, someone who could finally keep [Groom’s Name] in check—because goodness knows, I couldn’t do it on my own!

Closing and toast: So, as we raise our glasses, let’s toast to the real dynamic duo—[Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name]. Here’s to a lifetime of adventures, of laughter, and of teamwork. [Bride’s Name], thank you for making my best mate the happiest man in the room. And [Groom’s Name], thank you for proving that even mop bucket moments can lead to something extraordinary. Here’s to your next chapter. Down in one?!

Example 7: Epic bromance best man speech 

Introduction: Well, well, well… where do I begin? What a day this has been already. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m [Your Name], and I’ve had the honour of being [Groom’s Name]’s partner in crime, wingman, and, dare I say it, his second greatest love—after [Bride’s Name], of course. 

Stories and anecdotes: I never had a brother, but if I had, I can only hope that he’d have been as brilliant—and as ridiculously infuriating—as [Groom’s Name]. Over the years, we’ve shared everything: laughter, bad decisions, and more than a few late-night kebabs that were definitely a mistake the next morning.

Reflect on your friendship: One of my favourite memories has to be the time we went camping and decided to “live off the land.” For us, this involved trying to forage for berries, getting an upset tummy from drinking dirty lake water, and then calling for a pizza to be delivered directly to the tent. Until you’ve used ‘what3words’ to guide a spotty 17-year-old to your very questionable pop-up tent, you haven’t truly experienced the height of outdoor survival, in my opinion. Bear Grylls doesn’t know what he’s talking about. 

And let’s not forget the infamous karaoke night when [Groom’s Name] serenaded the entire pub with his rendition of “Wonderwall.” It was both the worst and best performance I’ve ever seen, and somehow, he convinced the audience to join in. That’s just who he is—charming, unstoppable, and, at times, completely ridiculous. Incidentally, that’s the night he told me he’d met [Bride’s Name].

Acknowledge the happy couple: Now, when I first met her, I knew immediately that things were about to change. [Groom’s Name] had met his match—someone who could keep up with his energy, laugh at his jokes (most of them, anyway), and somehow manage to make him a better version of himself. It wasn’t long before I realised that this wasn’t just a passing romance—this was it.

[Bride’s Name], you’ve not only brought out the best in [Groom’s Name], but you’ve also joined the bromance in the most brilliant way. You’ve made space for our nonsense, even encouraged it at times, and for that, I’m forever grateful. It’s clear to everyone here today that you’re not just his partner—you’re his perfect teammate. I graciously and wholeheartedly pass the torch to you. 

Closing and toast: So, as we raise our glasses, let’s toast to the ultimate partnership. To Mr and Mrs [Surname]. Wishing you the world and more—you deserve it.

Example 8: Ride or die best man speech 

Introduction: Go easy on me, everyone. I’m not usually one for speeches. For those of you who don’t know me, my name is [Your Name] and I’m [Groom’s Name]’s day one best mate. Our Mums made friends in the hospital because they both had nightmare, awkward babies. Paints a picture, doesn’t it? Anyway, fast forward a few years, and those two awkward babies became inseparable partners-in-crime.

Reflect on your friendship: [Groom’s Name] was the worst influence, and yet the best friend anyone could ask for. Growing up, if there was trouble to be found, you could bet [Groom’s Name] was leading the charge—with me not far behind, trying to talk him out of it (unsuccessfully, I might add). But the thing about [Groom’s Name] is that no matter how chaotic the situation, he could always get you out of it. He had that gift of the gab, you know? I think the kids now call it ‘rizz’.

Acknowledge the happy couple: I’m pretty sure that’s how he landed [Bride’s Name], in fact. Did you know that this happy couple met at a party where [Groom’s Name] confidently told [Bride’s Name] that he could beat anyone in the room at darts? Now, the problem here was that [Groom’s Name] is absolutely terrible at darts—like, “can’t hit the board to save his life” terrible. But somehow, through sheer charm (and maybe a little strategic sabotage), he managed to turn a humiliating loss into a date with [Bride’s Name].

I want lessons in how you navigated that, by the way, because I think we can all agree—[Bride’s Name] is completely out of his league. What a stunner, and the most beautiful bride we’ve ever seen. But in all seriousness, [Bride’s Name], you’re not just stunning—you’re smart, kind, and, let’s face it, a bit of a miracle worker. You’ve managed to keep [Groom’s Name] grounded, organised, and—most impressively—you’ve got him turning up on time to things. That’s nothing short of magic.

Watching you two together is like watching the perfect double act. [Groom’s Name] brings the chaos, and [Bride’s Name], you bring the calm. Together, you balance each other out in the most brilliant way, and it’s clear to everyone in this room that you’re a team built to last.

Closing and toast: Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, please raise a glass to the newly minted Mr and Mrs. [Surname]. May your life be filled with love, laughter, and genuine friendship. To Mr and Mrs. [Surname]!

Example 9: Funny best man speech

Introduction: Hello everyone. [Your Name] here, ready to deliver a blinding best man speech. Let’s get the formalities out of the way—I told [Groom’s Name] I wouldn’t sit down until everyone had had a laugh, so you may as well humour me now. [Pause for polite chuckles.] Lovely, thank you!

Stories and anecdotes: I’ve known [Groom’s Name] for 17 years, can you believe it? And in that time, he’s provided me with endless material for this speech. Honestly, I could stand here all night. But let’s keep it clean and simple, shall we? Take, for example, the time he decided he could teach himself to cook during university. One pan, 9 ingredients, no salt, and a smoke alarm later, I was seriously considering calling the fire brigade. And let’s not even get started on his “spaghetti nuggets.”

Equally, there was the time he decided he could master DIY after watching a couple of YouTube videos. Armed with an IKEA flat-pack shelf and far too much confidence, [Groom’s Name] managed to build something that looked like it belonged in the Tate Modern. Impressive, right? Wrong. It was meant to be a Billy Bookcase.

Reflect on your friendship: But that’s the thing about [Groom’s Name]. Even when his plans go sideways—and they often do—he somehow manages to turn it into a laugh. Whether it’s his dodgy karaoke performances, his insistence that he can beat anyone at pool (he can’t), or his legendary “one more pint” philosophy that has led us to some questionable situations, life with him is never boring.

Acknowledge the happy couple: And then along came [Bride’s Name]. Now, I’ll admit, I wasn’t sure how she’d fit into this whirlwind of chaos. But it turns out that she wasn’t just up for the challenge—she embraced it. [Bride’s Name], you’ve brought a whole new dimension to [Groom’s Name]’s life. You’ve somehow managed to make him more organised, more thoughtful, and—dare I say it—almost respectable.

But what’s even more impressive is that you haven’t tried to change him. You love him for exactly who he is—dodgy cooking, wonky shelves, and all. Together, you’ve become the ultimate duo, with [Bride’s Name] providing the calm and the cleverness, and [Groom’s Name] providing… let’s call it the “creative flair.”

Closing and toast: So, let’s raise a glass to [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name], the perfect team. [Bride’s Name], thank you for making [Groom’s Name] the happiest bloke in the room and for laughing along with all of his antics. And [Groom’s Name], thank you for being the walking punchline we all know and love.

Here’s to a marriage full of love, laughter, and maybe a few more dodgy DIY projects along the way. To [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name]—cheers!

Example 10: Supportive best man speech 

Introduction: Well here we are. The big day has finally arrived, and I hope you’re all enjoying yourselves (I certainly am)! For those of you I haven’t met yet, my name is [Your Name] and I have the honour of being [Groom’s Name]’s best man. 

Reflect on your friendship: Now, as best man, my job is to stand up here and tell you all about [Groom’s Name]. And trust me, there’s a lot to tell. We’ve been through thick and thin together—he’s my partner in crime, my go-to for a laugh, and, I’d never say this to his face, but a bit of a legend. 

I’ve known [Groom’s Name] for over 15 years, and over that time, he’s proven himself to be one of the most loyal, supportive, and downright entertaining people I’ve ever met. If you’re in need of a helping hand, [Groom’s Name] is your guy. Just don’t ask him for directions—because if our road trips are anything to go by, you’ll end up completely lost (but somehow still having the best time of your life…

Stories and anecdotes: And speaking of adventures, one of my favourite memories has to be the time he decided we should train for a marathon. Now, this was coming from a man whose idea of “training” was walking to the fridge and back. Needless to say, it didn’t end well. Two runs in, he declared we’d earned a “cheat week,” which somehow lasted six months. But that’s [Groom’s Name] for you—big plans, endless enthusiasm, and an uncanny ability to turn even the most mundane moments into something unforgettable.

Acknowledge the happy couple: And then along came [Bride’s Name]. Now, I’ll admit, when I first met her, I thought, “She’s far too clever to fall for [Groom’s Name].” But somehow, he managed it. And honestly, it’s not hard to see why. [Bride’s Name], you’ve brought out a side of [Groom’s Name] that I didn’t know existed—one that’s more thoughtful, more focused, and even a little bit grown-up.

But what’s even more amazing is how well you complement each other. Together, you’ve created a partnership that’s full of laughter, love, and just the right amount of chaos. [Bride’s Name], you’ve joined our little team and made it so much better.

Closing and toast: Ladies and gentlemen—as the final point of my speech, I’ll ask you to join me in a toast. To love, laughter, and being legally bound to your best mate for life. Look after each other…

Example 11: Short and sweet best man speech 

Introduction: Hey everyone. My name is [Your Name], and I have the incredible privilege of being [Groom’s Name]’s best man. I’m not one for speeches, and to be honest, I’ve been pretty nervous about making this. But, when your best mate asks you to stand up and say a few words on the biggest day of his life, you don’t say no, do you? So here we are. I’ll keep it short, I promise, because we all know the real highlight is the free bar.

Reflect on your friendship: I’ve known [Groom’s Name] for 9 years, and in that time, we’ve been through it all—dodgy haircuts, questionable life decisions, and more than a few first dates.

Some of those dates, I’m happy to report, were so bad they’re still a running joke between us. But then, thankfully, along came [Bride’s Name], and suddenly, the joke was on me—because for the first time, [Groom’s Name] was dating someone who actually made sense.

Acknowledge the happy couple: When I first met [Bride’s Name], my immediate thought was, “She’s way too good for him.” And, let’s face it, I was right. But somehow, he managed to charm her with his dad jokes, nerdy hobbies, and relentless optimism. It’s clear to everyone here that they’re a perfect match.

[Bride’s Name], you’ve done what I genuinely thought was impossible: you’ve made [Groom’s Name] a better man. He’s more thoughtful, more organised—sort of—and let’s not forget, more punctual. But most importantly, you make him happy, in a way I’ve never seen before. And honestly, that’s all any of us could ever ask for.

Closing and toast: [Bride’s Name], thank you for putting up with him, and [Groom’s Name], thank you for being the best mate I could have asked for. Here’s to the happy couple—cheers!

Example 12: Best man speech for a bride 

Introduction: I’m going to try and get through this without crying, but I’m not promising anything. Ladies and gentlemen, my name is [Your Name], and I have the absolute honour of being the Bride’s best man! I know I know—quirky. But our [Bride’s Name] has never been one to follow tradition.

Reflect on your friendship: And honestly, that’s one of the many things I love about her. [Bride’s Name] has always been unapologetically herself—bold, kind, and completely impossible to ignore (not that you’d ever want to). When she asked me to be her best man, I was floored. And not just because I now had to write a speech—but because it reminded me of how lucky I am to have her in my life.

I’ve known [Bride’s Name] for 22 years, and let me tell you, she’s the kind of person who changes your life just by being in it. From the moment we met, she made me feel seen, understood, and accepted in a way that few people ever have. She’s been my biggest cheerleader, my shoulder to cry on, and the first person to tell me when I’m being completely ridiculous (which is always).

Acknowledge the happy couple: And then along came [Groom’s Name]. Now, I’ll admit, I was very protective when I first met him. After all, [Bride’s Name] isn’t just my best friend—she’s family. But within minutes, it was clear he was something special. The way he looked at her, the way he listened to her, and the way he made her laugh—it was obvious that this wasn’t just some fling. This was the real deal.

[Groom’s Name], you’ve not only made [Bride’s Name] happier than I’ve ever seen her, but you’ve also been the person she deserves—kind, supportive, and absolutely smitten with her. And honestly, it’s been such a joy watching the two of you build a life together, full of love, laughter, and far too many shared snacks that you both pretend don’t count.

Closing and toast: So, as we raise our glasses, let’s toast to two of the best people I know. [Bride’s Name], thank you for being the friend and sister I never knew I needed. And [Groom’s Name], thank you for loving her the way she deserves—and for letting me keep her as my partner in crime, even if I have to share her now. To Mr and Mrs. [Surname]!

The bottom line on the best man speech

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The best man speech is the perfect opportunity to share stories of your adventures, honour the groom on his big day, and celebrate the newlyweds’ love. 

To write a killer speech, throw in a few (respectful) jokes, compliment the groom’s partner, and keep an upbeat pace. These tips will help you strike a balance between comedy and sincerity and ensure that you leave a lasting impression on their wedding day. 

Leave plenty of time to write your speech and look up plenty of best man speech examples. Whether you’re the groom’s brother, friend, or new brother-in-law, these top 12 best man speech examples are sure to inspire your writing.

If you’re still feeling stuck, sign up to Bridebook for some top tips, tricks, and inspiration for writing a brilliant Best Man’s speech. Best of luck! 

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How Much Do Wedding Gifts Cost? The Ultimate Guide for Guests and Couples

Wedding gifts are something that can leave many of us racking our brains, whether you’re a guest who’s been invited to a wedding or you’re about to get married at your very own wedding.

From the point of view of a guest, how do you know what to buy and how much you should spend on a gift?

From the point of view of a couple getting married, how much is too much when it comes to creating a registry, and can you simply ask for cash?

The good news is that everyone is in the same position as you, because understanding how much to spend on wedding gifts is a confusing topic in general. So, in this post, we’re going to explore everything to do with the cost of wedding gifts, including how much you should spend as a wedding guest, what to ask for if you’re a couple getting married, and how to approach the awkward topic of asking for money.

1. You’re a guest going to a wedding

We get it, you’ve been invited to a wedding and you’re not sure how much to spend on a gift for the happy couple – we’ve all been there. There are so many unwritten rules as to what is the right amount to spend, which can vary depending on how well you know the couple, whether or not you’re in the wedding party, whether you’re an evening or a day guest and whether you’re in a couple yourself.

See, we told you it’s confusing!

So, if you’re umming and ahhing over what to buy a couple as a gift for an upcoming wedding, below should give you a rough idea as to how much you might spend.

How much should you spend on a wedding gift?

The most straightforward and simple answer to this question is you should spend as much as you’re able to and feel comfortable with. But, it’s only natural to worry about how much is enough or right and whether it’s in line with how much others are spending. Paranoia can sometimes get the best of us, with questions like ‘what if they don’t think I’m as generous as everyone else?’ creeping into our minds.

When the time comes for the happy couple to open their gifts, when they finally get to yours and see what you’ve given them, thoughts like these won’t even cross their minds. You haven’t been invited to their wedding because they think they’ll get something out of it – you’ve been invited because they want you there. Whether or not you give them a gift, and regardless of how much it is or what it’s worth, it’s simply a gesture from you to celebrate their marriage.

But, if you really want a rough idea as to how much you should spend on a wedding gift, the below guide should give you an approximation. Just remember, this isn’t set in stone and is by no means a rule you should stick to.

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Cost suggestions based on how well you know the couple

What’s the average amount to spend on a wedding gift?

Many guests will spend between £40 – £100 on a wedding gift. This is a fairly typical amount; however, it totally depends on your own circumstances and how well you know the couple. For example, if you’re immediate family but are on a tight budget, the couple won’t mind one bit if you don’t spend £100 on a gift. Similarly, if you’re a colleague then the couple will absolutely not expect a luxury gift from you.

Should you give cash as a wedding gift?

Some wedding guests don’t feel overly comfortable with giving cash as a gift, particularly those who may have spent their lives gifting toasters and knife sets in the past. But, during a time when a quarter of couples live together before marriage, many couples already have the appliances and homeware they need.

It also goes without saying that, after throwing the most expensive and luxurious party of their lives, couples will be grateful for a little extra cash. Plus, after a year of chaotic planning, a honeymoon after the wedding is always appreciated, and a cash gift will help make that happen.

In fact, some couples aren’t shy about asking for money instead of gifts, and this is absolutely fine, too. They may even have included information about this on their invitation or their wedding website if they have one, with information on where a bank transfer can be made before the big day.

At the end of the day, when newlyweds are gifted money they’re given far more freedom to do what they want, whether it’s go on their dream honeymoon, buy the exact toaster they’ve had their eye on, or decorate the spare room – all of which you could help make happen by giving a cash gift.

Popular wedding gifts and how much they cost

If you’re keen on giving a gift to a couple but you’re not sure where to start, here are a few ideas and a rough idea of how much they cost, to give you a little bit of inspiration.

Personalised artwork

A lovely way to mark the occasion, personalised artwork can be displayed to remind a couple of their big day, such as a map showing where they first met or a neon sign that spells out their new shared surname. Costs start from around £40.

Cookware

Perhaps a little old-fashioned, but who doesn’t love a nice casserole dish or a new set of pans? Prices for these will start at around £50. For something extra luxurious, a La Creuset dish is a wonderful gift, but on the pricey side at around £150.

Kitchen appliances

This one may be a bit of a cliché, but new appliances like a kettle, toaster or microwave are great gifts for couples about to move into their first home together. Costs start from around £30 for basic appliances and go up from there. Or, for real extravagance, a KitchenAid mixer would be a real treat for a keen baker and costs around £280.

Personalised homeware

An exciting and unique gift for a newly married couple is a personalised item they can display or use. A chopping board, doormat, or set of mugs are fun and useful, with costs starting at around £35.

Experience vouchers

Treat the newlyweds to an overnight stay somewhere, or a luxurious meal for two in a fancy restaurant. Or for more adventurous couples, something more exhilarating like a helicopter flying experience or rock climbing will get their blood pumping. Costs start at around £120.

What if you can’t afford to buy a gift?

If you’re not in a position to buy a gift for a couple about to get married, then don’t worry. A wedding is a celebration, and a couple gets married to come together and share their love – not because they want a bunch of gifts. Plus, the couple will know that you’ve already gone to great lengths just to be at their wedding, such as by taking time off work, buying a new outfit, travelling and the cost of your accommodation. Simply spend as much as you feel comfortable with and don’t worry about what you think someone is thinking.

If you want to buy a gift and you’re looking for affordable options, check out our post featuring 50 wedding gift ideas for every budget, or for some money-saving tips, our post on how to save money on a wedding gift could help you save a few pennies.

2. You’re a couple getting married

Getting married is super exciting – not only do you get to come together to build a new life with the person you love the most, but you get to throw one heck of a party and invite all your family and friends, which costs an average of £20,775.

Another big bonus is that a lot of your guests will also want to give you gifts, which could range from small token gestures to huge, generous ones – it all depends on who they are, their relationship to you and – of course – their budget.

What should you include on your gift registry?

While not everyone is going to buy you a wedding gift, many of your friends and family will want to. But, many of them will likely be stumped and have no idea where to start – which is why a gift registry is a great idea. Websites such as The Wedding Shop make it quick and easy for you to put a gift registry together.

When putting your list together, you’ll need to be open to including a range of items that fit a range of budgets. Some great items to put on your list include:

  • Dinnerware set
  • Tupperware set
  • Artwork
  • Kitchen appliances
  • Experience days
  • Spa visit
  • Vases
  • Ornaments
  • Blankets
  • Pillows
  • Luggage

Basically, you can include anything on your gift registry that you and your new spouse will use and enjoy. However, it’s usually items the two of you will use together in your home, or as part of a shared experience, rather than, say, video games or a new pair of trainers for one of you.

If you’re not putting a wedding registry together but would still like to let your guests know what they could give you, read our post on wedding registry alternatives.

Is it rude to ask for money as a wedding gift?

While it’s definitely not rude to ask for money as a wedding gift, there are ways to approach it delicately. After all, asking for money can be awkward, but it’s absolutely fine to ask for cash instead of gifts. Iif you and your new spouse-to-be are already living together, you’ve probably got most of the things you need in and around your house, and you don’t want to risk ending up with five new toasters (unless you really love toast).

You could simply explain to your guests that, if they’re considering giving you a gift, a cash gift would be appreciated so you can go on your honeymoon or buy a new car or replace the leaky roof on the garden shed. Once they know why you’re asking for money, most of your guests won’t mind at all. But, don’t be surprised if one or two of your guests decide to give you a gift anyway.

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How Much Do Wedding Favours Cost? The 2024 Average Revealed

Wedding favours offer you the opportunity to provide your guests with a small gift or keepsake that they can take home (or eat!) and remember the time they spent celebrating with you on your big day.

But when you’re already spending thousands on your wedding, how much should you spend on wedding favours that are thoughtful, personal and something that your guests are going to appreciate?

Below, we’re going to take a look at the cost of wedding favours, including the average amount couples spend, how much some of the most popular wedding favours cost, and what factors can influence how much you might spend.

What are wedding favours and do you need them at your wedding?

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Wedding favours are small tokens or gifts that you give to the guests who come to share in your celebrations on your wedding day. They’re small, personal gestures that are used to express your gratitude and work as a little souvenir for your family and friends.

Favours don’t need to be expensive – many wedding favours cost around £1 each – but they act as a way for you to show your appreciation. Many couples even choose to put together DIY wedding favours, which can be anything from a packet of sweets to a custom-made Rubix cube (although something like this will set you back a lot more than £1).

Even the most affordable or DIY wedding favour options will add to your ever-increasing list of expenses, which is saying something when you consider that the average cost of a wedding in the UK is £20,775. Does that mean, if budget is a concern, it’s something you could cut to save a bit of money?

Do you have to do favours at your wedding?

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While favours aren’t something that your guests will expect – and certainly aren’t the reason they’re coming to your wedding – their absence may be noticed by some (but certainly not all). In fact, some of your guests may choose to not take their favour home at all, and if you’re gifting food or sweets, they may even be devoured before the first course is served at the breakfast.

If you’re looking to save budget, or it’s simply not something that interests you or fits with your style or theme of your wedding, then you shouldn’t feel pressured to provide favours simply to appease others or because it’s something you believe your guests expect – because they definitely don’t.

What’s the average cost of wedding favours?

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In the UK, the average amount spent by couples on wedding favours is around £160 in total. This might not be a huge amount when you consider your overall budget (it’s about 2% of what couples pay for the average wedding venue) but if you want custom, handmade favours or you’re inviting 120+ guests, that figure can be much higher.

Similarly, you could keep costs down while still honouring the tradition, by simply leaving a small packet of Love Hearts sweets for every guest. This would cost you much less than the average, with 250 packets costing around £17 (and leaving you with some to keep for yourself).

It’s also important to remember that low-cost wedding favours don’t need to be generic or boring. For more information, check out our blog post on 29 ideas for affordable wedding favours.

What are some popular wedding favour ideas?

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If you’re looking for some wedding favour ideas but you’re not quite sure where to start, the below guide will give you a rough guide for how much some popular wedding favours cost so you can gauge if they fit within your budget.

Edible favours

  • Retro sweets – You can pick up ready-made packs of retro sweets, or put together your own if you shop around to find cheap sweets in bulk. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Honeycomb – A real crowd pleaser, honeycomb not only looks great but is delicious too. Costs start from £1.50 each.
  • Fudge – Fudge is creamy and luxurious and is a fantastic way to satisfy your guests’ sweet tooth. Cost start from £2 each.
  • Hot chocolate kit – A unique favour that most of your guests won’t resist and can be presented in many creative ways. Costs start from £2.50 each.
  • Popcorn – A cheap and tasty favour that no one will turn their nose up at. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Mints – Mints offer a breath of fresh air. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Jellybeans – Sweet treats that are affordable and come in a variety of flavours. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Cake pops – Cake pops are a lot of fun and a handy way to give your guests a cakey hit if you don’t have a traditional wedding cake. Costs start from £1.50 each.
  • Marshmallows – Affordable, sticky and sweet. Costs start from £1 each.

Non-edible favours

  • Bubbles – Everyone loves bubbles! Plus, they’re super affordable. Costs start from less than £1 each.
  • Personalised playing cards – Massively personal and always something your guests will want to keep. Costs start from around £5 each.
  • Second-hand books – A great talking point that is hugely affordable. Costs start from around 50p each, or even less if you check out some local charity shops.
  • Pens, notepads or pencils – A practical favour for everyone. Costs start from £2 each.
  • Jewellery charms – A cute memento that can be used in a huge variety of ways. Costs start from £3 each.
  • Wildflower seeds – Not a personal favour, but is certainly thoughtful. Costs start from £1 each.
  • Charity donation – A hugely thoughtful and generous gesture. You can donate as much or as little as you like.
  • Soap/hand sanitiser – A useful and unique favour. Costs start from £2 each.
  • Scratchcards – An exciting way to get your guests talking. Plus, one of your guests could leave your wedding a lot richer (and hopefully they’ll share some with you!). Costs start from £1 each.
  • Personalised candles – Who doesn’t love a candle? Costs start from £2.50 each.
  • Personalised coasters – A really unique gift that will remind your guests of your big day whenever they sit down for a cuppa. Costs start from £3 each.
  • Personalised keyrings – Everyone has at least a couple of keyrings, and there’s always room for one more. Costs start from £2 each.
  • Disposable camera – Quite a retro favour these days, but it can be a lot of fun having the photos developed to see what happened while you weren’t around! However, disposable cameras are becoming more expensive, with costs per camera starting from around £15 (and of course the cost to develop after the wedding). It can be hugely worth it if you have the budget, though.

Is it cheaper to do DIY wedding favours?

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If you’re on a budget, it can be much cheaper to do wedding favours yourself. However, if you’re looking for highly personal or customised favours, such as personalised playing cards, you may find the DIY approach more challenging. If you haven’t done anything similar before, there’s also the risk of inconsistent quality.

If you’re looking for something simple, such as a bag of retro sweets, you should be able to put this together with little effort and without much room for error. It should save you some money, too.

What factors can impact the cost of wedding favours?

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When choosing wedding favours, as well as the type of favours you go for, there are several factors to bear in mind which can impact the overall cost.

  • Quantity – It may seem obvious, but the more guests you have the more you’ll have to spend on favours.
  • Personalisation – Highly personalised wedding favours will cost more than something you can grab off a shelf or make yourself.
  • Vendor – A small, independent vendor may have higher prices than a large company with hundreds of employees. However, the level of care and quality is also likely to be better from a smaller vendor.
  • Quality – The higher the quality of materials or ingredients you use, the more expensive your favours will be. Remember, your favours are only a token gift to your guests and they won’t be expecting something premium.
  • Presentation – Marshmallows or honeycomb may be fairly inexpensive, but if you choose to package them in a fancy box with ribbon they may not be inexpensive for long.
  • Season – Depending on what you go for, the time of year may play a part in cost. For example, during peak periods when gift companies are in demand, costs may be much higher.

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Wedding Gift Registry Alternatives

Not a fan of the traditional gift registry? No problem! There are plenty of great alternatives to physical wedding gifts, from honeymoon funds and charity donations, to memorable experiences to share with your partner, or even no gift at all! Read on for the full list (for more gift ideas, be sure to check out our top gift list ideas).

Honeymoon fund

Ask guests to contribute money towards your honeymoon expenses for a luxe getaway like no other. There are various options to choose from. Consider a flight to a room upgrade, as well as add-ons for the holiday itself, like a romantic beach dinner or boat and snorkeling trip. This is a great way for your loved ones to contribute towards a special shared experience, and make your honeymoon one to remember and cherish for years to come.

Charity donation

Choose a charitable cause that’s meaningful to you and ask guests to make a donation in your honour. Choosing a charity fund as a gift registry alternative is a great way to make a positive impact on the world, adding a purposeful touch to your wedding celebrations. Plus, if you choose a cause you’re passionate about, you can educate your guests about it and raise awareness, so it’s a win-win! The Wedding Shop has a great selection of well-known charities to choose from, from Cancer Research UK and Mind, to Oxfam and Save The Children. Any donations made to your chosen charity will be automatically sent on your behalf. Alternatively, you can create your own personal crowdfunding page, using a fundraising platform like JustGiving or GoFundMe.

Experience gifts

Create a wish list of experiences you would like to share together. Think romantic spa day, weekend getaway, cooking class, or luxury cinema experience. Choosing a gift experience as a gift registry alternative gives you the opportunity to bond with your partner and share lifelong memories. It also gives your guests the chance to give you something that truly reflects your interests and hobbies. Plus, experience gifts are often more versatile and flexible than traditional physical ones. You can redeem them at a time that works best for you, and look forward to them after your wedding.

Home down payment/home renovation fund

If you’ve not already bought a house together, why not create a fund to help you save for a down payment on a new home? Your friends and family will love having the chance to contribute to your future in a very practical and meaningful way. It’s a great alternative to a gift registry, because you can put the money towards a long-term investment and asset. This is particularly helpful if you’re first-time buyers and dreaming of homeownership. If you and your partner are already living together, you can use the cash contribution in other ways, for example, on a home renovation. Or you can be more specific, and ask for a kitchen or garden fund – the possibilities are endless!

Group gift

Some of your guests can come together to contribute towards a larger, more expensive, higher-value gift, such as a special piece of furniture or a new home appliance. Unlike traditional gift registries, which may only offer specific items, this gives your guests more choice, and the chance to help you buy something you need but can’t afford on your own. And rather than choosing from a pre-selected list, this way, your friends and family can personalise the gift to your tastes and needs. If you like surprises, this kind of wedding gift can also be a lot of fun to give and receive!

No gifts

You may prefer to have no wedding gifts at all, and choose to keep the focus on the celebration itself. After all, the presence of your loved ones at your wedding is arguably the greatest gift of all! If you like simplicity, this is a great alternative to a traditional registry. There’s no need to select, purchase and wrap individual gifts – so less stress for both you and your guests. It’s also a more sustainable option – no gifts means no waste or environmental impact, whether that’s the production and disposal of a physical gift, or the transportation involved in something like a gift experience. Requesting no gifts can also help your guests save money, especially if they’re already spending a significant amount on travel, accommodation or other expenses.

With all these alternatives, there are so many ways your guests can contribute to your wedding besides a gift registry. Whether it’s a cash contribution for your honeymoon or home, donations to a charity you love, memorable experiences, or just their presence, there’s something for everyone!

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Top Tips For Your Destination Wedding

A destination wedding can be a memorable and unique way to celebrate your special day with your friends and family. But planning one can be a daunting task! There are so many decisions to make and details consider. That’s why we’ve put together our top tips for planning a destination wedding. They’ll help you make your big day a success, no matter where you are in the world. From choosing the perfect wedding venue, to being aware of the legalities, we’ve got you covered.

1. Choose the right location

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The location you choose for your destination wedding is crucial. Consider factors like climate, accessibility, price and venue availability. You may want to choose a place that has a special meaning to you and your partner. How about where you first went on holiday together? Or somewhere with stunning, picture-perfect scenery for your wedding photos?

If you’re not sure where to start, check out our handy guide on the top 10 destination wedding locations. From a romantic Mediterranean beach wedding on a Greek island to a cosmopolitan urban getaway in New York, the world is your oyster!

2. Give your guests plenty of notice and information

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When planning a destination wedding, give your guests plenty of advance notice. This will allow them to make travel arrangements and organise their holiday time accordingly (particularly important for very far-flung locations). Send out save-the-date cards at least 6-8 months before the wedding to give your guests plenty of time to plan, and the invitations 3-4 months in advance.

Be sure to include all the important details on a separate information card along with the invitations themselves. We recommend the following as a bare minimum:

  • How to reach your destination and where to stay (include your venue’s address)
  • Information on the weather at the time of year (so your guests can plan their outfits)
  • Tips for places to visit and eat in the area (ask your venue for recommendations)

We recommend listing any extra wedding-related activities, like dinner the day before, or lunch the next day, on your RSVP card. That way, your guests can tick off which ones they’ll be attending.

3. Hire a specialist local wedding planner

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Hiring a local wedding planner can be a game-changer when planning a wedding abroad. They’ll help you create the perfect wedding itinerary and handle all the necessary logistics, so you can focus on simply enjoying your big day and being present in the moment.

A local wedding planner will have specialist knowledge of the area and wedding suppliers, and can help you navigate any language or cultural barriers. Let them serve as your personal directory of recommendations, from accommodations and restaurants, to activities and attractions.

4. Choose the right wedding dress and attire

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When it comes to deciding on your dress code, be sure to consider both the location and nature of your wedding. Depending on the destination, you might need to choose materials that are comfortable in the heat or cold, and shoes that are suitable for the terrain.

If you’re getting married on the beach or very hot country, consider wearing slip-on sandals or going barefoot for a more relaxed feel. If you’re getting married somewhere cold like Iceland, think long sleeves and plenty of warm layers you can change into if necessary.

5. Plan group and honeymoon activities

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An overseas wedding is a great opportunity to spend quality time with your guests. You can organise a rehearsal dinner or post-wedding lunch to extend the celebration and make a holiday of it. Plan group activities to create fun, memorable experiences. We recommend beach bonfires, water sports like snorkelling, hikes and day trips, or food and wine tastings.

Or plan activities for your honeymoon, to make the most of your flight tickets and journey! In fact, with honeymoons being a top splurge for newlyweds, combining your destination wedding with your honeymoon can be a great way to optimise both your budget and your time.

6. Don’t forget the legal details

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If you’re hoping to tie the knot in a foreign country, be prepared to navigate some legal requirements that might be different from what you’re used to in your home country.

  • Make sure your marriage or civil partnership is recognised by the law back home. This might involve getting certain licenses or translations of documents (for example, if you’re a Brit marrying abroad, a certificate of no impediment (CNI) from the UK government).
  • Make sure you follow all the necessary procedures in the country where you’re planning to get married abroad. You’ll need to reach out to the local authorities to learn what to do.

The bottom line is that you don’t want to get caught out by any legal technicalities that could put a damper on your big day. So be thorough with your research!

Planning a destination wedding requires a bit more effort than a traditional wedding at home, but the results can absolutely be worth it. By following these top tips, you’ll be well on your way to planning the destination wedding of your dreams with all of the joy and none of the stress.

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50 Wedding Gift Ideas 2023 for Every Budget

Whether you’re an engaged couple looking for cool ideas for your wedding gift list, or a guest wanting to source an extra special present, you’ve come to the right place! We’ve compiled a list of 50 unique and thoughtful wedding gift ideas that are sure to make any couple smile. From bespoke, personalised presents, to unforgettable gift experiences, there’s something for everyone – homebodies, foodies, art lovers, adrenaline junkies and more! Read on for the full list.

Wedding Gift Experiences

1. Theatre tickets to The Lion King for two – £144, Virgin Experience Days

For a spectacular theatrical experience like no other, look no further than Disney’s multi award-winning musical. It’ll make an ideal post-wedding date night for the couple.

2. A weekend getaway at The Bird (Bath, Hotel) – £290, Virgin Experience Days

Treat the couple to a two-night winter stay with breakfast at The Bird in Bath. The’ll stay in a cosy king room nestled just a short saunter from Bath’s main attractions.

3. A sunrise air balloon ride – £260, Virgin Experience Days

Let the couple take to the skies together from one of over 100 locations across the UK. They’ll see the sunrise from an unforgettable new perspective aboard one of Virgin’s iconic red balloons.

4. A wine tasting minibreak – £142, Virgin Experience Days

A tranquil one-night countryside break with a vineyard tour and wine tasting at Chapel Down Winery, featuring fine wines and picturesque views. Perfect for wine- and nature-loving couples.

5. A spa gift card – £250, Champneys Health Spa

With a gift card from Champneys, the couple can choose their own path to relaxation and rejuvenation. At-home products, tension-relieving treatment, or a complete romantic spa break!

6. A Russian spa experience for two – £150, Banya No.1

Tucked away in Shoreditch, Banya No.1 offers an authentic take on the Russian Spa. This 3-hour couple-friendly session comes complete with a private booth and table at the lounge cafe.

7. A gourmet dinner at a fancy restaurant – £250, Gordon Ramsay Restaurants

For the ultimate foodie wedding gift, give the couple a very special London dining experience. Treat them to an exquisite six-course tasting menu at Gordon Ramsay’s Michelin starred Pétrus.

8. A two-hour cooking class – £128, The Jamie Oliver Cookery School

Led by professional chefs, this hands-on two-hour course at The Jamie Oliver Cookery School is perfect for newlyweds. From Indian feasts to pasta masterclasses, the choice is theirs.

9. A kintsugi pottery class for beginners – £100, Class Bento

Give the couple the Japanese art of kintsugi at this unique London pottery class. They’ll each get to create a beautiful ceramic piece to take home with them and treasure.

10. A how-to-draw art class for beginners – £190, City Academy

A fun yet educational one-day beginners’ art class, perfect for the creatively-minded couples out there. They’ll have fun expressing themselves while developing their drawing technique.

Personalised Wedding Gifts

11. A personalised wedding guestbook – £35, Stori

What better way to commemorate the big day than with Stori’s personalised book-bound guestbook? You can collect everyone’s best wishes for the happy couple to share with them.

12. A bespoke wedding venue line drawing – £42, Letterfest

Letterfest’s wedding venue portrait is personalised with the couple’s names and wedding details in a handwritten font below. It’s a stylish illustration that makes the perfect wedding gift.

13. A personalised cheese board/serving platter – £27, The Rustic Dish

We love this personalised cheese board, which doubles as a serving board. Why not include some of the couple’s favourite cheeses in the mix for an extra special wedding gift?

14. A personalised silver plated photo frame – £20, Engravers Guild

A classic silver plated photo frame will keep the couple’s happy memories safe year after year. You can engrave it with a message of your choice for a very personal wedding gift.

15. Personalised date night cards – £18, Not On The High Street

These British-made personalised date night cards are a cheap but thoughtful wedding gift. With 52 surprise activities, both indoor and outdoor, the couple can spend exciting quality time together.

16. Personalised Mr and Mrs mug set – £25, Not On The High Street

These ceramic Mr and Mrs mugs can be printed with the couple’s surnames and wedding date. They’ll remember their wedding every time they have their morning coffee or afternoon tea!

17. Personalised Mr and Mrs indoor doormat – £22.50, Not On The High Street

This doormat can be personalised with the couple’s married names (Mr & Mrs / Mr & Mr / Mrs & Mrs) and their wedding date . A personal and welcoming introduction to their home!

18. A set of personalised kitchen aprons – £40, Not On The High Street

These high quality aprons are made of pure cotton and can be personalised with any name or message. A unique wedding gift for couples who love to cook or bake.

19. Personalised embroidered heart couples dressing gown – £40, Sparks and Daughters

This beautiful cotton dressing gown set makes a lovely personalised wedding gift (or cotton anniversary present). The couple can wear them after a bath or when relaxing at home together.

20. A hand-poured personalised candle – £20, Kindred Fires

This hand-poured natural soy wax candle, encased in frosted glass, makes a charming keepsake wedding gift. It can be personalised with the couple’s name, wedding date and a happy message.

Wedding Gifts for the Home

21. Matching Manon throw and cushion covers – £170, The White Company

This cosy and tactile lambswool-blend collection comes in a classic basket weave. It’s an all-seasons knit sure to bring comfort and joy to the recently married couple’s new home.

22. A classic cast iron Le Creuset casserole dish – £329, Le Creuset

You can’t go wrong with a classic Le Creuset dish – it’s great for one-pot wonders, and will last the couple a lifetime. We particularly love this limited-edition romantic hearts design.

23. A pink glass desk & table lamp – £198, Oliver Bonas

This handmade curved glass lamp from Oliver Bonas is the perfect way to lighten and brighten a couple’s new home. Its pink marbled design is unique to each piece.

24. A set of pink champagne flutes by Maison Balzac – £65, Liberty

These lovely pink glass champagne flutes are sure to elevate the couple’s dining display. They also offer the perfect excuse for using up any leftover bubbly from a Champagne Tower!

25. Vera Wang for Wedgwood Love Knots tealight holders – John Lewis, £52

These classic tealight holders make a beautiful, timeless wedding gift. It’s a great choice if you’re looking for a thoughtful wedding gift that combines functionality with style.

26. Capiz wall flower decoration – £78, Anthropologie

This gleaming wall flower, made from handcrafted capiz shells, is sure to give the newlyweds’ walls a touch of glamourous charm. A special piece to remind them of their special day.

27. A ceramic indoor hanging pot trio – £22.99, Hortology

These adorable baby dotty hanging pots are ideal for those green-thumbed couples who don’t have much outdoor space. They’re perfect for hanging herbs or little succulents in the kitchen.

28. A pack of 7 essentials gallery frame – £50, Dunelm

Let the couple show off their wedding photos with this set of black on-trend photo frames. To make their gift extra special, print seven of their favourite wedding day shots and put them in the frames.

29. The original Scratch Map – £20.95, Luckies of London

For couples who love to travel, the original Scratch Map is the perfect affordable wedding gift. Each country scratched off will symbolise a new adventure together, and look great on their wall too!

30. A leather memory box – £229, Life of Riley

This leather memory box is a nifty way for the newlyweds to their precious memorabilia and letters. Styled like a classic treasure chest, it’s a lovely keepsake wedding gift for the home.

Luxury Wedding Gifts

31. A luxury all-in-one wedding day hamper – £160, Fortnum & Mason

This joy-giving wedding hamper is filled with all sorts of celebration-ready goodies. From bubbles to tea to chocolates, everything was created with happy couples in mind.

32. The Velvetiser (white edition) – £99.95, Hotel Chocolat

This indulgent in-home hot chocolate machine is perfect for newlyweds. Let them enjoy a barista-grade drink as part of their morning ritual, or curl up on the sofa with a velvety cup in the evening.

33. Wedding Bells biscuit tin – £48, Biscuiteers

This Wedding Bells collection features an irresistible assortment of wedding-themed lemon biscuits in a keepsake tin. You can even personalise the heart biscuit with a message for the happy couple.

34. A Panasonic bread maker – £199.99, John Lewis

For couples who love creative yet hassle-free baking, look no further than an automatic bread maker. They can enjoy fresh bread and cakes every day without sacrificing quality time.

35. A year of flowers – £240, Bloom and Wild

Brighten up the couple’s home with a year-long flower subscription. Whether they choose the flowers themselves, or prefer to be sent a surprise, they’ll have a fresh delivery every 28 days.

36. The Adventure Challenge book (couples edition) – £49, The Adventure Challenge

The Adventure Challenge book will keep the couple’s date nights fresh and exciting year after year. Each new adventure is a mystery until it’s scratched off, making for unforgettable experiences!

37. Name twin stars gift – £69, World Star Registry

For a special and unique wedding gift, let the happy couple name their own stars. They’ll get matching certificates showing their stars’ co-ordinates, which they can track each night in real-time!

38. The Luxury Retreat Hamper – £179, The Newt in Somerset

Let the couple relive their honeymoon experience with a touch of at-home hotel luxury. The Luxury Retreat Hamper contains everything newlyweds need for a cosy yet indulgent night in together.

39. A bespoke wine subscription – from £36/month, The Grape Reserve

If you know the couple enjoys a drink or two, consider a monthly wine subscription gift. Each curated monthly selection comes with tasting notes, as well as a complementary recipe.

40. A projector for two – from £399.99

Give the couple a cinema experience on the go, with Anker’s Nebula Capsule portable projector. They can enjoy a romantic night watching movies together under the stars anywhere in the world.

Useful Wedding Gifts

41. The Ultimate Travel List – £19.99, Lonely Planet

Lonely Planet’s bestselling Ultimate Travel List is a must-have coffee table book for couples who love to travel. It ranks the world’s greatest places to visit, featuring 200+ awe-inspiring photos.

42. A large carry-on suitcase – £394, Monos

Monos’ award-winning, honeymoon-friendly suitcases will last the couple a lifetime, and come in 10 gorgeous colours. Their largest check-in case is perfect for a few weeks away in the sun.

43. The Couple’s Cookbook: Recipes for Newlyweds – £20, Cole and Kiera Photography

Written by husband and wife wedding photographer duo, Cole and Kiera Stipovich, The Couple’s Cookbook: Recipes for Newlyweds is a lovely primer for newlyweds starting their first home together. From easy weeknight meals to beautiful weekend brunches to dinner party delights, this is a fun, playful and useful wedding gift that will keep on giving.

44. A high and low parallettes set – £119.95, Mirafit

Help the sporty couples out there build up their own home gym! With a Mirafit high and low parallettes set, the couple can train together from the comfort of their living room.

45. A backpack picnic hamper for two – £49.99, Greenfield Collection

Let the couple enjoy lovely picnics together with this deluxe backpack hamper for two. It’s got all the essential accessories, plus plenty of space to accommodate food, drinks and containers.

46. An artisan KitchenAid mixer – £499, KitchenAid

Even the most kitchen-shy couples will want a KitchenAid mixer on their gift list – from whipped cream to mashed potatoes, it does it all. You can customise it further with an assortment of other useful attachments, like spiralizers or a pasta roller, for an even more personal wedding gift.

47. McGregor 5-piece gardening set – £35, Argos

 

If the couple are moving into a home with outdoor space, this 5-piece gardening set is ideal. Strong, durable, and built to last – these tools will keep their garden looking gorgeous!

48. A Smarter coffee machine – £199, Smarter

No gift list is complete without a coffee machine, but for a more unique wedding present, consider a lightweight Smarter coffee machine. With the Smarter App, the couple can set the strength and choose from two different modes, ‘filter’ and ‘grinder’, to achieve a flawless cup of coffee each time.

49. A scribble writing digital alarm clock – £15, Prezzybox

This scribble writing digital alarm clock doubles as a light-up memo pad – perfect for busy or forgetful couples! And at only £15, it’s a super cheap wedding gift, that’s super fun and useful!

50. An AirTag, £35 Apple

For couples moving into a new home together, a tactile Apple AirTag will provide a private and secure way to easily locate their most precious items…like their new housekeys!

There you have our top 50 wedding gift ideas for every budget. From homebodies and foodies, to nature lovers and adrenaline junkies, there’s something to delight every couple.

Wedding Gift List Guide – ft The Wedding Shop

One of the most exciting parts of planning your wedding is creating your wedding gift list. But with so many options to choose from, it can be overwhelming to know where to start and what to choose. That’s why we’ve put together this guide to help you create your perfect wedding gift list. From deciding on a gift registry, to choosing the perfect gifts, we’ve got you covered!

Deciding on a registry

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The first step in creating your gift list is deciding on a registry. There are several options to choose from, including traditional department stores, online retailers, or even a combination of both. The most important thing is to choose a registry that suits your unique needs and preferences. A traditional department store registry will allow you to add a mix of home and lifestyle items, whereas an online registry will give you the flexibility to add items from multiple retailers.

Our recommended gift registry

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For creating a unique and personalised gift list, our top choice is The Wedding Shop. Our founder, Hamish Shephard, used it for his own wedding, and was very impressed! They’ve won a number of awards, and it’s completely free to sign up. Plus, you get your own Gift Guru (a.k.a. personal wedding gift list advisor), to help make your journey enjoyable and unique to you, not to mention stress-free! They’ve got over 30 years of experience and feature over 450 brands, so your list will be in the best possible hands, and you’ll have a great selection of gifts to choose from.

Choosing the perfect gifts

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Once you’ve decided on a registry, it’s time to start choosing the perfect gifts. Consider what you currently have and what you still need, and include a mix of items at different price points (to cater to guests with different budgets). For homebodies, consider items like cookware, bedding and home decor. For foodies, think items like a KitchenAid mixer, a set of high-quality knives and a cast iron skillet. For all the art lovers out there, add a beautiful painting or sculpture, or a membership to a local museum. For the adventurous couple, consider adding experiences such as a cooking class at a gourmet restaurant, or a hot air balloon ride at sunrise – the possibilities are endless!

Our recommended must-have items

We’ve picked out our favourite must-haves from The Wedding Shop, which are sure to inspire you!

Creating your perfect wedding gift list is an exciting opportunity to start building your new life together as a couple. By following these steps, the whole process will be fun and stress-free! Looking for alternatives to physical gifts? The Wedding Shop offers these too! From honeymoon funds and charity donations, to memorable experience gifts, we love the choice and flexibility. Plus, everything is all in one place, which makes the whole process so oh-so-easy from start to finish.

The Current COVID Wedding Rules in England

UPDATED: 14th June 2021

N.B. The following applies to weddings in England only. We are expecting official confirmation from the government tomorrow which will be updated here.

Finally, we can give you the news that we’ve all been waiting for – big weddings are back! The government has announced today that while other restrictions will remain in place, weddings with more than 30 guests will be able to go ahead in England from 21st June! Your patience and resilience through all of this have been incredible and we are so excited to watch you celebrate, even if there will still be some more restrictions in place than we had hoped for.

We know it can be tricky to work out exactly what these restrictions are and what is just guidance, but hopefully, we can help. Below are the latest rules, as reported by the Deputy Political Editor at The Telegraph. This should give some additional clarity about what is and isn’t allowed from 21st June.

From June 21st:

Allowed:

  • Unlimited attendees at wedding ceremonies and receptions, so long as they can be accommodated in a COVID-secure way
  • Musical entertainment, with a group of up to six performers allowed inside, and up to 30 performers allowed outdoors
  • The wedding couple’s first dance
  • Speeches, with the Government guidance urging that these take place outdoors or in a well-ventilated area where possible. Public address systems, such as microphones are preferable to raised voices.
  • Cutting of the cake
  • Guestbooks and camera stations are allowed, however, contact should be minimised, with hand sanitisation stations encouraged before and after use

Not Allowed:

  • Indoor dancing
  • Stand up drinks receptions at outdoor or indoor wedding venues

Advised Against:

  • Dancing outdoors
  • Communal singing, which includes hymns
  • Reusable service booklets and devotional materials. Single-use alternatives that can be binned should be used instead
  • Cash donations, with alternative online giving encouraged instead

Obligatory:

  • Facemasks must be worn indoors during wedding ceremonies and receptions, except for when eating and drinking
  • Table service for food and drink, with no more than six guests per table
  • Risk assessments are mandatory for all wedding venues, as well as guests celebrating on private land if more than 30 people are attending

Make sure you download the Bridebook app and update your wedding location and date. This will ensure you get breaking news that is relevant to your wedding, whenever it is announced. To get the latest updates follow #whataboutweddings and The UK Wedding Taskforce on Instagram.

The Latest COVID Wedding News

Update: The Times has reported that the government will (finally!) lift the 30-person limit on weddings, even if the easing of other lockdown restrictions is delayed beyond June 21.

We will be keeping you all up to date if there are any changes to the rollout of weddings, so you’ll never miss the latest news. Download the Bridebook app today so that you are first to hear of any changes to policy that may affect your wedding.

Whilst restrictions are set to end on the 21st of June, weddings are still likely to be a little different for the next couple of years. The “new normal” will probably still affect a few things at your wedding. And while there may be no major fixed rules, we want to give you some tips on how to navigate through the early days after restrictions end.

Below are our top tips for planning a post-COVID wedding.

1. Keep up to date with latest government restrictions

Firstly, make sure that you know the particular COVID rules in your given area. Remember that there are often slight differences in policy between England, Scotland, Wales, and Northern Ireland. Keep up to date with everything here.

Also, while the government has said that there won’t be different rules for different regions, this policy may change. Particularly, if pockets of the countries see mini-outbreaks. Again, make sure you know the rules for your wedding location and your hometown. This way you won’t get caught out with any last-minute changes.

2. Make contingency plans for guests coming from abroad

One thing that definitely won’t be back to normal straightaway on 21st June is international travel. With new variants and differing vaccination rates, some restrictions on travel are sure to remain for a while.

As a result, we recommend making some contingency plans for any guests who are planning to come from abroad. Keep up to date with which countries are on which lists (red, amber, green). This will ensure you know which guests may need to quarantine and who may need to order tests for early release from quarantine. 

Travel rules are likely to remain in flux for some time yet, so do think about how you will mitigate this. Will you still go ahead with some live streaming options? A lot of venues now have this capability so do ask ahead of time. Similarly, we have seen some couples use computer tablets at tables for guests who are abroad and can’t make it to the ceremony.

Have a chat with your partner and work out what will work for you and your day.

3. Check your honeymoon destination

Since travel restrictions are likely to continue, you will also need to keep an eye on the rules for your honeymoon destination. Again, keep up to date with the latest for your particular country at the government-specific site.

Know what the quarantine rules are so that you can book the required time off and make sure you have your tests done well in advance.

Remember to do the same if you are having your hen do or stag do abroad, particularly if your bridesmaids or groomsmen aren’t quite as on-the-ball as you.

4. Keep your guests feeling safe

Even when restrictions end, some guests may still be nervous. It has been a really tough 18 months and some people want to take things a bit more cautiously than others. And that’s fine.

Make sure you know which of your guests might need a little more reassurance in advance. You can then provide badges for people who want to signal to others that they would like to keep their distance a bit more. 

You could seat them nearer to open doors or windows to get more ventilation. Simply increasing the number of sanitisation stations around the venue can put some people at ease.

Similarly, if you are a bit nervous about having your wedding straight after restrictions end, let your guests know what you expect from them. This way there won’t be any surprises on the day.

5. Talk to your venue about their safety measures

The staff at wedding venues want you and your guests to feel as safe as possible on your big day.

Many venues now have protocols for making a venue more COVID-secure. This can include greater distancing at tables, one-way systems around the property, and increased ventilation. As we mentioned above, many also have the ability to livestream parts of the event.

Chat to your venue to let them know what things you need on your particular day and they are likely to be very accommodating.

6. Download the Bridebook app

The Bridebook app is where you can get the latest and most up to date news for weddings. If things change, this is where you’ll find out first.

Update your date and let us know where you’ve booked your venue. Then we can provide you with the most relevant information for your specific wedding date and location.

7. Have fun!

Restrictions are due to end on 21st June, so there should be no major rules at your wedding outside of travel restrictions. Instead, it will be up to you to find the right balance for you and your guests. But remember, it has been an incredibly tough 18 months and one that we know people can’t wait to put behind them. People have never been in bigger need of a great party. Your wedding will be a celebration that will live long in the memory. So be safe, but enjoy it! You deserve the best day of your life.

Post-Quarantine Wedding Trends

After weeks of being inside, forced apart from our nearest and dearest, weddings seem like a lifetime away. And yet, the day will come when life will be full of loved ones, laughter and celebration once more. We can expect some significant effects on weddings to come later this year and into 2021.

The 2021 wedding season will not be without its challenges. With 64% of 2020 weddings expected to be pushed-back, 2021 is set to be a busy one.  Couples will have to make quick decisions on dates, to get first dibs on the date they want.  Guests can expect many more clashes, and midweek weddings than ever, making things a little more challenging. On the bright side, we’ll have a way to use up all of those saved holiday days…

Post-coronavirus, we can expect that weddings will be bigger, bolder, and even more full of meaning. Everyone is longing for the days of confetti, cake, and bubbly, and we have the scoop on the trends you can expect to see post-lockdown.

 

Digital Guests: 

One thing that has come from this period of change and online socialising is the normalisation of online meeting services, such as zoom. Travel restrictions may persist for some time, and we expect two-thirds of weddings post-lockdown to have at least some guests attending virtually. For elderly relatives, as well as friends and family living in far-flung destinations, digital access will be a great way for them to still be able to attend these special moments, even if just remotely. 

man smiling with gadgets

 

Courageous Fashion Choices:

After what feels like months of wearing the same pair of leggings and jumpers, everyone will be jumping at the chance to dress up and look their best.  We can expect adventurous guest fashion, with brighter, more fashion-forward dresses and bolder jewellery choices. 

It won’t just be guests making bold statements; we are seeing a 50% increase in the popularity of statement veils (probably thanks to Mrs. Bieber). We can expect to see many more brides making this trend their own, embroidering their veils with meaningful quotes or even initials. Alongside an increase in statement veils, we are also seeing a rise in catwalk-inspired statement sleeves and pearl-embellished dresses, seen at the likes of Dior and Chanel.

Classic Blue was announced as the Pantone colour of the year, so expect a great revival in the something blue, something borrowed tradition, featuring this beautiful shade. Think blue in newly trending hair barrettes, jewelry and even the bases of high heels!

Post-credit-crunch, boho brides were on the rise, and this trend is set to explode once more. Many 2021 brides will be going for the ethereal look, with wearable florals, and bridal crowns taking center stage.

bride with flower crown

 

Creative Wedding Decor:

If you thought wedding creativity had reached its peak, just you wait. With more time than ever to d think about wedding details, we can expect a move away from some more traditional elements to more creative and modern takes on decor.  Some creative couples will be changing up the traditional seating charts, instead painting table lists on flower-filled glass boxes. Floral hoops have also been growing in popularity, with growing in popularity by 80% this year, alongside hanging floral decorations and flower-filled aisles.

Post quarantine, there will be a revival of the Do-it-yourself Bride and Groom. Around three-quarters of weddings will include some DIY elements, as couples cut costs where they can (and have more time on their hands!), with DIY-couples saving a combined £20million. We are looking forward to personalised table settings, wedding favours, and decor, such as photo displays. 

DIY floral arrangement

 

Wedding Food Trends:

With so many couples caring more than ever about sustainability and the environment, it is no wonder that there has been a shift to a focus on menu seasonality, as well as plastic and waste reduction.  With many couples aiming to create as little environmental impact as possible, the increase in zero-plastic and reduced-waste weddings could save more than 15,000 tonnes of wedding waste from ending up in landfills (that’s 100 blue whales!). From invitations made of recycled paper,  vegan menus and leftover composting, we can safely assume that the sustainable wedding trend is here to stay and will explode in 2021.  We imagine many couples will be donating leftover flowers to local hospitals and hospices, which hopefully will be a trend that will stick.

As for the sweet stuff,  we predict a shift away from the traditional and pricy wedding cakes that often remain uneaten, to more exciting offerings. Unique grab and go dessert displays, such as doughnut walls will come into their own (there are almost 100,000 posts under the hashtag #donutwall on Instagram!).

Weddings are all about individuality and celebrating who the couple truly is. We are expecting food and drink that pay homage to the backgrounds of the couple, whether that is custom messages in fortune cookies or cocktails made with a type of Slovakian cherry liquor.  More and more couples will be selecting super-personal menus, such as family favourite desserts, or cocktails named after people and places that mean something to the couple and their families.

 

Party Central:

After the storm of COVID, when weddings begin again, they are set to go on till the early hours. Where there is partying, there is midnight feasting. Guests can expect to be sustained with anything from sweet treat grazing tables, to late-night pasta pots to keep them dancing the night away.

Missing happy hour has become a national tragedy, and it’s coming back in a big way – think serve-yourself prosecco taps, experimental cocktails, and boozy popsicles like frozen rose, mimosas, and mojitos making their way onto a dancefloor near you. 

It’s only natural that with happy hour, comes confidence in dance ability. Learning a Tiktok dance became a quarantine right of passage, and newly married couples will be eager to show off their new fancy footwork. Be prepared for some seriously questionable, but hilarious first dances. 

Post-Quarantine Wedding Trends

 

Registry Remix:

Many couples feel that this period has put things into perspective, as well as made many questioning what gifts they can live without. Cutlery and crystal bowls are a nice memento, but lots of couples are forgoing the regular registry list, asking for experiences, not things. More will be asking for starter funds for a new home, a pet, or for their honeymoons. Charity registries will also become the norm, with more and more couples wanting to donate to a cause they feel passionate about.

 

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Introduction: Your Wedding Guest List

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Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life, and your guests are an integral part of what makes the day so special. Selecting your guests is such a fun process – when else do you get a day filled with all your favourite people!? Don’t get overwhelmed by all the people you want or all the people you feel you have to invite… we’re going to help you nail your guest list, which you can then keep track of with our handy Guest List tool. You’re welcome!

Venue

Where do you want to get married? If your event is a lavish affair in a massive venue, then go crazy on numbers. If you only want your nearest and dearest at a smaller venue, then that will give you an indication of how many people you can invite. Your budget will also play a big role in the decision making process, but tricks like opting to hold a buffet or a cocktail party instead of a sit down meal will give your budget room for manoeuvre (yay!).

Divide the guest list

Set aside a cosy evening to sit down with your loved one and write down everyone you might want to invite: family, friends and optional guests. The optional guests will probably include work colleagues, distant relatives, or the potential plus ones of family or friends. The best way to decide on the optional guests is to ask yourself: would I be offended if I wasn’t invited to their wedding? If the answer is yes, then it’s best you include them on the guest list!  Bonus: if you suddenly need to cut down on the guest list, you will know which group to start with! And if some of your friends and family can’t come, you can start inviting some of those optional extras.

Families

Consider how many guests you are allocating to each of the families. When previously the bride’s family paid for everything, they got the upper hand in deciding whom to invite. Now, some couples pay for their own weddings, or both families contribute, so think about how to have this conversation with your parents. Similarly, families may be expecting to bring their children along to your wedding and if this isn’t something you want, think about letting them know in advance, so that they can organise babysitters.

Timings

Play around with your timings. You could invite immediate family and friends to the ceremony and reception and then invite a load more for the food and dancing – or the other way round. Or you could invite more people after the wedding breakfast for cocktails and grooving. Play with the timings and numbers to suit you and your budget! Remember, that on average, 20% of your invited guests may decline, allowing you more room for manoeuvre. However, don’t hold out for this exact number to decline! In fact, it is always worth asking your caterer the cost of last minute changes, just in case someone turns up or drops out!

Don’t forget the bride and groom

Final point: Once you’ve made the perfect guest list, don’t forget to put your own names on the list, you would be surprised how many couples don’t do that and are amazed to find the caterer short of two plates!

 

Happy planning!

How To Finalise Your Wedding Guest List With Your Venue


Once you’ve finalised your Guest List – and we mean finalised, not nearly finalised – it’s time to send it to your venue and your caterers so they can prepare accordingly. We’d tend to advise against sending your Guest List before it’s fully finalised as you’ll end up sending revised version after revised version, and that risks leaving you (as well as your suppliers!) confused.

What Does A Finalised Guest List Look Like?

When your Guest List is finalised, you’ll have:

  • Final number of guests attending your ceremony
  • Final number of guests attending your reception (and/or in the evening only)
  • Final number of guests having a meal
  • All of your guests’ dietary requirements
  • Any access needs your guests might have
  • Final number of children attending (including those who will require a children’s meal)
  • Final number of babies attending (so the venue knows how many highchairs will be required)

If your catering will be handled by an external caterer, your venue won’t need information relating to meal options (but your caterer still will).

Psst! There’s an easy way to keep track of all this information – it’s in your Bridebook’s handy Guest List Tool. Check it out here!

How Can You Make Sure You Have All This Information?

Well, there’s one easy way to keep track of all this information – it’s your Bridebook’s handy Guest List Tool! You can use it to keep track of your RSVPs, +1s and any extra information like dietary requirements and access needs too.

If you haven’t sent out your invitations yet, make sure to include a clear RSVP deadline. As a rule, set your RSVP deadline at least six weeks before your big day. We also recommend that couples always check with their venue, caterer and other suppliers if they will need confirmation of numbers earlier than this and adjust accordingly.

If you’ve already sent out your invitations and your RSVP deadline is fast approaching (or has even already gone by), don’t be shy! Reach out to any guests who haven’t yet RSVP’d to confirm whether or not they’ll be attending.

With these tricks up your sleeve, you’ll have your Guest List finalised in no time – and then it’s back to the fun stuff! Did someone say cake tasting…?

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11 Wedding Guest List Arguments All Couples Have (And How To Resolve Them)

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Cutting down your wedding guest list can feel like you’re Hercules battling the Hydra – cut one person, and two more grow back in their place! But it has to be done, whether it’s because you need to save a few bucks or because they just! won’t! fit! in your venue. Remember, a bigger guest list means a bigger budget… or choosing between a champagne reception and serving your uncle’s homebrew!

The moment when you and your partner combine lists and discover the number is bigger than you ever imagined is always a dark day. To avoid disappointment for either of you – and the ruthless cull that has to follow – try using our Guest List Tool. It’ll do all the adding up, sorting and tracking, meaning you both stay on top of numbers.

Sadly, as brilliant as our Guest List Tool is, it can’t fight your battles for you. (Not yet, anyway. We wish!) So if you think your other half is being unreasonable (or maybe you just need to get something off your chest!), we’ve got some tips to help you navigate the tricky terrain of the wedding guest list.

“Your parents have a longer list… But they’re not paying as much as mine!”

Straight in at the deep end! We can almost guarantee that both sets of parents will want to invite a long list of their friends, regardless of whether or not you like them…or whether they can pay towards the extra cost. As a rule of thumb, we’d say that if they’re not immediate family or your other half hasn’t seen them in the past ten years, you have a right to question them.

“I don’t want children!” (*pause* “At the wedding, not with you!”)

Now, this is a decision that lots of couples struggle to make personally, never mind between the two of them. But if a child-free wedding is what you want, you should be reassured that you’re not a bad person for requesting this. You’re also not the only one – lots of couples do. Not only is it an easy way to cut costs and numbers (and, dare we say, stress levels), but it might even be more welcome among your guests than you’d expect! After all, it gives parents a proper night off to enjoy themselves.

“You don’t even like your work friends!”

Work friends are tricky. The key question to start with is whether they’re friends your partner happened to make through work…or if they really are work friends. Either way, it’s worth considering that not only can a blanket ban rub your fiancé up the wrong way, it might well make for an awkward office atmosphere for them post-honeymoon. Why not compromise and invite a handful of them to the drinks and dancing, if not the ceremony? That way, everyone’s happy… But you’re still not paying full whack!

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“Why are you inviting your ex?”

We’d never want to make assumptions but this can be a ticking time bomb. Now, if you’re one of those lucky few who’s genuinely on good terms with their ex (and importantly, whose partner is on good terms with them too!), more power to you. Invite away! But there are no prizes for inviting an ex out of awkwardness or some kind of weird obligation – so if you don’t have a good reason to (e.g. you’re actually still close friends), we’d give it a miss. Remember, you’ll also be risking a fair few awkward conversations: “So, how do you know the happy couple?” “Oh, erm…” Our advice? Only invite exes in exceptional circumstances.

“It doesn’t feel like our wedding anymore!”

Managing a wedding can feel like a balancing act. Yes, you want the details to be perfect and to keep everyone happy… But you still need to think about the big picture (and vice versa!). This is never more apparent than when you’re putting together your guest list. Sure, maybe those extra six guests from Mum and Dad’s timeshare won’t actually feel like such a big deal on your big day… But if it’s overwhelming you right now, you need to let your parents know.

“Shall we just bloody elope?”

Every couple will have this moment… And you know what, some of you might decide you should! But take a minute and pour another glass of wine before making any hasty decisions. We promise that nine-and-a-half times out of ten, it’ll be worth it in the end!

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“We’ll have to not invite some of your family.”

Chances are, one of you will have a significantly larger family than the other. To deal with this, try to assign rough portions of your guest list to each one of you early on so that you both know what you’re working with. You might do this equally and split the list into quarters: one for each of your families and one for each of your extras. Or you might decide to reflect on the size of your respective families: if your partner has a much bigger family than you (but is still close to them!), you could decide to give them a third for their relatives and yourself a quarter. Either way, your boundaries will be a bit more obvious – and so will overstepping them!

“We can’t not invite them – they’ve just got engaged.”

This is where you need to be firm with your decision. Lay down the law and stick to it – avoid any grey areas or sneaky exceptions. For example, many couples have a “No Ring, No Bling” policy, meaning a guest can only bring a plus one if they’re married or engaged. That said, given that many people choose not to marry nowadays, another way to keep your guest list a little leaner is by making decisions based on how long a couple have been together.

“Well, they invited us to their wedding…”

Look. Weddings aren’t tit for tat, and you should never feel obligated to invite someone to yours, just because they invited you to theirs. Planning a wedding is too hard (and too expensive!) for that. This is the bottom line: invite the people you want to spend the best day of your life with… And ideally, no one else!

“We’re treating our friends like they’re numbers!”

Maybe you are, but the reality is that this is what all couples have to do eventually. At one stage or another, you’ll start to feel like all your wedding guests have a pound sign hanging above their heads. Planning a wedding is a balancing act. Inevitably, you start to think about how one less guest means getting back their equivalent in booze, flowers or cake. But before you make any hasty decisions, think about how much that person means to you. This feeling won’t last forever – you’ll forget it as soon as they’re there at your big day. We promise, they’re worth every penny… But if you really don’t feel like they are, then it might be time to make a cut!

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“It’s still! Too! Big!”

If you feel like you’ve done everything you can and your guest list is still just too big, it’s time to get pragmatic. Sit down with your partner and split your guest list into the A List and the B List. Sound cruel? Not at all! Many couples even plan ahead and print two sets of RSVP cards with different dates: an earlier date for the A List and a later date for the B List (to be sent out after the A List have said they can’t make it). A word of warning though: try not to let the B List know they’re the B List. Cher might get away with it in ‘Clueless’… But there’s no guarantee that you will too!

Got another guest list dilemma you want solved? Check out our Instagram, TikTok and YouTube channels. We might have already answered your question – and if not, drop us a line in the comments. But we reckon once you’ve sorted out these ones, you’ll be pretty much good to go. Send those invitations out – and once your RSVPs come flooding in, keep track of them with our state-of-the-art Guest List Tool. Then it’s onto budget blow-outs…

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How To Manage Your Parents’ Expectations Whilst Planning The Wedding You Actually Want

Whether you have 2 parental figures at the wedding or 8, all of them will likely have certain expectations and some firm opinions on your big day, and will want to play a part in it. This can be one of the most challenging aspects of planning your wedding, as juggling the desires of so many people you hold so dearly can be really tough. It is natural to be strongly affected by it, especially if you are relying on their support (both emotionally and financially) to make the wedding happen.  When your W-Day is looking set to be more like D-Day, it takes some of the fun away from the process – so here are our 5 Tips for Managing Your Parents’ Expectations.

 

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Plan with your partner first before anyone else

First and foremost, remember that it’s your day, so it’s imperative that you and your partner talk about what the most important (and realistic) aspects of your wedding are from the outset, and then  keep tracking of them with our wedding planning tools. All the way through, keep why you’re doing it in mind, and why it’s all worth it. 


Involve your parents in the planning

Traditionally, the bride’s parents paid for and hosted the wedding, whilst the groom’s did a lot of prep and liaison, but times are changing and many couples would rather do it themselves. However, parents would still love to be involved somehow,  and it can be done suitably: by visibly taking their considerations on board (though not necessarily putting them into action), and taking the time to understand one another and explain the decision you come to. Try and discuss this with your partner first to predict what your parents may be keen on. 

Take accountability for your parents

When relationships get really strained, it usually helps to manage your own parent’s expectations, and let your partner deal with theirs. This allows conversations to be held with much more honesty and authenticity, rather than the veiled politeness you may feel you owe your partner’s parents. Also, remember that every relationship is different: your partner’s relationship with their parents is likely to be different to your relationships with yours, so one solution may not fit all. Be supportive of your partner throughout, and they’ll be supportive of you too. 

Prepare for telling them how you feel

Relatedly, steel yourself for the potential for some tough love if needed. You may be an adult, but in your parent’s eyes you’ll always be seen as their baby – especially in the run-up to a wedding! However, this doesn’t mean they can take over the planning, and you should prepare yourself to have to tell them that. It’s not necessarily a comfortable conversation to have, but at this point, your parents will hopefully remember you’re a fabulous full-grown human in your own right (thanks to them, mostly) and can make decisions for yourself.

Remember they have your best interest at heart

Although the key thing is that you both get your dream day, it’s good to remember that that’s all your parents are aiming for too, albeit in a considerably different way sometimes!  A nice way of publicly showing you realise how much they care is in the speeches – if you’ve had a rough time dealing with parents’ expectations in the lead up, then acknowledging how grateful you are for everything they’ve done in the reception speech can be a lovely way to draw a line under it. Alternatively, make a joke out of it if you think it will go down well! 

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Ultimately they want you to have the most amazing day of your life, but if they can have a great day too….well, that would also be lovely. Weddings are crazy, heady, emotional times for everyone, but at the root of it all, it’s all about celebrating you two and your life together – sometimes those involved just need a nudge in remembering that. Now for the fun bits – the cake tasting and the champagne drinking…

 

Happy Planning!

 

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What Your Bridesmaids Should and Shouldn’t Pay For

On your wedding day, you’ll be surrounded by your friends and family. Among them, your bridesmaids will be some of the closest allies and will have a key role to play not just in the wedding itself, but as part of the build-up as well.

But, when it comes to what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for, how do you know who picks up the bill? Is it you, your family, or your bridesmaids themselves?

Your bridesmaids will do a lot to support you already, and as tough as it is to talk about costs, it’s a must. Establish from the beginning what they’re responsible for and what you’ll be covering for them. Then hopefully that’ll mean there are no awkward arguments during the lead-up to your wedding.

But, how do you know who pays for what? What are the traditions and the unwritten rules about what you should pay for and what your bridesmaids should pay for themselves? In this post, we’re going to explore exactly that, including who should pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, who pays for the hen do, and what else you should be aware of as your big day approaches.

Who pays for the bridesmaids’ dresses?

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One of the most difficult subjects to talk about with your bridesmaids is who pays for their dresses. Traditionally, the bride and her family are the ones who pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses. However, it’s becoming increasingly more common for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses.

It’s also traditional for each of the bridesmaids to wear the same outfit, which will complement the bride’s beautiful dress. But, it’s also becoming more popular for each of the bridesmaids to wear a different dress, but one that usually sticks closely to the theme or colour scheme of the wedding.

Of course, this does depend on the costs involved. If the dress you’re asking your bridesmaids to wear comes with a high price tag, it’d be unfair of you to expect them to pay, so you’d probably want to foot the bill on that occasion.

Whatever you choose to do, or whatever your budget allows you to do, just make sure you’re open and honest with your bridesmaids at all times. If you’re asking them to pay, give them as much notice as possible, so they’ll have a long time to save. Asking bridesmaids at modern weddings to pay for their own dresses is relatively common, but it’s important to give them plenty of time to afford it. Saving for a £200 dress is a much easier task if your wedding is two years away compared to just a couple of months.

For more information, read our guide to wedding etiquette: who (traditionally) pays for what?

Who pays for the bridesmaids’ shoes?

While many brides and their families offer to pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, it’s not as common to offer to pay for their shoes. Shoes may be a part of their outfit, but there’s usually far more flexibility when it comes to footwear than the dress. So, this will often be something the bridesmaids pay for, whether it’s flats, heels or wedges.

Who pays for the bridesmaids’ accessories?

Similar to the shoes, it’s usually the responsibility of the bridesmaids themselves to pay for any accessories they might want to wear, such as any jewellery or bags.

How much do bridesmaids’ dresses cost?

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The cost of bridesmaids’ dresses can vary hugely depending on whether you choose to buy dresses from a wedding boutique or a high street retailer. Neither is the right answer – both offer wonderful dresses – it just depends on your style, taste and budget.

Specialist bridal shops that also sell bridesmaid’s dresses, such as The Bride’s Wardrobe and Cherished Wedding Boutique, have ranges that suit a variety of budgets, with prices starting from around £200.

High street retailers such as M&S offer a great selection of affordable bridesmaids’ dresses, with prices ranging between £75 and £250. There’s also the option to rent, although this isn’t quite as popular with dresses as it is with wedding suits.

What if your bridesmaids can’t afford the dress you want them to wear?

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If you’ve asked your bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses (which you’re well within your right to do) then you may face an additional challenge: what if your bridesmaids can’t afford it?

If you’re asking your bridesmaids to pay for their own dress, then you possibly already knew about their financial situation. Similarly, you hopefully gave them enough of a heads-up so that they could save money for their dress. Even then, you may face the awkward situation where they’re not able to pay for the dress.

If this happens to you, where possible we’d recommend that this is something you try to find a little more budget for, and offer to pay for your bridesmaid’s dress. It wouldn’t be fair on that particular bridesmaid to expect them to pay, especially if it means them getting into debt. The only other option would be to uninvite them from being a part of the bridal party, which will almost certainly cause tension and could damage your relationship with them forever.

It’s a tough situation, and one that’s hard to offer advice on as every situation is different. Just make sure that you let your bridesmaids know they can speak to you about any concerns they have, because you definitely don’t want anyone to feel stressed or anxious because they’re struggling to find the funds to pay for their dress.

Do your bridesmaids pay for your hen party?

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Often, your bridesmaids will cover the costs of arranging your hen party, such as travel, accommodation and activities. But, expect to pay for a few drinks for your hens along the way.

The only exception to this is if you’ve had a heavy hand in the planning process. It would be unfair to expect your hens to pay for a long weekend to Prague – especially if you were the one to suggest it. Travel can be pricey, and not all of your bridesmaids will be in a position to pay for additional costs, especially if they’re not exactly cheap to begin with.

Cheat sheet to what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for

If you’re in a rush, check out the below quick reference cheat sheet for everything you need to know about what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for:

What Your Bridesmaids Should and Shouldn’t Pay For
What you bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for: quick reference cheat sheet

Complete list of what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for

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Check out our below guide to discover what you might ask your bridesmaids to pay for. Just remember, every wedding is unique – just like your bridesmaids – so these aren’t strict rules that you should stick to.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Your bridesmaids should pay for their own shoes and accessories. However, a great gift to thank your bridesmaids for being a part of your big day would be a token piece of jewellery that they can wear on the day.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Hen party costs are also up to the bridal party – they can split this between them and still give you the best pre-wedding party of your life. The only caveat to this is if you have ambitious plans, such as a trip to Europe or something else on the pricier side.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Travel and accommodation associated with your big day are the duty of your bridesmaids to organise and pay for. However, you could help them out by booking a block of rooms at a discount price, or if your venue is far away, you could arrange for a large group of you to travel together to cut down the cost.

Your bridesmaids should pay for:

If your bridesmaid chooses to give you a wedding gift (and they may not as they’ve already spent a lot of money and effort on your wedding) the cost is up to them. It may only be something small, but it will be a lovely keepsake to mark them accompanying you on your big day.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Aside from any welcome drinks and wine/fizz with meals, unless you’re offering an open bar your bridesmaids will expect to pay for their own drinks, particularly as the evening reception begins.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

The bride is expected to pay for any floral accessories and the bouquets being held by the bridesmaids. Don’t forget about any extras, like corsages.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

If you choose to have your bridal party stay with you in your hotel suite on the eve of your wedding, that’s your responsibility and you should cover the cost of this.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

Transportation on your wedding day is also up to the bride and her family to pay for. Your bridesmaids will have enough to think about on the day, so do them a favour and arrange how they’ll get from the altar to the reception. You could save these costs by having the ceremony and reception at the same location.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

This one almost goes without saying, but your bridesmaids shouldn’t have to pay for any food on the big day. This includes any pre-ceremony food as you get ready, such as salmon and scrambled eggs and a cheeky glass of Buck’s fizz.

What about the grey areas?

As we’ve already highlighted, it’s entirely up to you and your budget to decide whether or not you offer to pay for your bridesmaids’ dresses. If you’re expecting your bridesmaids to wear a dress that’s on the pricier side, then this is something you should probably offer to pay for. One of the unofficial rules is that if you’re giving your bridesmaids certain ‘rules’ they have to stick to, then that usually means it’s something you should pick up the bill for.

Hair and makeup is another tricky one. If you’re not that fussed and want to save some pennies, ask them to do their own hair and makeup (they will look stunning anyway). However, if you specifically want a glamorous or particular look for your bridesmaids, you will have to pay for a professional. Your chosen hair and makeup artist can probably offer you a deal if they’re looking after several people in your wedding party. Read our post on the cost of wedding beauty for more information.

Alternatively, if your bridesmaids are being a little diva-ish and want to hire a professional without your requesting it, they’re probably better off picking up the cost – or you could split the bill in goodwill to keep them sweet. Remember, your wedding photos will last a lifetime, so make sure you’re happy with the final looks.

How to talk about money with your bridesmaids

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The most important thing you can do is keep money talk open and honest. Talking about money can be difficult at the best of times, but doubly so when you’re asking someone to spend some of their own hard-earned cash. As soon as you know your plans, communicate them to your bridal party so they know exactly what’s expected of them and how much they’re going to have to save.

Evening Standard columnist and wedding planning expert Hamish Shephard has the following advice: Asking someone else to spend money on your wedding can be a difficult subject to bring up. The best thing you can do is to just be honest. In the UK, the average cost of a wedding is £19,184, which can sharply rise if you have to buy dresses for three or four bridesmaids. 

If necessary, be prepared to compromise. You might be spending a lot of money on your wedding, but that doesn’t mean your bridesmaids don’t have financial concerns or commitments of their own. Before you ask them to pay for their own dresses, try to be sympathetic to their financial situation. The more open and transparent you are, and the more time you give your bridesmaids to save, the easier the conversation will be.

For more expert insights from Hamish Shephard, check out his recent feature on the Financial Times’ Money Clinic podcast, which covers the high cost of being a wedding guest, and how both guests and couples can approach the subject of money And for tips and tricks on saving some cash, read our guide to saving money on bridesmaid dresses.

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