How to Ask for Money as a Wedding Gift…Nicely!

Every newly engaged couple has their goals and dreams, something they’re saving for and working towards. Your wedding day is the perfect time to share your dreams with your family and friends. Everyone will want to spoil you and send you off on your way to your new married life with love – so it’s the perfect time to share with them what will make you both happy.

Most engaged couples now live together before they get married – so those dreams are less likely to be about having more stuff to put in the cupboards and more about getting out there and making stuff happen! If that sounds like you, you’ve probably already decided that you’d most appreciate monetary gifts. Then you and your partner can choose how, when and where to make your dreams happen! 

According to Patchwork Wedding Registry, most couples asking for cash instead of physical gifts want money to put towards their honeymoon. Also increasingly popular are cash gifts towards a deposit on a first home. And then there’s all the weird and wonderful things gift money can buy too! A work of art? A garden makeover? A vintage campervan? A year of date nights? A sailing boat? The world really is your oyster. 

What Are Your Options?

One option is to ask guests to bring along cash gifts on your big day. You could set up a money box where guests can leave money, either by putting it in their wedding congratulations card or by popping it in an envelope.

While this has the advantage of being a simple, low-fi set up, it can throw up a few issues. Security is the main worry with this way of collecting cash. Sadly, it’s not uncommon for gift money to go missing at a wedding. It can also make things trickier for your guests. They have to remember to withdraw cash or bring along cheques on the day, and any overseas guests may struggle with currency conversions. Now, on top of the usual travel stresses, they’ve got something else to worry about! Plus, it’s extra admin for you. You’ll have to sort through all the cards and envelopes, noting down how much each guest gave so that you know who to thank for what in your thank you cards later down the line.

Of course, your other option is to go digital and just ask for bank transfers from your guests. Again, while this seems like an easy option, it can lead to an unsatisfying gifting experience for your friends and family. Transfers are by definition transactional and joyless! And what your family and friends really want to know is what their gift will mean to you. How will it spent? What joy will it bring you? While you can just print your bank details on your wedding invites and leave the rest up to them, it can end up being a bit awkward. Your guests have no idea where their gifted money will end up – and without any guidance from you, it’s hard for them to know how much is appropriate or expected, leaving them anxious, embarrassed and worried about how much to give. Remember, they want to treat you to the things you really want… Not end up paying your winter gas bill!

Wait, So Is Asking For Money Just A Bit Awkward?

Well, sure – it can be! But it definitely doesn’t have to be. Just remember – you’re not really asking for money… You’re asking for the power to make your dreams come true! So rather than leaving a money box by the door or putting your bank details on your invites, we’d recommend something else. By far the simplest, easiest and nicest way of asking for money as a wedding gift is via an online cash gift registry. For us here at Bridebook, Patchwork is one of the best we’ve seen. It’s a super innovative platform which wedding guests describe as “a creative and fun way to give money that wraps it up like a gift”.

How to Set Up A Cash Gift Registry

With Patchwork, you can show guests a “patchwork” of images (a bit like a Pinterest board) that represents your ideal honeymoon, home renovation project or anything else you’ve been dreaming about! Then you can share your unique URL with your friends so that they can choose which item or experience to treat you to according to their own interests – and budget!

All gift money goes directly to you and is not held at any time. Even better, Patchwork donates a generous 50% of their platform fee to three environmental charities, so not only can you ask your guests for the things you really want (and in a way that’s stylish and fun!), but you’ll be protecting the environment too.

With no vouchers or fixed travel fund, choosing a gift registry like Patchwork means that if you do change your plans or decide to scrap the honeymoon and spend it all on a new kitchen, you’re free to do so! Also, it’s worth knowing that some wedding registries allow cash gifts but then hold your funds for you, transferring them to you immediately after your wedding. Others, like Patchwork, allow the gift money to go immediately and directly to your chosen bank account, meaning you can start saving – or spending! – as soon as guests start giving.

When your friends and family gift you money in this way, they’ll really enjoy it too. They’re also more likely to be generous (30% more generous, in fact!) when they feel connected to you and your plans. As one guest have put it, “It’s lovely to see where your money is going, much better than sticking it in an envelope.” Another described it as “a brilliant way to personalise the mundane gift of money [and] highly recommended.”

How to Make Asking for Money More Personal

When setting up a cash gift registry, tell guests what each contribution will mean to you. Inject some personality and humour – talk about what your plans are and what their gift will mean to you both. Describe how it will make you both feel too. We all know that it’s much more fun to give gifts that are truly wanted and appreciated. A recent wedding guest said that using Patchwork felt like “putting money towards something tangible and that’s really wanted, rather than just giving cash!”


Think about it like this: your family aren’t just giving you £100 for your honeymoon… They’re giving you a romantic dinner for two on the beach with a sunset, rolling waves and the smell of frangipani trees and coconut oil. They’re not just giving you £50 towards a new sofa… They’re giving you time together for cosy movie nights, lazy Sunday morning snuggles and mornings spent with friends visiting for catch-ups.

Explaining Cash Gifts to Family and Friends

There’s still a bit of an idea around that asking for money needs to be apologised for – that it is, in itself, an embarrassing request. There’s an easy solution to that! If you have cash contributions “wrapped up” like a gift and you’re open about how much it means to you, there’s no reason to feel shy or awkward. In fact, you and your partner should be proud of your plans together – so let everyone know!

Of course, you can begin by saying that you don’t expect gifts and you already have all the “stuff” you need… But the fact is, people want to treat you – so you might as well let them enjoy the experience! Try something like this to introduce the idea of a honeymoon fund:

We’ve been asked what we’d like for a gift and our answer is simple: you, at our wedding, having a great time! We’re incredibly thankful that we already have everything we need. But if you insist, what we’d love is for you to help us create some new experiences to treasure together.

Or how about this, from a couple who asked for money to put towards a year of dates:

New plates and saucepans won’t help keep a marriage alive, but the gift of time will. We hope you enjoy looking through some of our ideas for special date nights together. All contributions large or small will mean so much to us – and we’ll cheers you when enjoying our night out!

And Finally…

Don’t forget to include a wide range of price points when setting up your cash gift registry. You’ll make guests feel more comfortable if you present them with an inclusive (but not overwhelming!) choice. For one thing, they’ll also be grateful to not have to make all the decisions. If £10 for sunset beers on a Mexican beach or £5 for a couple of ice creams in Italy would make you happy, tell them! When you give your guests really meaningful ways of gifting cash, they’ll appreciate it as much as you do. Plus, even those on smaller budgets can feel like their contribution is making a real difference to your happiness – and that’s a gift from you to them!

This article was created in partnership with Patchwork Wedding Registry.

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24 Most Popular Wedding Flowers and their Meanings

Choosing wedding flowers can be tricky. If you are struggling to choose your flowers, it may be worth considering what the blooms mean.

To help you decide, we’ve picked out some popular wedding flowers and explained their meaning.

Rose

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The rose is a traditional wedding flower, so it couldn’t be left off this list!

Roses symbolise love, yet depending on their colour, other meanings come in too. Red roses symbolise love and desire, whereas white roses are purity and innocence.

Calla Lily

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Calla lilies came from Africa and are usually in season for spring or summer weddings.

Calla lilies have a mild fragrance and represent beauty. Bouquets made of only calla lilies are stunning, but they can be a sturdy support for other bouquets too.

Tulip

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Tulips are in season in spring, and so find their way into bouquets and venue décor up and down the country.

Like roses, tulips come in bold and beautiful colours, each with a different meaning. Red tulips symbolise a declaration of love that is perfect for your altar décor, and yellow mean sunshine.

Hydrangea

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Hydrangeas have large clusters of delicate petals and are a great way to add bulk to a bouquet.

The hydrangea can express gratitude, and so is ideal for bridesmaid bouquets.

Sweet Peas

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The sweet pea has a homey vibe, thanks to its rich scent and a range of tones to match with any wedding colour scheme.

This flower is a firm favourite and will be right at home in the bouquet of a bride planning a country wedding.

Peony

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Legend has it that Paeon, the Greek physician of the Gods, used a peony root to heal Pluto. Jealousy led to an attempt on Paeon’s life, and to save him, Pluto transformed him into a peony. This legend has led to the peony having a meaning of compassion.

Carnation

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Carnations fell out of favour, but they are making a comeback again in the bouquets of brides.

The humble carnation symbolises both love and pride. But avoid striped carnations as they can mean refusal!

Chrysanthemum

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Chrysanthemums represent optimism, joy, and a long life. These very meanings are what makes it a great addition to a bridal bouquet!

An added benefit of the chrysanthemum is that they are affordable and in great supply all year round.

Anemone

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The anemone is one of those flowers that can fit into a range of colour schemes. These flowers come in a range of shades, including purples, pinks, reds, and ivory.

Anemone comes from the Greek word for “windflower” and symbolises anticipation.

Daffodil

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Daffodils are vibrant and tell a tale of the coming of spring.

Beyond this, daffodils symbolise chivalry. A single daffodil means unrequited love, making it a great buttonhole for the groom.

Baby’s Breath

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The cloud-like petals of baby’s breath mean this bloom is a popular filler for bouquets and decor. The tiny white flowers can be used on their own in delicate flower crowns for your flower girls.

Baby’s breath symbolises innocence, and they are inexpensive all year round.

Delphinium

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Delphinium comes from the Greek word “delphis”, translating as dolphin. If you pluck a single flower from the tallest part of the plant, it looks like a dolphin leaping out.

These blooms have a subtle scent, and the purple colour looks at home in summer centrepieces.

Heather

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Heather flowers symbolise good luck and protection. Queen Victoria popularised the heather as meaning good luck in England. As a result, it is common to include a sprig of white heather in a bride’s bouquet for luck.

Anthurium

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Anthuriums symbolise hospitality, abundance, and happiness, which are perfect for your wedding day! Their delicate heart shape will fit right in with your bouquet.

These flowers come in vibrant shades, or, for a more subtle approach, you can opt for a delicate green bloom.

Cornflower

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Cornflowers symbolise prosperity and friendship. Cornflowers usually have a gorgeous blue hue, but they are also available in white or pink.

The subtle tones make them a great addition to bridal or bridesmaid bouquets.

Dahlia

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Dahlias are a perfect wedding flower. These blooms mean commitment and an ever-lasting bond, and their bold bloom is elegant too.

When they are in season, you cannot go wrong with adding dahlias to your bouquet.

Magnolia

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In Chinese culture, the magnolia tree symbolises purity and nobility. The blooms have been used for healing and are thought to have been around for 20 million years!

Today, the flower symbolises perseverance, dignity, and a love of nature.

Sunflower

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Sunflowers are a big, bold, and vibrant choice often used as a focal flower in a summer bouquet. The sunflower represents purity, adoration, and dedicated love.

The sunflower looks even better when paired with the delicate blooms of baby’s breath or daisies.

Freesia

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The delicate freesia represents innocence and thoughtfulness.

The freesia can add a dash of colour to a bouquet, both for brides and bridesmaids. The delicate blooms are available in yellow, ivory, purple, and a stunning burnt orange.

Daisy

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Daisies mean innocence and purity. We all remember playing outside when we were young and making daisy chains. The happy memories make them a great addition to a bouquet!

Gerbera

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The gerbera is a member of the daisy family, but it tends to be much bolder and brighter than its more delicate cousin.

The gerbera has rows of overlapping petals and are often found in bold and beautiful colours. Their colours and a name that means cheerfulness make this is a popular bouquet choice.

Lilac

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If your partner is your childhood sweetheart, lilac could be a great to your bridal bouquet. The delicate blooms of lilac come in purple and white, and they symbolise first love.

Local lilacs can be found in spring, but brides can usually get access to imported lilacs all year round.

Orchid

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The exotic beauty of the orchid makes it an in-demand addition to a bouquet. But, unless you are careful with your seasons, it can end up being quite expensive.

The orchid represents thoughtfulness and charm, adding a dramatic touch to your bouquet.

Zinnia

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Gardeners love the zinnia because it attracts butterflies. For couples, the gorgeous colours, and meaning of lasting affection is enough to seal the deal.

Opt for a bold touch by adding a bright orange steam to a centrepiece or add a statement bloom to a bouquet.

Happy planning!

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15 Fun Ideas To Spice Up Your Bridal Shower Plans

How you can make your bridal shower as memorable and enjoyable as the big day itself.

Planning a wedding is tricky business, but fortunately, Bridebook has you covered there!

However, with all of the focus on the big day, it can be easy to forget about the bridal shower. Deciding on activities can sometimes seem a little overwhelming. But fear not! We have some dazzling ideas that will suit your bridal shower, whatever the style of event you are planning.

Let’s dive in and take a closer look at some of the top bridal shower games and ideas.

Take It Outside

Outdoor bridal shower

With recent world events, safety is on everyone’s mind. So why not take your bridal shower outside and enjoy some fresh air? This could be as simple as erecting a small gazebo outside and decorating it to match your theme. Think fairy lights, outside games and dancing to get everyone in the party spirit – along with some nibbles and your favourite tipple of course!

Let’s get quizzical

Grab your besties and get quizzical! Disney nerd? Happy couple trivia? The options are endless with this bridal shower game and is one for guaranteed laughs. Simply appoint your quiz master beforehand, and watch out for everyone’s competitive streak. Our tip? Ask your guests to compile a few questions each for some extra fun. Make sure to stock up on prizes for the lucky winners, oh, and don’t forget a boobie prize!

Photo booth props

Everyone loves a photo shoot. Grab some props, a camera, your gal pals and snap the night away! You could theme your outfit choices for some great group shots or even add in some fun photo challenges, such as recreating famous portraits (we’ve tried this one and trust us, it can get wild!).

Provide old school disposable cameras or a Polaroid for guests to get snap happy with. A wonderful bonus of this type of bridal shower is the vast array of picture memories you’ll have to look back on after the event.

Create a date jar

Gather your guests and give them the chance to come up with their very own date ideas for your first year of marriage. A jar of any sort, paper and pens is all that’s needed to start this fun idea. After the wedding, you can enjoy some entertaining (and maybe a few risqué) date nights courtesy of your best pals.

Over or under game

A classic bridal shower game! Find out how well the guests know the Bride in the lead up to the wedding. Use statements like, ‘The couple met 5 years ago’ and decide if the correct answer is higher or lower. You might be surprised by some of the answers.

DIY cocktail bar

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Of course you could have a cocktail making session in your local bar, but why not bring the fun back to yours? Get guests talking by devising all sorts of wild and wacky concoctions all in the name of you! Incorporate some friendly competition with games, such as a blind tasting contest or ‘bride’s favourite cocktail’.

If you want to encourage some more sensible activities, you could work together to come up with a great tasting signature cocktail to be served on the wedding day itself. Don’t drink alcohol? Not a problem! Mocktails can be just as fun for the whole squad.

Whose memory game

This is a fun one and a fabulous icebreaker to use at the beginning of any bridal shower, particularly if you have guests coming that may not know each other. Get everyone to write down a memory they have of the Bride. After picking them from a jar, the bride reads them out to the group and guests can take turns guessing whose memory it is. Get ready for some funny and cringe worthy stories from the past!

Make a balloon arch

If you want a modern day team building experience, invite over the girls and get ready for a night of balloon arch making. You would be surprised how easy and satisfying it is to create some spectacular creations from balloons in your own home that can then be used as a superb photo backdrop.

For added bridal shower fun once the Prosecco starts to flow, you could try your hand a bit of balloon modelling too. Balloon dog anyone?!

Tea party theme

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Add some sophistication to your bridal shower by taking on a delightful tea party theme. Think tea and cake, finger sandwiches and scones served alongside beautiful china and rustic country style bunting.

Make flower crowns

A beautifully creative way to spend your bridal shower is by making your own flower crowns. Bring in an expert to coach you through the how tos or invest in some real or artificial flowers and wire and get crafting. We have even seen brides who are planning a festival style wedding create their own headpieces to wear for the special day itself.

Take a class

Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn to sew, or get funky by learning a new dance routine. You could even spend your shower learning the art of life drawing (gulp!) whatever you decide on, taking a class surrounded by your friends is always a sure fire hit.

He said she said

Another bridal shower classic! Find out who said ‘I love you’ first or who is the better driver by getting your party to guess which half of the couple it is. Get the maid of honour to come up with the questions so the bride has to answer along with the guests too.

Karaoke queens

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Sing the night away next to your nearest and dearest with a spot of karaoke. This bridal shower idea is the ultimate girls’ night and is guaranteed to have everyone singing along by the end of the night.

DIY origami decorations

Get together and create some beautiful decorations to be used on your special day. You could use techniques like origami, calligraphy or needlework to create some super special decorations, favours and place cards. Not only will you save time and money by creating your own, your wedding day will be filled with even more reminders of the lead up to your wedding.

Happy planning!

While it’s easy to see how planning a bridal shower can be a little overwhelming at the start of your planning journey, these ideas make it easy to see how fun, budget friendly and inclusive your bridal shower can be with a little forward planning.

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How can I plan my wedding during lockdown? 8 things you can do to ensure you have the smoothest wedding planning experience.

Getting engaged is one of the most exciting moments of your life, tears of joy won’t stop streaming, and you can’t stop gazing at your newly bejeweled finger. But once this initial excitement begins to wear off, a sudden rush of “what now!?” begins to kick in. Don’t worry – Bridebook are here to help. 

Wedding planning can be daunting even at the best of times, and the current government restrictions to curb the spread of Coronavirus may have you feeling you can’t get started with your planning. At Bridebook, we’d like to help you navigate this stressful time by discussing 8 things that you CAN do right now to ensure the smoothest wedding planning experience.

1. Designate a wedding planning day

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It is time to get organised! Making decisions early is the best way to ensure the smoothest wedding planning process. Dedicating one day a week can be the perfect way to ensure that tasks get ticked off and other priorities (like Netflixin’ your favourite show!) do not get in the way.

Knowing where to begin with planning your big day can be overwhelming. Our personalised Wedding Planning Checklist is here to help guide you through the entire planning process. Based on your wedding date, your bespoke Checklist will let you know when to complete each task including pricing guides and suggestions along the way.

2. Reflection

It’s important to sit down with your partner and think about what you both want from your wedding. Will it be a small and intimate occasion or an extravagant party with hundreds of guests? Make sure you reflect and think hard about what is most important to the both of you, as a couple. 

Start researching and looking for inspiration. You can then add any picture or ideas, from perfect playlists, to funny speech ideas to your Bridebook Scrapbook.

3. Budget

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Once you have reflected on the kind of wedding you both want, you need to decide how much you are willing and able to spend. Let Bridebook do the hard work for you! With data from over 500,000 weddings, our super powerful Wedding Budget Tool helps you keep track right from the beginning. Simply enter your total budget and we will tell you how much you should spend on every expense from start to finish. 

4. Guest List

Making decisions on your guest list can be a complicated process, from deciding who to invite, to keeping note of guest information along the way.

Bridebook’s Wedding Guest List Tool allows you to easily keep track of your invites, RSVPs and total attending guests. Your Guest List is split into two – one for you and one for your partner – but you can also create as many custom lists as you like! For example, ‘work friends’ or ‘childhood friends’. Your Guest List is ready to help you track all the nitty gritty details: you can track plus ones, dietary requirements, addresses and more.

5. Booking Your Venue

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Finding the perfect wedding venue is one of the most important tasks on your checklist, and one which may seem near impossible in the midst of a global pandemic. However, thanks to the power of technology and innovative wedding venue teams, this is completely possible!

Bridebook has thousands of exceptional wedding venues with many of them offering virtual tours and show rounds. Get comfortable, open a bottle of wine and explore the delights of stunning venues across the country from your very own living room. When you enquire with venues, make sure to ask if they can offer a virtual show round – some are even using Facetime! We’d also advise you to keep an eye out for venues listing 360 tours. 

6. Booking Suppliers

Again, this is something super fun which you can enjoy within the comfort of your own home. Keep reaching out to suppliers, as many are offering virtual services such as delivering tasting samples or pre-recorded videos – whilst unconventional, this can absolutely become a fun night-in with your partner.

Invite your friends and family to a Zoom call where you watch a number of wedding bands until you find your perfect match. How about ordering in some sample cake boxes for taste testing with your partner? Or even get creative and create your ideal wedding make-up, by following different tutorials available online.

7. The Little Things

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Make the most of these dark cold months by getting on top of all the small tasks which will make your wedding wonderful. There are so many little things that you will need for your big day and now is the time to start a list. This might be thinking about gifts for your bridesmaids and page boys or wedding favours for guests. You could even get into some DIY and make some crafts yourself such as name cards, signs or photo boards for the day itself.

8. Enjoy your Engagement!

Weddings are incredibly special. It is important to enjoy this experience, together. Take some well deserved time off before you are rushed back to the speed of ‘normality’. Go for long walks, cook some delicious food, read a few books and most of all embrace having the love of your life by your side!

Looking for some more wedding planning tips? Check out our other wedding articles below.

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Law Commission: changes to Wedding Law

Friday 6th November 2020

The Law Commission held a public Q&A session to discuss their Consultation paper. Below is a summary of the main highlights and the Q&A.

  • Provide your thoughts and feedback on the Law Commission’s proposal here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/7R3TH65

Main highlights of the Law Commissions proposal

  • The Law Commission’s proposal recommends that weddings will be able to take place anywhere with a revised focus on dignity & existing health and safety legislation. 
  • Rather than noting where the weddings take place. The new law would notify the officiant instead. In the case of registration officers, it may not be possible for a registrar to be identified and in this case, the location would then be listed. Once a schedule is listed, it will need to be signed and returned. Scheduled system to be introduced. 
  • There will be 5 categories of officiants including independent officiants (celebrants) 
  • Officiants will have to go through training in order for them to perform the legal requirements of marriage. Training has not yet been defined fully. 

Questions asked with a summary of the Law Commission’s answers

Q: Registration Services have their own rooms, for example in the Town Halls where they’re based, to be able to conduct marriages in. Is it proposed that registrars still have exclusivity over their own venues? This isn’t clear in the consultation.

  • Yes they would. Those who own buildings can still control who has access to those buildings. Local authorities could say that only their registrars can hold weddings in town halls. 

Q: I don’t have an issue with the concept but I think it is ill-timed. The industry needs to recover after COVID and does not need any more to deal with

  • We understand this. Our review is a general review. It was set up before COVID happened. And it is looking at wedding law and how weddings will happen in the future. We believe there is still a need to reform for the future. 
  • What we have been able to do is look at what has happened during covid. 
  • We know looking at other jurisdictions – outdoor weddings: outdoor weddings are less risky – future law much more resilient for future pandemics.
  • Also, we have been thinking about how emergency powers could help to support weddings to take place. E.g. enabling formalities – virtual weddings. We understand the impact that covid has had – we believe that this proposal will 

Q: The wedding industry has been decimated by Covid-19, how on earth will existing wedding venues have the opportunity to recover if the new proposal will allow more venues to host weddings. The venues market is already overcrowded.

  • To remove the residency requirement – this will make it possible for couples coming from overseas to get married.
  • New revisions will make Eng & Wales more attractive – would lessen people going abroad – 73000 individuals go oversea to get married 
  • The number of officiants – they had to turn business away because of the difficulty for registrars to book. Only one officiant would be needed.
  • Greater flexibility 
  • Existing venues have an existing business – service they offer – not all of the weddings that take place – smaller/family weddings 
  • Heard from existing venue owners – venues would be able to offer a wedding outside their buildings

Q: You’ve said by end 2021 that’s unfair

  • We will publish recommendations to the government in mid-2021. The legislation would have to go through parliament – changes wouldn’t be in place by end of next year. 

Q: If a venue for marriage / civil partnership isn’t stated on the schedule, how will registration services know which marriages / civil partnerships are taking place in their district? Without knowing this, it’s difficult to ensure all are registered.

  • Rather than noting where the weddings take place. They would notify the officiant instead.
  • Registration officers may not be able to be identified – location would then be listed. 
  • Once a schedule is listed, it will need to be signed and returned. Scheduled system to be introduced. Rather than listing the venues, it would be focused on the officiant. 

Q: Has the proposal concerned the risks hosting weddings in venues/spaces that aren’t managed professionally eg wedding suppliers will not be vetted correctly, risk of poor service, food poisoning etc.

  • Discussed Venues in chapter 7 of the consultation paper. The marriage act – only governs where weddings take place. Already wedding law does not vet reception venues. Planning law, licence & health and safety laws – people providing services are governed under that law.
  • Safety & dignity would be the focus. 
  • Officiant would be trained to address.

Q: You would not suddenly effectively deregulate the car industry without properly investigating the impact on the industry

  • We will do an impact assessment – chapter 13 and respond.

Q: I am in favour of most of the proposals. My query is how celebrants will be properly regulated – will some form of training and regulation fall on registrar services? What sort fo checks and balances are suggested?

  • Regulations will be focused on officiants – regulation will need to be met in order to officiate.
  • Chapter 5 – all officiants would have the same legal requirements – express consent and requirements are met and signed. They would have a responsibility for safety. 
  • 5 categories of officiants – independent officiants – independent celebrants: these individuals would be able to conduct ceremonies – more detailed requirements to show that they are fit and proper – completed training or that they have been approved. 

Q: Have you noted this year how when wedding receptions are (often illegally) held in private houses/gardens, they tend to be more unsafe and unregulated, and that enabling people to get married at home could have similar health/safety concerns in the future?

  • Other underlying health and safety regulations all continue to apply. 
  • It is not illegal to hold a wedding reception – what we anticipate is that the couple that owns the house – put concerns in the consultation response

Q: Would it still be a requirement to hold the ceremony under a cover/structure in order to keep the registers dry, or would anybody be able to get married literally anywhere?! This could be disastrous for already struggling venues if people are to be allowed to literally marry anywhere!

  • A wedding could take place at any place which is agreed between couples & officiant. Has to be safe. 
  • If you are organising a wedding, you would need to take into account the weather conditions
  • Impact on existing venues, some of the venue owners we have spoken to are keen to use their outdoor space – marketing this. 
  • That approach is not novel – it already happens in Scotland already. 
  • The demand by couples – structures outdoors that are then licenced as approved premises
  • Issues – there are different applications across England and Wales and these decisions are made by local authorities. There are a lot of differences across local authorities – this is an issue that needs to be addressed in reformed law. 

Q: Q from Ribble Valley Wedding Partnership Alcohol – clearly this is not currently permitted at or around the ceremony, what are your views regarding your proposals and if relaxed how will the dignity of the event be ensured. There doesn’t seem to be any mention in the consultation

  • We do in chapter 7 – currently, the only regulations relate to approved premises. Nothing currently to alcohol/decency. 
  • Nothing to stop people before the wedding or in another part. Some local authorities dictate you can’t serve weddings before. 
  • We focus on dignity and officiant to manage. Couples & officiant cannot be intoxicated. 

Q: If a venue had a nominated responsible person (currentl required by the licence), could they also supply a celebrant to run a ceremony? Two separate people. Also could venues have control over who could run a ceremony – and have the freedom to decline particular celebrants or individuals?

  • Our schemes propose this – independent officiants – propose that there will be a rule

Q: Why has a report to reform the wedding law been commissioned?

  • We have a weddings law from 1836 that hasn’t been reviewed properly since. 
  • The wedding law isn’t working for a lot of couples and proposes a number of restrictions
  • Out of date based on other countries
  • Asked to do scoping work by the government – immediate catalyst – focused on humanist 
  • Current law doesn’t work for religious groups – recognised by religion but not by law. 

Q: This seems to be an academic approach without any regard for the effects on a £10bn industry

  • Chapter in about impact – keen to collect thoughts. We will publish an impact piece. 
  • We do try to take into account the opinions of those affected

Q: from Ribble Valley Wedding Partnership Could the new ‘Officiant’ be an employee of a venue, this would make everything easier

  • Conflict rules have suggested that we will not permit that 

Q; what about the dignity and the legal seriousness of marriage. Naked Celebrant? People can be very strange so are we condoning that to an unlimited degree?

  • Officiant would be in control of this – proposal focuses on dignity. 
  • Current law only relates to the dignity of approved premises 

Q: What will the celebrant training look like?

  • We don’t prescribe this – we do talk about it in general terms – it would focus on the legal requirements – duties, consent & schedule signed. 
  • The guidance given focused on forced marriage. We don’t prescribe but do ask you to share your thoughts on this. 

Q: So basically all those unlucky couples who have had to postpone or cancel their weddings due to covid will now be able to sack off their original venue and potentially their associated suppliers and opt for a home-based wedding which will put so many venues and businesses out of work at the worst possible time! Why is this not now being stalled in order to give our industry a fighting chance?

  • We are not looking at those who supply services. 
  • Nor is out consultation paper looking at existing couple contracts. 
  • Looking at what wedding law will look like in the future. 
  • Proposals are not going to provide a solution for changes to wedding plans this year 

Q:Q from Ribble Valley Wedding Partnership The term ’guidance’ to officiants feels a little weak and open to interpretation, which is a concern, especially when it relates to health and safety, and accessibility. Is there not an argument for something more structured, maybe even qualified?

  • We welcome your views in the consultation response. The training that they would have to undertake will have to reflect that. If there are particular thoughts we would like to receive 

Q: Is there any merit in proposing a “certification” standard or exam that all officiants should achieve, regardless of how they are appointed, to ensure consistency across celebrants?

  • The difficulty is that this already exists and it might not be prop0ortionate to influence or affect this if is it is working. 
  • E.g. religious training exists. There would be concerns if priests have to take new training.

Q: I asked earlier about keeping the register dry – not sure you understood the question… I am asking whether if a couple choose to get married on a beach or a hilltop for example, do they have to be under a structure still (not a building, just a structure)

  • No, they would not. They would not need to be near a building. 
  • Schedule system – authorised to go ahead. The registrars wouldn’t need to bring the registrar book to the wedding. 
  • There will be one simple form for the record of marriages. 

Q: Much of the decision re the setting safety seems to be suggested will now rest with the celebrant, but you’ve said anybody can be a celebrant. They will not be qualified to make that decision

  • There will be clear processes around officiants and the training that they will have. 
  • We are not envisaging that officiants will be experts on health & safety or building experts. Officiants would look at other existing legal requirements.

Q: How would a venue check whether a celebrant was qualified and who is responsible if there is an incident? would there be a governing body for celebrants to call them to account?

  • All nominated officiants & independent officiants would be on a central database. There will be a means of checking. 
  • Governing body – the general registry body with oversight 
  • Nominated – by religious groups / non-religious belief – nominated 

Q: A lot of room for profiteering re independent celebrants being paid to perform a legal marriage – trafficking/forced marriage

  • All marriages would need to be preceded by preliminaries. 
  • Criminal activities – laws in place to support this. 

Q: Giving a couple a meaningful ceremony in a place and form that has significance for them, led by someone who understands them and uses the words that they would like is a wonderful and beautiful aspiration. Has any thought been given to explicitly ruling out certain places, however – for example abattoirs, sewage works and so on? That may seem extreme, and certainly, those places may be special to some but there should be some exceptions?

  • Interested in consulting these views. 

Q: We have spent a fortune ensuring disabled access and H&S – is that need out the window now if people can get married on top of a tree?

  • We do look at accessibility – existing rules on health & safety still apply independently of weddings law. 

Q: I’d be interested in the timescale you expect for any changes to be implemented.

  • Publish in the second half of next years – we will be providing recommendations not draft legislation. 
  • The government then to decide to accept/prepare legislation
  • The expectation that the government will give an initial response in the first 6 months and a full response within a year.

Q: is there any way that existing venues which are already licensed could automatically be ‘approved’ as a future venue, thereby making a pre-visit / inspection by an officiant unnecessary = saving cost

  • Good point. We do suggest that local authorities can keep their own list of venues that host weddings. This would prevent the need for officiants to go. 
  • That is something that we are keen on considering. 

Q: Are you prepared for say, 100,000 new celebrants and keeping a check on all of them?

  • I suspect that the number of celebrants will depend on demand. 
  • I’m not sure there would be 100,00 and as we’ve highlighted, these are questions for the government to decide. 

Q: What about giving notice? What would the rules be and who do they go and see?

  • Would be the same as they are now. With Anglican weddings – give notice to the registrar. 

Q: To not consider the ancillary services of weddings demonstrates your lack of understanding of how weddings operate and are delivered.

  • We are looking at Weddings Law – looking at the weddings itself. 

Q: would the general registrar office know whether they later got a criminal record for instance?

  • There would be an ability to withdraw their officiant authorisation withdrawn 
  • Disclosure of disclosing criminal records. These rules will continue to apply. 

Please put in your consultation responses to us! 


Additional comment
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  • “We manage outdoor venues and this is a huge growth industry. We’ve also been hugely affected by Covid-19. Couples hold an outdoor blessing and then a reception in a marquee of tipi. Our couples would love it if their outdoor ceremony, could also be the legal ceremony. I think existing venues with licences should be confident that couples would still choose their venue, for service, location, catering etc rather than trying to hold onto their competitive advantage and limiting choice for couples. Venues with licences do not comprise the full wedding industry.”
  • Is there any evidence at all that the demand for traditional (country house, hotel, church) weddings will decline? These types of weddings are hugely popular – people can already have a celebrant wedding in their back garden if they want to! people seem worried that the industry will collapse which is unfounded – there will be a huge surplus of couples in the coming years who haven’t been able to marry. it may be worth showing the evidence that ‘traditional’ venues will be just as needed – if not more now that they can use their gardens/outdoor spaces?!
  • I do not support your proposal to allow weddings to be hosted virtually anywhere. This idea is very ill-thought-out and will result in the closure of many dedicated wedding venues, as the market will become saturated with the number of venues.
  • Scotland has now restrictions for weddings but we do see that weddings are still taking place
  • One thing that I do agree with is that there should only be one registrar in attendance as this would vastly improve availability and costs

Tuesday 3rd November 2020

On Tuesday, I was asked to represent our industry and the Bridebook community in the latest Law Commission consultation. A small group of industry professionals met on Zoom to discuss the provisional proposals to Wedding Law Reform. Here’s everything you need to know ahead of Friday’s public Law Commission Q&A event on weddings law reform.

The scenario

  • The Law Commission proposed that if the new law is passed, anybody will be able to apply to become an officiant.
  • Anyone looking to become an officiant will need to go through thorough training and will need to be approved by Registrars.
  • There will be a published list of official registrars and when couples give notice, they will have to list who the officiant will be.
  • Couples will be able to get married in any safe and dignified location agreed by the officiant.

As I see it, the benefits to wedding venues

  • With plentiful officiants, couples will be able to book dates and times of their marriages instantly with their venues.
  • This will speed up the venue booking process
  • There will be no more fees or red tape to be an approved premise
  • Multi-faith ceremonies can occur at your venue 

The risks to wedding venues

  • There will be increased competition in venue market place. But, we must remember that couples who have religious ceremonies are already free to choose any venue for their reception. Couples already prefer and choose approved premises already, so I believe this is a low risk.

Benefits to couples

  • Increased choice on where they get married
  • Increased ease of securing a registrar
  • More personalised ceremony 
  • Lower cost, as wider choice of officiants
  • Hugely beneficial to many faiths and religious weddings which are rather excluded by current law.

Risks to couples

  • Increased costs as officiants become a standalone professional supplier with increased demand during seasonality.
  • Officiants will require significant formal training to become an officiant, so it isn’t as easy as just asking your friend to host your ceremony.

I predict

  • Most likely this will cause an increase in the cost of weddings. Weddings will become even more personal or unique, and even a small registry office wedding will be replaced with become something much more personal, and likely more expensive. Eg Marrying on a boat or on the beach etc. Large weddings likely unaffected except for outdoor moments.  
  • Conflict that officiants choose where is safe. Currently this is the responsibility of the approved venue, hence being approved. If the officiant says they are happy to host a wedding up a mountain, are they liable for the safety of all the guests?
  • Likely damaging impact to religious premises, where marriages are a vital revenue stream eg small village churches, and due to the convenience of ceremony and reception being in one location, many of these will lose out. 
  • The industry will become even more creative as social media imagery of ceremonies occurring on boats, trains, outdoors, mountains, inspires couples to hyper-personalise even further, which often comes with added expense. 

Law Commission Agenda:

  • We have invited a range of organisations to discuss our provisional proposals, particularly as they relate to wedding venues and other vendors. The purpose of the roundtable is to facilitate an open discussion among attendees about our provisional proposals for reform.

The proposed requirements governing the ceremony

  • Couples will have to give notice to the registration service before getting married. 
  • We provisionally propose that all wedding ceremonies must be attended by an officiant. 
    • Registration officers will officiate at civil weddings;
    • Anglican clergy will officiate at Anglican weddings;
    • Officiants nominated by religious organisation will officiate at all other religious weddings;
    • If authorised to conduct legal weddings, officiants nominated by non-religious belief organisations will officiate at non-religious belief weddings; and
    • If authorised to conduct legal weddings, independent officiants will also be able to officiate at civil weddings.
  • Every officiant will have duties to ensure the requirements of the ceremony are complied with, and to uphold the dignity and solemnity of marriage. 
  • We propose that couples will be able to get married in any safe and dignified location agreed by the officiant. There will be no requirement for venues to be pre-approved by the state. Both civil and religious weddings will be permitted to take place in any type of location (but religious groups will be able to impose their own requirements about where their officiants will agree to officiate at weddings). 
  • Couples will not have to say prescribed words during the ceremony, but will have to express their consent in the presence of the officiant, each other, and two witnesses. Religious content (such as religious readings, hymns or religious imagery) will be permitted at civil wedding ceremonies. Weddings will not have to take place with open doors.
  • At the end of the ceremony, the couple, officiant and witnesses will be required to sign the schedule.

Questions

Q. Is it your experience that couples want to have their wedding ceremonies in non-approved areas of approved premises (such as outdoors)? Or in venues and locations that are not approved (eg due to cost) or that cannot be approved (eg because they are outdoors or on moving vehicles, including on water)? 

Q. Is it your experience that some couples having religious weddings want to be able to marry in secular or commercial venues?

Q. Will venues benefit from being able to offer these options to couples? Will any types of venue benefit in particular? Will any types of venue not benefit?

Q. Will venues benefit from not having to pay approval fees? From not having to meet the requirements for approval (and if so, which ones)? 

Q. Are there reasons why the location of wedding ceremonies needs particular regulation, as compared to other types of events or gatherings? 

Q. How do you think the officiant agreeing to officiate at a wedding in a given location, considering safety and dignity, would work in practice? How does it work in practice currently in relation to weddings that are not legally recognised taking place in locations that are not necessarily approved premises?

Q. Would an optional system for venues to be pre-approved be useful, or efficient?

Friday 1st November 2019

Last week I asked venues owners and managers across the UK to share their views on the Law Commission’s proposal on Wedding Law reform. Hundreds of you spoke up and as a result, Beth Wright and I were able to share representative opinions at the pre-consultation meeting on Monday.

Here’s what YOU had to say, and everything you need to know about Monday night’s meeting…

Your opinions on the proposed Wedding Law changes.

Law Commission: changes to Wedding Law

This report, along with other Bridebook couple and industry insights have been shared with the Law Commission for their use during this project.

See an Executive Summary below and the full UK Wedding Industry Law Review report here.

Wedding Venue Business Impacts

  • UK wedding venues employ 50+ employees and work with 20+ local businesses on average.
  • Almost two-thirds of venues could not stay in business without weddings.
  • Half of the responding venues have not experienced any growth in the last 3 years due to economy, competition and couple preferences.

Venues’ Current Experience with Ceremonies

  • Ceremony space: The majority of venues host weddings ceremonies as well as receptions, and two thirds do not have an outdoor approved premise. Many express frustration related to not being able to host weddings outdoors, especially when planning permission prevents them from erecting an approved structure.
  • Regulations: While a third feel costs are too high and regulations too much, most are satisfied with current costs and regulations. They do mention that some regulations feel antiquated (e.g. room licenses) and sometimes restrictions limit business growth.
  • Registrar experience: While most report a good experience with registrars, many venues mention difficulty for couples to book registrar and overly strict registrar rules which can limit business growth.
  • Fees: Fees are inconsistent across venue and council and can range from +£100 to over £1,000.

Venue Preferences for Future

  • Location: Venues feel that approved premises should still be regulated, but that rules should be relaxed with regard to outdoor space and different room options at approved premises.
  • Celebrant: Venues feel that approved celebrants should be able to administer weddings, but that these celebrants should be regulated (e.g. not friends of the couple).

Other Ceremony Requirements:
Venues are happy with regulations across many aspects of civil wedding ceremonies, and find that the current set of regulations are suitable for the formality and sanctity of marriage. However they do feel that some ceremony requirements could be relaxed.

What happened at the pre-consultation meeting on the Government Reform to Wedding Law.

What the Law Commission is doing:
The Law Commission is focused solely on reviewing the law governing how and where people can marry in England and Wales.

Who are the Law Commission?
The Law Commission are funded by the government but work independently in order to provide potential Law reform for the government. On average, 2/3 of the projects put forward by the Law Commission will be enacted and law will be amended.

The Facts:

  1. The current laws date back from 1836 so are very dated in some places and not representative of today’s market and modern couple’s needs.
  2. Based on government research 42.8% of legal marriages take place in hotels.
  3. Jewish and Quakers wedding ceremonies can currently take place anywhere.
  4. Currently:
    1. There are different ways to give notice for different types of weddings.
    2. Almost all wedding must take place in certain buildings
    3. A wedding must be either civil or religious
    4. The law is not clear as to the status of a wedding that was not celebrated in one of the legally authorised ways and some religious ceremonies have not been recognised
    5. The law is complex and contains different rules about where a wedding can take place, depending on the type of ceremony.

Who attended the Commission meeting?
12 wedding venue professionals with differing backgrounds in the industry including local authority representatives, registrars, London wedding venue owners and managers, outdoor wedding company owners and industry community representatives.

What the Law Commission & Government reform will consider:

  1. Whether everyone getting married should have to give notice to the register office.
  2. Where couples should be able to marry such as: outside, in a private home, on board a ship, on trains – or even in Tescos!
  3. Opinions for couples to express their commitment in a way that is more personal to them.
  4. How the law might allow non-religious belief organisations and independent celebrants to conduct weddings.
  5. What should be the minimum requirements for marriage to be recognised by law, such as: giving notice, the consent of each member of the couple, signing the paperwork etc.
  6. How to eliminate unnecessary red tape.

What was discussed?

  • Venues’ experience with the approved premises regulations, including:
    • the costs and how they affect venues and couples;
    • problems that arise during the approval process, or during ceremonies; and
    • hosting religious weddings on approved premises;
  • Where couples want to get married;
  • Experiences of working with registrars, religious or belief celebrants, or independent celebrants;
  • Where civil weddings should be able to take place;
  • What rules or guidelines there should be about civil weddings venues; and
  • How a more permissive system might work.

Main discussion points and opinions raised:

  • Everyone agreed that the dignity and sanctity of marriage needs to be kept in mind.
  • There were many frustrations regarding the limitations the law has on allowing outdoor ceremonies and also ceremonies in specific rooms: why is it that only 4 out of the 5 rooms in my venue can host ceremonies? It is not clear.”
  • It was agreed that there is a higher demand in today’s couple market for a wider variety of wedding ceremony location options. Wedding venues can satisfy this demand by the Law allowing more flexibility in terms of outdoor and building regulations for weddings.
  • It was posed that hosting Religious ceremonies/blessings is one of the highest heard requests from couples and that there is confusion as to why it is not possible to have such religious blessings held at approved venues.
  • Safety regulations both in terms of the security that venues provide and the implications of safety on couples and guests in outdoor / at home weddings has to be taken into consideration.
  • The local authorities’ ‘free reign’ on approved premises regulations and on costs are seemingly subjective and can be restrictive for smaller venues. More clarity needed on the reasons why different authorities have such differing costs and regulations.
  • Registrar restrictions on conducting ceremonies based on ceremony timings, the weather and location impacts couples preferences and venue flexibility massively. Standardisation and clarity is necessary.
  • There were mixed opinions on who should be able to conduct a legal ceremony. Many agreed that celebrants should have legal rights however there are concerns regarding friends or family of couples.
  • It was also noted that no one in the room has ever seen or experienced a disruption during a wedding yet, if public access is granted to wedding ceremonies this could become more of an issue.

What’s next?

A public consultation will take place in Spring 2020. This is the industry’s opportunity to have their say on the proposed changes. Based on this consultation, the Law Commission will make their detailed recommendation to the Government, with any legal changes being implemented in 2021.

Bridebook will be continuing to work with the Law Commission and I will continue to share any updates I receive with our Venue Community. If you have any further thoughts or feedback please do not hesitate to get in touch.

Post-Quarantine Wedding Trends

After weeks of being inside, forced apart from our nearest and dearest, weddings seem like a lifetime away. And yet, the day will come when life will be full of loved ones, laughter and celebration once more. We can expect some significant effects on weddings to come later this year and into 2021.

The 2021 wedding season will not be without its challenges. With 64% of 2020 weddings expected to be pushed-back, 2021 is set to be a busy one.  Couples will have to make quick decisions on dates, to get first dibs on the date they want.  Guests can expect many more clashes, and midweek weddings than ever, making things a little more challenging. On the bright side, we’ll have a way to use up all of those saved holiday days…

Post-coronavirus, we can expect that weddings will be bigger, bolder, and even more full of meaning. Everyone is longing for the days of confetti, cake, and bubbly, and we have the scoop on the trends you can expect to see post-lockdown.

 

Digital Guests: 

One thing that has come from this period of change and online socialising is the normalisation of online meeting services, such as zoom. Travel restrictions may persist for some time, and we expect two-thirds of weddings post-lockdown to have at least some guests attending virtually. For elderly relatives, as well as friends and family living in far-flung destinations, digital access will be a great way for them to still be able to attend these special moments, even if just remotely. 

man smiling with gadgets

 

Courageous Fashion Choices:

After what feels like months of wearing the same pair of leggings and jumpers, everyone will be jumping at the chance to dress up and look their best.  We can expect adventurous guest fashion, with brighter, more fashion-forward dresses and bolder jewellery choices. 

It won’t just be guests making bold statements; we are seeing a 50% increase in the popularity of statement veils (probably thanks to Mrs. Bieber). We can expect to see many more brides making this trend their own, embroidering their veils with meaningful quotes or even initials. Alongside an increase in statement veils, we are also seeing a rise in catwalk-inspired statement sleeves and pearl-embellished dresses, seen at the likes of Dior and Chanel.

Classic Blue was announced as the Pantone colour of the year, so expect a great revival in the something blue, something borrowed tradition, featuring this beautiful shade. Think blue in newly trending hair barrettes, jewelry and even the bases of high heels!

Post-credit-crunch, boho brides were on the rise, and this trend is set to explode once more. Many 2021 brides will be going for the ethereal look, with wearable florals, and bridal crowns taking center stage.

bride with flower crown

 

Creative Wedding Decor:

If you thought wedding creativity had reached its peak, just you wait. With more time than ever to d think about wedding details, we can expect a move away from some more traditional elements to more creative and modern takes on decor.  Some creative couples will be changing up the traditional seating charts, instead painting table lists on flower-filled glass boxes. Floral hoops have also been growing in popularity, with growing in popularity by 80% this year, alongside hanging floral decorations and flower-filled aisles.

Post quarantine, there will be a revival of the Do-it-yourself Bride and Groom. Around three-quarters of weddings will include some DIY elements, as couples cut costs where they can (and have more time on their hands!), with DIY-couples saving a combined £20million. We are looking forward to personalised table settings, wedding favours, and decor, such as photo displays. 

DIY floral arrangement

 

Wedding Food Trends:

With so many couples caring more than ever about sustainability and the environment, it is no wonder that there has been a shift to a focus on menu seasonality, as well as plastic and waste reduction.  With many couples aiming to create as little environmental impact as possible, the increase in zero-plastic and reduced-waste weddings could save more than 15,000 tonnes of wedding waste from ending up in landfills (that’s 100 blue whales!). From invitations made of recycled paper,  vegan menus and leftover composting, we can safely assume that the sustainable wedding trend is here to stay and will explode in 2021.  We imagine many couples will be donating leftover flowers to local hospitals and hospices, which hopefully will be a trend that will stick.

As for the sweet stuff,  we predict a shift away from the traditional and pricy wedding cakes that often remain uneaten, to more exciting offerings. Unique grab and go dessert displays, such as doughnut walls will come into their own (there are almost 100,000 posts under the hashtag #donutwall on Instagram!).

Weddings are all about individuality and celebrating who the couple truly is. We are expecting food and drink that pay homage to the backgrounds of the couple, whether that is custom messages in fortune cookies or cocktails made with a type of Slovakian cherry liquor.  More and more couples will be selecting super-personal menus, such as family favourite desserts, or cocktails named after people and places that mean something to the couple and their families.

 

Party Central:

After the storm of COVID, when weddings begin again, they are set to go on till the early hours. Where there is partying, there is midnight feasting. Guests can expect to be sustained with anything from sweet treat grazing tables, to late-night pasta pots to keep them dancing the night away.

Missing happy hour has become a national tragedy, and it’s coming back in a big way – think serve-yourself prosecco taps, experimental cocktails, and boozy popsicles like frozen rose, mimosas, and mojitos making their way onto a dancefloor near you. 

It’s only natural that with happy hour, comes confidence in dance ability. Learning a Tiktok dance became a quarantine right of passage, and newly married couples will be eager to show off their new fancy footwork. Be prepared for some seriously questionable, but hilarious first dances. 

Post-Quarantine Wedding Trends

 

Registry Remix:

Many couples feel that this period has put things into perspective, as well as made many questioning what gifts they can live without. Cutlery and crystal bowls are a nice memento, but lots of couples are forgoing the regular registry list, asking for experiences, not things. More will be asking for starter funds for a new home, a pet, or for their honeymoons. Charity registries will also become the norm, with more and more couples wanting to donate to a cause they feel passionate about.

 

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Love Quotes to Inspire Your Wedding Vows

We have been told that love happens gradually, that falling in love is like listening to the tune of a lullaby or a slow song, tender and beautiful. We have been told that love is supposed to be there all along while you blindly engage in different pursuits.

But one day, you realize that you have been hit by love, the sudden urge to make somebody yours. The tune to your favourite song, the shade of your t-shirt, the colour of their skin; everything matches with the hues of your heart that cannot stop falling for them.

Love is bliss, and expressing it is heaven. Therefore, we bring you some romantic love quotes to let your partner know how deeply in head over heels you are smitten with them. 

Married couple in love at night

Beautiful Love quotes 

  • “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.” -Sophocles.
  • “For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love.” – Carl Sagan. 
  • “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.” – Alfred Tennyson.
  • “You know when you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” – Dr. Seuss.
  • “Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land. 
  • “But the heart’s not like a box that gets filled up. It expands in size the more you love.” –’Her,’ the movie. 
  • “There is no remedy for love, but to love more.” – Thoreau.
  • “There’s only one thing that cuts through all our realities, and that’s love—the bridge between all our differences.” – The L Word.
  • “Some love stories aren’t epic novels. Some are short stories, but that doesn’t make them any less filled with love.” – Sex and the City.
  • “All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.” – Leo Tolstoy, War, and Peace. 
  • “Give in to love, or live in fear.” – Rent.
  • “Because through love, we feel the intensity of our connection to everything and everyone. And at the core, we are all the same. We’re all one.” – Loving Annabelle.
Married couple in love standing next to each other with sunset in background

Funny Love Quotes

  • “I love being married. It’s so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” -Rita Rudner.
  • “Love is the same as like, except you feel sexier.” – Judith Viorst.
  • “Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up.” – Joseph Barth.
  • “Love is a two-way street constantly under construction.” – Carroll Bryant.
  • “Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra, and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.” – Matt Groening, The Big Book of Hell.
  • “All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt.” – Charles M. Schulz.
  • “I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” – Rita Rudner.
  • “Love is something sent from heaven to worry the hell out of you.” – Dolly Parton.
  • “I just happened to be nowhere near your neighborhood.” – Singles.
  • “I’m afraid once your heart is involved, it all comes out in moron.” – Gilmore Girls.
  • “Falling in love is not at all the most stupid thing that people do, but gravitation cannot be held responsible for it.” – Albert Einstein.
  • “Real love amounts to withholding the truth, even when you’re offered the perfect opportunity to hurt someone’s feelings.” – David Sedaris.
Couple in love sitting in field laughing

Cute Love Quotes

  • “Love is a friendship set to music.” – Joseph Campbell.
  • “Love is a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” – Aristotle.
  • “I think I’d miss you even if we never met.” – The Wedding Date. 
  • “When you’re a kid, you assume your parents are soulmates. My kids are going to be right about that.” – The Office. 
  • “So excuse me forgetting but these things, I do you see, I’ve forgotten if they’re green or they’re blue. Anyway, the thing is, what I really mean yours are the sweetest eyes I’ve ever seen.” – Elton John, “Your Song.”
  • “Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”– Zelda Fitzgerald.
  • “Two people in love, alone, isolated from the world, that’s beautiful.” – Milan Kundera.
  • “True love stories never have endings.” – Richard Bach.
  • “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched—they must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller.
  • “Deep within us — no matter who we are — there lives a feeling of wanting to be lovable, of wanting to be the kind of person that others like to be with. And the greatest thing we can do is to let people know that they are loved and capable of loving.” – Fred Rogers
  • “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.” – Nat King Cole, “Nature Boy” lyrics. 
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 Quotes About Marriage

  • “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”- Mignon McLaughlin.
  • “The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” – Rumi
  • “To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow – this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”– Elizabeth Gilbert, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage.
  • “If I get married, I want to be very married.” – Audrey Hepburn. 
  • “I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate than when I fall asleep your eyes close.” – Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets. 
  • “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”– Maya Angelou.
  • “I am nothing special, of this, I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts, and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me, and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough.”– Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook.
  • “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.”– Alfred Tennyson.
  • “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”– Lao Tzu.
  • “We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness – and call it love – true love.”– Robert Fulghum, True Love.
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 Love Quotes from Literature

  • “Each time you happen to me all over again.” – The Age of Innocence, Edith Wharton
  • “Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be.” Rabbi Ben Ezra – Robert Browning.
  • “I’ve never had a moment’s doubt. I love you. I believe in you completely; you are my dearest one. My reason for Life.” Atonement – Ian McEwan
  • “Who, being loved, is poor?” —Oscar Wilde, A Woman of No Importance
  • “Perhaps, after all, the romance did not come into one’s life with pomp and blare, like a gay knight riding down; perhaps it crept to one’s side like an old friend through quiet ways; perhaps it revealed itself in seeming prose until some sudden shaft of illumination flung athwart its pages betrayed the rhythm and the music, perhaps… perhaps… love unfolded naturally out of a beautiful friendship, as a golden-hearted rose slipping from its green sheath.” — Lucy Maud Montgomery, Anne of Avonlea.
  • “To love or have loved, that is enough. Ask nothing further. There is no other pearl to be found in the dark folds of life.” —Victor Hugo, Les Misérables.
  • “When you love something, it loves you back in whatever way it has to love.” —John Knowles, A Separate Peace.
  • “A love story is not about those who lose their heart but about those who find that sullen inhabitant who, when it is stumbled upon, means the body can fool no one, can fool nothing— not the wisdom of sleep or the habit of social graces. It is a consuming of oneself and the past.” —Michael Ondaatje, The English Patient.
  • “We love the things we love for what they are.” —Robert Frost, Hyla Brook.
  • “The way her body existed only where he touched her. The rest of her was smoke.” —Arundhati Roy, The God of Small Things.
  • “In love, there are two things—bodies and words.” —Joyce Carol Oates.
  • “I have learned not to worry about love; but to honor its coming with all my heart.” —Alice Walker.
  • “All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.” —Leo Tolstoy, War, and Peace. 
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The best thing that we can do in life is love. Love should come to humans as easy as breathing. Therefore, with these famous love quotes, let your partner know how much you mean to them. Which is your favourite quote on love?

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A Fairytale Wedding with Gorgeous Floral Arrangements in Gloucestershire

Tables set inside ready for for dinner.

For Emma and Mike, a fairytale really did come true at Berkeley Castle in Gloucestershire! Located on the very edge of the Cotswolds, this magnificent medieval fortress was the perfect location for their elegant white wedding. And we have to mention their gorgeous floral arrangements – aren’t they stunning?

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The bridesmaid holds the bride's dress.
A white plate with a paper on top of it that reads "The Bride".
The bride and groom holding hands and smiling at each other.
A historic looking castle.
The ceremony room shows an archway covered in white flowers.
The ceremony room with historic looking windows.
The wedding invitation of Emma and Mike.
The bride and groom holding hands and smiling.
The bride and groom kiss outside the castle.
Emma & Mike in Berkeley, Gloucestershire (Flowers + Elegance)
The bride posing with two bridesmaids.
The bride and groom smiling underneath the archway of the ceremony room.
The groom laughing at a joke someone is telling them.
The bride and groom walking and holding hands.
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Appetizers.

Congratulations to Lisa and Mike on their fabulous wedding! And a special thank you to Pippa, the wedding and events manager at Berkeley Castle, for providing us with the photographs and details of Lisa and Mike’s special day.

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7 At-Home Date Ideas

We all love date night: It’s the getting ready in anticipation, looking up restaurant reviews, arguing over what film to see, and who’s booking the seats.

We know that you might be missing these special nights out, but in the age of social distancing it’s time to get a little bit more creative with your date nights at home. 

There really is no better time than the present to shake things up and even save yourselves some serious dollar in the process. Lucky for you, we’ve come up with some quarantine-approved, stay-at-home date nights that you and your partner can try out. You are most welcome. 

1. For the Cant-Sit-Still Couple

Have you been talking about taking those salsa lessons or tango classes for ages, but never managed to do it for fear of falling in the middle of a rumba?  Well, now’s the perfect time to learn with zero fear of embarrassment. DanceDojo has free salsa lessons with video tutorials on salsa steps, turns, and combinations. This could be the perfect time to perfect that fancy footwork for the first dance at your wedding!

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2. For the Aspiring Mixologists

Who said you can’t have an at-home happy hour? There’s no need to go to the shops for this one, why not see who can come up with the best cocktail from items you already have in the fridge. If winging it isn’t your style (or you don’t want to waste any precious liquor), the make me a cocktail website will tell you what classic cocktails you can make with what you already have.

3. For the Comfortable Couple:

No judgment from us if you don’t feel like changing out of your cosiest clothes (who can blame you). But why not make movie night a little more special, and camp out in your living room. Setting up a blanket fort will automatically make you feel like mischievous children, in the best possible way. Just grab some pillows, some extra blankets and you’ve got yourself a cozy hideaway. Bonus points for whoever brings the fairy lights and extra snacks. 

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4. For the Theatre-lovers:

For those of you missing out on theatre trips, Filmed on stage is bringing the theatre to you. Access hundreds of plays and musicals, from Comedies to Shakespeare, at your fingertips. You can even watch that sold-out National Theatre play you’ve been trying to get tickets to for months. Feel free to crack open an interval ice cream (and it won’t cost you £6!). 

5. For the Jetsetters:

We know you might have had trips cancelled, but rather than setting your screensaver to that picturesque beach, why not have an around the world evening-in? Curb your wanderlust by bringing Tokyo to your living room by watching Lost in Translation, ordering sushi and singing out-of-tune karaoke. Or head to the Italian Riviera by watching a classic Italian film (Il Paradiso is our pick), making a delicious bolognese and drinking a bottle (or two) together.

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6. For the Cultural Couple:

One of the perks of 2000 museums and galleries being online at Google Arts & Culture is that finally, they’re open 24 hours! So why not find your way to the Musée d’Orsay in Paris (without thousands of people blocking your view), or head to the Guggenheim in New York. Alongside art collections, there are tours of famous sites and landmarks such as the Taj Mahal, the Colosseum and the Bolshoi Theatre. Now is a better time than any to learn your Monet from your Manet and your Dalí from your Degas.

7. For Romantic Reminiscing:

We could all do with a little extra romance right now, so go back to the beginning of your relationship, when the words social distancing had never been uttered. Light some candles, look through your old photos together and go through the New York Times’ 36 questions to make you fall in love. We promise you will laugh, cry and remember things you had completely forgotten about each other. Take this time to slow down and be present with the person you love most.

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What’s the Best Day to Get Married On?

When the time comes to sit down and properly start planning your wedding, one of the very first questions you’ll face is ‘what day of the week shall we get married?’ Your first instinct will likely be on a weekend – but, you’ll have to compete with thousands of couples who’ll have exactly the same thought process.

But, is a weekend the best time to have your wedding? What about midweek? And which month, or even season, would make for the best choice?

There isn’t a one-size-fits-all answer, but there may be a one-day-fits-budget answer that could make your decision a little easier.

In this post, we’re going to dive into the busy world of how to choose which day you should get married. We’ll explore the considerations to keep at the forefront of your mind, the most popular dates and days to have a wedding, and why a midweek wedding might just be the best decision you make.

What are the most popular dates to get married on?

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As discovered in our 2023 UK Wedding Report, the top 10 most popular dates to get married are:

  1. 19th August
  2. 26th August
  3. 9th September
  4. 16th September
  5. 23rd September
  6. 12th August
  7. 8th July
  8. 2nd September
  9. 20th May
  10. 7th October

As you can see, most of these dates are during the summer months, which is when you might expect the weather to behave itself – although this is in the UK after all, where nothing is guaranteed when it comes to the weather.

However, there is something that each of these dates has in common, which we’ll come on to next.

What’s the most popular day of the week to get married on?

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The most popular day of the week to get married is Saturday. Because of this, everything from venues and caterers to photographers and transport generally has higher rates on a Saturday than any other day of the week.

However, for the first time, less than half (48%) of weddings in 2023 took place on a Saturday, according to our 2024 Wedding Report. This is a continuation of the trend in recent years away from Saturday weddings.

Why is Saturday the most popular day of the week to get married on?

The most obvious reason why Saturday is still the most popular day couples choose for their wedding is because it’s when most of your guests will be free from work and school commitments. Around two-thirds of employees don’t work weekends, which means the majority of your guests won’t have to book annual leave to come to your big day. Plus, they’re more likely to let their hair down and enjoy themselves if they don’t have to get up early for work the next day – this goes double for any guests who may have travelled a long way to be there.

What’s the cheapest day to get married on?

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The cheapest day to get married on is a Tuesday, with the average Tuesday wedding costing £16,273, compared to the overall average of £20,775. This is also over £6,000 cheaper than the average Saturday wedding, which costs £22,290.

Despite being the cheapest, Tuesday is actually the least popular day to get married, with only 4% of couples tying the knot on the second day of the week.

For more tips and tricks on cutting wedding-related costs, read our comprehensive guide on how to save money on your wedding.

Why is Tuesday the cheapest day to get married?

Just like how Saturdays are the most popular day for a wedding because most of your guests are off work and school, Tuesdays are the least popular in part because the reverse of this is true. Unless they work shifts, your guests are likely to be at work or school on a Tuesday, and because it’s not on either side of the weekend like a Friday or Monday, guests might not be so keen to take a day’s annual leave. Then there’s the additional travel time for guests who don’t live close by, which might mean another day or two of holiday.

What’s the best season for a wedding?

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In 2023, just 7% of weddings took place during the first three months of the year. As the weather got warmer so did couples’ love for a wedding, with a fifth having their big day in April, May or June. Then another 41% had summer or early autumn weddings in July, August or September, and the final quarter tied the knot in October, November or December.

From this, it’s obvious that couples prefer to get married during the warmer spring, summer and autumn months, with more than two-thirds of all weddings taking place between April and September. Because of this, these months will be among the most expensive within which to get married. That said, autumn weddings are rising in popularity, with October especially now being sought-after (16% of weddings in 2023 took place in October). 

What do superstitions say about the best and worst months for a wedding?

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If you believe in superstitions, there are some to consider before choosing your date, because some think that certain months are luckier to get married in than others.

When it comes to bad luck, there’s a rhyme that states, ‘Marry in May and you’ll rue the day’ which dates back to Pagan fertility rituals. Among its most famous believers was Queen Victoria, who supposedly banned her children from getting married in May. Clearly, not many modern couples believe this superstition, with May currently being the fourth most popular month for weddings.

If you’re seeking some good luck, here are some of our favourites to bear in mind:

  • Marry when the year is new and he’ll be loving, kind and true.
  • Marry in April when you can, and joy for maiden and for man.
  • Marry in September’s shrine, your living will be rich and fine.

What’s the luckiest day of the week for a wedding?

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Now that you know some of the superstitions surrounding months, what about the days of the week? Well, there are Gaelic superstitions that state:

Marry on Monday for wealth,

Tuesday for health,

Wednesday the best day of all,

Thursday for crosses,

Friday for losses,

and Saturday no day at all.

You may not be a big believer in superstitions, but even if you’re not, it can’t hurt to err on the side of caution, right? Besides, would a Tuesday wedding in September be so bad? It would certainly be cheaper, if nothing else.

Should you get married on an important date, like Christmas Day or New Year’s Eve?

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Christmas Day is the most popular day to get engaged on, followed by Christmas Eve and New Year’s Eve. But, what if you want to get married on a date like this and have a shared celebration with your friends and family?

The first thing to be aware of is that not all of the guests you invite will want to give up a special date, so don’t be surprised if you get a few Xs on your RSVPs. Travel and accommodation can also be tricky, not to mention expensive during holiday periods.

It can also be extremely expensive for you if you choose to have a Christmas Day or New Year’s Eve wedding. Staff may be paid double or triple rates, and this is already a popular date in the hospitality industry anyway, which means it might be difficult securing your chosen venue.

If you’re keen to have a wedding that falls on a holiday date, then there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this. But, just be prepared to pay a little more for the privilege.

What else should you bear in mind when booking your wedding date?

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While it will usually be cheaper to get married between October and March, we get that this might not always be an option. You might be tied to school holidays, weekends or other specific times of the year, which means you have a limited choice for when to book your wedding.

If this is you, then we recommend booking your venue as far in advance as possible to ensure you secure your chosen date. And when we say far in advance, we mean it – popular venues at busy times of the year can book up several years into the future, so get in there as soon as you can and throw down your deposit.

Browse our huge range of wedding venues to find your perfect venue, with many offering exclusive seasonal discounts.

8 reasons why you should consider having a midweek wedding

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If you’re still not sure about a midweek wedding, here are eight reasons why you should consider getting married on a school night.

1. You can get married sooner

As we already highlighted, Saturday is a popular day to get married. That means the most popular venues are booked up for weekend dates years in advance. It might also mean that you or your guests have already committed to attending someone else’s wedding on almost every Saturday this summer or next summer.

So if you want to get married in your dream venue and you want your best friend to make it, you might be looking at two or three years until the dates (and the stars) align for you to have a weekend wedding at your number one choice of venue.

But, if you book your wedding on a weekday, you’ll have far fewer availability worries to think about. No need for this to turn into a five-year engagement. Being more flexible with your date opens up a much wider variety of options, meaning you’re more likely to get your dream venue and avoid clashes with other weddings.

2. You can secure the best suppliers (and pay less)

Not only do venues get booked up early on weekends, but so do all your other suppliers. You’re much more likely to get your dream team with a weekday wedding. Many suppliers will also lower their prices during the week so you might even be able to push the boat out and get a truly top-notch photographer, caterer or florist that you otherwise wouldn’t be able to afford. With a weekday wedding, you’re much more likely to get exactly what you want and have a far smaller bill at the end of it.

3. You’ll save yourself from stress

Planning a wedding can sometimes be stressful – especially when things don’t go to plan, such as your favourite photographer or caterer becoming unavailable because another couple snapped them up. Because far fewer couples get married midweek, you’ll have less competition, which means you’ll save yourself from stressful planning-related scheduling conflicts.

4. You can have your loved ones there

Despite all the perks that can come with a weekday wedding, one concern that many couples have is that their loved ones won’t be able to make it. While this is a possibility, we’d always expect those most important to you to do everything they can to be there for your big day. After all, it’s only one day of holiday (or two if they have to travel).

That said, you should think about your guest list when making this decision. If you’re planning a weekday wedding and your parents are teachers, for example, you’ll want to prioritise school holidays to make sure they can make it. But at the end of the day, your nearest and dearest will want to show up for you – and a weekday wedding won’t stop them.

5. You can keep things intimate

If you don’t want a blowout bash, a weekday wedding can be a great opportunity for a more relaxed and intimate affair. Without the fuss that can come with a huge weekend do, you can just have your nearest and dearest around you and get to spend more time talking to the people you care about the most. If you know there are people you’ll have to invite but don’t really want to, a weekday wedding is also a cheeky way to make it less likely they’ll show up.

6. You can save your guests some money

While you might think a weekday wedding would make it harder for guests to attend, it can actually solve a lot of problems for them. By holding your wedding on a weekday, it means better availability for travel and cheaper accommodation for your guests.

7. You can keep the party going

Another benefit of a weekday wedding is you can spread the celebration out and extend the fun, particularly if you host your wedding on a Monday, Friday or around a bank holiday. After all, you only get married once – make the most of it. Organise a cocktail party the night before or a relaxed brunch the morning after.

You could even go old school and decide to jet off on your honeymoon straight after the wedding. Travelling midweek can mean huge savings on flights and accommodation, leaving you with more cash to splash elsewhere.

8. You’ll support local businesses

Because so few wedding vendors provide their services to midweek weddings, they may find themselves with empty calendars between Mondays and Thursdays. By planning something for the start of the week, you’re doing your part to support smaller local businesses.

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How to plan your wedding remotely

While we all continue to do our bit for the NHS by staying indoors, a lot of us are finding ourselves with a lot of spare time on our hands and with spirits that need some lifting.

If you’re recently engaged, now is the perfect time to start getting excited about planning for your big day.

Here at Bridebook, we know that it may seem a little daunting to plan your wedding from your living room, but with this expert guide, you’ll be getting started soon.

Getting started

Knowing where to start can be the trickiest part of planning a wedding, but with our handy wedding checklist, it couldn’t be easier. Simply start by working your way through the individual tasks and you’ll be rolling in no time!

Invite your partner to collaborate with you so that you can start assigning tasks to each other. At Bridebook, we strongly believe that wedding planning should be a joint effort, so get them involved if they aren’t already! 

Feel free to start browsing for inspiration at this stage too. The hashtags #wedding and #weddinginspo on Pinterest and Instagram are particularly #stunning.

Agreeing your budget

It’s good to sit down with your partner and talk about what you both want from your wedding: a small and intimate affair with close friends and family or a lavish party with hundreds of guests?

Once you’ve worked out what you both want, you need to decide how much you are willing to spend for your big day. With that in mind, let Bridebook do the hard work for you! With data from the 500,000 weddings we’ve helped to plan, we’ll help crunch those numbers. Just enter your total budget and we’ll tell you how much you should be spending on each item, from your venue to your cake.

Booking your Venue

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Booking your venue is often the most exciting part of the wedding planning process, but it might seem a bit tricky to do from your sofa. But don’t fret! There are now loads of ways that you can use modern technology to get a feel for your venue without the need to visit.

Use Bridebook’s search tool to browse through thousands of venues that meet your specific needs and quickly narrow down by shortlisting your favourites. Look through our extensive picture galleries and read the reviews from our previous couples to start getting a feel for the place.

Next, get brochures from your favourites and reach out to see what remote viewings they can offer. Lots of venues are now offering virtual tours or videos that can help you get a better picture of your perfect wedding: all from the comfort of your own home.

Booking your suppliers

Again, Bridebook’s search tool comes in handy here, allowing you to look through all of our wedding suppliers in your preferred area and explore their photos and reviews.

Your venue can also be a great help here too. They will often have a list of preferred suppliers for their venue, which can help you narrow down your choices. This way you can be sure that the supplier knows the space well and that the venue trusts them to do a great job.

Managing your guests

Deciding who to invite to your big day can be a challenge for any couple, but with Bridebook’s guestlist tool, it’ll be a breeze.

Add all of your potential guests (or import them straight from your contacts to make it even simpler!), then choose if they are coming for the day, evening, or on the waitlist for now.

Then use our Guest Info Collector to gather their email and physical addresses, so that you can send them their save the dates and keep them updated throughout the planning process.

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Start building your gift list

Getting married is not just about throwing a party, it’s also about the rest of your life too and a gift list can be a great part of helping you prepare for that.

Start thinking about what you want from your gift list: a gift registry, a honeymoon fund, or perhaps asking your loved ones to contribute to a charitable cause that’s close to your heart.

Check out our comparison of the various gift list options to see what best suits your needs.

Then, start adding your dream gifts, knowing that they’ll be with you sooner than you think!

Enjoy it

Weddings are very special. There is no better reason on earth to throw an epic party than two people falling in love. And the world is certainly going to need some incredible parties soon… and you are going to be at the very centre of them.

Make sure to take stock and enjoy planning this amazing event with your loved one, your friends and your family (virtually) by your side.

22 Questions To Ask Your Wedding Venue

Okay, so you’ve found two or three wedding venues you love – now it’s time to quiz ‘em! But what should you ask? Well, we’ve got you covered. Here’s twenty-two questions to ask your wedding venue before you make it official.

Psst! Still looking for your dream wedding venue? Then check out Bridebook’s state-of-the-art Venue Search Tool and unlock the UK’s biggest (and best!) wedding venue directory. With the ability to search by location, style and capacity, you’ll find your perfect match in no time.

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In this video, Bridebook founder (and qualified wedding planner!) Hamish Shephard gives the lowdown on the questions you should ask your wedding venue, as well as some expert tips and tricks on coming up with wedding venue ideas and finding your wedding venue. And all this while keeping your wedding budget on track!

1. Which Dates Are Available In Our Chosen Month?

We wish we could guarantee that your dream venue will be available on your dream date… But that’s just not how it works. Make sure to ask your venue what dates are available as soon as you get in touch to avoid disappointment – and try to stay flexible if possible. Remember that weekends (especially Saturdays) in spring and summer are particularly popular choices for weddings, with these dates often getting booked up over a year in advance. If you’ve found your dream venue, you might want to consider a weekday wedding instead – and here’s why.

2. How Many Guests Can You Accommodate?

On the whole, most couples start by making their guest list then look for a venue that can accommodate it. Others, however, are more willing to shape their guest list to fit their dream venue. Whichever camp you fall into, you’ll still want to know how many guests your venue can host, as well as whether this number varies between rooms and locations.

Top Tip: If you search for wedding venues using our Venue Search Tool, let us know how many guests you expect to be hosting and we’ll only show you venues that can accommodate that.

3. Can We Have Our Ceremony Here Too?

Not every venue is able to host wedding ceremonies as well as wedding receptions as this requires a special license. Even if they can, you may only be able to hold your ceremony in certain locations at the venue – so make sure to check out your options. Use our Venue Search Tool to filter for venues with a marriage license to narrow things down if you know you want to hold your ceremony and reception at the same venue.

4. How Long Do We Have The Venue For?

Restrictions vary from venue to venue, but as a rule, we expect venues in more densely populated areas (like cities) to have noise restrictions or even a full curfew. Hotels, for example, may set a firm end time for celebrations. If you go for a rural barn or manor house, on the other hand, you’re much more likely to be able to party until dawn. Make sure to check before you book so you can make plans to accommodate this.

5. Will You Be Hosting Any Other Weddings At The Same Time?

If you want complete privacy for your wedding, this is what’s called “exclusive use” and you can filter for it using our Venue Search Tool. If you don’t have exclusive use, it’s possible that not only will there be other people in the venue but that there might even be other weddings taking place at the same time. This is most common in hotel wedding venues which will be hosting other guests. Now, there isn’t much you can do about this – so make sure you know in advance.

6. When Can We Start Setting Up?

Usually, you’ll be able to start setting up the day before or early in the morning the day of your wedding – but make sure to find out for sure. You’ll want to communicate this to your other suppliers as well as to your wedding party if they’ll be helping you out. When it comes to it, use our article on the final wedding checks you’ll need to do so you don’t miss anything.

7. What Kind Of Decorations Can We Have?

Some venues have restrictions surrounding the use of candles and confetti or on flash photography (particularly if they’re an art gallery or museum). Make sure you know exactly what your venue does and doesn’t allow to avoid any conflicts or nasty surprises later down the line. You don’t want to spend hundreds of pounds on tealights – only to find you can’t light any of them.

8. What Do You Provide And What Should We Rent?

A lot of venues will offer a package that includes decorations and furniture as well as glassware and table linens. If you choose to do this rather than providing your own, make sure to get all the details in writing – otherwise, they might change their colour scheme and you’ll end up with clashing colours!

9. Do You Have A List Of Preferred Caterers?

At some venues, you won’t be permitted to bring in external caterers and you will need to choose one from their list. Other venues will have caterers they suggest but don’t insist on. Either way, it’s always good to find out who they recommend.

10. Can We Bring Our Own Alcohol? Do You Charge Corkage?

Not all venues will allow you to bring in your own alcohol and may ask that you purchase it from them directly. If they do, they will likely charge you “corkage” – a surcharge on every bottle that you open. Sometimes, these corkage fees can be so high that it actually works out cheaper to buy from the venue instead so make sure to discuss what they offer. And if you’re feeling stuck, check out our guide to wedding alcohol where we go into much more depth on every aspect of wedding alcohol.

11. Is A Cash Bar An Option?

You might not want to provide alcohol at all, instead asking your guests to pay for their own drinks. If that’s the case, you’ll want to know whether this is an option – and if it is, make sure to find out if there’s a minimum spend. Otherwise, you might find yourself facing unexpected costs at the end of the day!

12. Can We Have A Band or DJ?

Even if you haven’t already booked your band or DJ, you’ll want to find out whether or not your venue can actually accommodate their needs. You don’t want to have booked your dream DJ, only to find out that there are no electrical sockets available for them or that there’s nowhere to set up their equipment.

13. Do You Have Any Special Facilities For Children?

If there is a spare room that could be used for children, we’d always advise you to use it! Having somewhere where you can put on a Disney movie or set up a few games is a great way to occupy children at a wedding, leaving the adults to enjoy themselves.

14. Do You Have Disabled Access?

If anyone on your guest list has access needs, make asking your venue about accessibility a priority.

15. When Do We Need To Pay Our Holding Deposit? Are There Any Other Fees?

When you pay your deposit, you secure your venue for the agreed date. Be clear about when this payment is due to avoid disappointment. And now’s a good time to ask about any other potential fees, taxes or service charges too. For more information about the hidden costs couples can encounter in the run up to their wedding day, check out this article.

16. Will There Be A Venue Coordinator Available On The Day?

If there is a venue coordinator available, we’d always recommend at least looking into working with them. They’ll be the person who’s most familiar with the venue, so they can ensure that everything runs smoothly and you have a stress-free experience on the day.

17. Is VAT Included In The Price?

Always, always, always check whether VAT is included in the price. You might think you’ve bagged yourself a bargain – only to find that this was exclusive of VAT and the real cost is as much as 20% higher.

18. What Are Our Bad Weather Options?

This is only really relevant if you’re planning an outdoor wedding – but if so, it absolutely is! Find out what inside spaces will be available to use as a back-up and make sure to view them so you can give at least a little thought to how you might use them. If there aren’t any suitable inside spaces, you’ll need to hire a marquee instead – and this can cost a pretty penny.

19. Are Fireworks Allowed?

Not every venue permits fireworks, so if ending your big day with a fabulous fireworks display is a must for you, make sure to check this nice and early.

20. What Car Parking Is Available On The Day?

If you’re not arranging transport for your guests, question number one is whether there’s enough parking spaces for everyone driving in. This is particularly important if you have elderly relatives who may find it difficult to travel any great distance to your venue. If it’s not obvious, you’ll also want to check whether there will be someone to show your guests how to get from the carpark to the venue. And don’t forget to reserve spaces for your suppliers too.

21. Is There Anywhere Guests Can Stay Overnight?

If you’re expecting to have guests coming from all over the country (or even from abroad), it’s good to get an idea of what possibilities there are for accommodation well in advance. It could be a dealbreaker for you and your partner if there’s no accommodation available. If your guests can stay at the venue, fantastic, but if not, can the venue recommend anywhere nearby? Remember, you might not need it but you’ll want to include this information on your wedding information sheet later.

22. Do You Have Liability Insurance?

We’re keeping everything crossed for you – but you can’t plan for everything! Put your mind at rest by asking your venue whether they’re covered for any (thankfully unlikely) accidents that may happen on your big day.

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Ultimate Guide to Wedding Invitations: Design, Etiquette, and Trends

 

When planning your big day, the first impression you’ll make on your guests is through your wedding invitation. It sets the tone for your wedding and gives guests a glimpse into the style and theme of the event. This guide will delve deep into every aspect of wedding invitations: from design and etiquette to the latest trends.

1. The Importance of a Wedding Invitation

A wedding invitation is not just a mere piece of paper. It’s a reflection of the couple’s personality, style, and the ambiance they wish to create for their wedding day.

2. Designing Your Wedding Invitation

Designing your wedding invitation is a creative process that allows couples to express their unique style and the essence of their love story. Here’s a comprehensive breakdown to help guide you:

  • Theme and Style: Before diving into colors or typography, decide on an overarching theme or style. Do you want a rustic charm, classic elegance, modern minimalism, or a quirky, offbeat design? Your theme will set the groundwork for other design elements.

  • Colors: Your color choice is paramount. Start with your wedding colors or those that resonate with your chosen theme. For instance, pastels are perfect for spring weddings, while jewel tones may suit a winter celebration. Don’t be afraid to play with color gradients or metallic shades for added flair.

  • Typography: Fonts play a significant role in conveying the mood of your invitation. Traditional weddings often gravitate towards script or calligraphy fonts, while contemporary designs might use bold, clean typefaces. Combining two complementary fonts can also add depth and interest.

  • Graphics and Illustrations: These elements can be the highlight of your invitation design:

    • Floral Designs: Ideal for garden or rustic-themed weddings.

    • Geometric Patterns: Offers a modern, chic look.

    • Custom Illustrations: Personalized sketches of the couple or significant landmarks can make your invite truly one-of-a-kind.

    • Monograms: Personalized monograms of the couple’s initials woven into the design add a touch of elegance.

  • Material: The choice of material can elevate the look and feel of your invitation:

    • Classic Paper: Opt for textured or linen paper for a luxurious feel.

    • Velvet: Adds a touch of opulence and is soft to the touch.

    • Wood: Perfect for rustic or boho-themed weddings.

    • Acrylic: This modern choice is sleek and can be paired with beautiful inks or even etching.

    • Fabric: Cloth invitations or fabric scrolls can be an exotic and memorable choice.

  • Envelope Design: An often-overlooked aspect, the envelope is the first thing your guests see. Consider envelope liners, wax seals, or embossing for added sophistication.

  • Printing Techniques: The way your invitation is printed can drastically impact its aesthetics:

    • Letterpress: This technique gives a debossed effect, where

    •  the design is pressed into the paper.

    • Foil Stamping: Adds a metallic sheen to selected areas, perfect for luxurious invites.

    • Digital Printing: A versatile option that allows for vibrant color reproduction.

    • Thermography: Creates raised ink, giving texture and a classic feel.

  • Additional Elements: Consider adding ribbons, dried flowers, lace, or even semi-precious stones for a tactile and visual treat.Designing your wedding invitation

3. Wedding Invitation Etiquette

How long before a wedding should you send invitations?

Typically, wedding invitations are sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding day. If you’re hosting a destination wedding, giving your guests more notice—around 3-4 months—is advisable, so they can make necessary travel arrangements.

What do I write on a wedding invitation?

A wedding invitation usually includes:

  • The names of the hosts (often the parents of the bride).
  • The couple’s names.
  • A request to attend the wedding, such as “request the pleasure of your company.”
  • Date and time of the ceremony.
  • Location of the ceremony.
  • Reception details, if different from the ceremony venue.
  • RSVP information.

Here’s a simple example: “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith request the pleasure of your company at the wedding of their daughter, Emma Smith, to Liam Johnson on Saturday, the fifth of June, at three o’clock in the afternoon at the Rose Garden Chapel. Reception to follow at the Grand Ballroom of Hillside Hotel.

Whose name goes first on a wedding invitation?

Traditionally, the bride’s name precedes the groom’s on a wedding invitation. For instance, “Emma Smith and Liam Johnson.” However, modern invitations might not follow this convention, especially if the couple or their families have a preference.

How much time do you give guests to RSVP to a wedding?

It’s customary to ask guests to RSVP about 2-3 weeks before the wedding. This allows you ample time to finalize seating arrangements, catering headcounts, and other logistics dependent on the guest count.

Wedding Invitation FAQs

4. Trending Now: Wedding Invitation Trends for 2023

  • Sustainable Invitations: Eco-friendly materials and digital invites are gaining traction.
  • Mixed Media: Combining materials like paper and acrylic, or paper and fabric, offers a unique tactile experience.
  • Interactive Invitations: QR codes that lead to a personal video or your wedding website are innovative additions.
  • Bold Colors: While pastels are timeless, bold and contrasting colors are making a statement this year.

5. Budgeting for Your Invitations

Remember, the cost isn’t just the card. Consider the price of stamps, envelopes, and any additional inserts. If on a tight budget, digital invitations or simpler designs can be more cost-effective.

Your wedding invitation is the first chapter of your wedding story. Make it memorable, personal, and a true reflection of your journey together. Whether you’re going traditional, trendy, or somewhere in between, ensure it resonates with the essence of your special day.

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What To Include On Your Information Sheet

Starting to put together your wedding invitation suite? Then a big well done from us because that likely means you’ve sorted your Guest List – and that’s no mean feat! Now, if you haven’t already, you’ll want to take a look at our introduction to your wedding stationery and start off by getting to grips with all the different items you’ll need. Done that? Then read on to learn all about your wedding information sheet.

Psst! Need to know where to send your invitations? Try using our handy Address Collector to sort it all out in just one click.

What Is Your Wedding Information Sheet For?

Well, as we always say, your wedding is the celebration of the century – and while that means tons of fun, it also means lots of logistics! Since your wedding invitations only include the very basics (date, time, location), your wedding information sheet lets your guests know everything else: how to get to the venue, where they can stay, what they should wear… Plus, it lessens the chance that you’ll have to field a ton of last-minute queries on the day!

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What Information Should You Include On Your Wedding Information Sheet?

Well, every wedding is different – so your wedding information sheet will be specific to the details and requirements of your own wedding. The easiest thing to do is to put yourself in the shoes of one of your wedding guests and think about what questions they might have! To get you started, here are a few things we’d expect to find on most information sheets:

1. Directions

Always include directions to your ceremony and/or reception venue. You may also want to include maps of surrounding area for guests who aren’t familiar with the location. Bonus points if you throw in a list of local attractions and your recommendations for any guests combining your wedding with a getaway!

Psst! If you’re still looking for the perfect place to tie the knot, why not use our Venue Search Tool?

2. Transport Links And Taxis

It’s always helpful to add a list of transport links (eg. the closest train station, the best airport to fly into) for guests who don’t drive or are coming from further afield. It’s also a good idea to provide your guests with the contact details of local, reputable taxi firms or the details of any nearby car parking.

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3. Accommodation

It’s more likely than not that at least a few of your guests will want to stay nearby so make sure to offer them a few recommendations for accommodation. If you’re not sure, ask your wedding venue where they recommend guests stay. And if you can, why not reserve a few rooms at a local hotel or bed and breakfast in advance? That way, you’ll know they’re not fully booked and you can just let your friends know to mention your name to secure a room.

4. Dress Code

If your wedding has a dress code, you will most likely have included it on your invitation – but now’s your chance to go into a bit more detail. For example, if you’re getting married in a marquee, you might want to let your guests know they’ll need “lawn-friendly” shoes. Or if you’re planning an outdoor ceremony in mid-winter, make sure to mention to your guests that they’ll want to pack their mittens!

5. Children

Are you planning on having children at your wedding? Your wedding invitation will most likely indicate in some way if you’re planning a “child-free” wedding but it’s always worth reiterating on your information sheet to make sure everyone’s got the message! If you will be including children but you’ve made any special arrangements (eg. providing a crêche), here’s where to go into detail.

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6. Presents

If you’re nervous about mentioning your gift list – don’t be! If you don’t put the details of your gift list on your wedding information sheet, your guests will just ask you directly instead. Or, if you want to be a little more subtle, you could always have your gift list details printed separately onto small cards you can slip into your envelopes alongside your invitations.

7. The Bar!

If you already know you’ll be having a cash bar, now’s a good time to let your guests know. Make sure to let them know any extra details too, like which cards the bar accepts and whether or not they’re cashless. 

Psst! If you need some help deciding between an open bar and a cash bar, check out our guide to wedding alcohol here.

8. Carriages

Ever struggled to get everyone out at the end of a house party? Well, “Carriages” is an easy way to avoid that happening at your wedding! It lets your guests know the latest time by which they’ll need to leave the venue. Including it on your information sheet means they can make arrangements for getting home in advance.

9. The Day After

Are you planning activities for the day after? Whether you’ll be hosting brunch or organising a golfing trip, let your guests know the details so they can plan accordingly.

Of course, you don’t have to send out an information sheet – and not all couples do. A great alternative – whether it’s because you want to cut costs or reduce waste – is to set up a wedding website and include the URL on your invitations. Then you can host all the above information there – and update it for everybody any time. Make sure to include your contact details, as well as those of your best (wo)man or maid/man of honour, so that your guests can ask any additional questions.

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How To Design Your Perfect Wedding Menu


Whether you’ve already booked your wedding caterer or are still considering options, you’re probably starting to think about what’s going to be on the menu. But half the time, it’s hard enough to decide what to eat for dinner on Tuesday night – let alone what to serve at your wedding! So here’s our five step guide to designing the perfect wedding menu.

1. What’s Your Theme?

If you have a theme (and we recommend you do!), use this to guide your decisions when it comes to your wedding menu. A hog roast, for example, is perfect for an informal, outdoor celebration – but not so good for a black tie wedding, where you’re more likely to want to serve elegant canapés and petit fours.

2. Do (Most) People Like It?

Well, there’s a reason chicken is such a wedding staple! More adventurous options like veal, venison, lamb and lobster can be more divisive and may result in some of your guests forcing down food they’d rather avoid. So you have two options: stick with something safe (and of course, what this is depends on the cuisine you and your guests are used to) or offer a few different options to make sure there’s something for everyone.

3. Do You Like It?

It’s your wedding – so what do you want to eat to celebrate marrying the love of your life? Remember, you’ll almost certainly need to accommodate the dietary requirements of at least a few guests – so if you can, serve what you want but offer alternatives for those who may not share your taste.

4. Will It Keep You Full?

You don’t want to end up in a food coma before the speeches – but we’d always avoid light bites in favour of something with at least a bit of substance. Remember, weddings can stretch on well into the night – and the last thing you want is your guests nipping out to McDonalds for a late night snack! Plus, we’re sure any guests who are drinking will appreciate the opportunity to line their stomachs…

5. Is It Low Risk For Allergies?

If you can, stay away from well-known allergens like peanuts, shellfish and soy – especially if you know one of your guests is at risk. Even if you can provide them with an alternative, avoiding allergens altogether will put your mind at rest.

Ask yourself these five questions and you’ll be well on your way to designing your dream menu. And if you’re still on the hunt for your perfect wedding caterer, why not check out our fabulous directory here?

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Wedding Films : 4 Reasons Why You Should Book a Videographer

Book a Videographer


A wedding photo album is a wonderful thing! It captures the moments of your special day that can instantly be re-lived via a physical album or on-screen photos. For this reason, almost everybody books a wedding photographer. Without one, there would be no record of your day and you would be solely reliant on your own memory. Not so many people, on the other hand, book a wedding videographer. Many still do, but it’s not seen as a necessity. Here are 4 reasons why we think you should book a videographer.


1. Film trumps photo in capturing the moment

A picture speaks a thousand words. But a film speaks ten thousand. Capturing the sounds and movements of your day is a priceless treasure. The sounds of talking, music and laughter may seem insignificant, but they really do add an extra dimension. In the same way, facial expressions, hugs and dancing all come to life in film in a way they never could in a photo. The best way to demonstrate this is to look at a video on your smartphone and compare it to a photo. Which one captures the moment better?


2. Ceremony

The most important part of your wedding day! You don’t want to miss a moment. Guaranteed to be emotional and joyful all at the same time. A photo will capture this moment beautifully, but to capture the words, tears and wobbly voices, a film is the only option.


3. Speeches

You may or may not want to remember the speeches depending on whether you are the one who is giving one. The speeches however are often filled with lovely moments. Not just the jokes, quotes and touching sentiment, but also the unexpected moments of participation from the guests. A film of the wedding speeches is not something you would watch every day, but it is a beautiful memory to keep a record of. And in this case, a photo just won’t cut it!


4. First dance

The first dance includes many aspects that your photographer won’t capture: The first dance song, the cheers of your guests and…..the actual dancing. The first dance is one of the most intimate parts of your wedding day and this is reflected far more effectively in a short 3 min film.


Your wedding day is jam-packed with moments that you want to remember. You will of course be able to capture these moments in photos…..and you definitely should! Don’t do away with the photographer! But strongly consider booking a videographer too! Sure, it’s an extra expense, but this is a purchase that you benefit from for the rest of your life. If you need to cut costs with your decorations to make the funds available to book a videographer, it’s probably worth the sacrifice. Many wedding purchases last only 1 day(your wedding day), but a film of your wedding is a pleasure you can keep for life.

Are you convinced? Read our videographer checklist before booking.


How to Confirm Your Wedding Music List

Wedding Music List


The time has come to finalize your list of music with the band or DJ. If you haven’t created a playlist yet, read our guide on choosing your wedding music.

Once you have your final evening music list, pass this over to your band or DJ. If you have hired a band, they may not be able to play everything on your list but might be willing to learn a few songs. It’s best to ask bands for their song list before hiring them to ensure they will be able to play the songs you want. If you have hired a DJ however, they should be able to play anything you ask them to. You can read more about choosing a wedding band or DJ in our guide.

Once you have provided the band/DJ with your playlist, check with them if there is enough material to cover their set length. If there isn’t, they may be willing to add other suggestions to fill the gaps to save you some time. If you choose to go with this option, make sure they show you the final playlist before the big day or, alternatively, you can provide them with a “do not play” list which would include a list of songs that you DON’T want played. This is for the adventurers among us who want a musical surprise on the wedding day. This can be a fun option if you want to experience your wedding as your guests are experiencing it.

If you want to go SUPER ADVENTUROUS, try this. Provide your band/DJ with a small playlist of 4-5 songs and ask them to play other songs of a similar style. This is the “shuffle” of the wedding music world.  You don’t know what’s coming next.


How to Write Wedding Invitations – A Template

How to Write Wedding Invitations


These days, customised wedding invitations are extremely popular. Beautiful designs and low prices make this a great option for many couples as it saves hours of making and writing invitations.

For this reason, much of the art of invitation writing has been forgotten with pre-built invitations being delivered to you needing nothing more than a name and address. This isn’t a bad thing as it’s one less thing for you to think about(let’s face it! You’ve got enough to do!). But, if you do want to write your own, where do you start? What is the correct wording?

Well the truth is….there is no correct wording. Wedding etiquette traditions have been reworked by a new generation as we have seen a rise of informal language gracing our wedding stationery.


Although the etiquette has been remodelled, it’s still important that you give your guests all the information they need. So here is everything you need to include on your wedding invitations. The order and wording is up to you. Just make sure it’s all on there:

  1. Name of person and any +1’s
  2. “You are invited to the marriage of” [a line making clear that they are invited]
  3. Bride’s name &
  4. Groom’s name
  5. Date
  6. Time of day
  7. Location of wedding – Name of venue and full address
  8. Reception information
  9. Gift list information

If one(or both) of your parents are hosting, you can add the following at the beginning:

  • Names of parents
  • Request your presence(replaces line 2 above)
  • At the marriage of their daughter/son

Next up, it’s time to send your invitations


You may also find our hack on writing save-the-dates useful


What to Pack For Your Honeymoon

What to Pack For Your Honeymoon


Ideally, you should try to complete this task before your wedding to allow you to jet off immediately. After the wedding, you will probably end up with a load of gifts, flowers, left over cake, decor etc. to take home with you. This will make packing your suitcase a lot more difficult so try to avoid this by packing beforehand. Just so you know what you need to pack for your honeymoon, we’ve made a list of everything you need.


Documents

  • Boarding pass/Airline tickets
  • Passport
  • Driver’s License
  • Reservation confirmation
  • Health insurance information
  • Photocopies of the above documentation
  • Credit card
  • Money
  • Prescription medicine in the original bottle

Toiletries bag

  • Toothbrushes
  • Toothpaste
  • Hairbrush
  • Deodorant
  • Razor
  • Shaving cream
  • Shampoo
  • Conditioner
  • Hand cream
  • Body lotion
  • Sunscreen
  • Insect repellant
  • Soap
  • Lip-balm
  • Floss
  • Makeup bag
  • Makeup remover
  • Cotton buds
  • Tweezers
  • Nail clippers
  • Antibacterial wipes
  • Plasters
  • Aspirin
  • Paracetamol
  • Ibuprofen
  • Antacid
  • Antihistamine
  • Asthma Inhaler
  • Contact lens solution
  • Period care toiletries and medicine

Clothing

  • Socks
  • Underwear
  • Bras
  • Dresses
  • T-shirts
  • Shorts
  • Shirts
  • Blouses
  • Sweater
  • Light sweater
  • Light jacket
  • Swimsuit

Shoes + Accessories

  • 2-3 pairs of shoes
  • 1 pair of old shoes
  • 1 pair of sandals
  • Glasses or contacts
  • Spare glasses
  • Sunglasses
  • Canvas tote
  • Jewellery
  • Slippers
  • Evening bag
  • Light scarf
  • Sun hat
  • Canvas bag
  • Day excursion backpack
  • Hair accessories
  • Travel umbrella

Tech

  • Phones
  • Camera
  • Tablet/E-reader
  • Headphones
  • Chargers for all of the above
  • Electrical adapter

Other

  • Paperback book
  • Hair drier
  • Maps, Guidebooks
  • ID tags for luggage
  • Deck of cards

Wedding Venues : 4 tips for choosing the perfect venue

The Hunt for Wedding Venues


Arguably the most important part of your entire wedding is choosing the perfect venue. This single decision affects every other decision that you will make. But where do you start? How do you know choose from the vast array of wedding venues? Here are our quick tips to help you choose the ideal location.


1. Think about location

Sounds obvious, but if you have your heart set on a rustic barn wedding in the middle of nowhere, it might be difficult for some of your guests to get there. Think about transport solutions for your guests. Can large coaches get there with ease(i.e. are the roads too narrow? Is the driveway wide enough?). The best place to start is asking the venue what previous couples have done. As long as it’s not a brand new venue, they will have some good ideas on the practical aspects of getting people to and from the venue.


2. What’s included in the price

Do they include catering or is this an additional add-on? Are drinks included? Canapés? Evening snack? Many wedding venues supply you with a package that includes all of these things as standard but it’s worth checking as the costs can rack up quickly if they aren’t included. Think about the cost of the meal per person. It’s a good idea to get your guest list done before choosing your venue as it will make estimating your costs a lot easier.


3. Visualise your Wedding Day

When you visit a venue, think about how the venue can be used to make your day more enjoyable for yourself and the guests. For example, the venue may have a room that can be used for a drinks reception before you move to the main area for your meal. Small things like this can make the flow of your day more natural and interesting. Also think about photo opportunities. Do they have pleasant grounds? If it’s raining on your wedding day, what areas do they suggest you can use for photos inside?


4. Does it feel right?

You may visit a few venues. Hopefully, you will visit one and just know that it’s the right one. There are many guides you can read(like this one) which give you step-by-step instructions on how to choose the perfect wedding venues but in the end, you need to go with the one you love. Even if it’s the most impractical. It may be in the middle of nowhere. It may be a dung-filled cow shed. It may have no heating and only available on Christmas Eve, but if that’s the one you love, your guests will just have to put up with it. It’s your wedding, so do it the way you want.


Thoughts or concerns? Contact us at hello@bridebook.co.uk