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Bridebook Engagement Trends Report: 13 Key Wedding Trends for 2024 and Beyond

If you’re curious about what the key wedding trends will be for 2024 and beyond, you’ve come to the right place. Our Engagement Report provides unparalleled insights into the ever-changing landscape of weddings. Based on feedback from over 3,500 engaged couples planning weddings for 2024 and beyond, the report sheds light on the evolving preferences and trends that shape today’s weddings. Read on to get the low-down on the biggest trends for the year ahead, along with some expert insights from Fran Everist, Director of Sales and Marketing at Hedsor House in Buckingshamshire, on what’s popular with today’s couples, and why.

As the average amount couples spend on their wedding continues to rise in recent years, and as Gen Z couples come of age, we’re seeing plenty of new wedding trends emerge. From changing proposal dynamics and evolving style trends, to prioritising personalisation and guest experience to blending tradition with innovation, to embracing both sustainability and technology, 2024 weddings promise to be a unique tapestry of meaningful connections and stand-out experiences. Today’s couples are redefining traditional norms to create bespoke celebrations that reflect their diverse tastes and interests. Here are our top 13 trends to watch…

1. Gen Z is coming of age

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According to our survey, the average length of dating before engagement stands at 4.7 years, with 30-year-olds dating for 4+ years most likely to plan an engagement. And yet, in a notable shift, 23% of engaged couples are now part of Gen Z, a 12% increase from those married in 2022.

Gen Z, who are currently represented by those aged 11-26, are known for being digital natives with short attention spans (8 seconds!). They’re visually and video-led, and value social proof, authenticity, personalisation, and sustainability.

Younger couples, particularly 20-somethings, favour outdoor proposals specifically, and 27% choose to pop the question while on holiday. Family involvement is highest among Gen Z couples, with 49% seeking parental blessings in advance.

Perhaps surprisingly in today’s digital landscape, 61-71% of all couples don’t film or photograph their proposals. However, 67% share their engagement on social media within one day.

2. Couples are discussing marriage in advance

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Our Engagement Report reveals a significant difference in how Gen Z couples approach engagements. A notable 53% of 20-somethings discuss plans for marriage in advance of the engagement, compared to 32% of 40-somethings, which suggests transparency and shared decision-making are a key priority for younger couples specifically.

Commenting on this trend, Hamish Shephard, Bridebook’s founder and qualified wedding planner, notes, “Gen Z is redefining the narrative of engagements. Their decisions reflect a generation that values considered, meaningful connections, with an emphasis on taking the time to build a solid foundation before making lifelong commitments. Gen Z is clearly challenging traditional norms, clearly valuing open communication and partnership. The modern couple is breaking away from stereotypical gender roles, viewing marriage as a shared and collaborative journey.”

3. Pets are getting wedding invites, while parents’ friends are out

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Less than half of today’s couples will invite their parents’ friends. Our Engagement Report reveals that only 42% of Gen Z, 38% of Millennials and 27% of Gen X will invite them.

On the other hand, nearly 1-in-5 (21%) of Gen Z couples will include pets on their guest list. So it’s good news for your furry friends, though not quite so good news for your parents’ friends! Fran Everist tells us that Hedsor House has “seen a big leap in the numbers of couples bringing their dogs to their wedding. Take-up of our Canine Concierge service has trebled in the last year, with couples very much seeing their dogs as an essential part of the family. Pet donkeys, llamas and cats have also made it onto the guest list!”

On the subject of guest lists, half of couples will also allow children at their weddings, with older Gen X couples being the most likely to include children. When it comes to children at weddings, Fran Everist adds that while this does not yet relate to Gen Z couples, Millennials also “seem to be increasingly having the house and children first, and the wedding afterwards.”

4. TikTok as a wedding planning tool

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A notable 41% of Gen Z couples are using TikTok for wedding purposes, the highest among all segments. This represents a huge jump from 11% of all engaged couples in 2021, and not only suggests a preference for digital expression, but also highlights the profound impact that social media platforms can have on shaping the narrative of modern weddings.”

Hamish remarks, “As true digital natives, Gen Z couples are rewriting traditional approaches to wedding planning. We’re seeing a drive towards fostering a sense of community and inspiring others to embrace new and creative wedding trends.”

5. The rise of AI

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Today’s couples are embracing technology, with 7% using AI for music playlists and 5% turning to generative content for speeches, invitations and vows.

This again highlights that as weddings become both more personalised and tech-savvy, couples are embracing innovative tools to craft a truly unique celebration.

6. Sustainability takes centre stage

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Today’s couples are increasingly incorporating sustainability tactics into the weddings, from favouring lab-grown diamonds to upcycled decor and paper-free invitations. They also enjoy second-hand, meaningful items, especially jewellery:

47% will have plant-based confetti, the most popular eco-friendly activity.
Preference for ethical jewellery has more than doubled from 6% to 14%.
Preference for pre-loved attire has also more than doubled from 7% to 16%.
Upcycled decor and paper-free invitations have risen by almost 10% since 2022.
22% use second-hand items (such as grandmother’s ring, or family heirloom jewellery).
Many are considering selling their wedding decor and fashion items.

Gen Z are revealed to be most committed to sustainability, and are the group that is most likely to resell their wedding items, from decor to bridesmaid’s outfits and their wedding dress (21% of Gen Z will consider selling their wedding dress compared to 18% of Millennials).

Commenting on this trend, Fran Everist notes that “Hedsor House, which launched the very first carbon-neutral wedding package last year, is seeing a gradual shift in couples wanting more sustainable choices. Whether it’s swapping cut flowers in favour of faux blooms, or wanting their wedding breakfast to be locally sourced, couples are making meaningful changes to their day.”

7. Unique speciality catering is what it’s all about (especially pizza)

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Unique specialty catering gains popularity as couples look for new and different ways to entertain guests and create bespoke experiences. Couples want that stand-out, ‘wow’ factor.

Most notably, 16% of engaged couples want food trucks at their wedding. Of these planning for food trucks, nearly three-quarters (71%) will have a pizza van specifically. So if you’re fancying a fun and more laid-back catering option for your wedding next year, you won’t be alone! And this culinary customisation extends beyond savoury food: 1-in-4 (25%) couples plan to have pick ’n’ mix sweet stations, while 1-in-5 will have signature cocktails as the most popular specialty drink.

Fran Everist associates this trend with the rise of outdoor weddings, as more and more couples look for “relaxed dining options which mirror the vibe. Hedsor House is seeing an increase in requests for BBQs, hog roasts and street food. The classic English Afternoon Tea is also a growing favourite for those looking for elegance and insta-appeal.”

8. Champagne still rules as the top wedding drink

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Classic bubbly remains the favourite celebratory drink among today’s couples. Champagne will be served at 1-in-5 (21%) weddings in 2024. On the other hand, beer proves to be an unpopular wedding drink, with only 4% of couples planning to serve it.

Not many couples are going teetotal next year. Only 4% will have a completely alcohol-free wedding, while 3% will have a deliberately low-alcohol wedding. So it’s all about the bubbles!

9. Rustic vibes and green tones will reign supreme, while themed weddings gain in popularity

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Rustic vibes will dominate 2024 weddings, with greens reigning as the top wedding colour. Unique gemstones like emerald and moss agate gain popularity as 39% of Millennials and Gen Z couples plan rustic-style weddings, including having a barn or farmhouse as their wedding venue. A rustic wedding is a more informal style of wedding than is traditional. It’s one which draw inspiration from the countryside, incorporating elements of nature, vintage decor, DIY touches and warm, earthy tones, and ties in nicely with today’s couples’ commitment to sustainability and environmentalism.

Couples are clearly being drawn to the authenticity and intimacy that rustic aesthetics provide, and want to create a wedding atmosphere that feels both timeless and personally meaningful. 2024 weddings will celebrate individuality and depart from the conventional. Move over luxury glam or elegance! Next year is all about natural charm grounded in charm and simplicity.

Fran Everist notes that Hedsor House is seeing “couples increasingly wanting to marry outside which is very much about wanting to enjoy the unique country setting.”

Among Gen Z in particular, themed weddings are also in, with 6% of these couples planning a themed wedding. Popular themed wedding styles include Disney, Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, Halloween, celestial, festival and throwbacks like the 80s or TV sitcoms or movies.

Fran Everist agrees that “couples are increasingly bringing their unique personality to their nuptials. Hedsor House has seen a rise in themed weddings with Harry Potter, Pokémon and Mario Kart being recent examples.”

10. Top first dance songs combine the classic with the contemporary

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The top 25 first dance songs of 2024 feature legendary classics alongside contemporary hits, with Elvis Presley reigning supreme amidst male vocal ballads and country songs.

The no.1 first dance song of the year is an old favourite, “Can’t Help Falling In Love”, by Elvis Presley – no doubt seeing a revival following the 2022 biopic ‘Elvis’ – while Ed Sheeran, Shania Twain and Elton John each hold two songs in the top 25.

Male vocal ballads are trending as well. In particular, James Arthur, Lewis Capaldi, Biffy Clyro and Clinton Kane are firm favourites for 2024 first dance songs.

Country music songs are gaining popularity, with Luke Combs and Lonestar ranking the highest.

11. Weddings will be fun and games

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Weddings aren’t just the greatest parties of all time. They’re fabulous, showstopping spectacles, and a chance to enjoy unique experiences with the ones you love. Given today’s couples preference for unique, bespoke celebrations, it’s no wonder that couples are going beyond classic wedding music entertainment, like bands and DJs, opting to explore fun and quirky non-music entertainment too.

Couples getting married in 2024 don’t want stiff formal affairs, but are instead embracing informal playfulness. Most notably, our Engagement Report reveals that 23% of engaged couples want garden games to feature at their weddings. Think horseshoes, giant Jenga, lawn bowling, and croquet, and even old sports day classics like egg and spoon and sack or space hopper races.

In general, couples are looking to showcase a wide variety of entertainment. 19% will have fireworks, while 8% enjoy the idea of secret singers or singing waiters. Other interesting wedding entertainment options for 2024 include magic mirrors, a live portrait artist or caricaturist, axe throwing, and even mini golf/crazy golf. Couples are embracing anything and everything. The point is to put fun at the heart of their wedding, and to really prioritise guest experience.

Commenting on this trend towards spectacular and unique wedding entertainment, Fran Everist observes that “fireworks continue to be very popular at Hedsor House, and classic English lawn games like croquet are on the rise as couples embrace the outdoor country house vibe.”

And to hold on to these unique memories, 1-in-10 (11%) will have an audio guestbook. What a great way to bring guests’ experience to life, beyond the more traditional written notes.

12. Out with (some of) the old

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In the realm of wedding traditions, the ‘first look’ trend remains en vogue. More specifically, 22% of Gen Z couples enjoy this trend, the highest among all generational groups. Some other traditions are standing the test of time. For example, walking down the aisle by one or both parents, exchanging rings and vows, first dance, wedding speeches, and cake-cutting.

Yet other old wedding traditions are on their way out. Half of couples won’t have confetti or rice thrown at their wedding (Fran Everist comments that bubbles and sparklers are popular alternatives these days), and only half of couples will offer wedding favours to their guests.

Tossing the bouquet and carrying the bride over the threshold represent some of the least used traditions in today’s weddings. Couples are instead tossing away tradition, and turning to social media instead – specifically viral TikTok trends – and we’ll only see more of this moving into 2024.

Weddings in 2024 will clearly be an interesting tapestry of tradition and innovation, showcasing the diverse tastes and values of today’s progressive couples, who on the one hand continue to uphold traditions that remain relevant to them, but who equally aren’t afraid of creating bespoke experiences that to fit their unique vision and values.

13. Multi-day weddings and bigger is better

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When it comes to wedding lengths and timings, our Engagement Report shows that younger couples are favouring longer multi-day affairs, with 36% of Millennials and 34% of Gen Z planning weddings spanning more than one day to truly celebrate in style. Who can blame them? After all, why have just a single wedding day when you can have a wedding weekend! The younger generation clearly want to stretch out the celebrations as much as possible and make the most out of their weddings, following the American trend of having a rehearsal dinner the night before.

Fran Everist agrees that “multi-day weddings are definitely on the rise, whether that’s at weekends, or during the week. Rather than the inconvenience and expense of going abroad for destination weddings, many couples are choosing to create more relaxed UK experiences with extended celebrations. Morning-after brunches and night-before BBQs are often highlights; couples enjoy using all of the venue’s spaces for different aspects of their experience, including the grounds.”

This relates to a wider cultural shift among the youth of today. After the years of enforced isolation at the hands of the pandemic, followed by the war in Europe and the cost of living crisis, those who can afford it want to party, and bigger is better than ever. It’s all about the energy and all about the fun. And here at Bridebook, where creating joy underpins everything we do, we’re all for it.

The bottom line on 2024 wedding trends

There you have our top 13 trends of next year! With the influential rise of Gen Z weddings, 2024 weddings are poised to be a fusion of tradition and innovation and, above all, celebrate each couple’s joy through hyper-personalisation. Weddings have changed a lot in recent years, and are set to change even more before next year is out, while still clinging on to what makes them so special. Which of these new trends will you be incorporating into your own big day?

Happy Planning!

Your Step-By-Step Proposal Guide: In Partnership With The Proposers

If you’re thinking of proposing, you’ve come to the right place. It’s not just a case of dropping down on one knee – there a lots of moving parts to consider. So, whether you have a proposal in mind already, or are looking for inspiration, we’ve partnered with The Proposers to answer all your questions, from deciding when to pop the question to where to celebrate afterwards. Read on to learn from how to create a once-in-a-lifetime moment that you and your partner will treasure forever.

So, you’ve decided it’s time to pop the question – huge congratulations!

This is a very exciting moment in a relationship and quite a unique one as well. Whereas in a wedding you will both be planning together, a proposal is a perfect opportunity to plan a special surprise for your partner to show them just how much you care and to perfectly reflect on what you love about them as well as your relationship story thus far.

The holiday season is a perfect time to propose and one of the most popular as well, and we totally see why – the festive ambiance is all around, loved ones gather to celebrate and as a bonus point it leaves ample time to plan a beautiful summer wedding. We think there’s no better gift to give your partner than a stunning proposal this Christmas.

Below is The Proposers’ step-by-step guide to lead you all the way to ‘yes’:

1. Make sure you’re on the same page

As a preliminary step, we always recommend our couples discuss their future plans together, especially what they hope for in terms of getting married. Of course, this doesn’t need to give any of the proposal away – talk about generalities so that you know you are both on the same page. You can show them a TikTok that just ‘popped up’ on your feed or mention a recent colleague’s engagement as a prompt. It’s also a great opportunity to get a bit of information about what your partner may want for the proposal itself, what ring they’re dreaming of or if they want you to ask for permission from their parents – all useful details in taking the next steps.

2. Ask parents for permission

It’s tradition to ask for your partner’s hand in marriage from their father or from both parents depending on preference. If this is something that’s important to your partner, it’s a lovely sentiment to do so. In person is often best, we find. Soon you’ll all be family, so it’s a great opportunity to show your appreciation. Your partner’s parents will certainly value the gesture as well.

3. Pick the perfect ring

Now that you have the go-ahead, it’s time to shop for the perfect ring! Hopefully at this point you’ll have an indication of what your partner loves. Usually a diamond is preferred, and if that’s the case, consider what metal they would favour (such as platinum or gold), the shape (princess, round, pear are some options) and learn about the 4 Cs (carat, cut, clarity, colour), so that you can go into purchasing confidently. To get the sizing right when your partner isn’t watching, measure a ring they currently have that they often place on that finger. Otherwise, check out Bridebook’s guide on how to secretly measure your partner’s ring finger.

Of course, a diamond isn’t mandatory these days. If you think your partner would prefer another gemstone or even a different gift such as a watch, these are all excellent options as well, so long as it’s what you think your partner would love. Again, check out Bridebook’s top 30 unique alternatives to engagement rings for more inspiration. Some modern couples like to design the ring together, in which case you can propose with a place ring just for the photos.

4. Set the perfect scene

The good news is, there’s no right or wrong way to propose – the perfect ‘yes’ moment is totally dependent on who you are as a couple. Even so, we recommend considering the below when deciding how to ask.

Do you want a private proposal somewhere discreet, or public with the crowds cheering? Would your partner love a grand gesture with all the trimmings or something more small-scale and sentimental? Would they like friends or families to join or have it be just the both of you? The answers to the above will lend a hand when securing the perfect venue, which is essential in creating the desired atmosphere for those four all-important words.

Through our time planning proposals, we’ve had the fortune to work in many different settings, from privatising Disneyland just for the couple, to creating a flash mob in a central train station, and even closing a Cat Café for the day for a couple who loves felines. The venue of your proposal can be totally unique (like atop an epic landmark, such as a Swiss glacier), totally romantic (like a stunning hotel room with bouquets of roses all around), or tender and sweet (like the place you first met)!

Once you know the backdrop, consider what decoration you may want to enhance the ambience with. In the age of social media, it’s quite popular to have a display with lots of flowers and candles. While some locations can’t be decorated, particularly if you’re looking to propose in public, you can still get creative with other touches (as below).

5. Consider the special touches

No matter the setting, the details are really what makes a proposal meaningful. These are additional touches to really show your partner how much you care.

We always ask our clients about their love story, about activities or trips they’ve enjoyed with their partner, about their partner’s favourite things (like their hobbies, music, movies, colours) and about their dreams as a couple together. These points are helpful in understanding what makes your relationship unique, and can then be incorporated in creative ways into your engagement. From having your partner’s favourite song played in the background to toasting with a wine you enjoyed together on holiday – but this time with a personalised label with your proposal date – these touches will surely wow your partner!

6. Make it picture perfect

Consider hiring a professional photographer to shoot your proposal. This is the perfect way to ensure you have stunning images to go alongside your engagement announcement and to share with loved ones (who will want a full run-down of how it all happened). We absolutely love the candid shots a photographer captures when our clients walk in to the proposal venue and the surprise is revealed. These are priceless, and having this moment to reminisce on forevermore is truly something worthwhile.

It’s also a good idea to think about booking in a professional videographer or musician to serenade if you’re looking at creating a larger scale production. These aren’t mandatory, but a great add-on if budget allows.

7. Think about what you’re going to say

Once you’ve organised the running of the day, think of the specific moment itself. It will be extremely moving for your partner if you say a few meaningful words on such a momentous occasion. We recommend writing it down and committing it to memory so that you can remember everything you want to say in the moment.

8. Ready, set, ‘YES’

When the day arrives, and after all the groundwork has been laid out, our favourite tip is to try to relax and enjoy as much as possible. You’ve planned this special proposal for your partner, which they will surely adore, but don’t forget that this is a big milestone for you as well. The more you are in the moment and take it all in, the more you can truly have the best time and celebrate together!

Plan your proposal today!

If you’d like help organising your big day – we’re here to assist! The Proposers are the first ever proposal company in the world. With over 13 years of experience and 5,000 ‘yes’ moments to date, we love everything proposals. We will be delighted to hold your hand through the planning process for a hassle- free, magical “will you marry me”! Whatever vision you might have, we’ll make it a reality.

Happy Planning!

Jewish Wedding Ceremony Guide

Jewish wedding ceremonies are full of traditions and are wonderful celebrations of love and commitment. For centuries they’ve followed a similar structure and are steeped in spiritual meaning and symbolic rituals.

If you’re Jewish and about to start your wedding-planning journey, you no doubt have a lot of questions about your upcoming wedding ceremony. It’s only natural. But, while there are plenty of traditions at a Jewish ceremony, they’re also exciting and fun, and full of celebrations.

You may wonder how long a Jewish wedding ceremony lasts, the best date to have a Jewish wedding or how much they cost. When you have all the answers, you’ll be in the best possible position to start planning your own wedding.

That’s why, in this post, we’re going to answer the most common questions about Jewish wedding ceremonies. We’ll cover the costs, the traditions and what happens in what order, so you have all the information you need before planning your big day.

For more information about different wedding ceremonies, read our ultimate wedding ceremony guide, which answers even more questions.

What is a Jewish wedding ceremony?

A Jewish wedding ceremony is the coming together of a couple to get married while following the traditions established by their Jewish faith. It’s a time for joy and celebration as a couple promise to love and cherish each other for the rest of their lives. It combines biblical, legal, cultural and historical threads as a promise to your new spouse in front of God.

It’s taught that marriage is linked to the marriage between the Jewish people of Israel and God which happened at Mount Sinai, and is featured in the Book of Exodus.

Jewish ceremonies are absolutely steeped in rituals that have been in place for hundreds, if not thousands of years. However, there’s still a fair amount of personalisation allowed, which means you can make your wedding ceremony your own. That being said, you’re still likely to stick to many of the rituals and traditions that are expected at a Jewish ceremony.

If you’ve never been to a Jewish wedding ceremony before, you may be surprised by the new and wonderful traditions you’ll see, which are very different from traditional or other types of religious ceremonies.

What date should you have a Jewish wedding ceremony?

It’s important to pay close attention to the date you choose for your wedding, because it can have huge symbolic (and administrative) importance.

The Jewish calendar has days of joy as well as days of mourning. It’s recommended that you avoid days of mourning as it wouldn’t be appropriate to host a celebration on a date intended for reflection or rest. This means a Jewish wedding will never take place on a Saturday. The most popular day of the week for a Jewish wedding is a Sunday.

You’ll also want to avoid booking a wedding on a date that coincides with another celebration or holiday. For example, make sure you don’t book your wedding to take place at Passover, Yom Kippur, Rosh or Hashanah. Not only will many of your guests be unavailable on these dates, but you’ll also struggle to find a rabbi who’ll be available to officiate your wedding, as many will undoubtedly be busy.

What time does a Jewish wedding ceremony take place?

A Jewish wedding ceremony can take place at any time of the day, but will more frequently take place in the afternoon or early evening. While traditional weddings will often last all day, Jewish weddings are usually around seven hours or so long, which is why they tend to start a little later.

Is it common for Jewish weddings to include a religious service?

Yes, there will be a religious ceremony at the same time as a Jewish wedding ceremony. A wedding is a hugely important and sacred event that will always include many traditions and rituals, such as readings, prayers and blessings.

How popular are Jewish wedding ceremonies?

As you might expect, Jewish wedding ceremonies are popular only among Jewish communities. If you’re not Jewish, you’re not able to get married in a Jewish ceremony.

What type of couples usually choose a Jewish wedding ceremony?

Only couples where both the bride and groom are Jewish can get married in a Jewish ceremony. Mixed-faith marriages, or intermarriages, are common among Jewish people, but it can be difficult to find a rabbi who will perform a wedding ceremony unless they practice Reform Judaism.

A rabbi who’s an Orthodox Jew will be highly unlikely to agree to officiate a mixed-faith ceremony. In this case, if you’re set on a Jewish ceremony, the non-Jewish half of the couple would need to convert to Judaism.

Are Jewish weddings expensive?

According to Bridebook’s 2023 Wedding Report, the average cost of a wedding in the UK is £19,184. This may already sound like an eye-watering amount, however, it actually may be reasonable when compared to many Jewish weddings.

According to data from The Jewish Chronicle, Jewish wedding celebrations can cost as much much as £55,000. It’s thought that many couples feel pressured to keep up with others who throw lavish and expensive weddings, which is causing many to spend more and more.

However, spending so much on your wedding doesn’t need to be the case. Creating a budget and sticking to it is vital if you want to avoid costs spiraling.

Thankfully, you can throw a beautiful Jewish wedding and not spend anything close to £55,000. It all depends on your preferences, tastes, style and – mainly – budget.

For plenty of tips and information for keeping costs down, read our guide on how to save money on your wedding.

What is the breaking the glass tradition at a Jewish wedding?

The tradition of breaking a glass at a Jewish wedding ceremony is possibly one of the most widely known, even for those who aren’t Jewish themselves.

The glass that’s broken is often a wine glass, but some choose to break a light bulb as the glass is thin and easily broken. Traditionally, the groom is the one who’ll stand on the glass which is placed under a towel or cloth for safety. But, many modern Jewish couples like to break the glass together, or may even choose to break a glass each.

What the tradition actually stands for is down to individual beliefs and interpretations. Many see the glass as a representation of love and marriage, and how breaking the glass symbolises just how fragile marriage can be. Others claim it might represent the First Temple of Jerusalem, which was destroyed by Nebuchadnezzar, the king of Babylon, in 586 BC.

After the glass is broken, the guests will all cheer by shouting Mazel tov, which is the Yiddish word for good fortune or congratulations.

Who officiates a Jewish wedding ceremony?

A Jewish wedding ceremony is officiated by a rabbi, who is a Jewish spiritual leader. The rabbi makes sure that the correct rituals are upheld at the ceremony. There also needs to be a registrar to ensure the marriage is legal, which may be the rabbi, or more likely another member of the synagogue.

Is a Jewish wedding legally binding?

Yes, a Jewish wedding is legally binding in the UK so long as the synagogue’s registrar and two witnesses are present at the ceremony.

Where are Jewish wedding ceremonies held?

There’s a lot of flexibility when it comes to where a Jewish wedding ceremony can take place. This may be in a synagogue, a Jewish place of worship, or it could be another appropriate venue. It could also take place outside, which is fairly common with Jewish ceremonies – but mainly in warmer and more reliable climates than that experienced here in the UK.

The main consideration for a ceremony venue is that a chuppah can be set up. A chuppah is a cloth canopy that’s held up by four supporting posts and represents the Jewish home. This is often why Jewish ceremonies take place in large or open spaces, so they can accommodate the chuppah. Today, modern Jewish couples may opt to have the ceremony at a venue such as a hotel, which can also host the post-wedding celebrations.

How long are Jewish wedding ceremonies?

Jewish wedding ceremonies are usually between 30 and 45 minutes. This is because there’s usually a set structure that includes a lot of religious rituals and traditions.

For information on the length of different wedding ceremonies, read our guide to how long wedding ceremonies take.

What words are exchanged at a Jewish wedding ceremony?

During a Jewish wedding ceremony, the vows are exchanged at the same time the rings are exchanged. The words they exchange are:

Harey at mekuddeshet li B’taba’at zo k’dat Moshe V’israel.

In English, this means:

Behold, thou are consecrated unto me with this ring according to the law of Moses and Israel.

The couple will often recite words from the Song of Solomon, which are, Ani L’dodi V’dodi Li. This means, I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.

Do Jewish couples fast before the wedding ceremony?

Because a wedding day is considered a day of forgiveness, many couples choose to honour this by fasting. The fast will continue until after the ceremony when they can share their first meal together.

What traditions are there at a Jewish wedding ceremony?

Jewish wedding ceremonies are known for being packed with fabulous traditions and rituals that have a huge amount of meaning. Just some of the most widely known Jewish wedding ceremony traditions include:

Aufruf, which means to call up in Yiddish. It’s when the rabbi invites the couple for blessings, known as aliyah and misheberach. Guests can throw soft sweets at the couple as a way to wish them a sweet life.
Ketubah, which is the signing of the marriage contract.
Bedeken, when the groom puts the veil over the bride’s face to symbolise that he loves her inner beauty.
Circling, which is when the bride and groom walk around each other to ward off evil spirits and temptation.
The exchanging of the rings, which is also traditional at many other wedding ceremonies.
The seven blessings, known as Sheva B’rachot, which are readings performed by family members.
Breaking the glass, which is possibly one of the most famous Jewish wedding ceremony traditions, where traditionally the groom smashes a glass to symbolise the fragility of marriage.
Cheering Mazel tov, which means good fortune or congratulations.

What do you wear at a Jewish wedding?

Reform Judaism doesn’t have any requirements or restrictions on what couples should wear to their wedding. However, Orthodox Judaism asks for brides to wear a white dress that covers their shoulders, back and nothing with a plunging neckline. Traditionally, the bride will also wear a veil, especially if the couple wants to honour bedeken.

The groom will traditionally wear a kitel, which is a white linen robe. However, many grooms at modern Jewish weddings prefer to wear a suit.

Guests to a Jewish wedding will usually wear a suit and tie or long evening dress.

What is the order at a Jewish wedding ceremony?

Jewish Wedding Ceremony Order Cheat Sheet — This infographic illustrates a Jewish wedding ceremony order

We’ve already mentioned that Jewish wedding ceremonies are filled with many wonderful traditions. As part of this, they tend to follow a set structure to ensure these traditions and rituals are upheld. Below is an example of the order of a Jewish wedding ceremony:

1. The ketubah

Unlike other types of wedding ceremony, the marriage contract, called the ketubah, is signed before the ceremony begins. Two witnesses must also sign the contract, along with a registrar, who may or may not be the rabbi.

2. The bedeken

Next, the groom will veil the bride to symbolise that he loves her for her inner beauty. It also allows him to see her face beforehand so he knows who he’s marrying.

3. The processional

The ceremony commences with the rabbi walking down the aisle first. The wedding party then follows in this order:

Bride’s grandparents
Groom’s grandparents
Groomsmen
Best man
The groom and both parents
Bridesmaids
Maid of honour
Ring bearer
Flower girl
The bride and both parents

4. The vows

The couple stands together beneath the chuppah, a canopy supported by four tall supports, which symbolises the new home. Guided by the rabbi, the couple recites their vows.

5. The hakafot

The hakafot, also known as the circling, is a lovely ritual that traditionally involves the bride walking around the groom seven times. However, many modern couples like to take turns circling each other to demonstrate how they’ll both protect each other.

6. The exchanging of the rings

The ketubah, which the couple signed before the ceremony, is read aloud. As this happens, the couple exchange rings and a Hebrew prayer is recited. In modern weddings, it may be more common for the prayer to be recited in English.

7. The seven blessings

The guests of your choosing are invited to give blessings, which may be in Hebrew or English. Alternatively, you may ask the rabbi to give the blessings.

8. The breaking of the glass

One of the highlights of the ceremony and a hugely popular tradition. A glass is placed beneath a cloth or napkin, which the groom then stamps on to break it. Modern couples may wish to break the glass together, or break a glass each. Following this, the rabbi usually reads from Psalms.

9. Mazel tov

Guests will excitedly shout mazel tov, which means good fortune or congratulations.

10. The recessional

The ceremony has concluded and the wedding party leaves as the guests celebrate and cheer. The recessional is in the following order:

The couple
Bride’s parents
Groom’s parents
Bride’s grandparents
Groom’s grandparents
Flower girl
Ring bearer
Best man
Maid of honour
Bridesmaids
Groomsmen

For more information on wedding ceremony orders, read our guide to wedding ceremony orders.

How does the process of signing the ketubah work?

The signing of the ketubah is more than a simple legal document. It’s also an important symbolic document that outlines all the expectations and responsibilities of the bride and groom.

Ahead of the wedding, the couple meets with the rabbi to choose a ketubah that has a design and wording that suits them. This is partly because the ketubah is often framed and displayed after the wedding.

During the signing, the couple is joined by two witnesses, traditionally male and not related to the couple, who will also sign.

How do you book a Jewish wedding ceremony?

To book your Jewish wedding ceremony, visit your local synagogue and speak to your rabbi to discuss what you’d like from your upcoming wedding.

Who plans a Jewish wedding ceremony?

You can plan a Jewish wedding ceremony yourself with help from your rabbi. For the rest of your wedding day, you can plan this yourself or hire a wedding planner to help.

What comes after a Jewish wedding ceremony?

Traditionally, following a Jewish wedding ceremony, the bride and groom are taken to the yihud, which is a private room where they can spend a short period of time together. Many couples choose to eat their first meals as a married couple in the yihud. While inside, witnesses wait outside the door to make sure the couple isn’t disturbed.

Following the yihud, the couple rejoins their guests to take part in a feast, followed by celebrations, drinks and dancing.

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25 Best Bible Readings for a Wedding Ceremony

Words from the Bible have truly stood the test of time. In a world where the pace of life seems to get quicker every day, Bible verses offer a gentle reminder of the virtues that bind us together — love, kindness, and the importance of faith.

Including a Bible reading in your wedding service is a beautiful and traditional way to express how you feel about your new spouse. It’s also a great way to ensure your wedding ceremony is rooted in your Christian beliefs and sets the stage for a marriage built on a foundation of faith and love.

But, with 3,145 verses in the Old Testament and 7,957 verses in the New Testament, it can be tricky knowing which wedding verse to pick. Read on for our 25 favourite wedding verses in the Bible, as well as some top tips on how to include a Bible reading in your special day.

What makes a good wedding reading from the Bible?

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The most important thing about choosing a reading from the Bible is that it resonates with you, your partner, and your unique love story. The timeless nature of Bible verses means they can apply to lots of different situations or stages of life. The most important things to consider are:

Is it relevant to your relationship?
Does it suit the tone of your wedding?
Can you connect with the verse or use it as a source of inspiration?
Is it inclusive of those present?

If the answer to all or most of these questions is yes, then you’ve picked a good Bible verse for your wedding!

How to include a Bible reading in your wedding ceremony

There are multiple ways to work a Bible reading into your wedding ceremony. These include:

As a wedding reading

If you prefer a longer wedding verse or Bible story, you can use this as a wedding reading. Choosing a longer reading allows you to dive into the meaning of the text and emphasise the values included as a key part of your service.

As wedding vows

You can either incorporate a longer Bible verse into your vows or use shorter vows to draw emphasis to certain promises. For example, you could use Corinthians 16:14: “Do everything in love,” to highlight how you will do everything in love during your marriage.

For guest readings

If you’d like your guests to make readings during the ceremony, asking them to pick their favourite Bible verse is a great way to include them in your service. It not only removes the stress from picking a wedding reading, but it will help you get to know them a little better. After all, their favourite Bible verse will tell you a lot about their character, values, and how they practise their faith.

If the guest you ask to make a reading isn’t religious, ask them to read a Bible verse that resonates with you or your partner. This way, you can still incorporate the wisdom of scripture into your ceremony and remove the burden of choice from your guest.

During wedding speeches

Wedding speeches are a great chance to incorporate Bible verses into your wedding ceremony, especially if your service isn’t religious. You could either try using whole Bible verses in place of a speech or incorporating a few lines of your favourite verses for a touch of spiritual significance.

In thank you cards

You could also incorporate a few Bible verses into your wedding thank you cards. This is a great way to keep the spirituality of your big day alive, even after the ceremony has concluded. Try using 1 Thessalonians 3:12 to express your gratitude, “May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each other and for everyone else.”

5 short Bible readings for a wedding

Romans 12:10: Be devoted to one another in love. Honour one another above yourselves.
Romans 13:8: Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.
Ephesians 4:32: Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
Song of Solomon 8:7: Many waters cannot quench love; rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all the wealth of his house for love, it would be utterly scorned.
Ephesians 5:25: For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her…

5 unique Bible readings for a wedding

The First Letter of Saint John 4:7-12: Beloved, let us love one another, because love is of God; everyone who loves is begotten by God and knows God. Whoever is without love does not know God, for God is love…
Song of Solomon 8:6-7: Place me like a seal over your heart, like a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death, its jealousy as enduring as the grave. Love flashes like fire, the brightest kind of flame…
Song of Solomon 6:3: I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine. My beloved speaks and says to me: Arise, my love, my fair one, and come away; for lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone. The flowers appear on the earth, the time of singing has come, and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land…
Psalms 92:12-15: The righteous flourish like the palm tree, and grow like a cedar in Lebanon. They are planted in the house of the Lord; they flourish in the courts of our God. In old age they still produce fruit; they are always green and full of sap, showing that the Lord is upright; he is my rock, and there is no unrighteousness in him.
Isaiah 62:4-5: People will not call you Deserted anymore. They will no longer name your land Empty. Instead, you will be called One the Lord Delights In. Your land will be named Married One. That’s because the Lord will take delight in you. And your land will be married. As a young man marries a young woman, so your Builder will marry you. As a groom is happy with his bride, so your God will be full of joy over you.

5 beautiful Bible readings about love and marriage

Genesis 2:18–22: Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”…So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh; and the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.
Genesis 2:24: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Ephesians 5:25-29: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendour, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church…
Matthew 19:4-6: “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-5: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

5 Old Testament readings for a wedding

Proverbs 30:18-19: There are three things that amaze me—no, four things that I don’t understand: how an eagle glides through the sky, how a snake slithers on a rock, how a ship navigates the ocean, how a man loves a woman.
Ruth 1:16-17: Entreat me not to leave you, Or to turn back from following after you; For wherever you go, I will go; And wherever you lodge, I will lodge; Your people shall be my people, And your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, And there will I be buried. The Lord do so to me, and more also, If anything but death parts you and me.
Proverbs 31:10-13: When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls. Her husband, entrusting his heart to her, has an unfailing prize. She brings him good, and not evil, all the days of her life.
Song of Songs 2:8-10: Hark! my lover—here he comes springing across the mountains, leaping across the hills. My lover is like a gazelle or a young stag. Here he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, peering through the lattices. My lover speaks; he says to me, “Arise, my beloved, my dove, my beautiful one, and come!”
Book of Sirach 26:1-4: Blessed the husband of a good wife, twice-lengthened are his days; A worthy wife brings joy to her husband, peaceful and full is his life. A good wife is a generous gift bestowed upon him who fears the Lord; Be he rich or poor, his heart is content, and a smile is ever on his face.

5 New Testament readings for a wedding

Colossians 3:14: And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Letter of Saint Paul to the Ephesians 5:2a: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the Church and handed himself over for her to sanctify her, cleansing her by the bath of water with the word, that he might present to himself the Church in splendour, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. So also husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one hates his own flesh but rather nourishes and cherishes it, even as Christ does the Church, because we are members of his Body.
Book of Revelation 19:1: “Alleluia! The Lord has established his reign, our God, the almighty. Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory. For the wedding day of the Lamb has come, his bride has made herself ready. She was allowed to wear a bright, clean linen garment.” Then the angel said to me, “Write this: Blessed are those who have been called to the wedding feast of the Lamb.” The word of the Lord.
John 15:9-10: As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love.
John 2:1-11: On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. When the wine gave out, the mother of Jesus said to him, ‘They have no wine.’ And Jesus said to her, ‘Woman, what concern is that to you and to me? My hour has not yet come.’ His mother said to the servants, ‘Do whatever he tells you.’ Now standing there were six stone water-jars for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to them, ‘Fill the jars with water.’ And they filled them up to the brim. He said to them, ‘Now draw some out, and take it to the chief steward.’ So they took it. When the steward tasted the water that had become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the steward called the bridegroom and said to him, ‘Everyone serves the good wine first, and then the inferior wine after the guests have become drunk. But you have kept the good wine until now.’ Jesus did this, the first of his signs, in Cana of Galilee, and revealed his glory; and his disciples believed in him.

The bottom line on wedding verses in the Bible

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Weaving Bible verses into your readings, speeches, or thank you cards is a great way to inject some spirituality into your wedding ceremony. Whether you’re planning on a church service or a more secular celebration, these verses can add a sacred touch that resonates with the essence of love, family, and commitment.

Bible verses can be used on their own or peppered throughout your wedding reading or speech. The best Bible verses will be those that resonate with you as a couple, or that represent your hopes and dreams for your married life.

So, whether you’re deeply religious or have a more casual relationship with spirituality, there’s always space for a Bible quote on your wedding day. If you’re looking for a shorter quote than the readings above, check out our post on 110 inspiring love quotes, which includes 10 short Bible quotes. Otherwise, see our post on wedding speech ideas, which contains inspiration for every type of wedding speech.

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15 Romantic and Inspiring Love Poems for Your Wedding Ceremony

Listen, we get it — traditional religious readings and speeches aren’t for everyone. Your wedding is a reflection of your unique love story, and if you’re looking to break away from convention and infuse your ceremony with a touch of personal flair, you’re not alone.

Having a poetry reading as part of your wedding ceremony is a creative and artistic way to express your feelings of love and happiness on your big day. Whether you choose a classic piece that has stood the test of time or a contemporary gem that speaks to your unique connection, a well-chosen poem can really elevate your ceremony.

However, you’ll need a poem that fits the vibe of your wedding. We’ve compiled a collection of our 15 favourite wedding poems. So, whether you’re looking for something short, romantic, non-religious, modern, or rhyming, we’ve got you covered. Alternatively, if you’re looking for a simple quote about love, check out our dedicated post featuring 110 inspiring love quotes for your wedding day.

What makes a good love poem?

A good love poem is anything that touches the hearts of you and your partner and reflects your personal love story. It can be long or short, rhyming or not rhyming, and even have a joke in there if you’d like! The most important thing is that it means something to you and your partner.

Love poems are the perfect alternative to wedding vows, readings, or even speeches if you’re stuck for words. They’re also a great way to gain inspiration, structure your vows or speech, or simply make your wedding day more artistic and poetic.

How can I incorporate poems about love in my speech or message?

There are a few ways you can incorporate poems about love into your wedding speech or message:

Instead of a speech or vows. If the cat’s got your tongue or you’re feeling the wedding day nerves, using a love poem in place of your own vows or speech can be a great way to calm your nerves. Love poems are expertly written and many have stood the test of time, making them the perfect addition to your special day.

As inspiration. If you love the way a poem makes you feel, but aren’t crazy about the words, consider using it to inspire your wedding vows or speech. For example, instead of, “I will love you in a unique and tender way,” you could try, “I truly believe there isn’t a love as unique or tender as ours.”

Use a few lines of the love poem. Try peppering your vows or speech with a few lines from your favourite poem. You could even quote your favourite part of the poem. For example, “Pablo Nerunda says, ‘I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride’. That’s especially true of James and I. Our love isn’t over the top or fluffy — it’s safe and secure. Uncomplicated.”

3 short wedding poems

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1. The Minute I Heard My First Love Story – Rumi

The minute I heard my first love story,

I started looking for you,

not knowing how blind that was.

Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere.

They’re in each other all along.

2. When Two People Are At One – I Ching

When two people are at one in their inmost hearts,

they shatter even the strength of iron or bronze.

And when two people understand each other in their inmost hearts,

their words are sweet and strong,

like the fragrance of orchids.

3. In Your Light I Learn How To Love – Rumi

In your light I learn how to love.

In your beauty, how to make poems.

You dance inside my chest, where no one sees you,

but sometimes I do, and that sight becomes this art.

3 romantic wedding poems

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1. Devoted – Lori Eberhai

My heart can be your home,

my soul can be your refuge.

You can turn to me when you are weak,

you can call to me when the way is not clear.

I will be your promise and your prayer,

I will always be there,

Constant and complete.

Run to me,

reach out for me,

and I will love you in a unique and tender way.

Bring your love to me,

share your love with me,

sing your love to me,

and I will offer you peace, ease and comfort.

2. Stardust – Lang Leav

If you came to me with a face I have not seen,

with a name I have never heard,

I would still know you.

Even if centuries separated us,

I would still feel you.

Somewhere between the sand and the stardust,

through every collapse and creation,

there is a pulse that echoes of you and I.

When we leave this world,

we give up all our possessions and our memories.

Love is the only thing we take with us.

It is all we carry from one life to the next.

3. I’ll Be There For You – Louise Cuddon

I’ll be there my darling, through thick and through thin

When your mind’s in a mess and your head’s in a spin

When your plane’s been delayed, and you’ve missed the last train.

When life is just threatening to drive you insane

When your thrilling whodunit has lost its last page

When somebody tells you, you’re looking your age

When your coffee’s too cool, and your wine is too warm

When the forecast said “Fine”, but you’re out in a storm

When your quick break hotel, turns into a slum

And your holiday photos show only your thumb

When you park for five minutes in a resident’s bay

And return to discover you’ve been towed away

When the jeans that you bought in hope or in haste

Just stick on your hips and don’t reach round your waist

When the food you most like brings you out in red rashes

When as soon as you boot up the bloody thing crashes

So my darling, my sweetheart, my dear…

When you break a rule, when you act the fool

When you’ve got the flu, when you’re in a stew

When you’re last in the queue, don’t feel blue,

‘Cause I’m telling you, I’ll be there.

3 non-religious wedding poems

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1. Time travellers – Terah Cox

May you take on the world together

with all your hopes and dreams,

May you be each other’s anchor

in smooth or rocky seas.

May you bend to the world’s winds

and brave stalls and storms,

May you find common ground

in all its changing forms.

May you cross stubborn boundaries

and turn many a stone,

May you find haven for your souls,

may you have heart and home.

And if some nights are grey,

and some nights are long and cold,

May you be each other’s sun and moon

as your destinies unfold.

And should you lose sight of each other

and start to drift apart,

May you circle back by following the compass of your hearts.

2. Marriage Advice – Jane Wells

Let your love be stronger than your hate or anger.

Learn the wisdom of compromise,

For it is better to bend a little than to break.

Believe the best rather than the worst.

People have a way of living up or down to your opinion of them.

Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship.

The person you choose to marry

is deserving of the courtesies and kindness you bestow on your friends.

Please hand this down to your children and your children’s children.

3. To Love Is Not To Possess – James Kavanaugh

To love is not to possess,

To own or imprison,

Nor to lose one’s self in another.

Love is to join and separate,

To walk alone and together,

To find a laughing freedom

That lonely isolation does not permit.

It is finally to be able

To be who we really are

No longer clinging in childish dependency

Nor docilely living separate lives in silence,

It is to be perfectly one’s self

And perfectly joined in permanent commitment

To another — and to one’s inner self.

Love only endures when it moves like waves,

Receding and returning gently or passionately,

Or moving lovingly like the tide

In the moon’s own predictable harmony,

Because finally, despite a child’s scars

Or an adult’s deepest wounds,

They are openly free to be

Who they really are — and always secretly were,

In the very core of their being

Where true and lasting love can alone abide.

3 modern wedding poems

1. Sonnet XVII ― Pablo Neruda

I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz,

or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.

I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,

in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms

but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;

thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,

risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.

I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;

so I love you because I know no other way than this:

where I does not exist, nor you,

so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,

so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.

2. Wedding Vow Haiku – Tracy Davidson

I promise to love

and will gladly honour you

but obey? no way!

3. Variations On The Word Love – Margaret Atwood

This is a word we use to plug

holes with. It’s the right size for those warm

blanks in speech, for those red heart-

shaped vacancies on the page that look nothing

like real hearts. Add lace

and you can sell

it. We insert it also in the one empty

space on the printed form

that comes with no instructions. There are whole

magazines with not much in them

but the word love, you can

rub it all over your body and you

can cook with it too. How do we know

it isn’t what goes on at the cool

debaucheries of slugs under damp

pieces of cardboard? As for the weed-

seedlings nosing their tough snouts up

among the lettuces, they shout it.

Love! Love! sing the soldiers, raising

their glittering knives in salute.

Then there’s the two

of us. This word

is far too short for us, it has only

four letters, too sparse

to fill those deep bare

vacuums between the stars

that press on us with their deafness.

It’s not love we don’t wish

to fall into, but that fear.

This word is not enough but it will

have to do. It’s a single

vowel in this metallic

silence, a mouth that says

O again and again in wonder

and pain, a breath, a finger

grip on a cliffside. You can

hold on or let go.

3 rhyming wedding poems

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1. These I Can Promise – Mark Twain

I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;

I cannot promise riches, wealth, or gold;

I cannot promise you an easy pathway

That leads away from change or growing old.

But I can promise all my heart’s devotion;

A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow;

A love that’s ever true and ever growing;

A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.

2. What’s Mickey Without Minnie? Author unknown

What’s Mickey without Minnie,

Or Piglet without Pooh,

What’s Donald without Daisy?

That’s me without you.

When Ariel doesn’t sing,

and Pooh hates honey,

when Tigger stops bouncing,

and Goofy isn’t funny.

When Peter Pan can’t fly,

and Simba never roars,

when Alice no longer fits through small doors.

When Dumbo’s ears are small, and happily ever after isn’t true,

Even then, I won’t stop loving you.

3. Be My Homer – CJ Munn

Be my Homer

I wanna be your Marge.

If I’m your Norfolk Broads

Will you be my barge?

Let’s please be Tom and Barbara,

I will show you The Good Life.

Even though we’re not yet married

I would love to be your wife.

I’ve the passion Lily Munster

has for her dear Herman.

I would love you if you were ginger,

I would love you if you were German.

Like Mr and Mrs Huxtable,

We’d smooch even when we’re wrinkly.

I’ll even consider ironing your shirts,

But I hope you like them crinkly.

Like Mr and Mrs Incredible

I’m flexible and you’re tough.

But if you promise to be my true love

That will always be enough.

Like Bonny and that Clyde guy

without all the dying.

Like Gwyneth and that Coldplay man

without all the crying.

My partner in crime, the love of my life.

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If you’re looking for something more engaging than a simple wedding speech, love poetry is the perfect fit. A great wedding poem can take the place of a wedding speech, vows, or even reading. However, you can also use them as inspiration for your speech or vows, or quote them directly if you’d prefer. In the realm of wedding poetry, there are no limits.

In the realm of wedding poetry, there are no limits. You can find long poems or short ones, romantic or funny, religious or not — the possibilities are endless. You can choose verses that resonate with your shared sense of humour, tug at the heartstrings, or celebrate your unique journey together. Try to pick something that’s relevant to you as a couple and your love story.

So, whatever kind of wedding you’re planning, there will be a wedding poem for you. Read our posts on crafting a funny wedding speech or wedding speech ideas to learn how to effortlessly incorporate a love poem into your vows or speeches!

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The Best Wedding Stationery to Buy – Bridebook x Papier

There’s no better way to tell a wedding story that lasts a lifetime than with the finest paper details. In this digital age, there’s something extra special about sending and receiving real paper correspondence – giving you and your guests something to treasure beyond the big day. From contemporary designs to timeless classics, Papier is our top choice for wedding stationery to elevate your celebration from start to finish. (Psst: keep scrolling for an exclusive promo code!)

Reasons to choose Papier

From save the dates and invitations, to menus, place cards and order of service, plus thank yous, guest books and photo books, Papier’s wedding stationery spans every chapter of your wedding journey. Everything can be easily personalised with your own words and event details.

Here are just a few more reasons why Papier is at the very top of our wedding stationery wish list:

Stationery for every stage of your wedding journey (pre-wedding, on the day and post-wedding).
Hand-painted designs with extraordinary details, printed on premium, textured paper.
The option to order your first sample FREE – experience their quality firsthand and be sure before you buy.
A wedding style finder that provides a tailored selection of stationery just for you.
A friendly team of experts who can tweak and tailor any design to bring your unique paper vision to life, whether you’d like to customise colours or add new elements.

And if that wasn’t all, Bridebook couples can get a 15% discount off their first Papier order with code BRIDEBOOK15. So, what are you waiting for? Start telling your wedding story with Papier now.

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No matter where you are in your wedding planning process, Papier has endless paper details to reflect your personal style. All designed with love in mind and ready to be made distinctly yours – pick and personalise your designs today!

Unique New Year’s Eve Proposal Ideas

You and your partner are at a New Year’s Eve party. You’re riding the high at the end of a fantastic festive season and as the clock nears midnight you feel in your pocket to make sure the ring’s still there. You’ve had a couple of drinks to steady your nerves as the big moment approaches.

The countdown begins… 10… 9… 8…7…

You get the ring out of your pocket.

6… 5… 4… 3…

You get down on one knee. Your partner is shocked, people around you gasp as the countdown reaches zero and everyone exclaims HAPPY NEW YEAR, but as you and your partner lock eyes, it’s like the two of you are the only ones in the room.

Will you marry me?

Then as you get your YES, incredible fireworks paint the sky with a flurry of wonderful colours and sounds.

What a stunning way to ask the love of your life to marry you and kick off the new year in the most incredible way imaginable. But, a New Year’s Eve party proposal is just one of the ways you can ask them to spend the rest of their life with you. There are plenty more memorable ways to make this New Year’s Eve one you’ll remember forever.

In this post, we’ll explore the many ways you can ask your partner to marry you on New Year’s Eve, and why the last day of the year makes for the perfect day to pop the question to your partner.

Is it popular to get engaged on New Year’s Eve?

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Yes, New Year’s Eve is one of the most popular days for couples to get engaged. With the start of the new year just hours away, it’s already a magical time for a celebration, with people getting together, drinks flowing and fireworks lighting up the sky. For many, it makes for the perfect backdrop to ask one of the biggest questions of all.

Our annual Wedding Report found that in the UK, more than a quarter (26%) of all proposals happen in December, and 31st December is one of the top 10 dates for someone to get down on one knee. The good news is, while it is popular, it’s not seen as a cliché like other dates, such as Valentine’s Day or 29th February. So, if you want to pop the question this New Year’s Eve, we think you should go for it!

Should you propose on New Year’s Eve?

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Whether or not you should propose on New Year’s Eve is a decision only you can make. But, if you’re considering it, then there’s nothing quite like a New Year’s Eve proposal.

The start of a new year is a chance for a new beginning. If you’re keen for that new beginning to include a fiance standing at your side, then there’s no better time for it.

It’s worth making sure that your partner would be comfortable sharing such a special moment with a date that’s already significant in many peoples’ lives. If you’ve made the decision to propose, you’ve probably had conversations about a proposal with your partner, so you should have a good idea about what they’d like from one. If that includes a New Year’s Eve proposal, then great!

There’s also a potential stumbling block in the form of the cost of a proposal at that time of year. In the UK, the average cost of an engagement ring is £1,978, and with the costs of Christmas (as well as there being a long wait until January’s payday) these extra costs can be a dealbreaker. But, if you’ve saved for an engagement ring or you know your partner doesn’t want to wear one, then what’s stopping you?

For more information, read our guide to how to propose on New Year’s Eve so you can plan the most wonderful end-of-year proposal.

Why is New Year’s Eve a great day for a proposal?

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New Year’s Eve is a wonderful day to propose to your partner. Here are just some of the reasons why you should consider it if you’re still not quite sure it’s right for you:

New Year’s Eve is all about new beginnings, which can be beautifully realised with an engagement.
You’re likely to already be nicely dressed, which means asking your partner to get dressed up for a big night won’t be suspicious.
There will be plenty of fireworks at midnight.
It’s not a cliché like other romantic days of the year.
The drinks will be flowing.
You might be surrounded by loved ones who can share the moment with you.

Need more convincing? Read more about it in our guide for how to propose on New Year’s Eve.

12 fabulous New Year’s Eve proposal ideas

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Excited to pop the question to your partner and give them a New Year’s Eve the two of you will never forget? Below are 12 ideas for a magical New Year’s Eve proposal so you can get your YES and start the new year riding that engagement high.

1. Ask on a New Year’s Eve trip

While Christmas is often considered a holiday for spending time with family, New Year’s Eve can be whatever you want it to be. Just because Christmas is over it doesn’t mean you can’t have one more sneaky surprise up your sleeve in the form of a night or two away. That in itself is a wonderful way to welcome the new year, but throw in a proposal and you’ve got the makings of a night the two of you will treasure forever.

2. Use your Christmas tree

If you put up a Christmas tree and still have it up into the new year, why not include it in your proposal? After all, it’s beautiful and magical, so it would be a shame to waste it.

You could hide the engagement ring within the branches as a surprise New Year’s Eve gift, or rearrange the lights to spell out WILL YOU MARRY ME? You could even disguise the engagement ring as a Christmas decoration and have it hiding in plain sight throughout the whole festive period, right until the perfect moment in the last few hours of the year.

Or, finding one last gift below the tree is always guaranteed to shock and delight your partner.

For more Christmassy inspiration, read our post featuring 12 Christmas Day proposal ideas which share a lot of similarities with New Year’s Eve.

3. As the clock strikes midnight

A New Year’s countdown is always exciting as people eagerly await to bring in the New Year. It’s also a popular time for couples to tell each other how they feel and welcome in the new year with a kiss. Use this moment of romance to ask your partner to marry you and start the new year with the greatest feeling ever.

4. Create a photo album of the last year

Because it’s so easy to take digital photographs these days, the art of the physical photo album is fast becoming lost. But, why not put together an album featuring your memories over the past 12 months? Then, on the final page and secured there with delicate ribbon, a beautiful engagement ring.

Not only is it loving and thoughtful, but an engagement photo album is also poetic, as it means one of the first and last things you’ll do across your wedding journey is look through a photo album together.

5. Have a New Year’s Eve bash with loved ones

A New Year’s Eve party is a great way to celebrate with friends and family. Plus, if you ask your partner to marry you, it can quickly turn into an engagement party as the clock strikes midnight and you crack open a few bottles of fizz. If you give one or two party guests a heads up (just make sure they can keep a secret!) you’re also guaranteed to get the whole thing captured from multiple angles – perfect for announcing to wider family, friends and co-workers.

If you plan on proposing at a friend’s party, think about giving them a heads-up first. You don’t want to steal their thunder or interrupt something they had planned. Not that they’re likely to mind having this incredible moment at their party!

6. Recreate your first date

Since the two of you had your first date, you’ve more than likely looked back on that moment and thought about just how lucky you are to have come this far. To bookend this part of your relationship, why not recreate your very first date and retrace your steps? Then, the icing on the cake will be to get down on one knee and ask for their hand in marriage.

7. Crack out a customised bottle of champagne

There are many moments when a bottle of fizz always goes down a treat – and two of them just so happen to be during a New Year’s Eve celebration and the moment two people in love get engaged. So, why not use that to your advantage, and present your partner with a bottle of champagne that features a custom-printed label that simply says, WILL YOU MARRY ME? Then, once you’ve had your YES, crack that bad boy open and enjoy!

8. Share your New Year’s resolutions

Welcoming the new year is a time when many people make promises to themselves and others that they’ll make a change. You could find an intimate and warm setting, and ask your partner to share their resolutions with you. When it’s your turn to share your own, explain how you want to dedicate your life to making them happy – then, pop the question and wait for their response!

9. Find a rooftop location

Rooftop bars, locations and other venues offer stunning views over city skylines. This can be fabulous at any time of year, but on New Year’s Eve when the atmosphere’s electric and the sky is sprinkled with distant fireworks, it’s even better. It makes for a memorable place to pop the question.

10. Say it with snow

Okay, thanks to the unpredictability of British weather, this one might be a long shot. But, if the weather cooperates and there’s a flurry of last-minute snow, make the most of it and use it in your proposal.

There’s plenty you could do to have a wonderfully wintry proposal. You could build a snowman and hang the ring off the end of its carrot nose. You could write WILL YOU MARRY ME? in giant letters in the garden and casually ask your fiance to look out the window while you get down on one knee. Or, you could simply take a snowy walk to your favourite spot and propose surrounded by picture-perfect scenery.

11. Ask using a balloon

One thing that’s synonymous with celebrating is the good ol’ balloon, so using one to propose can make a huge statement. You might want to have a custom balloon made that asks your partner to be your partner in crime forever, or 15 balloons that feature one letter each lined up across the room to ask, WILL YOU MARRY ME? (don’t forget the question mark).

Another option is to tie the engagement ring to a piece of string hanging underneath the balloon. It’s cute and eye-catching, and the moment your partner spots the balloon they’ll know something special is about to happen.

12. Make the most of the fireworks

New Year’s Eve is a popular time for fireworks, so make the most of them by using them in your proposal. Once the clock strikes midnight, fireworks will light up the sky all around in a magical display of colour. This sounds like the perfect moment for a proposal to us.

Or, if you’re at a party and can rope in some guests to help, grab some sparklers and someone to take a timelapse photo, and spell out WILL YOU MARRY ME? Then, when your partner looks at the photo, they’ll see something that will make their jaw hit the floor.

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How to Propose on Christmas Day

With lights adorning the tree, flames gently crackling in the fireplace and the smell of cinnamon and sweet treats in the air, Christmas is without doubt a magical time of year. It’s also a time for generosity and giving, which is why so many people propose to their partners on Christmas Day.

But, how should you propose on Christmas Day to make sure it’s as romantic, intimate and memorable as possible? What do you need to think about to make sure your festive proposal is as perfect as it can be?

In this post, we’ll share all the tips and considerations to think about for a Christmas Day proposal, including everything you need to prepare and what you should do on the day so it all goes to plan and you get the best gift of all this Christmas – a fiance!

Why is Christmas Day a great day for a proposal?

In the UK, Christmas Day is by far the most popular day to get engaged. Our UK Wedding Report uncovered that a quarter (26%) of couples get engaged in December, and out of all the couples who married in 2022, the top four most popular dates they got engaged was Christmas Day.

Christmas has the romance and magic of Valentine’s Day but with less cliché. It’s a time when kindness and generosity are everywhere, and people spend a lot of time with their loved ones. Christmas also has a lot of emotional significance and traditions surrounding it, which a proposal can heighten to a whole new level.

If you love the festive season and want to create lasting memories that make it an even more special and magical time of year, a Christmas Day proposal is a wonderful way to ask your partner to spend the rest of your lives together.

Do you need to plan a Christmas Day proposal?

Yes, just like with any proposal, you should take time to plan your Christmas Day proposal to make sure it’s extra special. Of course, you might want to be impulsive and make the call about how and when you’ll do it on the day itself, but that comes with more risk.

Think about your partner’s preferences and what they might appreciate. Because you’ve chosen to do a Christmas proposal, you should consider taking advantage of this special day to make it extra memorable, so try to incorporate Christmas additions into your plans. If your proposal would go down in exactly the same way if you did it on any other day, then why do it on Christmas? Use the festivities to your advantage to make it memorable and magical.

What to think about before proposing on Christmas Day

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As highlighted above, Christmas is already a time of year that many people love for a variety of reasons. When planning your Christmas Day proposal, think about the following points to ensure everything goes down even better than you’d hope for:

Have you picked the perfect ring or engagement ring alternative if your partner isn’t into jewellery or wearing rings?
Would your partner appreciate a Christmas Day proposal and be happy to share this incredible moment in their life with a day that’s already so special?
What will be the best time of day for your proposal? Will a morning proposal work before you see wider family, or sometime in the evening when it gets all cosy and warm?
Do you want to involve family and friends in your proposal or do you want to keep things intimate between the two of you?
Christmas can be a stressful time of year, so make sure your plans include downtime before you ask the question so you and your partner can savour the moment.
Don’t rely too heavily on the weather as part of your proposal plans. As incredible as it would be to propose on a snowy hilltop, the unpredictable weather in the UK means there might be rain or heavy winds instead. Have a backup plan in case the weather doesn’t play ball.

How to propose on Christmas Day: a step-by-step guide

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As we’ve already covered, Christmas Day is a wonderful time to propose to your other half. But, to make sure everything goes as expected, it’s important to put a plan together. You don’t need to write things down, create a spreadsheet or sketch out a map – but you should make sure you’re on top of everything so nothing’s overlooked or forgotten.

Below are 10 steps to follow so you can have the most incredible Christmas Day engagement.

Step 1: Plan ahead

Start your Christmas Day proposal prep in plenty of time. If you decide just a few days ahead of Christmas that you want to ask your partner to marry you on Christmas morning, you might not have time to sort everything out. If possible, start to get things ready in early December, or even November if possible, just to account for any hiccups along the way.

If you’re the traditional type, you might also want to speak to your partner’s parents before you pop the question. Asking permission is an old tradition now, but one that many parents still appreciate nevertheless. You more than likely won’t get any type of resistance, but the gesture will go a long way towards solidifying your relationship with your future in-laws.

Step 2: Choose what you’re going to propose with

If you and your partner have talked about what they’d want from a proposal, they probably also told you about what they want from a ring (or even if they want a ring at all). If they want a ring, make sure you try to find out their ring size before you head to the jewellers.

Step 3: Try to keep it a surprise

You may well have had countless discussions with your partner about getting engaged, so they may have an idea about what’s to come. This will be especially true if you’ve specifically talked about getting engaged at Christmas. But, do what you can to keep everything as close to your chest as possible so your proposal can be a big, welcome surprise.

Step 4: Decide the right time to propose

Christmas is a busy time, so it’s important to nail down when you think the right time to propose would be. If you do it in the morning, you’ll then have the whole of Christmas Day as an engaged couple. If you do it at night, it’ll be cosy and romantic. You also need to think about whether or not you want a public or private proposal, and if you want friends or family to be there the moment you get down on one knee.

Step 5: Think about the location

You know your partner best; where do you think they’d love for you to pop the question? At home as you’re opening presents from beneath the tree? At the dinner table before you tuck into your delicious Christmas lunch? Or might it be outside on a wintry walk, or at a family member’s house? Because a lot of places are closed on Christmas Day you won’t have quite as much choice as the rest of the year, but try to choose somewhere that has plenty of festive charm and an emotional connection.

Step 6: Make it extra Christmassy

One of the best things about getting engaged at Christmas is how fabulous and magical everything looks, from our carefully decorated trees at home to towns and cities awash with lights and colour. Make sure you use the beauty and fun of Christmas so your proposal stands out.

For a little inspiration, read our post featuring 12 Christmas Day proposal ideas.

Step 7: Make things personal

You don’t want an ‘off-the-shelf’ idea when it comes to proposing. Use what you know about your soon-to-be fiance, such as what they love and want from a proposal, and use as much as you can to personalise how you ask them. For example, if they love to crochet, why not present the ring in a small, crocheted Christmas stocking? Or include your pet in the proposal by looping the ring around its collar?

Think about what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it. You might want to write down a few things you want to say and commit them to memory. Or, you could just say whatever feels right in at the moment. Whatever you do, make sure it’s personal, from the heart and true to yourself.

Step 8: Have a backup plan

As much as you’ve meticulously planned your Christmas Day proposal, there’s always the chance that something gets in the way. If that happens, make sure you have a plan B in place so you can still have your Christmas engagement. This is doubly important if you plan on proposing outside!

Step 9: Capture the moment

When the time comes for you to ask the biggest question you might ever ask someone, make sure you capture the moment so you can share it with your friends and family. Thankfully, smartphones have great cameras and microphones, so all it takes is for you to prop it somewhere discreet, hit record, and then wait for exactly the right moment to get down on one knee.

If you’re proposing in public or surrounded by loved ones, you could ask someone to record the moment or take pictures, which makes for a fantastic way to look back on your big moment.

Step 10: Share the news

One of the great things about getting engaged at Christmas is there’s a good chance that you’ve already organised to spend time with family and friends, so you have a ready-made opportunity to tell them your amazing news.

For some inspiration, read our post featuring 20 ideas for announcing your engagement.

10 tips for proposing on Christmas Day

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We’ve already covered how amazing it can be to get engaged at Christmas. If you’re planning to pop the question this festive season, below are 10 tips to consider so your engagement is magical and memorable.

Make sure you’re confident that your partner is happy to share their engagement day with something as widely celebrated as Christmas.
Consider a private, personal and intimate proposal to make it extra special and romantic.
Use the natural beauty of Christmas time to your advantage.
Include Christmas in your proposal somehow, such as by asking carollers to sing your partner’s favourite Christmas carol as you pop the question.
Don’t pin all your hopes on the weather behaving itself. The last time the UK had a widespread white Christmas was in 2010, so the chances of waking up to a blanket of snow are small.
Don’t propose at Christmas just because. Make sure it’s something both you and your partner want to happen.
Plan, plan, plan.
Plan a plan B.
Set your phone to record, ask a friend or family member to take photos, or even hire an official photographer to capture the moment (although this might be rather expensive, especially on Christmas Day).
Enjoy the Christmas period and bask in the feeling of having a fiance! Soon, you’ll be so deep in wedding planning that your engagement will feel like a distant memory.

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How to Write a Wedding Card Message for a Colleague

Love is in the air for your favourite co-worker, and you’ve been invited to the big day. Whether you’ve shared an office space for years or you’ve just begun to forge a professional bond, being invited to celebrate this momentous occasion cements your friendship and deepens the connection you share.

But what’s the etiquette when it comes to writing a wedding message to a colleague? Do you keep it light and fun like you would for a friend, or more formal in tone like you would for a family member? It can be tricky to strike a balance between fun and professional when writing to a work colleague.

But, don’t stress— we’re here to help! Read on to learn all about how to write a wedding card message for a colleague, including some example wedding quotes you could include, and top tips for writing wedding card wishes.

What is a wedding card message?

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A wedding card message is a simple but effective way to convey your congratulations to the happy couple on their big day. You can also express your gratitude at having been invited, and share happy memories from the time you’ve known them.

It’s best to follow a simple format. For example, a simple introduction, a wedding congratulations message, and a polite sign-off. This way, your wedding card remains professional and respectful.

What to put in a wedding card to a colleague

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It’s best to keep it simple when writing a wedding card to a colleague. Try using the following format:

A simple greeting

Although you can end up becoming very close to your work colleagues, to avoid any awkwardness in the office, it’s best to keep wedding cards friendly but professional. As a result, a simple greeting is your best bet when writing a wedding card to a work colleague.

Try something short and sweet like:

To [COUPLE’S NAMES]
Dear [TITLES AND SURNAMES]

If you’re not sure what titles to use, we have a handy section on wedding card writing etiquette in our post on what to write in a wedding card.

Wedding wishes or congratulations

Your wedding wishes and congratulations can be a little more creative, but it’s still best to err on the side of caution and keep any messages respectful and kind. Feel free to add a personal touch to your wishes, share anecdotes, and express your genuine happiness for the couple.

If you’re stuck on what to write, try using:

What an incredible journey you’re both starting on. Thank you for inviting me to be part of your special day.
What a beautiful day you’ve both shared. I wish you a lifetime of love, health, and happiness together.

Or, if you’re feeling a little cheeky, you could try:

Thank you for the party of a lifetime. Monday is going to be such a comedown after this!
Congratulations on a beautiful day! May your love be as everlasting as the office coffee supply and your happiness as endless as a Friday afternoon.

A heartfelt sign-off

The last part of your wedding card should include a sign-off from you and your plus one (if you had one!)

As with your greeting, keep it simple. Try using the following sign-offs:

Thank you again for inviting me/us. From, [NAMES]
All the best, [NAMES]

Be mindful of tone

It’s best to keep a formal tone in a wedding card to a colleague. Even if you’re close with your colleague, you don’t want a bad joke or an informal message to offend them accidentally and make Monday awkward!

Instead, a message of sincere congratulations and best wishes is the safest and most considerate choice in a professional setting.

Wedding card message structure

Check out the infographic below to help guide your writing:

How to Write a Wedding Card Message for a Colleague: Structure Guide — Follow this general structure when composing your message

Wedding quotes to use in a wedding card

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If you’re struggling with what to say and what to write, you can’t go wrong with someone else’s words! Try using a wedding or love quote from a poem or song. The beauty of this method is that you can tailor the quote to the couple’s personal interests.

Try using the below examples to get you started:

Wedding quotes from songs

“All you need is love.” – The Beatles
“Two hearts in love need no words.” – Marceline Desbordes-Valmore
“Love and marriage, love and marriage, go together like a horse and carriage.” – Frank Sinatra, “Love and Marriage”
“Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you (TWO!)” – The Beatles, “Because”

Wedding quotes from poems

“Love is an endless act of forgiveness. Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.” – Maya Angelou
“Two souls with but a single thought; two hearts that beat as one.” – John Keats
“Love sought is good, but given unsought is better.” – William Shakespeare, Twelfth Night
“Love is most nearly itself when here and now cease to matter.” – T.S. Eliot

Wedding quotes from films

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.” – The Notebook
“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life… to strengthen each other… to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.” – The Notebook
“When you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” – When Harry Met Sally
“Love, it never dies. It never goes away, it never fades, so long as you hang on to it.” – Moulin Rouge

Wedding pop culture quotes

“To infinity and beyond!” – Buzz Lightyear, Toy Story
“We are all a little weird, and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.” – Dr. Seuss
“True love stories never have endings.” – Richard Bach
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” – Mignon McLaughlin

Top tips for wedding card wishes

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Don’t write it at the last minute

It’s easy to tell when a card was written at the last minute, or worse in the car on the way there! Sit down a few days before the wedding with a cup of tea and write your wedding card.

Don’t overthink it

Remember the cup of tea we mentioned earlier? It couldn’t take longer to write your card than it takes to drink a tea. Don’t overthink what you’re writing in your card. Keep it short and speak from the heart.

Think about your relationship

Although some work colleagues start to feel like family, you may not always work together. You want to leave a positive impression on your work colleague by leaving a positive message in their wedding card. Don’t overstep the mark and try to be too friendly, or include unprofessional inside jokes. Instead, keep it simple, friendly, and chilled.

Say thank you

Congratulate your colleague on their special day and thank them for inviting you at the same time. It’s fast, efficient, and saves you from needing to send two cards!

Write a great wedding card message with Bridebook

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A wedding card to a colleague is a great way to express your gratitude for having been invited, your warmth, and your best wishes for their special day. The tone should be more formal than in a card to a family member or friend. However, you could include a fun quote about love from their favourite song, film, or pop-culture moment if you’re feeling creative.

The best advice is to write the card a few days beforehand, not to overthink it, and to say thank you! However, if you’re still feeling stuck, check out our post on what to include in a wedding card. We have some handy wedding card examples and top tips on card writing.

Happy Planning!

Top 12 Christmas Day Proposal Ideas

Christmas is a wonderful time of year. It’s full of joy, generosity and love, and it’s when we come together with our families to give gifts and enjoy each other’s company.

And when you’re sat in front of a crackling fire, surrounded by hundreds of twinkling lights and all cuddled up watching Christmas movies, it’s also a super romantic time of year. That’s why it’s a hugely popular time for couples to get engaged. So, if you’re considering asking your partner to marry you this Christmas Day, go for it!

But, what’s the best way to propose on Christmas Day? How can you use the festive period to your advantage to pop the question in the most memorable and romantic way?

In this post, we’re going to give you 12 Christmas Day proposal ideas so you can ask your beloved to marry you and have a festive season you’ll never forget.

Is it popular to get engaged on Christmas Day?

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Yes, Christmas Day is an exceptionally popular month for couples to get engaged. Our annual UK Wedding Report found that in 2021, more than a quarter (26%) of all engagements took place in December. Out of all the couples who got married in 2022, the top four most popular dates those couples got engaged on was 25th December in 2021, 2020, 2019 and 2018.

This might sound surprising, especially when you think about how Valentine’s Day or New Year’s Eve have romantic and mystical connections. But, there’s just something about the magic and warmth of Christmas, as well as the feelings of love and generosity at that time of year, that draw those looking to pop the question to this one special day. As the song goes, it’s the most wonderful time of the year!

Should you propose on Christmas Day?

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Just because Christmas Day is the most popular day for a proposal doesn’t mean it’s something to steer clear of. Clearly, there’s something special about getting engaged at Christmas that makes it so appealing.

Whether or not you choose to propose on Christmas Day depends on you, your preferences, your plans for the day and your budget. Christmas is notoriously an expensive time of year, and with the average cost of an engagement ring being £1,978, you might not have the funds to spare for a festive proposal.

Proposals are usually romantic and intimate, and the hustle and bustle of a family Christmas can sometimes get in the way of one-on-one time. If you know you’re going to have your aunt and uncle around with their six kids, a proposal might not be quite as romantic as it would be if there weren’t excitable little ones running around.

It also depends on how you and your partner feel about Christmas. If you love Christmas, you might not want to share the date you got engaged with something as widely celebrated as Christmas. Or, perhaps that’s what makes it so special for you.

Whatever you choose to do, just make sure it’s right for you and your soon-to-be fiance.

For more information, read our post on how to propose on Christmas Day so you can make sure your magical proposal goes down without a hitch.

Why is Christmas Day such a great day for a proposal?

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If you’re on the fence about proposing on Christmas Day, there are a bunch of reasons why it makes for such a brilliant day to ask one of the biggest questions of your life. Just some of the reasons why Christmas Day is a great day to propose on are:

It’s a magical time of year when people get together and give each other gifts. Why not make one of those gifts a sparkly ring, and the recipient the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Despite being the most popular date to get engaged on, it’s often not seen as cliché like Valentine’s Day or 29th February.
A lot of people have time off around Christmas, which gives you time to make sure everything’s perfect.
You might spend a lot of time around family and friends, which gives you a great opportunity to tell everyone your amazing news in person.
Christmas is hugely romantic with plenty of cosy nights in, amazing food and a drink or two to set the scene.
Is there anything more suitable for a proposal than a wintry walk across a snowy landscape? The weather might not always do what we want it to, but just imagine the photos if it did!

12 romantic Christmas Day proposal ideas

Top 12 Christmas Day Proposal Ideas — Get inspired by our top 12 Christmas Day proposal ideas

1. Pull a one-of-a-kind cracker

A popular Christmas tradition happens around the dinner table up and down the UK, in the form of pulling crackers to reveal a cheesy joke, a paper hat and a BANG! Except, why not ensure your entire Christmas goes with a bang by concealing an engagement ring inside your partner’s cracker? A few little cuts to weaken your side of the cracker will make sure your partner wins, then when they dig their hand inside to find the toy, they’ll receive a lot more than they were expecting.

2. Customise your partner’s advent calendar

If your partner has an advent calendar and loves tucking into a chocolate or little treat every day throughout December, why not customise your advent calendar this year so the 25th door has something extra special inside, in the form of a beautiful engagement ring? You could even build up to the big reveal and hide something personal or romantic behind every door throughout the month.

3. A Christmas pudding surprise

Traditionally, a sixpence used to be hidden inside a Christmas pudding, and whoever found it would have luck and happiness for the next year. Why not put a spin on this festive tradition and, instead of a sixpence, craftily conceal an engagement ring inside your partner’s pud instead? Just make sure it’s not too well hidden, because they might crack a tooth on a diamond if they don’t realise it’s there.

If your partner isn’t a fan of Christmas puds, a ring can just as easily be hidden in a mince pie, chocolate log or sherry trifle instead! Just make sure you have a cloth so you can give the ring a bit of a wipe before they put it on, or better yet hide the ring in a small, clear bag.

4. Get down on one knee in the snow

Christmas morning is a brilliant time for a walk. You’ve opened a few gifts, the potatoes are roasting in the oven and there’s a crisp layer of frost clinging to the leaves outside. Sounds like the perfect time to head out to your favourite spot to propose.

5. Use a custom Christmas card

You and your partner might exchange cards that have soppy messages inside and lots of hearts, but why not reserve another card to give to them on Christmas Day? Imagine their shock when they open the card and on the front it says, ‘Will you marry me?’ Then, they look up at you and you’re getting down on one knee with a ring in your hands. Bliss.

6. Use mistletoe to your advantage

Using mistletoe to grab a cheeky kiss with your partner is not exactly unheard of. But, you could ramp things up and, instead of just an ordinary kiss, you could use it as an opportunity to pop the question. They’ll never see it coming!

7. Hide an engagement ring inside a bauble

When the time comes to put up your Christmas tree, why not hide your engagement ring in plain sight inside a bauble? That way, your partner will spend weeks with the ring right there, but with no clue what you’re about to do. Then, when the moment’s just right, hand it over to them and change both your lives forever.

8. A present inside a present inside a present…

This one is really annoying, but if the two of you have a playful relationship it can be a lot of fun. Wrap the ring box in boxes that get progressively bigger, so to get to the centre they have to unwrap present after present. It’s funny and frustrating, but once they get to the ring that’ll all be forgotten and it’ll definitely be worth it.

9. Ask them with Christmas lights

You could wake up early on Christmas morning and sneak downstairs in true Father Christmas style so you can make use of some spare fairy lights. If you tape or pin them carefully to the wall, you can spell out WILL YOU MARRY ME? in beautiful, twinkling lettering. Think of it a bit light Stranger Things, but a lot more romantic.

10. Get kids or pets to help

If you have kids or pets, recruit them as Santa’s little helpers and include them in your proposal. You could slip a baby grow onto a little one that says something like. ‘Mummy, will you marry Daddy?’ or loop a ring around a bow that’s tied around your beloved dog’s collar.

11. Spell it out with Christmas cookies or cake

There’s nothing quite like Christmas cake, cookies or gingerbread men at Christmas. With some extra icing and a talent for decoration, you could ask your partner to marry you spelled out on a festive treat.

12. Christmas morning breakfast in bed

A surprise breakfast in bed is a lovely way to wake up on Christmas morning, but you know what can make pastries, fresh fruit and orange juice even nicer before opening some gifts? A lovely engagement ring sitting right there on the napkins.

Alternatively, many couples gift each other a stocking at Christmas, which is a lovely way to give each other smaller presents that they may open in bed. As part of this, include the engagement ring at the bottom of your partner’s stocking to give them an unforgettable start to Christmas.

If you propose early, you can then spend the whole of Christmas day as an engaged couple!

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How to Write the Perfect Engagement Party Speech

An engagement party is a brilliant way to celebrate your engagement and surround yourself with your family and friends. Whether you choose to have a formal bash at a countryside hotel or an intimate barbecue in your back garden, everyone will be there to celebrate your engagement and talk about your future wedding plans.

As part of the celebrations, it’s common for there to be speeches at an engagement party to thank everyone for coming. It’s also likely that other members of your family, friends and future wedding party will want to say a few words as well, and offer you love and encouragement for the journey you’re about to take.

But what do you say in an engagement party speech? Should it be long? Funny? Lovey-dovey? Who should give a speech and do you have to give one even if you don’t want to?

In this post, we’re going to dive into everything you need to know about how to write the perfect engagement party speech so you can approach your speech with confidence and say exactly the right things.

Who gives a speech at an engagement party?

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Traditionally, you should be prepared to give a short speech at your engagement party. This could be one of you or both of you, depending on who feels confident enough to stand up and speak in front of your family and friends.

If someone is hosting the party, such as the father of the bride, then it’s also common for them to thank everyone for coming.

Depending on your guests, anyone else is also more than welcome to say a few words. This could be any of your parents, a member of your wedding party (such as the best man or maid of honour), your siblings or your friends. There are no hard and fast rules at an engagement party, so if anyone would like to wish you well and congratulate you, it should be encouraged.

Do you have to give a speech at your engagement party?

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While you don’t have to give a speech at your engagement party, it’s recommended that you do as it’s a way to thank all of your guests for coming. But, this can depend on the type of engagement party you’ve chosen to have. If you’re hosting a formal party with a three-course meal and a DJ and dancing, then your guests will probably expect a speech or two. If you have a games night at home with a few pizzas and drinks, it’ll probably not be expected – but it still can’t hurt to take a moment to thank everyone for being there.

What if you’re too nervous to speak at an engagement party?

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If you’re really not happy to give a speech at your engagement party, then there are no rules stating that you have to. There’s always the option to have someone do it on your behalf, such as a parent or your best man.

If you can find the courage to do so, your guests would love it if you could give a very short speech. It doesn’t have to be a 20-minute stand-up routine, just 30 seconds to thank everyone for being there to celebrate with you.

When do you give a speech at an engagement party?

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Again, unlike at a wedding, there are no real rules for the right time to give a speech at an engagement party. It all comes down to the type of party you’re throwing. If it’s informal, you might want to give a quick thanks to your guests early in the night once everyone’s arrived. If it’s formal, either right before or right after dinner works best, as everyone is gathered together at the same time.

Is an engagement party speech the same as a wedding speech?

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Engagement party speeches and wedding speeches have a lot of similarities, but they’re not exactly the same. Read our article on wedding speech examples to see the sort of thing they include. There are a few subtle differences that mean they’re not exactly interchangeable. These include:

The tone is more relaxed and informal in an engagement party speech. You may not even choose to write a speech, and instead speak from the heart to thank your guests for coming.
Wedding speeches are often a lot more sentimental and emotional.
Unlike a wedding speech, you might not choose to talk about your relationship at all and save that for the wedding. However, if others choose to speak, don’t be surprised if they talk about you a lot.
Engagement party speeches are short, sharp and to the point, whereas wedding speeches can last a comparatively long time.

Can an engagement party speech be funny?

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An engagement party speech can be whatever you want it to be. If you want to tell a few jokes and make things super light-hearted, go for it. If you only want to say a couple of sentences, that’s absolutely fine too.

If other guests decide to speak, you may also find that there’s a range of tones used. The best man will often try to entertain everyone with jokes, while a mum will usually be a little more sentimental.

If you want to give a speech that’s funny but you’re not sure where to start, think about anecdotes you could tell about how the two of you met. Keep humour light and make sure to avoid too many in-jokes. Self-deprecating humour can also be a lot of fun and get big laughs from your guests. Just remember to keep it positive and have a balance of sincerity and appreciation, always bringing it back to how grateful you are that everyone’s there.

How long should your engagement party speech be?

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Unlike a wedding speech, which could be as long as 10 minutes (or more, depending on the speaker) an engagement party speech is usually far shorter. Generally, you wouldn’t want to speak for more than a couple of minutes so you can save most of what you have to say for the wedding itself. The main point you should get across is how glad you are that your guests could make it to be there to celebrate with you.

What should you include in an engagement party speech?

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Depending on who’s giving an engagement party speech, there’s different information you might want to include:

You’re giving a speech at your own engagement party:

Thank everyone for coming and how much it means that they’re there to celebrate with you and your new fiance.
Acknowledge your loved ones and the loved ones of your fiance.
You might want to talk about the proposal and how it felt. Highlight anything funny that might have happened and make a joke out of it.
Reference how you feel about your partner and how you’re excited to take this next step in your relationship together.
Talk about what you have in store for your wedding. If you haven’t secured a date yet, keep this part relatively vague.
Raise your glass and thank your guests again for being there.

You’re giving a speech at someone else’s engagement party:

Introduce yourself and how you know the couple.
Congratulate the couple and how excited and happy you are for them.
Share something personal, such as an anecdote. This is a great opportunity to be funny, but keep things as positive as you can.
Offer compliments about the strength of the couple and how great they are together.
Express your support for the couple and offer to help them should they need it throughout their wedding planning journey.
Acknowledge friends and family, and thank everyone for being there.
Wish the couple luck for the future and raise a toast.

Whether you’re giving a speech at your own engagement party or someone else’s, make sure you keep it light, short and you speak from the heart. Make sure you keep most of your material and best jokes for the wedding itself. After all, the engagement party is a warm-up for the main event!

Tips for writing the perfect engagement party speech

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Before you sit down to think about what to say in your engagement party speech, think about these tips:

Don’t forget to let the guests know who you are. There might be some guests you haven’t met which can be quite confusing for them.
Don’t be afraid to be truthful and honest. You might not want to shed a tear in front of people, but it’s about two people falling in love and getting engaged – tears are practically expected.
Don’t outstay your welcome – no one expects an engagement party speech to go on longer than two minutes or so.
Make notes about what you want to say, and learn your speech by heart. That way, it’ll come across as more natural and not like you’re reciting lines.
Practice, practice, practice.
Avoid too many in-jokes. If you have to include one, try to give the rest of your guests some context.
Short is most definitely sweet.

Engagement party speech examples

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Ready to start writing your engagement party speech but need a little more inspiration to help you get started? Here are a couple of engagement party speech examples you can use as a starting block for your own.

Example 1: the humorous yet heartfelt one (for those who don’t mind public speaking):

Good evening everyone. I’m Jonathan, and on behalf of my beautiful new fiance, Rebecca and I, I’d like to thank you all for coming to our engagement party. We’re so happy you could all be here tonight to celebrate with us. You all get to spend the next few hours in my company, which is a shame for you all, but you can at least be thankful you’re not Rebecca, who now gets to spend the next fifty plus years with me.
For those of you who don’t know, I proposed to Rebecca in Paris, in the shadow of the Eiffel Tower. Yes, cliché, I know, but by that point, I’d eaten so many pastries and cheese that I was thankful to get down on one knee for a rest more than anything.
Rebecca, I just wanted to say that I’m so excited about our future together. You saying yes was one of the greatest moments of my life and I know what we have in store will continuously top it. We’ve already started browsing venues and you’ve already made what will be a long and difficult challenge so much easier by just being yourself. You make me a better person and I can’t wait to undertake this journey together.
Thank you so much, everyone, for being here, it means the world to Rebecca and me. So, I’d like to raise a glass to say you’re all fantastic and we both love you all very much. Cheers!

Example 2: the short and sweet one (for those not fond of public speaking):

I just want to take a moment, on behalf of myself and my new fiance, to thank you all for coming tonight. We really appreciate everyone taking the time to come and celebrate our engagement with us. So I’d just like to raise a glass in appreciation for you all being here tonight. Thank you!

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Which Finger Does an Engagement Ring Go On?

When your fiance gets down on one knee and asks you the question, which finger do you present them with so they can give you your gorgeous new ring? Or if you’re the one proposing, how do you know which is the right finger? The last thing you want to do at that moment is place the ring on the wrong one.

When it comes to which finger is the right one for an engagement ring, there are actually a lot of questions that surround it. Why is that finger on that hand commonly used in some countries but not others? Why is it usually that finger? Do you have to wear the wedding ring on the same finger as the engagement ring or can they be worn separately?

The great thing is, just like your marriage itself, there are no set rules when it comes to your engagement ring. But there are traditions you might want to stick to. So how do you know what’s right for you?

In this post, we’re going to take a look at everything to do with wearing an engagement ring. We’ll go over the history, which countries traditionally wear an engagement ring on different hands and what you can do if you’re just not that into wearing a wedding ring.

What is meant by a ‘ring finger’?

The ring finger is the name given to the finger where you would traditionally wear your wedding and/or engagement ring, which is the finger beside your little finger on your left hand (in the UK). So commonly are rings worn on this finger that it has been named with this in mind. There’s even evidence of hieroglyphics wearing a ring on this finger to symbolise love and marriage.

In ancient times, it was believed that this finger had a vein that ran directly to the heart. That way, when both halves of a couple wear a ring it forever connects the two hearts. While we know a lot more about the human body these days, this wedding tradition is easily the one that has withstood the tests of time the longest.

Which hand do you wear an engagement ring on?

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In the UK, it’s traditional to wear an engagement ring on the left hand. This is the same as the wedding ring once you and your partner get married. That being said, which hand you traditionally wear an engagement ring on can vary depending on where you are in the world.

Which countries wear an engagement ring on their left hand?

Countries where people wear wedding and engagement rings on their left hand include:

UK
USA
Austria
France
Germany
Sweden
Czech Republic
Romania
Portugal
Turkey
Ireland

Which countries wear an engagement ring on their right hand?

Countries where people wear wedding and engagement rings on their right hand include:

Spain
Russia
Switzerland
Greece
India
Norway
Denmark
Colombia
Bulgaria
Belgium
Poland

Which is the right finger to wear an engagement ring on?

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As we’ve already covered, the right finger to wear your engagement ring on is the ring finger on either your left or right hand (depending on where you live). But, the right finger for you is something else entirely.

Can you wear an engagement ring on any finger?

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Yes, you can wear your engagement ring on any finger you choose – you might even want to wear it on your thumb if that’s something that appeals to you. Wearing a ring on the ring finger has been a tradition since ancient Greek and Roman times, but traditions aren’t for everyone – if that includes you, then just wear your ring on any finger you like.

Do you wear your engagement ring on the same hand and finger as your wedding ring?

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Many people choose to wear their engagement ring on the same hand and finger as their wedding ring, but again, whether you choose to do this or not is entirely up to you. There are plenty of variations you can go for, such as:

Wear your engagement ring and wedding ring on the same finger
Wear your engagement ring and wedding ring on the same hand but on different fingers
Wear your engagement ring on the ring finger of your left hand and wedding ring on the ring finger of your right hand (or vice versa)

You might even choose to wear both rings on different hands and on different fingers. Whatever you feel comfortable with and makes you happy is exactly the combination you should go for.

Can you wear your engagement ring and wedding ring every day?

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Many couples choose to wear their wedding rings and engagement rings every day as it helps them feel close to their partner even when they’re apart.

Couples spend an average of £1,000 on their wedding rings and £1,978 on an engagement ring. This is often more than enough to ensure a high-quality metal, such as platinum or gold, which is super durable and can withstand lots of wear and tear. Over time your rings will suffer minor scuffs and scrapes – unfortunately, it’s unavoidable with any type of jewellery you might wear. If this is a concern, you might not want to wear them constantly, but for many, it’s worth it to ensure they always have that close connection to their spouse.

One thing some couples do is take off their rings when they get home and store them somewhere safe until they’re ready to leave the house again. This can slow some of the wear and tear – just make sure you always keep your rings in the same spot so you don’t have a moment of panic when you forget where you put them.

What if you have a promise ring?

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If you have a promise ring, should you wear this alongside your engagement ring and wedding ring? There are two common options for couples who have promise rings:

Switch the promise ring for the engagement ring
Wear each ring on the same finger
Wear the promise ring on a different finger

There’s nothing wrong with wearing all three rings on the same finger, but if you have too many rings (especially if they’re thick or have larger stones) you may find it gets a little crowded. It’s not exactly comfortable if you have a ring too close to the knuckle, so whatever you choose to do make sure you can bend your finger and it’s not too restrictive.

Can you wear your engagement ring and wedding ring on different fingers?

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Yes, however you like to wear your engagement ring and wedding ring is entirely up to you. While the tradition is to wear them together on the ring finger, that doesn’t mean it’s something you have to stick to. Wearing a ring is hugely personal, and what it represents is between you and your partner. So what if someone looks at your hand and doesn’t realise you’re married or engaged just because you wear your rings on different fingers? You do you and don’t let anyone else influence your decision.

Which ring goes on first, the engagement ring or the wedding ring?

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Traditionally, once you’re married you would wear your wedding ring first, then your engagement ring. That way, your wedding ring is closer to your heart.

But, just like with every tradition we’ve covered in this article, it’s not something you should feel obliged to stick to.

Do you have to wear an engagement ring or wedding ring to get married?

No, there’s no kind of law that states you have to wear a ring when you’re married. It’s a symbolic gesture that shows your love and commitment to one another. But, if you don’t like to wear rings, you don’t have the budget or you’re not a fan of jewellery in general, it’s absolutely fine if you choose not to wear a wedding or engagement ring at all.

If you’re not sure you want to wear a ring, read our post on wedding ring alternatives for a little inspiration.

How do you measure your ring finger?

To make sure your wedding and engagement rings are the right size and fit comfortably on your finger, it’s important to get the finger you intend to wear your ring on measured. This has to be done accurately if you want to prevent your ring from being too tight or, even worse, slipping off and getting lost.

There are several ways you can measure your ring finger:

Wrap a piece of string or tape around your finger and mark where it meets with a pen, which you can then measure with a ruler.
You can buy a ring sizer for around £5 from Amazon.
Your local jewellery store can do this for you.
Use a printable ring sizer.

What do jewellery experts say about which finger to wear your engagement ring and wedding ring on?

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When it comes to choosing the finger for your engagement ring and wedding ring, we spoke to Ruby McGonigle from Lebrusan Studio, a leading London-based ethical jewellery designer. Ruby recommends the following flexible approach:

“Your sentimental rings don’t need to mirror your partner’s in metal or design, nor do they need to be worn on your left ring finger. Many European nations – including Norway, Germany, Denmark, Latvia, Poland and Spain – look to the right hand as the ideal spot for the engagement ring and wedding band. This is because it’s used for oaths and vows, inherently symbolising honour and trust.
Though many people enjoy wearing their engagement rings and wedding bands together on the same finger in a unique stack, there’s no rule that states this is a must. Your engagement ring, wedding band and commitment rings are precious pieces of jewellery, and if you don’t fancy forcing them to share space then the freedom is yours to wear them however and whenever you like! For practical reasons, some opt only to wear their engagement ring on special occasions. Others might wish to secure it a special everyday spot over on the right ring finger once the wedding band comes along. Some might not wear their rings on their fingers at all, but instead hang them with pride on a necklace.
All in all, just like your unique love story, the choice is all yours.”

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How to Write a Funny Wedding Speech for a Sister’s Wedding

There’s no bond like the one you share with your sister. She’s been there for you at every step of your journey. She watched all your fashion faux pas, helped you mend your broken heart, and knows exactly how to deal with your quirky habits. She’d naturally want you to take centre stage on her big day by making a heartwarming speech.

But planning a funny wedding speech for your sister is no simple task. How do you strike the right balance between nostalgic memories and funny stories while still keeping your audience engaged? But don’t stress — we’ve got you! In this post, we explore how to write a funny wedding speech for your sister, including 5 top tips for nailing the delivery!

What is a speech for a sister’s wedding?

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A wedding speech for a sister’s wedding is a speech made during your sister’s wedding reception. It can be a funny maid of honour speech, a brother to sister wedding speech, an entertaining sister-of-the-bride speech, or even a best man’s speech!

As the sister of the bride or groom, you’re in the special position of having known the bride or groom your entire life. This means you’ll have a ton of unique stories, memories, and humorous anecdotes to share with the guests. Although non-traditional, crafting a light-hearted wedding speech for your sister will be a happy and memorable part of the wedding reception, so it’s important you get it right.

The speech should last anywhere between 5-7 minutes and be a balance of well-meaning humour, nostalgia, and well-wishes for the health and happiness of the newlyweds.

How to write a funny speech for a sister’s wedding

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If you’re looking to write a funny sister of the bride or maid of honour speech, or a speech for a brother’s wedding from a sister, we’ve got you covered. Check out the below structure for some inspiration and guidance.

Greet your audience

Open your speech by greeting the guests. Introduce yourself to friends, family, and the newlyweds. As the sister of the bride or groom, most people there will probably already know who you are. But a solid introduction is a great way to open the speech, add a sense of occasion, and immediately capture everyone’s attention.

Set the tone

It’s important to set the tone early with a wedding speech. Once you’ve made your introductions, open up with a joke, a short reading, quotes about love, or a light-hearted anecdote about your sister. Getting your jokes in early will not only warm up the audience but also make you feel more confident as you continue the rest of your speech.

Funny stories and anecdotes

You should then share some fun stories and anecdotes about your sister. These can be hilarious, heartwarming, and even a little embarrassing if you feel it’s appropriate! Just be careful not to embarrass her too much. This is a wedding, not a comedy show. Be sure to keep all stories and jokes in good humour, and if you’re not sure, it’s always best to run the story by the couple before sharing it with the audience.

Playful teasing

Incorporate good-natured teasing that brings smiles to people’s faces without crossing any boundaries. Focus on endearing quirks, harmless foibles, or memorable mishaps you have shared. For example, warning your sister’s new partner about their messy ways, terrible cooking, or how long they take to get ready are all standard and acceptable jests to share in front of guests.

Relatable experiences

Most people in the audience will be able to relate to the experience of growing up with a sister (or sibling). They’ll remember the late-night conversations, midnight feasts, or navigating the challenges of big family Christmases! These shared memories and experiences will inspire laughter, understanding, and a sense of nostalgia that will connect everyone in the room.

Well-wishes for the happy couple

Start wrapping up your speech by sharing how happy you are for the newlyweds, your wishes for their future, and how proud you are of your sister for taking this next step. Thank her new partner for all the love and support they’ve shown your sister over the years, and welcome them wholeheartedly into your family.

Wrap up with a toast

The final part of your speech should be a toast to the bride and groom. Wrap up by asking the guests to raise their glasses, share your final wishes for the new couple, and toast to their new shared name. Cheers!

Top tips for a funny sister’s wedding speech

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Take a step back

Once you’ve written your speech, take a moment to step back and review it with fresh eyes. You should set your speech aside for at least a day, if not longer. This way, you can come back to it with a fresh perspective and a clear mind. When you revisit your speech after a little break, you’ll be better able to spot any areas that might need refining, whether it’s the flow, wording, or even the overall tone.

Practice makes perfect

Practice, practice, practice your speech to make sure you feel confident and well-prepared. You can practice in front of the mirror, or even record yourself and watch it back. The benefit of doing this is that you’ll be able to see what the guests will see on the day and critique your delivery.

Don’t overdo it

While sharing funny stories and happy memories during a wedding speech is important, be careful not to overdo it. Think of anecdotes and jokes as the spice in a delicious dish you’re cooking. You should flavour the speech with these tales, but not overwhelm it with any one spice. Make sense?

Take it for a test drive

Consider testing out your speech on a trusted friend or family member. This way, they’ll be able to give you constructive criticism in the moment to help you improve your speech. Plus, practicing in front of a person will give a flavour of what it’s like to present your speech to a live audience. This will help you feel more confident and prepared when the actual time comes.

Live feedback can be incredibly valuable, whether it’s a suggestion to tweak the pacing, a reminder to project your voice, or a gentle nudge to pause for laughter. Practicing in front of someone who can provide honest, constructive criticism lets you iron out any rough edges and refine your delivery.

Be mindful of body language

Be mindful of body language as you practice and deliver your speech. Non-verbal cues can enhance your message and help connect you with your audience. So, stand up straight, make eye contact with your audience, take prompts from your cue card (but don’t keep your eyes glued to them), and make facial expressions as you speak. These small changes to your delivery can help colour your speech and make it feel more animated.

Ready to nail your funny sister’s wedding speech?

Writing a funny wedding speech for your sister’s wedding can be tricky. It’s all about finding the balance between funny stories, special memories, and just a hint of teasing! However, with the right guidance and plenty of love, you can craft a funny wedding speech that will make your sister’s special day all the more memorable.

If you’re feeling nervous, following a structure like the one above can help you start writing your speech. Often, getting started is the hardest part, so once you’ve got your structure down, you can focus on filling it with stories of your childhood, personal memories, and jokes about how messy your sister can be!

So, stand up straight, with shoulders back, and smile! This speech will undoubtedly be a memorable and entertaining part of your sister’s big day. We know you’ll make her proud. If you’re still feeling nervous, let Bridebook be your guide – we’ve got all the tips and tricks you need to craft the very best wedding speech.

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6 Reasons to Choose a Smaller, More Local Wedding Venue

Your wedding day is one of the greatest moments in your life. It’s a celebration of love and commitment, and finding the perfect venue sets the tone for the entire event. While grand ballrooms and fancy destinations have their appeal, there’s something magical about choosing a smaller, more local wedding venue. In this post, we explore the benefits of choosing an intimate setting for your big day, from affordability to on-site accommodation.

1. Affordability

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One of the biggest advantages of choosing a smaller, local wedding venue is the cost. These venues often offer competitive pricing compared to larger, grander venues. With a more modest guest capacity, you can trim down your guest list to include only your closest family and friends, which can save a considerable amount on catering, decor and other expenses.

2. Intimacy

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Smaller wedding venues create an intimate and cosy atmosphere that larger venues can struggle to replicate. Imagine exchanging your vows surrounded by the people who mean the most to you, without the vastness of a cavernous hall. The closeness of your loved ones creates a warm and inviting ambiance, ensuring that every moment feels personal and special.

3. Personalised Attention

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Local venues often cater to fewer events at a time, allowing their staff to dedicate more time and attention to your big day. You’ll likely receive more personalised service and flexibility in tailoring the arrangements to suit your preferences. Smaller venues can accommodate specific requests that larger wedding venues may find more challenging to fulfil.

4. Amazing Outdoor Spaces

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Many smaller, local wedding venues are nestled in picturesque settings, boasting breathtaking outdoor spaces. From charming gardens to quaint courtyards, these venues offer natural backdrops that enhance the beauty of your ceremony and wedding photos.

5. On-Site Accommodation

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Opting for a smaller venue with on-site accommodation can hugely simplify your wedding day logistics. It provides a convenient solution for both you and your guests, removing the need for transportation to and from separate locations. Plus, it extends the celebration, allowing you to spend more quality time with your loved ones over the wedding weekend.

6. Supporting Local Businesses

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By choosing a smaller, local wedding venue, you contribute to the community and support local businesses. These venues are often family-owned or run by passionate individuals dedicated to creating a memorable experience for couples tying the knot. Your wedding becomes an opportunity to give back to the neighbourhood and make a positive impact.

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Don’t underestimate the charm and advantages of smaller, local wedding venues. From cost savings to a more intimate and personalised experience, these venues offer unique perks that can make your special day even more memorable. Take your time to explore the options in your area, and you may just find a hidden gem that captures the spirit of your love story.

Wedding Planning Tips from Wedding Florist Yasmin Downing

If you’re looking for some top wedding planning tips, there’s nothing like the expertise from a real wedding professional. We spoke to Yasmin Downing, the passionate florist behind Yasmin Downing Floral Design, who specialises in combining modern elements with timeless tradition to create the perfect aesthetic. In her own words: “Since opening a dried flower business during the pandemic, I found my life’s passion in floristry. Having been mentored 1:1 by Master Florists, whilst building a portfolio working on real-life weddings, photoshoots, commercial projects and television, I have brought my skills and experience to a professional level.” Yasmin has also appeared on the BBC’s Ultimate Wedding Planner as one of eight aspiring contestants.

Yasmin’s top 10 wedding planning tips

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1. Order a spare buttonhole (or two)

This can avoid awkward “I forgot Uncle Pete” moments and also covers you if you have a boisterous groom who breaks his buttonhole before your photos (Yasmin has actually had this happen!).

2. Have an “emergency” kit

Your wedding emergency kit should include all the things you won’t know you’ll need until you need them (check out our bridal SOS kit post for more information). Yasmin suggests:

White cotton
Chewing gum
Needle
Toothpick
Elastic bands
Flower pins
Floss
Hairband
Bobby pin
Painkillers
Nail glue
Lash glue
Tweezers
Plasters

3. Think about your shoes

If you’re going to be wearing high heels on your wedding day, and taking them off isn’t an option for you, Yasmin recommends taking a couple of paracetamol to pre-empt the pain.

4. Cover yourself in SPF

If you’re like the majority of couples who opt for a spring or summer wedding, be sure to cover yourself in SPF 50. This will make sure you don’t end up pink by 3 PM, Yasmin explains.

5. Protect your skin from clothing marks

Remember to protect your skin from anything that might mark your skin, Yasmin suggests. This includes any socks, bra or wrist hairbands that can dig into your skin.

6. Burn your ribbon ends

If you’ve having satin ribbon on your bouquets, Yasmin recommends burning the end of the ribbon to get a nice polished edge. This will prevent it from fraying throughout the day.

7. Opt for seasonal blooms

Choose flowers that are in season to keep your budget down. Out of season florals have to be imported, Yasmin explains, which can significantly bump up the cost.

8. Consider your dressing area

Ensure that where you get ready is big enough for your whole party. Get lots of mirrors ready as there will be a few of you trying to check yourselves out. Yasmin suggests you pick somewhere with easy parking and access. You don’t want to spend the morning directing people to your location!

9. Factor in a break

Yasmin recommends that you plan in a 20-minute “break” from the day so you and your new spouse can have a moment away from everyone to simply reflect and take it in.

10. Put you and your partner first

Remember that at the end of the day the only thing that truly matters is you and your partner. In Yasmin’s own words: ‘Don’t give a sh*t about ensuring your guests are happy all day. There’s booze and food, so they’ll be fine. Just make sure the two of you are having a great time.”

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How Much Does a Church Wedding Cost? The 2024 Average Revealed

A church was once the traditional venue for couples in the UK to tie the knot. But, nowadays, it’s relatively uncommon. Less than one in five couples decide to get married in a church or religious setting, choosing alternative venues such as hotels, registry offices and even the great outdoors.

But, did you know that a church wedding is actually one of the most affordable venues you could choose? And it has the added benefit of being historical, full of character and meaning, and absolutely stunning.

Think about it: you’re in a building that could be as much as 1,500 years old. You’re surrounded by your friends and family, and you lock eyes with your spouse-to-be at the other end of the aisle, and a priest marries the two of you in a wonderful, personal ceremony. Doesn’t that sound perfect? The icing on the cake is the fact that it’s also far cheaper to get married in a church than in many other popular venues.

In this post, we’re going to dive into how much a church wedding costs, including the differences between Anglican and Roman Catholic churches, and the additional costs to be aware of before deciding whether or not a church wedding is for you.

What’s the average cost of a church wedding?

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In the UK, the average cost of a church wedding is £5,480, which makes it the second cheapest type of wedding venue behind getting married at a registry office, and even more affordable than choosing a restaurant as your wedding venue. But, getting married in a church is still 45% cheaper than the average cost of a wedding venue in the UK, which is £9,877.

These figures include the ceremony itself, as well as the reception and breakfast, but not your attire, rings, transport, photographer and everything else to do with the wedding. You’ll also have to factor in costs related to the engagement ring and honeymoon.

But, depending on the type of church you get married in, this figure can vary dramatically. For more information on wedding costs, read our complete guide to the average cost of a wedding.

The cost of getting married in different churches

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In the UK, the cost of a church wedding will differ depending on whether you get married in an Anglican church or a Roman Catholic church. The one you choose will, of course, depend on your beliefs and preferences.

How much does it cost to get married in an Anglican church?

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If you’re getting married in an Anglican church in your local parish, the cost of a wedding (as of 2024) will be a maximum of £539. If you’re getting married in a church that isn’t local, the maximum cost will be £641.

Anglican churches, which include the Church of England and the Church in Wales, have the same beliefs but different governing bodies. Despite these differences, weddings in both will generally cost the same, but it’s always worth checking with your local vicar, especially if you’re getting married in a Welsh Anglican church.

The cost includes most of the bare bones things needed for the ceremony itself, including the vicar, the church, calling your banns, the banns certificate, heating and lighting, and any administration charges. However, it doesn’t include the cost of the marriage certificate, which you’ll need to pay for at a registry office at a later date.

How much does it cost to get married in a Roman Catholic church?

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There’s no cost to getting married in a Roman Catholic church, as marriage is said to be a gift from God. However, they will ask for a donation of around £150 to help with the general maintenance, running and upkeep of the church.

Before you run to book your Roman Catholic church wedding, there are a couple of stipulations. Firstly, at least one of you must be Roman Catholic in order for the two of you to get married in a Roman Catholic church. Secondly, you must give the church at least six months’ notice, which means you can’t use a Roman Catholic church if you’re hoping to get married quickly.

What extras do you have to be aware of with a church wedding?

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The ceremony the church provides as part of its offering doesn’t include extras, such as an organist, verger, extra heating and bell ringing, nor the costs of other vendors you might want to include as part of the ceremony, such as flowers, a photographer and/or videographer.

Speak to your priest about what extras they can provide and how much they cost, but below will give you a rough idea:

Organist – around £50
Bell ringing – around £40
Verger – around £40
Extra heating – around £65

You may also be asked about an additional donation to contribute towards the general costs associated with the church; however, this is a voluntary donation. Many churches can cost between £40,000 and £100,000 per year to run, so any amount you care to donate will be welcome.

Of course, none of these extras are mandatory, but you may choose to have them so you have music, the magic of ringing church bells and heating to warm your guests – particularly if you’re having a winter wedding. Churches can get pretty cold!

For dozens of ways to save money on all aspects of your wedding, read our ultimate guide to saving money on your wedding.

What about the wedding breakfast and evening reception?

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While it will often cost you around £1,000 to get married in a church (or less if you choose not to donate) you also need to bear in mind the cost of the post-ceremony wedding breakfast and evening reception you may want to hold so you can celebrate your marriage with your loved ones.

Unfortunately, you won’t be able to host your celebrations at the church itself – but there may be a neighbouring church hall or community hall you could use. Alternatively, a pub with a function room, local restaurant, or hotel are great venues for a breakfast and/or reception.

Depending on how and where you choose to celebrate, it will bump up the cost of your church wedding. But as we highlighted earlier, you’re still more likely to pay significantly less than the average UK wedding.

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How to Save Money on an Engagement Ring

If you’ve decided it’s time to pop the question to your partner, congratulations! The coming weeks are going to be filled with excitement and nerves as you figure out the whens, wheres and hows, to make sure it’s as romantic and special as it can be.

Another major consideration you may also have is how much you should spend on the engagement ring. Depending on who you ask, this could be anything from a couple of grand to almost ten grand. If either of these amounts makes you feel anxious or overwhelmed, then don’t worry – neither of these will necessarily be true for you.

But at the same time, regardless of your budget, you’ll want to buy a ring that’s beautiful, elegant and something your partner will be proud to wear on their finger and show off to the world. So, can you buy a ring without worrying about getting breaking the bank?

Thankfully, yes you can. In this post, we’re going to explore the many ways you can save money on an engagement ring so you can get down on one knee and not have to worry about whether or not they’ll love the ring (because they definitely will).

What’s the average amount spent on an engagement ring?

Here in the UK, the average engagement ring costs approximately £2,089. Before this figure makes you change your mind about buying a ring and proposing, remember this one important fact: an average does not need to be stuck to. Some people who buy an engagement ring will spend more than the average, but many, many people spend way less.

If you’re going to propose, then you’re possibly fairly serious about getting married to the person you love. If that’s the case, you’ll spend a lot of money on a wedding within the next few years – and with the average wedding costing £20,775, you might not want to spend too much on the engagement ring.

How much should you spend on an engagement ring?

There are several opinions about what the traditional amount to spend on an engagement ring is, but it usually varies between one and three months’ salary. That means, based on the average UK salary of £29,669, you might expect to spend between £2,472 and £7,417.

As you can see, even the lowest amount is still higher than the average spend, so you shouldn’t feel obliged to spend this much. When deciding your budget, you shouldn’t base it on anything other than your own circumstances. Try your best to ignore what you think you have to spend or what others might have spent on rings in the past. You do you.

What if you only have a small budget for an engagement ring?

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If you only have a small budget to spend on an engagement ring, then don’t let that trouble you too much. Even if you can’t spend anything close to the UK average, that doesn’t mean you won’t be able to buy a fabulous ring – far from it. There are plenty of amazing engagement rings out there which don’t cost close to the average. Besides, how much the ring you buy costs doesn’t matter all that much – what the ring represents is the important part. After all, it’s not like the amount you spend on a ring has any reflection on the amount of love you have for your future fiance.

However, if you have a small budget, or you’re conscious that you don’t want to spend too much, there are ways to save money on an engagement ring so you can have the perfect piece to present when you get down on one knee.

12 ways to save money on an engagement ring

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Below are 12 ways you can save money on an engagement ring so you can avoid spending the average amount. Then, once you’ve received your YES, read our ultimate wedding cost-cutting guide for plenty more money-saving tips. Remember, a cheap engagement ring doesn’t have to look or feel cheap if you know what to do.

1. Set a budget and stick to it

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The first step is to carefully consider your finances and set a realistic budget. You might want to spend thousands and thousands on the biggest, shiniest ring you can find, but where will your finances be once the excitement has worn off and the reality of planning a wedding sets in?

When it comes time to start ring shopping, don’t get carried away – stick to your budget, as hard as it might be. The perfect ring for your budget is out there. If you can resist temptation, your bank account will thank you, we promise.

2. Choose the cut carefully

The type of diamond cut you go for will have a big influence over the price you pay. The most expensive diamond cut is round brilliant. This is, in part, because so much diamond is wasted in the cutting process, which is often more than half – so that’s lost profit on the jewellery maker’s floor. Another reason is that round brilliant cut diamonds have 58 facets (the flat edges that come together to form the shape of the diamond), and 58 is the ideal number for creating the maximum amount of sparkle and fire.

The most affordable diamonds are pear shape, heart shape and princess cut, as they use more of the rough diamond. While these are still relatively expensive, they can be as much as 30% cheaper than a round brilliant cut diamond. So, why not choose a more affordable cut – you still get a fabulous diamond but could pay way less.

3. Choose a stone other than diamond

If you’re not precious about diamonds, or you want to present a ring to your partner with a stone that has a little more colour, why not pick a ring with something other than diamond? Some wonderful diamond alternatives include:

Ruby
Sapphire
Emerald
Aquamarine
Amethyst
Opal

If you really are keen on diamonds, another option is to choose a design which includes them, but they’re supported by other, less expensive stones. A trilogy or halo ring can feature smaller, more affordable diamonds around a different central stone, such as a sapphire or ruby. That way, you still get to propose with a diamond ring, but the cost isn’t quite as intimidating.

4. Choose a cheaper precious metal

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When it comes to the choice of precious metal for an engagement ring, you’re actually spoilt for choice. There are premium, super-high-quality metals you could choose from, such as platinum or 18-carat rose gold, or ultra-low budget options, such as steel or tungsten.

Even on a budget, you may not want to choose the cheapest metal, but something middle-of-the-road can strike a great balance between luxury, durability and affordability.

9-carat yellow or white gold, or palladium, are both fantastic but cheaper choices that are still special enough to be worthy of being placed on your partner’s ring finger.

Before you commit to the metal, it’s important to think about which metal you might like your future wedding rings to be made from. It’s recommended that they’re made from the same metal so they don’t wear at different rates or damage each other. If you bear this in mind now, it could save you money in the future.

5. Larger diamonds can be cheaper than smaller ones

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Just because a diamond is bigger doesn’t automatically make it more expensive. When it comes to diamonds, they’re graded based on the 4Cs:

Carat
Cut
Colour
Clarity

Based on this, a small diamond that’s clear and white will usually be more expensive than a large diamond that’s cloudy and slightly yellow. The higher the quality, the more fire and sparkle a diamond will have, and these are the qualities that are highly regarded in diamonds. This is what makes them more expensive. But, if your partner isn’t particularly fussed about this, you could get a larger diamond for a lot less. Plus, many of the imperfections that lower the cost of a diamond can only be seen if you have access to specialist equipment, so no one will even know.

6. Browse online jewellers

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It can be useful to visit jewellers so you can see what’s available in person and get to study some rings that fit your budget. But, we also recommend browsing online jewellers, as this is a great way to grab a bargain. Online retailers offer a huge range of cheap engagement rings, so you’ll definitely find something that suits your taste and budget. Because they don’t have physical stores, they have fewer overheads, which means they can afford to charge less. Before you order, make sure you’re familiar with the site’s returns policy, just in case you change your mind once you see the ring in person for the first time.

At Bridebook, we also have a huge selection of jewellers across the UK, with many offering exclusive Bridebook discounts.

7. Avoid paying monthly if you can

Some jewellers will try and attract you with offers like ‘0% interest-free credit’, which sounds perfect for spreading out the cost, but there may be a caveat, such as that it only applies if you pay in full within six months. If you don’t, the interest creeps up so you actually pay far more for your ring than you’d budgeted for. If possible, avoid doing it this way – or if you do, double-check the terms and conditions before signing on the dotted line.

8. Find out your partner’s ring size

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This one might be tricky, but why not visit a couple of jewellers with your partner and do your best to subtly measure their ring finger? If you can buy a ring that’s the right size, once they’ve said yes, you can slip the ring on their finger and you won’t need to send it off to be resized, which usually costs between £50 and £150 depending on the precious metal you go for.

9. Shop during the sales

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We get it, once you’ve decided it’s time to propose, you’ll want to start the search for the perfect engagement ring. But, if time is on your side, it’s always worth holding out for a sale. For example, after the chaos of Christmas, high-street jewellers usually have a sale in January. Take advantage of this and grab yourself a deal.

10. Be a confident haggler

Did you know you can haggle at a jewellers? Even in big-name high-street jewellers, you can barter with employees to get a discount to slash a few pounds off the price. Don’t expect to knock off half the price, but it’s fairly common to get 10% off what you see in the window – just be as confident as you can, be nice to the store assistant and don’t demand too much.

11. Browse charity and vintage shops

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Regularly checking in on your local charity and vintage shops is a fantastic way to secure a bargain. There’s nothing wrong with buying a second-hand ring – if anything, its history adds to its allure and charm. With persistence (and a little luck) you can find some real treasures, such as the engagement ring found in a charity shop that cost just £1. You might not always get that lucky, but it’s worth keeping a lookout whenever you pass your local charity shop. Plus, it supports a great cause!

12. Buy an alternative engagement ring

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To get engaged, no written rule states you have to give your partner a ring. If your partner doesn’t like to wear a ring, or you’d prefer something a little more unique, there are plenty of options out there to suit all budgets. Why not plant a tree together to symbolise your growing love? You could get matching tattoos or donate to their favourite charity. Use your imagination and make your proposal one-of-a-kind!

For more ideas and inspiration, check out our dedicated post on 30 unique alternatives to engagement rings.

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How Much Does a Hotel Wedding Cost? The 2024 Average Revealed

Planning your wedding can be a fun, challenging and rewarding process. But as you put together everything you need, including your choice of venue, food, attire, cake, transport and more, it can also be an expensive process.

If you’re getting married on a budget, a hotel wedding is a fantastic option. Everything you need, from the ceremony to the reception, is right there in one place. Not only does this make a hotel wedding super appealing, but it has the added bonus of being far more affordable than weddings that take place in other venues.

In this post, we’re going to dive into how much a hotel wedding costs, including the average cost, what factors can affect that cost and why it might just be the right option for you for your special day.

Can you get married in a hotel?

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Yes, you can get married in a hotel. Many hotels have function rooms that make for a beautiful setting for a wedding, and also include many other facilities, such as catering and accommodation, to ensure you and your guests have a fabulous day.

What is a hotel wedding?

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A hotel wedding is a wedding that takes place entirely in a hotel. One half (or both halves) of the happy couple will wake up in the hotel, get ready, welcome guests, and have the ceremony, the photographs, the breakfast and the reception all without so much as stepping out of the hotel’s grounds.

Some hotels offer all-inclusive wedding packages, and may even have an event or wedding planner that will work with you to help plan your big day. Because they’re equipped to handle almost every part of your wedding, you might not need to rely on many additional vendors, which makes a hotel wedding one of the most affordable types of wedding out there.

What’s the average cost of a hotel wedding?

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You may be thinking, how much does a wedding cost in a hotel? It must be expensive, right? Well, in the UK, the average cost of a hotel wedding is £7,324, meaning it comes in cheaper than the average cost of a venue, which is £9,877.

Hotel weddings are the most popular choice of venue in the UK, with almost a quarter (24%) of couples choosing one to host their big day. Hotels offer the perfect balance of luxury, elegance, capacity, convenience and affordability. If you’re looking for this combination but have a smaller budget, you could go for a registry office wedding or a church wedding, which are the two of the cheapest wedding venue types.

Of course, this is just an average cost and prices can vary, but it should give you a good indication of what you might expect to pay for a hotel wedding. For more information on wedding costs, read our complete guide to the average cost of UK weddings.

Why is a hotel wedding a great choice for your wedding?

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Thinking about a hotel wedding but not sure if it’s the right choice for you? Here are a few reasons why it should be high on your list of considerations:

It’s convenient having everything in one location, including accommodation, catering, the ceremony and the reception.
Many hotels offer packages, making the planning process simple.
The hotel staff are experts at ensuring guest satisfaction and will be on hand to make sure your day goes perfectly.
The chefs spend all day, every day cooking similar dishes to the ones on your chosen menu, so you can be confident the food will be delicious.
Many hotels, especially those out in the country, have beautiful outdoor spaces, which will be perfect for your photographs.
Your guests can just fall into bed at the end of the evening.
You don’t need to worry about the weather spoiling your plans.

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What factors can affect the cost of a hotel wedding?

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While the average cost of a hotel wedding might be £7,324, this cost can be higher or lower depending on many different factors. So, bear these in mind when planning your hotel wedding:

The size and star rating of the hotel – The larger and more luxurious the hotel is, the more they’re likely to charge.
The location – Where the hotel is will influence the cost. For example, London hotels will generally be more expensive than hotels located outside the capital.
The number of guests – Expect to pay more if you have a large guest list.
Season – You’ll pay more during busier seasons, such as during the summer or at Christmas.
Day of the week – Weddings that take place at the weekend are generally more expensive than midweek weddings.
Package – Hotels may offer a range of packages to suit various budgets.
Catering – You’ll pay more if you choose to have premium food and ingredients as part of your menu.
Accommodation – Even with a hotel wedding, relatively few couples pay for their guests’ hotel rooms. If you do choose to offer this, be prepared for your costs to skyrocket.
Music and entertainment – Depending on what type of music and entertainment you go for, such as a DJ or live band, costs can fluctuate wildly.

On top of this, there are also the costs associated with your wedding that the hotel may not be in a position to arrange. This includes your cake, transportation (if needed), flowers, attire, favours and more. It’s important to also bear these in mind when it comes to budgeting your wedding.

Use our handy wedding budgeting tool to get a simple and clear idea of what you might spend on your special day. And, read our guide to savings money on your wedding for dozens of cost-cutting tips.

What are the pros and cons of a hotel wedding?

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There are pros and cons to a hotel wedding, so if you’re still not sure if it’s right for you, consider these before making your decision.

The pros of a hotel wedding

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It’s one of the most convenient ways to have a wedding – you probably won’t even need to go outside (except to snap a few shots with the photographer if it’s dry).
The hotel staff will be more than used to delivering top-class service.
Accommodation is right there for you and your guests. They may even offer a discount for you and your new spouse to spend your first night as a married couple in the honeymoon suite (if they don’t, ask for one).
The food at a hotel wedding will be expertly cooked, delicious and fresh.

The cons of a hotel wedding

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Some of the more desirable packages might be on the more expensive side.
Certain hotels might not be too happy with you hiring external vendors – especially when it comes to catering and drinks.
If it’s a larger hotel, there may be other, non-wedding party guests staying at the hotel that evening.
Inner city hotels may lack outdoor spaces.
Availability can go quickly, so make sure you secure your booking early.

How to choose the right hotel for your wedding

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If you know that you’d love to have a hotel wedding but you’re not quite sure where or how to start looking, there are a few points to consider.

Firstly, is there a particular hotel where you and your partner have already made plenty of great memories? Maybe it’s somewhere you took your first trip together or you spend a long weekends there a couple of times a year? Choosing a hotel you’re familiar with gives you a head start and helps you feel confident about your choice.

If you haven’t stayed there before, why not book a cheeky night to scope the place out, try the food and have a nose into the space they use for weddings? If you like what you see, you can always speak to the manager or events team to get an idea of their rates and packages to see if they fit your budget.

You’ll want to make sure that the hotel can provide you with everything you need, or if not, whether they’re happy for you to hire outside vendors.

As soon as the two of you have decided it’s the perfect venue for your wedding, put your name down and pay the deposit to secure the booking so another couple can’t nab it from you. There’s nothing quite like the disappointment of psyching yourself up for a venue only for you to lose it.

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How Much Does a Restaurant Wedding Cost? The 2024 Average Revealed

You and your spouse-to-be sit side by side in a beautiful and tasteful setting that’s intimate and cosy. You’re surrounded by your family and friends as you enjoy delicious, freshly-prepared food, then spend the evening dancing to a selection of cheesy tunes… there’s nothing quite like a restaurant wedding. It also has the added benefit of being one of the most affordable ways to tie the knot.

In this post, we’re going to explore how much a restaurant wedding costs, including the average cost, what to expect for your money and why a restaurant wedding might just be the best choice for your big day.

What is a restaurant wedding?

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A restaurant wedding is when you have your entire wedding – including the ceremony and proceeding reception – in a restaurant. This can also extend to a pub or a function room within a similar venue.

A restaurant wedding is perfect if you’re looking for a smaller, more intimate way to tie the knot. You can avoid the craziness that sometimes comes with a larger wedding, as well as help to keep costs down.

Restaurateurs are more than familiar with providing customers with a first-class experience. The same can be applied to your wedding. Of course, you’ll hire a registrar and perhaps a celebrant to oversee the ceremony, but the team at the restaurant can take care of the food and service as you celebrate with a post-ceremony meal, which can then become a reception in the evening if there’s space that allows for a dance floor.

With everything you need right there at the restaurant, including great decor, catering, drinks, staff and more, it’s a fantastic option for budget-conscious couples whothat want to have an intimate yet beautiful wedding.

What’s the average cost of a restaurant wedding?

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In the UK, the average cost of a restaurant wedding is £5,526, which makes it the third cheapest type of wedding venue you could have after a registry office wedding and a church wedding.

A restaurant wedding is brilliant for couples looking for a more budget-friendly option for their big day. The average cost of a wedding venue in the UK is £9,877, and a restaurant wedding costs almost 45% less than this amount. It’s worth noting that this amount covers only the cost of the venue and the food, which means you’ll still have to budget for your attire, transport, rings and everything else to do with your wedding. It’s also important that you discuss this with the restaurant manager to make sure you don’t have any unwelcome surprises, such as there being a minimum spend on drinks.

Because of their capacity, restaurant weddings are generally much smaller than weddings you might host at a hotel, country house or castle. So, rather than inviting 80+ guests, you might have closer to 30 or so. But, this is perfect if you’re looking to keep things smaller and only invite your closest family and friends.

So, if you’re looking to get married but don’t want to spend anything close to the average, why not speak to the manager of your favourite restaurant and see what they can do for you?

Here at Bridebook, we have hundreds of restaurants that are perfect for hosting wonderful restaurant weddings. We also have plenty more information on average wedding costs in our ultimate guide.

Why is a restaurant wedding a brilliant option for your big day?

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As we’ve already highlighted, having your wedding at a restaurant is in the top three3 cheapest venues. Whether it’s your local pizza joint, your favourite curry house or the function room in a nearby pub, opting to have a restaurant wedding will likely save you thousands of pounds.

But, as well as the far more affordable cost, there are plenty more reasons why a restaurant wedding might just be the best choice for you:

Provides a familiar, relaxed and intimate setting.
Offers a cosy and welcoming ambience.
It’s unique and charming.
The food will be of the highest quality and in keeping with your chosen venue.
Service will be exemplary.
It’s a convenient and flexible way to have your ceremony, breakfast and reception in one location.
Because it’s a smaller venue, the cost of flowers and other decor will be low.
Lowers the cost of your transportation.
Keeps your guest list small.
Saves you from falling foul of the Great British weather.

What factors can affect the cost of a restaurant wedding?

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While the average cost of a restaurant wedding is £5,526, there are certain factors that mean you might pay more or less than this. These include:

The size of the venue – The bigger the restaurant is, the more you’re likely to pay.
The location of the venue – A pub in the middle of the countryside will usually be much more affordable than a high-end restaurant in London.
The season – During busy seasons, such as summer and Christmas, you’ll have to pay more.
The day – Expect to pay more on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays.
The number of guests – The more guests you invite, the more expensive it will be.
The food – Letting guests order off the regular menu will be more expensive than serving everyone the same set menu.
Customisations – If you’re asking for a lot of customisations, the price will be higher.
Service charge – Ask the restaurant if there will be a service charge included on the final bill.
Minimum drinks spend – Check whether there’s a minimum drinks spend and if you’ll have to make up the difference if this isn’t reached.
Entertainment and music – Whether you choose a DJ or live music, the cost will fluctuate.

There are then the other costs that are associated with a wedding, such as your photographer and/or videographer, transport to the venue, rings, cake, and attire – these can all have varying costs depending on your style, tastes and preferences.

To discover ways to cut costs for your big day, read our ultimate guide to saving money on your wedding.

What are the pros and cons of a restaurant wedding?

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If you’re seriously considering a restaurant wedding, you may want to weigh up the pros and cons to make sure it provides you with everything you want on your big day.

The pros of a restaurant wedding

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The cost is a huge pro. Remember, you may pay less 30% more than two-thirds less than the average cost of a wedding venue in the UK.
The food will be the star of the show, made by experienced chefs whothat cook similar food every day of the week.
The atmosphere will be intimate, with only your closest loved ones there with you. If you’re hosting in a pub, you can always invite more guests in the evening to party at the reception.
Logistically, a restaurant wedding is simple, with everything you could need right there.

The cons of a restaurant wedding

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You’ll have to be quite ruthless with your guest list to make sure you’re not too cramped.
Your favourite restaurant might not be the best choice, especially if it doesn’t have an open floor plan.
Depending on the restaurant you choose, there might not be room for a dance floor.
You’ll likely have to choose the sort of cuisine that the restaurant specialises in, though they may have some options that are more in keeping with traditional wedding food.

How to choose the right restaurant for your wedding

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The first thing you should do is familiarise yourself with your top contenders. Book a table so you can get a feel for the atmosphere, the service and – most importantly – the food. If you like it, speak to the manager and let them know what you’re considering – they can tell you if it’s something they offer and what they can do to help make your wedding extra special.

We recommend choosing a restaurant that the two of you have a special connection with. Perhaps it’s somewhere you had your first date, or where you got engaged, or where you spent many Saturday nights enjoying a meal and a bottle of wine together.

You’ll also want to think about practicality. Is there space for you to walk down the aisle with your guests watching on? Is there room for all the guests you’d like to invite? If there’s no function space, can the tables be moved to fit a DJ and dance floor? Think about what you’d like for your wedding and whether the restaurant could accommodate everything.

Browse our huge selection of restaurants to find your ideal restaurant wedding venue.

Find your perfect venue on Bridebook

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Here at Bridebook, we have everything you could need to find your perfect venue, with plenty of exclusive offers and discounts only for our members. Sign up today to plan your dream wedding!

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Wedding insurance is the best way to protect yourself financially in case things don’t go to plan before or during your big day. Providing cover for weddings and civil partnerships up to £50,000, Wedinsure is our top option to consider if you’re looking to protect your wedding.

Reasons to consider Wedinsure

Wedinsure is a great flexible wedding insurance provider. Cover ranges from £5,000 to £50,000, with prices starting from as little as a £43.99 one-off payment. Plus, there’s nil excess on certain sections of cover. That means you’ll receive 100% of the money you claim (up to the sum insured for those sections of cover).

Wedinsure offers 10 different levels of cancellation protection. Key benefits include cover if you need to cancel or reschedule your wedding in the case of the following:

Any of your suppliers meet with financial failure
You or a close relative falls ill, dies or is injured
The weather or a natural disaster means you or at least half of your guests can’t make it to your wedding
Any of your wedding must-haves are lost or damaged (attire, gifts, rings, flowers, cake)

There’s also cover for destination weddings and personal liability coverage, plus plenty of brilliant optional add-ons such as marquee cover, COVID-19 cover, public liability, excess waiver and even ceremonial swords!

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So, if you’re looking for the best way to protect your wedding investment, take a look at Wedinsure today. And to learn more, check out our ultimate guide to wedding insurance.

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