Are you dreaming of a fairytale autumn wedding where you have crackling fires and leaves crunching under your feet? We know just the place! Here at Bridebook.co.uk, we believe you should be able to enjoy your wedding day whatever the weather – so we’ve put together a list of the best autumn venues in the UK!
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The stunning Dewsall Court is surrounded by 12 acres of countryside and boasts breathtaking leafy interiors to bring the outside in. Just perfect for autumn!
This newly restored Georgian House in the heart of Devon is a combination of traditional and modern features. Shilstone is sure to be a romantic setting as the leaves fall!
Butley Priory is a magical building dating back to the 14th Century and was originally a monastary. Get cosy in this one-of-a-kind venue near the Suffolk coastline.
This beautiful old Cotswold stone barn offers plenty of countryside features including a stunning open fireplace. Stay warm on your wedding day at Cripps Barn as the temperature drops!
Say your vows in front of a roaring fire at the gorgeous historic venue of Maften Hall Hotel – a striking countryside backdrop for your autumn wedding.
Boasting panoramic views of the Severn Valley, Blaisdon Hall is a grand venue finished off with elaborate decor and antique furniture. Feel cosy on your big day while enjoying the luxury!
Just an hour outside of London, Old Luxters Barn boasts exposed wooden beams inside, and a luxury marquee outside. A perfect canvas for creating your autumn theme!
Imagine your journey through crisp leaves as you approach the enchanted Leeds Castle! What could be more romantic than saying ‘I do’ in this magnificent venue?
Tunnels Beaches is a unique venue offering a hand-carved tunnel through the cliff leading to a private beach. Stun your guests with this dramatic backdrop during an autumn sunset! Get inspired by the UK’s best beach wedding venues.
This 400-acre sustainably-run farm is home to a thatched cider barn, beautiful farmhouse, and plenty of woodlands in which to tie the knot! Middle Coombe Farm is the ultimate venue for nature lovers getting married in the autumn season.
Birtsmorton Court is a lovely manor house with its very own moat. Watch while the team creates the perfect autumn wedding in front of your eyes with crackling fires, fab food, and even fireworks!
We hope you liked our choices of top autumn venues! However, if you’re still trying to find ‘the one’, use Bridebook.co.uk’s Wedding Venue Search and type in your preferred location.
Once you’ve got your venue secured, you’ll no doubt still have heaps to do! Make the preparations easy by using Bridebook.co.uk’s wedding guest list and wedding budget planner – not forgetting our wedding checklist so you don’t forget any important steps.
You’ve searched far and wide and have finally found the perfect suit for the big day. There’s no feeling quite like putting on a perfectly tailored suit for the first time, and with confidence at an all-time high, it’s easy to get carried away and assume the job is done. However, the subtle nuances of savvy tailoring and styling are often what takes you from a slightly-above-average Joe to an unadulterated style savant.
So who better to dish their tips than the timeless Turnbull & Asser, who have dressed the likes of HRH The Prince of Wales, Charlie Chaplin, Sir Winston Churchill and James Bond! Enjoy as they break down the necessities to complete your wedding day look.
The Tie
Presuming you’ve opted for a single breasted three-piece, your tie becomes your statement piece. Whilst tradition dictates that a bowtie is the go-to, there are a few equally-smart-and-a-lot-less-fiddly options that will make you look the part. In this case, go for an ornate or herringbone silk tie in a Prince Albert knot for added depth. Head of Design Dean Gomilsek-Cole recommends this knot over a regular 4-in-hand as it provides greater length. Ensure it matches your wedding’s colour theme and that your shirt is plain – allowing the tie to have pride of place.
The Shirt
Take it from us when we say there are white shirts, and then there are white shirts. Our West Indian Sea Island Cotton bespoke shirt provides immeasurable quality and exceptional comfort. Double cuffs (or French cuffs) and a customisable collar will allow you to have, quite literally, the perfect shirt. You can’t go wrong with a classic T&A collar, but the beauty of bespoke is that you can create something to your exact shape and preference.
The Cufflinks
Subtlety reigns supreme when it comes to your cufflinks. They need to stay on the right side of elegance, removing excess flashiness. A monogrammed pair add a heightened touch of sophistication and will remain as keepsakes from the best day of your life. Win-win.
The Collar Stays
Behind every successful man, is a woman rolling her eyes. Behind every collar, are collar stays keeping everything intact. Arguably the most subtle of details, they play a pivotal role in ensuring one never looks unkempt. Whether it’s sterling silver or mother-of-pearl, it’s an absolute necessity for every quality shirt. We’d also suggest having an additional pair at hand, for emergency’s sake.
The Pocket Square
Go for a square that complements the tie, but avoid having a repeating pattern. Matching at times can look relatively lazy, and loses personality and flair. Your pocket square shouldn’t steal the show, however, but rather accentuate the tie. Opt for plain silk in an accent colour, or white with coloured piping.
The Socks
An exposed ankle is more of an established rule rather than a temporary trend nowadays, however, it forms a more casual take on sartorial. There’s a time and place for that and it’s most definitely not on your wedding day. We’d suggest a plain sock that works subtly with your outfit, ideally an off-black colourway. Avoid Colgate white at all times – the only man that could pull it off was Michael Jackson, and it should be kept that way.
Always remember, when it comes to the big day the aim is to look as handsome as possible, without ever taking attention away from the bride. Other than that, enjoy the day and all it brings, and to the next chapter that awaits!
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Fed up of trawling round boring venues that all end up moulding into one? It’s time for a venue change-up, and Bridebook.co.uk is here to help! We’ve found 25 of the best wedding venues near Newcastle that will put a spin on your big day.
Hopefully, you love these stunning venues as much as we do…but if you’re still not satisfied, take a look for yourself using our Wedding Venue Search tool.
Newcastle’s Assembly Rooms is a premier banqueting venue that offers a unique ambience and a classy way to dine on your wedding day. Just sit back, relax and take in the beautiful sights of this venue!
This classic Victorian Mansion House is a great choice if you require an elegant backdrop and impressive location for your wedding. Celebrate your nuptials in style, with this lavish venue!
The incredibly quirky As You Like It, just outside the city centre, really is a one-of-a-kind venue. This hidden gem strives to make your day extra special with heaps of imagination and maybe even a surprise or two.
4. Theatre Royal Newcastle
The recently restored Theatre Royal Newcastle are where dreams become reality! This incredible spaces has plenty of grace and class for your magical day – now it’s your turn to step into the spotlight!
Just a stone’s throw away from the city lies the oasis of Vallum Farm. This versatile venue offers rustic country features while still being uber-glam for your special day. Enjoy a laid-back barbecue or a fine dining experience at this incredible venue – where anything goes.
Surrounded by 300 acres of picturesque parkland, Mafton Hall Hotel is a magnificent building with lots of character. Head down the spectacular Great Hall staircase before saying ‘I Do’ in front of the feature fireplace. We couldn’t think of a more stunning ceremony moment!
If you’ve got a particular theme in mind, Event Northumbria is the blank canvas to create it! In the grounds of Northumbria University campus, this venue takes creativity to a whole new level with it’s range of flexible spaces and nearby location to the local registry office.
We fell in love with it’s name instantly…but now we love the venue! The Biscuit Factory is an art, craft and design gallery in a former Victorian warehouse, becoming a contemporary backdrop for your wedding. With a focus on culture and individuality, it is sure to be a hit!
9. Castlegate
In the heart of Newcastle, Castlegate offers the versatile space of the Turbine Hall, ideal for painting your perfect day as you dream it. It can comfortably accommodate larger weddings under it’s stunning structure, allowing you to invite everyone and not cut down the guestlist!
If you’re looking for something more intimate, Whalton Manor is a glorius venue set in a quaint countryside village just 30 minutes from Newcastle. The stone-built summer house and exquisite architecture are marvellous additions to your big day!
Lumley Castle Hotel has 600 years of history and boasts views over nine acres of parkland and the River Wear. The state rooms make a great set up for a grand dining experience, to make sure it is as spectacular on the inside as it is on the outside.
Art lovers – pay attention! Fancy hosting your most special day at an incredibly memorable venue, among Newcastle’s finest art? Laing Art Gallery is the place to choose if you want to say your vows next to your favourite works – your guests will be impressed too!
Situated 20 minutes away from the city, South Causey is a barn and wedding suite set up with a garden overlooking the Beamish Valley. The beautiful chapel-style Tanfield suite is the perfect place to begin your marriage, as this venue brings a warm and romantic vibe to the day of your dreams.
The Royal Station Hotel is a well-recognised building from the exterior, but have you seen inside? With a range of opulent suites to choose from, the world is your oyster with this magnificent venue.
Searching for an alternative venue with a quirkiness to it? The Quayside Exchange is ideal! Choose from the Grand Room, the Quayside Suite with nautical features, or the Vaulted Suite in the basement to sway your wedding theme whichever way you want to take it!
This one doesn’t need much explaining! If you’ve ever fancied being Queen of your own grand residence, Crook Hall is the place to be it! Enjoy spectacular landscapes of the Secret Walled Garden and a candlelit ceremony in the Medieval Hall.
This 13th Century friary in central Newcastle offers authentic features including stained-glass windows, chandeliers and rustic stone walls. The medieval Banquet Hall of Blackfriars Restaurant is an inncredible place to wine and dine your guests!
The former glasshouse and ‘Winter Gardens’ of Queen Elizabeth High School is a rather alternative wedding venue! It is airy and spacious with lots of natural light, plus you can enjoy the lush greenery even from indoors!
This venue needs no introduction! The stunning Healey Barn is a short drive away from the centre of Newcastle, combining Northumbrian countryside with rustic romance. Delightful!
Riverside views and breath-taking architecture means you have arrived at Sage Gateshead! This versatile venue is rated in the Independent’s top 50 venues from across the globe, and we totally understand why! Impressive.
The grand exterior of Jesmond Dene House and it’s wood-panelled Great Hall offers plenty of character to really add an edge to your special day. There are also lots of more intimate spaces too, as well as 40 bedrooms to accommodate your guests after your unforgettable event!
Fancy saying your vows under a T-Rex? Want your guests to dine among the Living Planet creatures? The Great North Museum is a spectacular way to entertain your guests and keep them talking about your wedding for several weeks after!
This is undoubtedly a rather quirky venue…but it really could make your wedding! This Gothic-style Victorian Institute building has a choice of spectacular rooms that are versatile enough for you to put your spin on it.
Within 200 acres of magnificent parkland, High House Farm Brewery boasts views of Hadrian’s Wall and is ideal for a rustic, rural theme. Bails of hay will complete the look for your ultimately bespoke wedding!
Only 10 miles away from the city centre, Horton Grange Hotel is situated in an area of oasis! Perfectly landscaped gardens, charming period features and a relaxing ambience come with this Grade II listed stately home.
So, that’s our top 25 picks for interesting and quirky venues near the city of Newcastle! If you’re looking elsewhere in the UK, use Bridebook.co.uk’s Wedding Venue Search and type in your preferred location.
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Crowned as the happiest place to live in the UK and full of culture and vibrance, the seaside city of Brighton is a popular one! If you’re lucky enough to live in or around Brighton and are searching for the perfect wedding venue in the area, you’re in the right place!
Bridebook.co.uk has hunted down 25 of the most unique places to get wed, so you can sit back and enjoy the rest of your planning process! If you’re still stuck, use our Wedding Venue Search tool and marvel in wonder as you find your ideal venue.
In central Brighton, Fabrica is a one-of-a-kind venue with an unusual interior and striking exterior. Used as a contemporary art gallery, this unique space has a stained glass feature wall and gorgeous wooden balcony panels. Do with it what you will, as this exclusive use venue can be shaped into any theme you desire!
If you’re hunting for the wow factor, this venue is surely the one! All Saints Chapel in nearby Eastbourne offers intricate decor and breathtakingly high ceilings. The grade I listed chapel was built in 1874 and would be the most stunning backdrop for your romantic day.
Just an hour away from Brighton, Gate Street Barn lies on a working organic farm with beautiful landscaped gardens. It was built using wood from oak trees that were lost on the farm during a hurricane, so this venue has plenty of history and character to add to your special day.
Have a grand wedding ceremony in the stunning grounds of this beautiful castle for the ultimate romantic setting. Lewes Castle is an incredibly historical venue that has been standing for 1,000 years and is surrounded by the picturesque South Downs countryside.
On the outskirts of Brighton, Preston Manor is an exquisite manor house with an air of elegance and grandeur. This Edwardian building makes quite the intimate setting for your wedding day celebrations, where you can enjoy fine dining and sweeping views across Preston Park.
Thinking of a country wedding? Laughton Barns is the perfect venue for you! Expect rustic features such as gothic chandeliers and exposed beams, and the barns have been built with local oak, brick and stone. With panoramic views of the South Downs, this could be your ultimate country wedding setting!
The quirky elements of West Street Loft will make your wedding unforgettable! With plenty of space to decorate, and even a cinema screen to utilise during speeches, the relaxed and bohemian feel to this venue stands out from the rest.
Pekes Manor Estate is set within the natural beauty of the East Sussex Weald just a 40 minute drive away from Brighton city. Full of character and original wooden features, this Tudor house is sure to stun every single one of your guests!
Opened in 1910, this iconic art house cinema is now available for your unique wedding! Duke of York’s Picturehouse is a kooky venue that is perfect for film and cinema fans, while still creating the ultimate romantic feel that any Bride and Groom would require!
Pangdean Old Barn boasts magnificent oak-framed surroundings and rustic features for your big day. Built in 1720 and since having been excellently restored, the barn of this working farm provides a spectacular backdrop as you exchange vows.
Busbridge Lakes is a stunning marquee wedding reception venue with 3 lakes and it’s own private valley on site. Set in the grounds of a Heritage garden, this mesmorising place will stun guests young and old as they marvel at the sights.
The exotically beautiful building of The Royal Pavilion shows off it’s early 1800’s splendour with intricate Indian architecture and exotic interiors. It is situated in the heart of cultural Brighton – imagine the photo opportunities in front of this magnificent monument!
Amidst 70 acres of panoramic farmland, Blackstock Country Estate offers two lovingly restored barns to be the scenic backdrop for your big day. At just over 20 miles from Brighton, this beautifully rustic venue is also conveniently located close to the local church.
A mixture of historical features and contemporary additions make The Star Inn Alfriston a timeless choice of wedding backdrops. This newly refurbished setting is in the heart of a small Tudor village close to Brighton and can accommodate any size of wedding party!
Steeped in history, this elegant 18th Century manor house is one-of-a-kind. Stanmer House boasts 5,000 hectares of scenic grounds, opulent decor and luxurious chandeliers to give you the classy feel you require as you celebrate with loved ones.
So you’ve dreamt up your wedding theme, and now you need somewhere to make it happen…that’s where Yoghurt Rooms comes in! Make your dreams become reality on this stunning oak-framed blank canvas and let your imagination run wild as you sit back and enjoy the scenic surroundings.
The Old Ship Hotel is definitely a quirky choice of venue, with 450 years of history within it’s walls on the Brighton coast. The charismatic wine cellars hold more intimate weddings, while the Paganini Ballroom can hold up to 180 guests in a grand setting.
Peelings Manor Barns is a unique venue perfect for a DIY wedding! The charming features of this barn warmly welcome you Sussex, while remaining fairly basic to allow you to put your own spin on it. Bring on the festival themed weddings!
The grade II listed Elizabethan manor house belonging to Broyle Place is surrounded by ancient oaks and ponds. In the heart of rural Sussex, this venue offers a touch of sophistication to your magical summer wedding.
The winding lanes of the Sussex countryside lead up to Brookfield Barn, a newly built structure with contemporary features yet retaining a rustic feel. The sunny terrace, atmospheric lighting and wood burning stoves are lovely touches to this cosy setting.
With plenty of gorgeous rooms to choose from in this Georgian manor house, the world is your oyster! Gildredge Manor has a large focus on luxury and creating the ultimate bespoke experience for each bride and groom that come through the doors.
Overlooking the seafront of Brighton and Hove, Grade I listed Angel House is the only Historic Regency Town house wedding venue in the area. It holds the finest and most elegant decor with sweeping sea views to enjoy, which makes it stand out from the crowd!
Getting married in the Old Police Cells Museum…seems like a kooky idea! Located in the basement of Brighton Town Hall, this unusual museum puts a major spin on weddings – and you might even learn a thing or two as you celebrate!
A short 30 mile journey out of the city takes you to Dorset House Barn, which is nestled within 40 acres in a quaint village. Expect stunning river views, a Medieval walled garden, and a unique ampitheatre for outdoor blessings. Just perfect!
Barnsgate Manor offers a romantic venue with panoramic views over the forest of the South Downs. With a combination of stone structures and wooden panelled walls, this venue is sure to be a fantastic backdrop for your unforgettable day.
If you’ve still not found your dream venue or you live elsewhere in the UK, extend your search by using Bridebook.co.uk’s Wedding Venue Search tool and type in your preferred location. You might only be a few clicks away from your fairytale venue!
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Leeds is one of the leading bustling and vibrant cities in the North, so it’s no wonder why so many people are looking to get married there! Are you looking for a venue with a difference in or around the city?
Bridebook.co.uk has found 25 of the best nearby wedding venues in Leeds that are stunning, heaps of fun, or just plain kooky! Take a look at these incredible places, or hunt for yourself using our Wedding Venue Search tool.
This beautiful gothic revival castle really is a venue to behold! Allerton Castle provides a stunning backdrop for your fairytale wedding day as you walk down the aisle in the Gothic Great Hall.
The Engine Shed is an utterly unique venue that really has the wow factor! This Grade II listed building is set over two magnificent floors and can become the blank canvas for your special day.
Set in the ruins of the Barden Tower and surrounded by picturesque hills and rivers, The Priest’s House is a stunning venue for your intimate wedding celebrations. Check out the stone interiors!
Lineham Farm is a country chic venue in a secluded area with surrounding woodlands to host your idyllic day. The farmhouse dates back to the 17th Century and has retained all the charm and character that you could wish for!
The 14th Century Hospitium is a gorgeous wedding venue with medieval stone walls and plenty of character included! Less than an hour away from the centre of Leeds, this versatile building is overlooked by the ruins of St Mary’s Abbey – a photo opportunity not to be missed!
The beautiful Jacobean Manor that is Holdsworth House Hotel dates back to 1633 and is brimming with history. Sunny courtyards, interesting architecture and pretty gardens can be found on site, as this venue comes to life on your very special day!
Just a stone’s throw away from Leeds lies Wharfedale Grange, the perfect spot to pitch your wedding tent! With this versatile area of farmland, you can do what you wish and watch your dream day come to fruition.
This old Yorkshire stone farmhouse has been lovingly converted to form the intimate Box Tree Restaurant. With tons of character, three Michelin stars, and just a half an hour journey from the city, this unique venue is the perfect place for your wedding breakfast.
The Majestic Hotel boasts elegance, grandeur and is definitely majestic to say the least! Situated in nearby Harrogate with 8 acres of beautiful gardens, this Victorian hotel is the ideal place to host a very majestic wedding!
Skipbridge Country Weddings is a green field venue complete with natural surroundings and even farm animals! It has homely cottages on site and plenty of space for camping or glamping, so you can truly make your wedding weekend a fab experience for all guests.
Stun your guests by having your wedding on a train platform at the National Railway Museum! This impressive and spacious venue will pull out all the stops (literally!) to guide you in your journey to married life.
The warm feel of East Riddlesden Hall will comfort you and your partner as you step into the Grade II listed barn. Dance the night away under exposed oak beams and fairy lights less than an hour from the centre of Leeds.
Amongst peaceful woodlands and the beauty of rural Yorkshire, Hazlewood Castle is a venue for a king and queen. Say your vows in the medieval chapel and let this historical setting make your wedding day dreams come true.
The unforgettable vibe of The Faversham is the perfect place to celebrate with your nearest and dearest. On the edge of Leeds City Centre, this venue offers a bespoke service within unique walls – especially the beautiful conservatory!
In the developing industrial area of Leeds sits New Craven Hall, a modern and vibrant wedding venue, perfect for a unique celebration. The New Craven Hall team offers a completely bespoke service, which means you can make all of your wedding day dreams come true.
This converted stone barn in rural West Yorkshire has become the beautiful Chilli Barn, an intimate wedding venue. Surrounded by endless meadows and woodland, the decor shows off character features with a modern touch.
The stunningly restored barns of Priory Cottages are undoubtedly a very special place to say your ‘I Do’s. Set in the idyllic countryside, this venue has a perfect mix of romance and enchantment to suit every couple that passes through it’s doors.
With it’s very own lake in a scenic valley of rolling parkland, Waterton Park Hotel & Spa is the ultimate setting for your special day. Gorgeous accommodation awaits you…but be sure to get a photo on the bridge first!
Seeking some luxury just outside of Leeds? Denton Hall offers charming 18th Century decor, crystal chandeliers and spectacular views across Yorkshire – have it as your very own exclusive country house for the entire weekend!
The peaceful grounds of Northorpe Hall Barn warmly welcome you to this alluring venue. Exposed wooden beams and stone walls enclose you and your guests and you celebrate your special day – and the best bit is that any profits from your day helps fund local projects for young people in need.
Just 30 minutes away from Leeds, Heaton Mount lies between a winding driveway and immaculate lawns. Dating back to 1864, this Italianate mansion boasts exquisite decor and breath-taking views for you and your guests.
The fairytale setting of The Sun Pavilion was built in the 1930’s but has recently been restored to become an utterly unique venue. It hosts an Art Deco glass dome and is home to stunning views over Harrogate’s Valley Gardens, to really bring the natural beauty indoors!
This 200-year-old barn, situated just 10 miles down the road from central Leeds, could be the ultimate romantic backdrop for your big day. The Old Barn at Esholt sits in a quaint location with plenty of character features to feast your eyes upon!
This spectacular country mansion with 11 acres of stunning ground has become Goldsborough Hall. The oak-panelled Jacobean library and beautifully designed drawing rooms are the ideal places to host your wedding celebrations.
The Queens venue offers a stylish backdrop overflowing with glamour for a totally classy wedding day. Right in the centre of Leeds, you will have spectacular views across the city from the terraced balcony of this beautiful building, as well as a bespoke service that will serve the largest or most intimate of wedding parties.
Cookridge Hall is the perfect backdrop for your big day. Located in North Leeds this beautiful grade II listed old hall was built in 1721 and set amongst an 18 hole golf course. If you are looking for a scenic wedding venue, look no further!
Have your special day at this stylish and incredibly romantic wedding venue in Leeds. Woodlands weddings are designed just for you in one of the best wedding venues in Leeds!
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Birmingham, famed for its Bulls, Balti and Black Sabbath but also home to some of the most beautiful wedding venues in the UK…
Are you looking for a venue with a difference near Birmingham? Bridebook.co.uk has found 25 venues in and around the city that are stunning, fun, or a little bit quirky! Take a look at these incredible places, or hunt for yourself using our Wedding Venue Search tool.
1. Packington Moor
Just outside of Birmingham and surrounded by acres of woodland and countryside, Packington Moor makes jaws drop. This authentic stone barn with rustic beams gives off a light and airy feel for a perfect wedding.
This stunningly quirky venue holds productions throughout the year…and also weddings! Birmingham Repertory Theatre is ideal for couples who want a hint of dramatics included in their wedding day. Let’s get the show started!
The Kitchen Garden Cafe is a totally unique place to host your special day. It is an eco-friendly gem in the centre of Birmingham which offers heaps of charm for your wedding setting.
Inside the majestic exterior of Hampton Manor Hotel, you will find stylish and contemporary decor with a deep history at the heart of the venue. Surrounded by lush gardens, and only half an hour from the city of Birmingham, this venue is a rather grand oasis.
5. Bawdon Lodge Farm
In Charnwood Forest lies Bawdon Lodge Farm, the perfect place to set up a magical tipi or marquee wedding. Event professionals will be on hand to help your dreams become reality in this countryside haven.
This stunningly quirky idea is great if you want to create an unforgettable experience. Deckerdence is a double decker bus that creates the centrepiece to your marquee and, with an onboard bar, you’ll have your guests’ attention within seconds!
Hagley Hall is an incredible Georgian Palladian manor house on the border of the West Midlands. With its magnificent state rooms and acres of parkland, this venue is brilliant for your bespoke wedding.
These gorgeous 18th Century barns are just 20 minutes from Birmingham and have striking high-ceilings for a dramatic look. Shustoke Farm Barns is made up of several red-brick buildings that you can use as you wish for your special celebrations.
Fancy saying ‘I Do’ among the flowers? This is your chance! Birmingham Botanical Gardens offers fascinating landscapes and 3 beautiful event spaces that are sure to please all of your guests.
With an incredibly distinct exterior, Gorcott Hall is a 16th Century, Grade II listed Tudor building. Inside, the character continues with timber beams and open fireplaces to add loads of warmth to your big day.
New Hall dates back to the 13th Century, showing off its glorious exterior and wonderful grounds. The oak panelled rooms and sunny terraces welcome you to New Hall Hotel & Spa, which is fit for a King and Queen!
A combination of contemporary style with original features is present in the outstanding setting of Redhouse Barn. Within 5 acres of Worcestershire countryside, this one-of-a-kind venue is bound to impress.
The 18th Century manor house of Swinfen Hall Hotel is a sanctuary of interior decor, ornamental gardens and has a deer park in the grounds. Perfect for feeling like a princess on your wedding day.
Make your wedding day unforgettable by choosing Dudley Zoo & Castle as your special location. With a renovated sensory garden, 40 acres of beautiful grounds, and over 1,000 animals from across the globe, you can’t go wrong with this venue.
Nestled in the Worcestershire countryside, Bordesley Park‘s 16th Century manor house is the perfect setting for a fun and relaxed wedding day. Stunning decor, lush gardens, a luxury marquee and even a trampoline are included to take away the stress from your day.
The beautiful surroundings of Aston Wood Golf Club make this wedding setting totally unique. This venue can cater for intimate celebrations in the oak-panelled dining room offering delicious catering and impecable wedding service.
In rural Worcestershire, you will find the grand structure of The Elms. This beautiful Queen Anne manor house provides elegant lounges and stunning decor in every room to add the icing to your cake on your special day.
The contemporary setting of Mythe Barn is based in an idyllic location just outside the hustle and bustle of Birmingham. From ceremonies in the Oak Barn to wedding breakfasts in the Grain Store and outdoor courtyard celebrations, this venue is a special one.
Sat on the edge of woodland in the Staffordshire countryside, the character and romance of this venue will complete your magical day. Pendrell Hall offers crisp, stylish interiors, The Morning Room – a haven of wooden features perfect for ceremonies, and 3 bridal suites to choose from.
Rich in history and full of regal charm, Stoneleigh Abbey is an incredible fairytale venue just 25 miles from Birmingham. It brings elegant rooms with timeless features and the famous Saloon which Queen Victoria once dined at!
Wootton Park is a barn style venue overlooking a lake and island for the most stunning photo opportunities. The landscaped gardens and 16th Century farmhouse in their own secluded valley are yours to do with what you wish on your big day.
In nearby Staffordshire, the very lavish Alrewas Hayes venue will put a spin on your wedding day. Boasting traditional rooms with period features and the luxury Lakeside Marquee, anything is possible here.
This beautiful Grade I listed Georgian mansion is also a renowned art gallery and is surrounded by 120 acres of picturesque parkland. Compton Verney offers the striking Adam Hall, perfect for ceremonies and wedding breakfasts on your special day.
A stone’s throw away from the city of Birmingham lies Grand Station. The decadent and timely nature of this venue’s function rooms will stun your guests and give you the grandeur you require for your special entrance.
If you fancy something a little more quirky, Erasmus Darwin House is for you! With 250 years of history and doubling as a museum, this venue will add heaps of charm and character to your Birmingham-based wedding.
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The UK’s divorce rate is at its lowest level for nearly 50 years. Couples now enter marriage knowing their partner and relationship better than ever before leading to marriages becoming increasingly strong and lasting.
Wedding planning app and website Bridebook.co.uk has surveyed 4,000 recently married couples and discovered a change in this generation’s perception of marriage:
Results show that couples are getting married considerably older than the last generation (average bride or groom is 8 years older than in the 1970s) and the majorityalready live together (89% of couples). They have long relationships before marrying (4.9 years on average) and have had previous serious relationships before ‘finding the one’ (2 previous serious relationships on average). Marriage has become a consensual independent decision free from external pressure (84% discussed marriage before the proposal, 83% felt no pressure to marry) – it is an ‘opt in’ personal choice. The number of weddings has started to rise (2.7% annual growth in latest figures) after a steady and dramatic decline in the past 50 years and the number of divorces is at its lowest level since 1971 as people are more secure in their relationships prior to marriage than ever before. Commitment as a concept has become refreshingly relaxed in comparison to previous generations.
Key findings: TIMEFRAMES OF MARRIAGE
The average age of a single woman getting married in 1971 was 22.6 years old, now it is 30.8 years old.
The average age of a single man getting married in 1971 was 24.6 years old, now it is 32.7 years old.
The average couple were in a relationship for 4.9 years before getting married. This breaks down as –
Dated for 1.4 years (17 months) before moving in together.
Then lived together for 1.83 years (22 months) before getting engaged.
Then were engaged for 1.67 years (20 months) before getting married.
The total average time living together before marriage totals to a whole 3.5 years.
The average number of serious relationships each member of the couple had before marriage = 2.
Key findings: MARRIAGE’S INCREASE IN VALUE
– 95% of couples would recommend getting married.
– 91% of couples choose to get married to demonstrate commitment. Only 2% due to social pressure, 2% financial, 2% convenience.
– 85% of couples say marriage makes a relationship stronger.
– 83% never felt any pressure to get married. 92% feel there is less pressure to get married today than parents’ generation.
– 73% stated that they value marriage more now than they did as a child.
Key findings: VIEW OF RELIGION IN MARRIAGE
– Whilst 41% of couples got married in a church, 52% of couples claim to be “Not at all religious”.
– Only 8% of couples cited religious reasons as one of the primary reasons for getting married (91% cited demonstration of commitment, 30% cited planning to have children).
– 57% of couples who chose to get married in a church chose due to “Sticking to traditions” and 22% due to “Parental expectations”.
Key findings: CHANGES TO RELATIONSHIP SINCE MARRIAGE
– 80% feel that since getting married the level of commitment has increased (3% decreased).
– 60% feel that since getting married the level of happiness has increased (5% decreased).
– 57% feel that since getting married the level of trust has increased (4% decreased).
– 56% feel that since getting married the level of love has increased (4% decreased).
– 41% feel that since getting married they share a better mental wellbeing (4% worse).
– 33% feel that since getting married they have a better sexual relationship (11% worse).
Key findings: OTHER
– 46% of couples have a child within 2 years of getting married.
– 26% of couples hadn’t broken up in their relationship before marrying.
– 82% would consider marriage counselling if the need arose.
– 83% don’t believe you have to be married before having kids.
Hamish Shephard, founder of Bridebook.co.uk, says:
“It is fantastic to see how the marriage is evolving with today’s modern couples for the positive. Marriages are becoming stronger than ever, relationships happier and more committed than ever, and couples more independent and consensual in their decisions than ever.”
“Whilst living together before getting married, having serious relationships out of wedlock, or getting married when you are older were previously frowned upon, for the modern couple these can clearly be very positive steps to finding “the one” and having a fantastic long-lasting marriage”.
“Weddings are now focused on the celebration of a couples’ life-long commitment to one another, rather than the start of a new life together, and hence have become bigger and bigger occasions.”
“We have reached a tipping point where the divorce rate will likely be on the decline for the foreseeable future as marriage increasingly becomes the fully informed independent choice of couples wishing to demonstrate their commitment to one another without the pressure seen in previous generations.”
For further information, interviews and images please contact Harriet or Sarah-Jane at Harriet Hunt Communications
Whether you’ve recently started to plan your wedding or you’re right in the thick of it, you probably noticed something fairly quickly – weddings can be costly. In 2024, the average cost of a wedding is £20,775, and that’s before you’ve even got to the honeymoon or considered the cost of the engagement ring. So if you’re trying to figure out how to plan your dream wedding and stay firmly within your budget, you’ve come to the right place.
In this post, we’re going to take a deep dive into how to save money on a wedding and offer you plenty of tips to make sure you don’t go over your wedding budget.
Before you start planning
Before we go over the many ways you can save money on your wedding, make sure you have a solid idea as to what you want to (realistically) spend. To give you a helping hand, you can use Bridebook’s useful wedding budget calculator.
Throwing a lavish and expensive wedding is a fabulous way to spend your big day, but it’s important not to get too carried away. Have a chat with your partner about what’s really important for both of you and create a list that categorises the must-haves and the nice-to-haves so you know what can be cut if you get a little too close to the top end of your budget.
Planning a wedding is a lot of fun, but it can also be a stressful time. That stress, combined with spending a great deal of money, can be create challenges. Remember to be open and honest with your partner and try not to get your heart set on something before you’ve booked it. The last thing you want is to be disappointed if something doesn’t quite work out how you hoped.
What’s the average cost of a wedding in 2024?
As uncovered in our ultimate wedding budget breakdown, the average cost of a wedding in 2024 is £20,775, not including the ring and a potential honeymoon. When you factor the engagement ring and honeymoon into your budget, the average cost rises to £25,952, which is a huge amount of money to spend.
It’s important to remember that this is just an average, and the actual cost of your wedding will depend on many factors, including the cost of the venue, number of guests, time of year, and even how many tiers there are on your cake.
Of course, you don’t have to spend this amount, or anything close to it – couples have weddings which range from costing less than £1,000 to costing £100,000 or more. If you budget wisely, make some careful decisions and plan ahead, you can make significant savings while still ensuring you have your dream wedding.
What are the best tools for saving money on your wedding?
When the time comes to start planning your wedding in earnest, the excitement can take hold and before you know it you’re creating spreadsheets, browsing Instagram hashtags and Pinterest stores, and your Google search history is nothing but venues and flower shops. But before you dive into the deep end, why not consider a tool to help you save time, money and effort?
We recommend using Bridebook’s state-of-the-art wedding budget tool to keep track of your expenses and make sure everything is taken care of. We also have a wedding planning app so you don’t have to keep a stack of notebooks with you or carry your laptop around when you meet vendors – you’ll have everything you need right there on your phone.
Can you save money on your wedding by inviting fewer guests?
When you’re getting married, we understand that it’s a big deal and you’ll probably want to invite every family member, friend, colleague and acquaintance you have. However, having a set number of guests will ensure you keep the guest list limited, which will save you on the venue, catering and invitation costs. It may be tempting to invite everyone you know to come and celebrate with you, but doing so will increase the cost of your wedding and could push it beyond your budget.
To put it into perspective, the average couple spends around £200 per guest – that means, if you’re ruthless with your guest list and invite 100 guests instead of 150, you’ll save over £10,000. If you’re not prepared to make cuts quite that drastic, even just cutting back your guest list by five could save you around £1,000.
Is it cheaper to have a twilight wedding?
A twilight wedding is a wedding that starts later in the day and is a great way to lower the cost of your wedding. It not only means you’re using your venue for a shorter amount of time, but you also bypass the expensive wedding breakfast and you pay vendors and staff for fewer hours as well.
For example, Friern Manor Country House Hotel offers a twilight wedding package starting at £3,500 for 70 guests, compared to £7,995 for a traditional wedding – that’s half the price! That means you can have all the celebrations of every other wedding, only condensed into a shorter amount of time. It’s the perfect way to make massive savings on your wedding if you’re happy to have the ceremony take place later in the day.
If you’re planning a wedding on a budget or just looking to save a bit of cash, knowing how to break down your budget will be one of the most important parts of your overall wedding planning, but how to stick to it? In this video course, Bridebook founder (and qualified wedding planner) Hamish Shephard explains how to plan a wedding on a budget, sharing his expert money-saving tips on everything from your wedding venue to your catering and more.
If you haven’t set the date yet, you can find huge savings by avoiding the busy seasons, certain days of the week and popular locations. So, if you’re happy to not have a Saturday wedding in the middle of summer, slap bang in the middle of London, you could save thousands. For example:
Choose a midweek wedding. You’ll save on almost every wedding supplier by joining the 50% of couples who hold their big day on any day other than a Saturday, which is the most popular day to get married. To maximise your savings, the cheapest day to get married is a Tuesday. Suppliers are usually happy to offer reduced rates on days that otherwise wouldn’t be booked.
Consider areas outside London. Couples are now spending over £15,000 (or 77%) more to marry in the capital. So, like other savvy couples, why not consider having your wedding somewhere outside of the capital (both Wales, and Yorkshire and the Humber, are the cheapest regions to get married in)? Plus, not only is a wedding away from your hometown a great way to save money, it increases the feeling of magic, mystery and adventure.
Have a winter wedding. Try to avoid peak wedding season, which is between June and September, when costs are the highest. Costs are lowest in the winter, with January and February being the cheapest months in which to tie the knot (24% less than the UK average). So, if you don’t mind it being cold outside, it could be a great choice. And on the off-chance there’s frost or snow, it’ll give you the opportunity to take unique wedding photos.
It’s also worth bearing in mind that many venues offer discounts and special ‘late availability’ packages in off-peak wedding seasons or to fill a space left by a cancellation. This can make even the most premium ones a far more affordable option if you’re happy with a bit of last-minute planning and organising. A great example is Holdsworth House Hotel, an idyllic wedding venue with 32 bedrooms, charming courtyards and enchanting gardens.
If there’s one thing people remember about weddings, it’s the quality (and quantity) of the food. Whether you go for a four-course breakfast or an all-you-can-eat buffet featuring around-the-world cuisine, food is guaranteed to excite your guests. For that reason, you won’t want to cut corners when it comes to your food, but there are still some creative ways to save money while not compromising on quality. But, with couples spending around £5,700 on wedding catering, it can account for around a quarter of your entire wedding budget.
As we’ve already highlighted, you can slash these costs by cutting the number of guests you invite, as there will be fewer mouths to feed. Your friend’s boyfriend of two months? Sure, you like them, but do you like them enough to pay £62 per head for them to eat a three-course meal? Cutting out a table of eight will save an average of almost £500 on food and drink (as well as saving you in table numbers and stationery). Not to mention that cutting your guest list might also give you the ability to choose a smaller, more affordable wedding venue.
If you’re keen on having a lot of people there, why not invite them to the evening reception? That way, no one will get offended about not being invited, and you’ll save money by not having to feed as many guests at the wedding breakfast. Alternatively, why not skip the expensive wedding breakfast altogether and have a breakfast buffet instead? A buffet drastically reduces costs by only requiring limited staff, plus it offers guests a wider choice.
Many people enjoy a drink or two at a wedding, and the most obvious way to save money is by not offering an open bar. Save over £2,000 by offering a paid bar. This requires your guests to pay for their drinks themselves, and stops everyone from accidentally over-indulging. Plus, guests won’t expect an open bar, with two out of three couples opting to let their guests pay for their own drinks.
Another way to save money is by choosing a more affordable fizz for the toasts. Champagne may be a luxurious choice, but cheaper alternatives like prosecco, sparkling wine or Cava will still go down just as well.
You may also be able to hire your own mobile bar instead of going with what the venue offers. One of our vendors, Near and Far Mobile Bar Ltd, is an excellent option as they set up their mobile bar at the venue, provide staff and bartending service, and offer pre-wedding consultation. Whoever you hire, just make sure they have a license. Or, you could choose to provide your own bubbly. Just bear in mind that the venue may charge a corkage fee. This can sometimes be more expensive than going with what the venue offers.
Below are just a few tips for helping strip those costs right back, while still ensuring you get wonderful professional photographs.
Consider an express package. Instead of having the photographer spend the whole day with you, ask if they offer two or three-hour packages, where they come and take shots of the venue, the bridal party and your close friends and family. Opting for fewer hours is the best way to reduce costs, but does mean forgoing pictures of you cutting the cake and your first dance at the evening reception. Some photographers also provide a second camera person and opting out of this service can significantly lower the cost.
Hire a local photographer. Local photographers will usually charge you far less than those who have to travel far and charge additional fees for those miles. Here at Bridebook, we have a huge range of fantastic photographers, so you’re sure to find one who operates where you’re hosting your wedding.
Go digital. If you forgo professionally printed albums as 9 out of 10 couples now do, you could save £250+. Most modern photography packages include a link to your own online gallery, where you can browse and enjoy all your favourite shots at your leisure. You can then always use a photo-developing service, such as Snapfish, to print your photographs for a fraction of the cost later on.
While the majority of couples choose to have a photographer shoot at their wedding, a third of couples also choose to hire a videographer to document and capture their big day in a candid and natural way, with the costs in line with that of a photographer. If capturing your wedding on video is important to you, there are plenty of ways to save money on a videographer too.
One way to save money on a wedding videographer is by hiring a professional who might not have as much experience as others. An up-and-coming videographer, who is new to the business, will have plenty of enthusiasm and passion, but not quite as much of a portfolio. They may also not have a range of expensive kit, such as drones or 4K cameras, but should still be able to produce a beautiful video for a price that fits within your budget.
You may also be able to save money by asking not to have any complex editing or cinematography, which can add a lot of time to post-production.
One of the expenses that might take you by surprise is the price of your wedding flowers, at an average cost of around £1,100. This is due to florists having to source different flowers, create elaborate artistic displays, and transport them to the venue, which all requires time, dedication, skill and expertise. That being said, there are ways you can save money on wedding flowers which mean you can have a luscious wedding filled with flora while sticking within your budget.
Many wedding florists have years, if not decades, of experience providing flowers for hundreds of weddings. That means they’re equipped to work with any budget – including yours. Speak to your chosen florist, tell them what you’re looking for and trust them. As with all wedding vendors, communication is key.
Here are a few money-saving tips for choosing wedding flowers:
Choose flowers with big heads. Not only do they look gorgeous, but generally, the bigger the flowerhead, the fewer stems you need to fill out an arrangement, which can cost a lot less than having multiple small-headed flowers.
Go for flowers that are in season. While it may be tempting to ask for roses at your spring wedding, they’ll cost a lot more then than they would during late summer or autumn, because they wouldn’t be in season. Choosing flowers that are in season will naturally help keep costs down.
Choose a naturally beautiful venue. Go for an outdoor wedding with plenty of surrounding greenery, so you won’t have to pay for additional decor. Great outdoor venues can include vineyards, parks and private gardens.
Opt for foliage over flowers. Greenery is super popular right now and many couples prefer to go with garlands to adorn their tables or drape over the altar. The best part is, foliage is typically way more affordable.
Wedding decor peppers your personality across your big day, but depending on your theme, the costs can quickly add up. The average cost of professionally sourced wedding decor is £1,500, but there are plenty of ways to save money if you’re willing to compromise, such as by creating DIY decorations or sourcing them from specialist vendors. If you’re happy not to have personalised decorations, you can slash this amount to just a couple hundred pounds. Check out our blog post on how to save money on wedding decor for more inspiration.
Another expense is the cost of marquee hire, which averages around £4,200. This depends on the size and type of marquee you go for, so if you’re not set on either of these, you can make significant savings by having a more basic marquee type. Another way to save money on a wedding marquee is by avoiding peak times, such as Saturdays and/or the summer months, as prices can be much higher during the busiest and most popular periods.
Your wedding cake is most likely the most expensive dessert you’ll ever buy, with the average cost at around £400 – £500. After all, it’s not just hugely symbolic: you’re paying for an edible work of art. Yet just like the cake itself, there are layers to the cost. The larger your wedding party, the bigger the cake will be, and the more expensive it will be too. If you do have a lot of guests, a cake with a less complex or intricate design will help keep costs down. You could also consider a dummy layer that replaces a layer of cake with polystyrene – not as tasty, but generally cheaper (though this isn’t always the case).
Due to the skill and time needed to make them, fondant and sugar flowers will typically cost more, so you can save money by forgoing them where possible. A lovely and cost-effective option (not to mention fashionable) is a naked cake with fresh flowers or fruit. Not only does a naked cake require less buttercream and fewer time-consuming decorations, but it still looks and tastes amazing.
Wedding cupcakes are another cute option and usually cost around £4 per guest; they’re generally easier to make and decorate, look adorable in pictures, and are often cheaper than a showstopping multi-tiered wedding cake.
For entertainment, it ultimately depends on your wedding theme. To keep costs down, consider creating a DIY kid’s table if children are coming to your wedding. A collection of colouring books, crayons and a box of Lego will save you £500+ that you would have to spend on a kids’ entertainer.
When it comes to music, if you’re interested in a live act, unless you want Tylor Swift at your wedding, a solo singer will generally be far more affordable than a band, simply because you’re paying one performer instead of four or five. Similarly, a DJ is often a more budget-friendly option and is almost guaranteed to be a crowd-pleaser. You can actually save up to £900 by choosing a DJ over a live band (though a band will offer that unique touch to your evening reception).
Firstly, you can reach out to bridalwear boutiques and ask if they have any upcoming sales or bridal dresses at discounted prices. There’s every chance that in a week or two, there may be a sale that slashes the price of many of their dresses, saving you a bundle. And, it may be an awkward conversation, but asking your bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses could save you £300+.
Most bridal shops sell sample dresses in styles they’re either discontinuing or no longer want to sell at discounted prices. These are dresses you and other brides-to-be try on in the shops, but if you can look past this you can make significant savings. You can also opt for high-fashion brands – ASOS, Chi Chi London and Little Mistress all sell wedding dresses at super affordable prices (just note that these are unlikely to match the quality and service of a bridalwear boutique).
The amount of gorgeous second-hand dresses out there shouldn’t be underestimated, and you can save as much as £750 by finding a vintage or pre-loved dress. Plus, only 5% of brides buy a second-hand dress, which means you won’t face much competition if you opt for something pre-loved.
To save money on a veil, why not have it as your ‘something borrowed’ and ask a family member if you could use theirs? If you’re willing to compromise, you may also have other accessories at home already, including a belt and bowtie, or jewellery and handbag, which may already work with your wedding outfit.
It’s also worth checking the depths of your shoe cupboard to see if you have some shoes that will work. Just remember to give them a polish to make them extra shiny. And remember that, again, you might have to compromise on the exact look and quality you originally envisioned . Check out our dedicated post to discover more ways to save money on wedding accessories.
The thought of walking down the aisle, all eyes on you, is both exciting and probably a little nerve-wracking. But, when you look amazing, it can help you feel confident enough to melt those nerves away. This is one of the many reasons why hiring a professional to take care of your hair and makeup is important to so many brides and, in most cases, totally worth it – that and it’s one less thing for you to worry about on the day. But, with couples spending an average of £690 on hair and makeup (as well as other pre-wedding rituals) cutting costs where possible can be a lifesaver for budget-conscious couples.
The most obvious way to significantly save money on wedding hair and makeup is by biting the bullet and doing it yourself, or asking your bridesmaids to take on the responsibility. This could save you up to £330+, but comes with its own set of risks (which we set out in our article on demystifying bridal beauty costs). If the DIY approach isn’t ideal, you could instead consider hiring a makeup assistant , who won’t be as experienced as a hair or makeup artist but will still have worked closely with one at plenty of weddings.
Another cost-saving option is to travel to your stylist or beautician on the morning of your wedding, rather than having them come to you at your venue. This could potentially halve the amount you spend on beauty. Just note that you won’t get the same level of on-the-day care and attention, including last-minute touch-ups and veil adjustments, which might be stressful).
While not generally quite as pricey as a wedding dress, today’s couples spend an average of £700-900 on suits for their wedding. While a bespoke, tailored suit might be appealing, high-street retailers offer a great range of wedding suits for around £150 if you’re on a tight budget. You may also find a great suit or tuxedo at a local second-hand store or charity shop, but bear in mind you’ll likely need to have it altered to fit you perfectly (which will bump up the costs).
Another option to slash the price of a suit is through renting, which can cost as little as £50 per suit. Plus, if all the groomsmen rent their tuxes or suits from the same place, there’s a good chance the groom’s suit will be free, or at least discounted. And even if this isn’t an advertised offer, it’s always worth asking.
Your wedding ring is the one piece of jewellery you’ll rarely take off, so will be with you through thick and thin – which is why couples spend an average of £1,000 on their wedding rings. However, it is possible to save money on wedding rings by not relying on expensive metals such as gold and platinum, instead opting for something such as silver or titanium, which could lower the cost to as little as £50 per ring (and still be durable over years of wear and tear).
You may also want to seriously think about whether or not you want to choose wedding rings with set diamonds or other precious stones. While it may look incredible, it will be far more expensive than if you were to choose a plain band. Also, the thicker the band is, the more expensive it will be, so consider choosing a band that is on the thinner side to reduce the cost.
With Pinterest full of gorgeous and creative wedding invitation ideas, it’s hard to forgo a beautiful professionally-designed invitation in favour of a less aesthetic amateur one. But, you don’t necessarily have to do that to save money. Choose the invitation style of your dreams and go digital, and give your guests the option to RSVP digitally too. This will massively reduce the cost of your wedding stationery, on which couples spend an average of £400.
Almost a third of today’s couples don’t use paper stationery, such as menus and invitations, so consider joining them! Save money on wedding stationery by using sites like Paperless Post, or design your own beautiful digital invitations to email to your guests and save almost £300. At the wedding, a decorative chalkboard can explain the menu and agenda for the day – beautiful and often cheaper than paper (plus you can box it away as a keepsake post-wedding).
A registry office wedding is already one of the most affordable choices when it comes to a wedding on a budget, costing an average of £1,342. However, it’s possible to save even more money on a registry office wedding if you opt for the basic ceremony only, which means it could cost you as little as £57 (not including the £35 it costs for each of you to give notice).
It can also be cheaper to get married during quieter periods, so make sure you avoid peak times such as Saturday afternoons or the height of summer.
Hiring a wedding planner may sound like another cost you could do without – after all, the average cost of a wedding planner is £2,436, or about 10% of your overall budget. But, wedding planners can actually help you save money in the long run by ensuring you stay within your budget. Not only that, but being in the industry means that wedding planners also have plenty of contacts and connections and can help you land the best deals, discounts and savings as a result, and they’re expert negotiators as well.
One way to save money on a wedding planner is by hiring them to do a partial wedding planning service, which means they come in with a few months to go before your wedding to make sure everything is as it should be. It’s a far more affordable service, but obviously not as thorough as if you were to hire them at the very start of your planning journey.
A wedding celebrant is a wonderful way to personalise your ceremony, particularly if you’re not looking for a religious wedding or you’re a couple with mixed faiths. However, because a celebrant can’t legally marry you, there are further costs due to the need to also hire a registrar. And, with the average cost of a celebrant being £500, this can be an important cost to consider.
To save money on a wedding celebrant, consider compromising on the level of service involved. Ask if they’ll consider not meeting with you ahead of the wedding, and if they’re happy to rely on a questionnaire to personalise your ceremony. Similarly, many celebrants will want to speak to your family and friends about your relationship; cutting out this service may help to lower the price. Just be aware that you may not get as bespoke or thorough a service.
Go down the DIY route. DIY favours can really reduce your costs, and if you’re happy with them not being super personalised, you could get the cost down to less than £1 each.
Consider cheap sweet treats. Edible favours are usually a more budget-friendly choice, such as retro sweets, biscuits, or even homemade jam.
Keep packaging simple and practical. The simpler the design, the more affordable the packaging will generally be.
Donate to a charity. A charity donation made on behalf of your guests allows you to control how much you spend, and makes for a thoughtful and generous gesture.
Depending on your plans, you could spend a good chunk of the first half of your wedding day being driven from A to B to C and back to B again. For that reason, wedding transport can be expensive, with couples spending an average of £700 on the vehicle and driver of their choice.
To save money on wedding transport, consider hiring a venue that allows you to have the ceremony, breakfast, reception and accommodation all in one, so you only need to pay for an hour or so of time. Or, if you know someone with a classic car or something with some oomph under the bonnet, call in a favour in exchange for an invite and a night of free drinks.
Your honeymoon is your chance to relax and unwind after a year or more of full-on wedding planning. The honeymoon is non-negotiable for many couples and is one of the biggest splurges, costing an average of £4,300.
It can be tempting to book your honeymoon early to help you budget, but if you’re flexible with where you’re happy to go, you could grab a bargain by booking a last-minute deal a week or two before your wedding.
But if you have your sights set on somewhere in particular, reduce costs by travelling on off-peak days: Wednesdays and Thursdays are usually the cheapest for international flights. It also goes without saying that during busier times, such as school holidays or the summer months, it’s often expensive to travel. If your wedding is booked on such an occasion, why not postpone your honeymoon by just a couple of weeks and save money by travelling off-peak?
The cost of wedding insurance might feel like an unnecessary expense – as low as £30 for the most basic cover, to £100 -£180 on average, to up to £20,000 – but it can save you thousands down the line in the unlikely event something goes wrong.
You can save money on your wedding insurance by only choosing a basic policy, such as a policy which doesn’t include public liability. If you also forgo a marquee, you won’t need to add a marquee insurance extension to your policy, further bringing the cost right down.
Despite being a specialist type of insurance, comparison sites such as Money Supermarket let you compare quotes from various providers so you can secure the best policy. Just double-check that your chosen insurer includes everything you need and provides you with the right level of coverage.
Spending the ‘right’ amount of money on a wedding gift is something that plagues the mind of many wedding guests, but the cost of a wedding gift can vary dramatically based on several factors, including your relationship with the couple and whether or not you’re in a couple yourself.
But, there are ways to save money on a wedding gift. Why not club together with other guests, turning what would be several smaller gifts into a single larger one?
If the couple has a gift registry, it should include gift suggestions to suit a range of budgets. Don’t buy your gift from the first retailer you find it in – if you shop around you might be able to find a bargain, or at the very least something very similar with a far more affordable price tag.
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There you have our top tips to help you save money on your wedding. For more information, check out our individual savings pages for even more ways to cut down your spending and make your wedding budget go further.
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Arranging your wedding flowers can be a mind-boggling affair due to the multitude of options for integrating flowers into your wedding day. The below list includes all the main flower options you may want to consider. These are suggestions only, not necessities. Pick and choose what suits your wedding theme. Pinterest is a great place for flower inspiration.
Once you’ve finalised your Guest List – and we mean finalised, not nearly finalised – it’s time to send it to your venue and your caterers so they can prepare accordingly. We’d tend to advise against sending your Guest List before it’s fully finalised as you’ll end up sending revised version after revised version, and that risks leaving you (as well as your suppliers!) confused.
How Can You Make Sure You Have All This Information?
Well, there’s one easy way to keep track of all this information – it’s your Bridebook’s handy Guest List Tool! You can use it to keep track of your RSVPs, +1s and any extra information like dietary requirements and access needs too.
If you haven’t sent out your invitations yet, make sure to include a clear RSVP deadline. As a rule, set your RSVP deadline at least six weeks before your big day. We also recommend that couples always check with their venue, caterer and other suppliers if they will need confirmation of numbers earlier than this and adjust accordingly.
If you’ve already sent out your invitations and your RSVP deadline is fast approaching (or has even already gone by), don’t be shy! Reach out to any guests who haven’t yet RSVP’d to confirm whether or not they’ll be attending.
With these tricks up your sleeve, you’ll have your Guest List finalised in no time – and then it’s back to the fun stuff! Did someone say cake tasting…?
Planning your wedding is a fun, exciting and challenging time. It’s fun and exciting because you and your best friend are planning the biggest party of your lives before you spend the rest of your lives together. It’s challenging because, unfortunately, it’s actually pretty expensive to plan a wedding.
In the UK, the average cost of a wedding is £20,775, which is a considerable amount of money for most couples. It’s amazing just how expensive weddings can become as budgets spiral out of control. Small costs can quickly stack up. Plus, if you don’t keep on top of invoices and payments, it can soon suck the joy out of the experience, and become something altogether stressful.
The great news is, there are things you can do to make sure you don’t get carried away and you keep on top of your payments. In this post, we’re going to dive into how to pay for a wedding, including budgeting and payment options, as well as tips for making sure you manage your money smartly.
How to pay for a wedding: cheat sheet
Check out the below cheat sheet for the key takeaways when it comes to paying for your wedding. Refer back to it whenever you need to.
How can you pay for your wedding on your own
If you’re looking for how to pay for a wedding on your own, this isn’t completely out of the realm of possibility. We’ve already covered how the average UK wedding costs almost £20,000, but that figure is exactly that – an average. So, there are plenty of weddings that cost way below this (as well as some that cost far more, of course). And, a wedding that costs far less than the average is a much easier and more achievable goal if you want to pay for it all yourself.
Here are a few things to consider if you want to pay for your wedding:
Set a realistic budget. If you’re going it alone, you may have to consider what are must-haves compared to nice-to-haves.
Consider the venue carefully, because some cost way more than others. For example, getting married in a castle will cost you around £12,454, while a registry office will cost around £1,342.
Rather than a wedding that takes place across a whole day, you can slash costs by having a twilight wedding, which takes place during the latter half of the day.
Ramp up your monthly savings where possible – even one less meal out per month could save you around £1,000 over the course of a year (if you regularly eat in places that are a little pricey, that is).
Think about how you could make money through a side hustle. It shouldn’t take too much time – after all, you still need downtime and an opportunity to actually plan your wedding. But, you could earn an extra £1,000 a year and avoid paying any additional tax.
Choose to get married during off-peak days and months, which could save you thousands. With only 13% of couples getting married on a Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday, there’s also much less competition out there.
Be open to compromise – if you are, there are plenty of ways to cut costs.
When you plan your wedding there are quotes, figures, deposits, instalments, direct debits and invoices flying around from all different directions. With so much going on, how are you supposed to keep track and make sense of everything? Below are a few things to keep in mind so you don’t get lost wading through mounds of overdue invoices.
Assess your financial situation
Before you make your first booking, it’s important to get a good idea about you and your fiance’s financial situation. That means it’s time to:
Understand the current state of your finances
Work out the money you have coming in and out every month
Figure out where additional funding might come from
Once you’re confident about your finances, you can start working out how much you can dedicate towards planning your big day.
How can you work out your wedding budget?
Agreeing on your budget is more than sticking your finger in the air and plucking out a magic number. If you do that, and then try to fit your venue, catering, outfits, rings and more around it, you’ll soon realise that you’re likely to run out of budget.
Of course, it’s useful to have an overall figure to aim for. But, in order to do this accurately, you first need an idea of what each individual vendor is going to cost. The best way to do this is by using a budget calculator, which helps you visualise everything using realistic figures. That way, you can instantly see that your dream venue, which costs £8,000, might not align with the overall budget of £10,000 that you were hoping for.
If you’re not quite sure about what you want at this stage, it can be useful to use average wedding costs to get an idea of what it might set you back. From there, you can determine where you can make savings and which costs are your non-negotiables. Getting out there and gathering quotes will also help you figure out how realistic your dream vendors are.
One important point to remember is that your life will continue long after your wedding. You and your new spouse may want to go on your honeymoon, buy a house or start a family – and all of those require money. So, while you may want to throw a lavish and memorable wedding, you might not want to start married life from square one.
What are your payment options?
You’ve worked out your money, you know how much you want to spend on your wedding, you’ve maybe even started booking one or two vendors, such as your venue and caterers. The deposit for your venue could be as much as 50% (but is usually closer to 10%), which could instantly drain your bank balance. So what does that mean for the other countless things you need to pay for over the coming months?
There are several ways couples choose to pay for their wedding. They may use one of these methods or a combination of several. Which you choose is down to you, your preferences and your financial situation:
Personal savings
Pay by monthly instalments
Credit cards (though not necessarily recommended due to high interest rates)
Wedding loans
A gift or loan from family
How to prioritise what you pay for first
With so many quotes flying around and important vendors to book, how do you know which one you should book and pay for first?
The most important thing to secure first is your date. This is predominantly decided by your chosen venue and whether or not they have availability on the date you’d like to get married. If this is a peak date, such as a Saturday during the summer, then you may find that you have to book this at least a couple of years in advance. If you’re happy to get married midweek during the winter, you’ll have a lot more flexibility.
Once you’ve secured your date at your chosen venue, you can start fitting everything else in, which you’ll probably want to do in order of whatever’s most important to you. For example, it may look a little something like this:
Photography/Videography
Catering
Celebrant/Registrar
Flowers
Cake
Dress/Suits
Transport
Entertainment/Music
As the big day draws closer, you’ll also want to sort out your accessories, rings, favours and hair and beauty. There are also the invitations, which you’ll want to put together fairly early so you give your guests as much notice as possible.
Another way to approach it would be in order of the most expensive. Get the larger payments out of the way first, such as the venue, food and dress, then think about the cake, transport and entertainment a little later on. Of course, if you do that and you leave it too long, it does risk your chosen vendor not being available for your date.
Keep track of payments you make
When you start making payments, the worst thing you can do is not keep track of which bills you’ve paid and when. Every time you make a payment, no matter how small, make sure you keep a record of the who, when and how much.
We’ve built a super smart budget tracker to help you manage the costs. You can make a note of how much you’ve paid so you know exactly what balances are still outstanding – perfect if you want to avoid complicated spreadsheets!
As you pay each vendor through their preferred payment method, mark this off your tracker as you go. As devastating as it may be to spend so much money in such a short amount of time, it will feel great getting these costs ticked off your lists.
Once all the payments have been made, you’ll feel like the cloud has been lifted and once again you can look towards your wedding, enjoying that wonderful mix of excitement and joy.
Avoid common payment mistakes
Once you’re deep in planning mode and it feels like things are going well, it can be easy to get carried away. You might even feel like a wedding planning genius! When this happens, it can be easy to feel a little overconfident. This can lead to the odd mistake, which is more than likely avoidable.
Some of the most common wedding payment mistakes include:
Purposefully overspending, which means payments can quickly become unmanageable. Don’t let anyone else sway how much you spend.
Refusing to be flexible can potentially cause issues. Unfortunately, it’s unlikely that everything will go 100% to plan, so be open to compromise.
Even with meticulous planning and budgeting, sometimes costs can rise and you go over budget. Failing to have a contingency plan means unexpected costs will sting a lot more than they might have otherwise.
Always share concerns and worries with your partner. Chances are, they’ll share the same thoughts (which is why you’re getting married, right?) and you can think of a plan B together.
Don’t book anything without getting several quotes, first. Quotes will help you see if the vendor you choose is offering a fair price.
Don’t forget to ask for a discount from every vendor you book. Almost everyone you get a quote from will have some wiggle room – usually, you’ll save at least 5%, which can add up massively.
How to save money on your wedding
We get it, weddings are incredibly expensive, and even if you’ve carefully budgeted and you’re on top of your payments and savings goals, the costs can still sting. Thankfully, there are plenty of ways you can save money on your wedding. Just a few ways include:
Get married on an off-peak date
Choose a venue outside of the city – especially London
Hire more inexperienced vendors, such as your cake-maker and photographer
Choose in-season flowers and arrangements that use more foliage
Go for a cake with a simple design to save on decorating time
This is just a taste of the ways you can save money. Check out our comprehensive guide to saving money on your wedding, which features dozens of cost-cutting tips.
How to ask for help paying for a wedding
Two thirds of couples ask for help to pay for their wedding, so if you can’t pay for your big day by yourself then it’s okay to ask for a little support from your family.
When doing so, give them a heads up that you want to ask them to help pay so you don’t spring it on them unexpectedly. Then, sit them down and share your budget and plan with them in person so you can explain what you’d like and how they can help. The more they can see you’ve planned everything thoroughly, the more they’ll be inclined to help if they can.
Need a few more handy ways to understand more about paying for your wedding? Here are ten helpful tips for scraping and saving.
Treat your budget as your bible.
Be realistic and don’t set your heights too high. It’s easier to add more on later if you’ve underspent than it is to take things away if you’ve overspent.
Have a contingency plan in case something goes over budget – try to allow for around 10%.
Always start by booking your venue, as this is often the biggest expense and the trickiest to secure.
Always think about the bigger picture. If one thing doesn’t quite go to plan, there will more than likely be ten things that do.
Start paying for things as early as possible to avoid missing payments and accruing fees.
Prioritise vendors that are most important to you.
If you’re asking family for financial support, do so as soon as you can so you know your total budget early on.
Try not to rely on your credit card. The last thing you want during the build-up to your wedding is looming credit card debt.
Consider opening a dedicated savings account that the two of you can pay into each month. Having it right there will help you keep track of how much of your budget you have left.
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Since your bridal party have been so helpful with your wedding preparations, it’s only fair that they get some kind of reward for their efforts! Well, that’s the idea behind giving them gifts. This is optional of course. Nobody is forcing you to dish out gifts! If your wedding party have been genuinely helpful however, this is a nice touch as it lets them know that their help is appreciated. What you buy and how lavish you are is completely up to you. If you intend to go big with your gifting, you may want to budget this into your budgeter spreadsheet as this could end up being a significant cost!(this is often overlooked). Here are the people you would traditionally buy gifts for:
Best man
Maid of Honour
Other groomsmen(optional)
Other bridesmaids(optional)
It’s also traditional to buy a bouquet of flowers for the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom(1 each!) which will set you back an extra £100. Remember to budget that in.
You may also wish to purchase a gift for the fathers if you feel compelled to. This is not a traditional option so you would be breaking the mould!
A gift for the wedding officiant is also something you may wish to consider. This would just be a small token gesture to thank them for their part in your wedding day.
Finally, a gift for your fiancé prior to the wedding(or on the wedding night) will never go amiss as it adds a final flourish of romance to what is already an uber-romantic day!
The wedding is approaching fast and the tasks are piling up! It could be tempting to postpone your haircut to the last few days before the wedding to keep it looking as fresh as possible….but this is a mistake! Your hair takes time to settle into a new style, making a last-minute haircut a bad choice. Most hairstylists would advise you to get your hair trimmed and coloured around 2 weeks before your wedding (tweet us if you disagree). Any earlier than this and your hair would have the opportunity to grow too much before the wedding, potentially ruining the style. Any later than 2 weeks before and your hair may not fully settle into the style. The other advantage of getting a trim 2 weeks before is that if the stylist makes any mistakes, you have time to try and rectify it.
Once your hair is trimmed, try experimenting with the style you plan to do on your wedding day to see how it looks. If you feel that something doesn’t look right, look for small changes you can make to improve it. You may want to go over this with your hairstylist.
Read more about working with your wedding hairstylist
‘I had prepared an excellent speech for you today, but unfortunately, now that I’m married … I’ve been told to read this one instead.’
‘I have been told that this is usually one of the only times in a married man’s life when he can speak without being interrupted … I may be here sometime.’
‘I didn’t actually receive an invitation to the wedding, so I hope I haven’t just eaten somebody else’s meal.’
‘When I asked [bride’s] father if I could marry his daughter, he wanted to know if I would be able to support the family. The answer was no! I was only planning to support his daughter. The rest of them would have to look after themselves.’
‘A lot of people believe that girls marry men who remind them of their fathers, which explains why [bride’s] mother crying so much during the ceremony.’
‘I was a bit nervous about giving a wedding speech so I had a look online for some tips. The best advice came from Franklin D Roosevelt who said “Be sincere; be brief; be seated”. So…..thanks very much for coming!’
‘[bride] says that I never listen….or something like that’
Those who want to get married near their home town
Those who want to get married(a little further away) in a different city
Those who want to get married in a different country
In this hack, we are going to talk about the latter. This hack is for those adventurous couples who take their entire wedding overseas to create the ultimate dream wedding. This is the destination wedding!
Choosing the location
This is the hardest part. Where do you begin? Well, as always, a good place to start is your wedding theme. Do you already have a theme in mind for your wedding? If so, try to choose a location that suits your theme. Consider if you want an outdoor or indoor wedding and scope out areas that you think would be well suited. Keep in mind that the best weather usually occurs during the tourist season which could mean that your dream location ends up being really busy (a beach full of spectators probably wasn’t on your wish-list). If you already have a location which is important to you and your fiancé or that has some sentimental value, these locations bring an added touch to your wedding which can make it even more special. Of course, always keep an eye on the price to check if it’s in your budget. There are some additional costs needed for a destination wedding which we will discuss in more detail below.
Money-saving tips
If you plan to get married outdoors, use the natural beauty of the location to save on decorations. Likewise, try decorating indoor areas with local goods, adding an authentic feel. This could include plants, produce, crates etc. Be creative.
Look for non-city locations with cheaper flights, venues and accommodation. Just make sure that it is easy enough to travel there and that there are enough hotels to house all your guests.
Block-book hotels
As mentioned above, depending on when you book, it could be tourist season and there may not be enough accommodation available to cover all your guests. To avoid this, block-book hotels or self-catering accommodation in advance. The quicker you can finalise your guest list the better, as this will give you a more accurate idea of the total number of guests you need to book rooms for. You can then ask your guests to pay you directly to allow you to settle the bill with the hotel. For more complex bookings (e.g. if you are arranging self-catering or room-sharing), a Facebook messenger group can be incredibly useful.
Visit first yourself
Oh what a burden! It is highly recommended that you visit the location/venue yourself at least once before you get married. Ideally, you would want to visit before booking your venue and visit a few possible venues to make sure you are completely happy with it. If you are going to go to the effort of getting married abroad, you need to make sure it’s right. If possible, try visiting 2 or 3 times. This is something else to add into the budget.
Vendor issues
Do you plan to hire a local vendor for your destination wedding or are you bringing a vendor with you? If they are a local vendor, you would probably want to meet them first, prior to booking them. If they don’t speak English, you may want to consider hiring a local English-speaking wedding planner to liaise with all vendors on your behalf (it’s an added expense but could save a lot of hassle). If, on the other hand, you are bringing a vendor with you, there will probably be a requirement to pay for their travel and accommodation costs. If you need to do this for multiple vendors, costs will quickly skyrocket.
Local marriage requirements
This is a biggie! It is essential that you check the legal requirements of getting married in whatever country you choose. Many countries have a residency requirement which means that you must reside in the country for a certain period before your wedding ceremony. The duration of this period differs between countries although some countries are quite lengthy e.g. France is 40 days!
Warn your wedding party in plenty of time
It’s important to stay aware of the financial responsibilities you are placing on guests by getting married abroad. Unless you plan to pay for all your guests’ flights and accommodation, give your guests as much notice as you can so they can prepare accordingly. This is especially true for your wedding party and guests who you are really close with as you want to ensure that they are able to attend.
Can all your guests travel?
It’s also good to consider if all your guests are able to travel? For example, any friends who will be in the late stages of pregnancy around your wedding date may not be able to make it.
Weather and Outfits
Unfortunately, getting married abroad still does not guarantee good weather and you should prepare a backup plan if the weather takes a turn for the worse. As well as rain, wind can cause a serious issue for outdoor weddings. We have outlined some wind/rain busting solution in our beach wedding hack.
Your outfits should also be weather appropriate. Make sure to choose lighter fabrics that you won’t overheat in. Unless you are having a destination wedding in Greenland, in which case the opposite is true!
If you are considering a destination wedding, the above points are your key considerations to whether you think it will be achievable. If planned well, a destination wedding can actually work out cheaper if you choose the right location(although that’s not the best reason to opt for a destination wedding). Keep in mind that the difficulties of wedding planning are immediately doubled when you are planning the wedding overseas so you need to decide if it’s worth the extra effort. But don’t let me put you off! A destination wedding can be one of the most spectacular weddings imaginable……and if it’s what you want, who cares how difficult it is…..just do it!
Your wedding day is one of the most special days of your life, but it brings with it an unusual cocktail of emotions. Joy, nerves, excitement, panic…to name a few. The combination of extreme fear and extreme excitement at the same time is a very strange feeling. Of course, nerves and fear are totally expected. Getting married is a big deal and the thought of exhibiting the event in front of 100+ guests can make it all-the-more daunting. Let’s face it! You’re not going to be able to get rid of all the nerves, but a few quick tips can make all the difference between anxiety and bliss.
1. Do what you can to relax in the morning
The morning of your wedding is where the real nerves start. Here are a few tips:
Start the day with a bath
You may not feel like eating, but going out for breakfast can also be a nice start to the day
A good way to keep yourself calm is to get some company. Ideally, you want to have somebody with a calming personality with you as you start to get ready. Parents, friends or other members of the wedding party are a good place to start. If you’re getting ready on your own, your mind is free to race and that’s when panic can set in. Get distracted, get some company.
2. Remember what it’s all about
There are many things that you may be feeling anxious about…..the ceremony, speeches, first dance etc. Whatever it is, try to remember that these things are only moments in time, they will be finished as soon as they start. Your marriage however is going to last forever. As pleasant as these individual parts of your wedding are, they are only components of the overall celebration of your marriage. Focus on the reason for the day, your love for one another and you will find yourself hopelessly distracted from everything else.
3. Remember that nobody wants you to mess up
If you are nervous about the audience that will be watching you getting married, don’t be! Remember that everyone you have invited is there because they love you and want to share this day with you. Nobody is hoping you mess up (if they are then don’t invite them!). If anything goes wrong, nobody is going to mock, it just becomes a humorous moment that you will be sharing at dinner tables for years to come.
4. Take it all in
If you are too busy panicking, you may forget to take in the events of the day. It’s so easy to get distracted by your nerves, so instead, just focus on the beautiful little moments that occur during the day. Soak in every conversation, embrace every hug and every handshake. It flies by! And regardless of how nervous you were at the start of the day, you will most likely go to bed saying it was one of the greatest days of your life. Live in the moment. Take it all in.
Are you looking for some quotes from famous individuals for your wedding speech? Here is a short list to get you started:
“I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury.” – Groucho Marx
“The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.” – Allan K. Chalmers
“The man who says his wife can’t take a joke forgets that she took him.” – Oscar Wilde
“A man is incomplete until he’s married. After that, he’s finished.” – Zsa Zsa Gabor
“Some women pick men to marry, and others pick men to pieces.” – Mae West
“There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day, knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.” – Ronald Reagan
“The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman’s heart.” – Timothy Titcomb, J. G. Holland
“It’s not as great a day for the bride as she thinks. She’s not marrying the best man.” – Anonymous
“It’s a funny thing that when a man hasn’t anything on earth to worry about, he goes off and gets married.” – Robert Frost
“Any fool can have a trophy wife. It takes a real man to have a trophy marriage.” – Diane Sollee
“You know you are in love when you see the world in her eyes, and her eyes everywhere in the world.” – David Levesque
Crafting the perfect wedding playlist is a skill in itself. Your task is to take your guests on a musical journey that tells them a story or guides them in a certain flow of emotions.
The ceremony music is a bit more self-explanatory so we won’t discuss that in this hack. Instead, we’ll discuss playlist structure for the other 2 key (musical) points of the day.
Backing music for the meal
The dancing
Music is such a personal thing. There will be songs that remind you of certain moments in your life and instantly transport you back to that time. There will also be songs that are a shared memory for both you and your fiancé. These songs are often a great starting point for building your playlist if you are willing to share them with your guests. You can then work around them with songs of a similar style.
You may wish to place the songs in chronological order of their meaning to your relationship….. i.e. from when you met until the present day. This can be a nice touch and will be very special for you(even if it means nothing to your guests). Whether you tell your guests the significance of the songs is up to you.
The other option is to use songs that you feel match the tone of your wedding and you believe your guests will enjoy. For the meal, don’t use anything too lively. Some unfamiliar relaxing backing music is a good choice as your guests probably won’t know the words(you want your guests to talk to one another…..not sing throughout the meal). Listen to the words, not just the sound of the song! I heard about one couple who chose “Still haven’t found what I’m looking for” by U2 for their first dance! Cringe!
The evening playlist is a bit different because you don’t want all the songs to have the same tone. The best way to structure the evening playlist is like this:
Lively(get your guests up and dancing and working up a sweat)
Quiet(let your guests relax, grab a drink and have a slow dance)
Lively again(Once your guests have got some energy back, finish your night in style)
This is a good balance of lively and quiet. Your guests won’t be too exhausted but have had the opportunity to dance as much as they wanted to.
Booking your wedding music is one of the most fun tasks in your wedding planning. It is the soundtrack of your wedding and the backing music to your first dance! A big deal! So it’s important to get this right. Here is a quick 4-step guide to power through this task quickly and happily, whether you are booking a band or DJ.
1. Think about the style
The best place to start with all vendor bookings is your wedding theme. The same is true for booking your wedding music. If you don’t have a wedding theme yet, we would suggest coming up with one as soon as you can as it makes your life a whole lot easier. Once you have decided on your theme, try to base your music around this. Certain themes are naturally suited to certain genres. E.g. a 70s themed wedding would be well suited to a disco/funk band, whereas a rock n’ roll wedding would be best suited to a……erm……90s pop band(obviously). Of course, it’s important to make sure you like the genre yourself. Looking at your theme will at least give you a starting point.
2. Do the research
The next step is the research phase. The best place to begin your search is on wedding directories such as Little Book for Brides or music-specific-directories such as Hireaband. An alternative approach is to use a site like Soundcloud. Most bands/artists on Soundcloud won’t promote themselves as a wedding band but you can still reach out to them and ask if they would be interested. This is a good choice if you want something a little bit more unusual.
3. Initial enquiry
Depending on how tight a deadline you have, you can either contact bands individually based on your preference or you can build a small list of potential bands and contact them all at once. Reach out with a simple email to check their availability on your wedding date, how much they charge and what their service includes(this is a good point to ask if you have any specific requests e.g. can they play a certain song). This is a casual enquiry so don’t feel obliged to book after this first email.
4. Book
Once you have found a band/artist/DJ that you are happy with(you should be happy with the music and the people), it’s time to confirm the booking. Confirm in writing, ask for any contracts that they provide and pay the initial deposit to confirm the booking. You have just booked your wedding music. Nice!
We know, we know – you don’t even want to think about it! And trust us, we’d much rather focus on the fun stuff too. But it’s got to be done – so let’s talk clear-up.
Who’s Going To Clear Up?
In an ideal world, you and your partner will be involved as little as possible in the clear-up – and if you can, we say delegate! If you’ve booked your wedding as a package (ie. including catering, decorations, etc.), the day after your wedding is likely to be a lot more straightforward as your venue may well take care of almost everything for you. You can also ask your suppliers what they offer in terms of clear-up – florists, for example, will likely come to collect any reusable elements from their displays. But if you’ve gone the DIY route, it’ll be on you. In that case, get your wedding party to take care of as much as possible so you and your partner can enjoy your first days as newlyweds… instead of spending them litter-picking.
How Are They Going To Clear Up?
Once you’ve confirmed who’ll be taking care of the clear-up, make sure they have everything they need. This includes things like bin bags and boxes – but it also includes transport. You’ll almost certainly want to make sure they have access to a car so that anything that needs to be stored elsewhere can be easily removed.
What Needs Clearing Up?
A few days in advance of your wedding, make a list of everything that will need to be cleared up – especially if you’re handing over responsibility for the clear-up to someone else. Start off by thinking about your decor, including decorations, signage, floral arrangements and table decorations. Equipment also falls into this category – sound systems, lighting and so on. Next, if you’ve rented any of your clothing, you’ll want to make sure you know when and where it needs to be returned, and whether it needs to be dry-cleaned in advance. Finally, work out what you’ll do with leftover food and drink.
Where Are You Going To Put It?
Start off by splitting everything into four categories: keep, collect, recycle/donate, bin. If you’ve arranged for your wedding party to take care of the clear-up, make sure to communicate to them what falls into each category. You don’t want keepsakes thrown in the bin – but you also don’t want to come back from your minimoon to find you have to recycle a hundred table settings. If you’d rather do it yourself, a good alternative is to arrange for everything to be temporarily stored somewhere until you have time to deal with it.