Alternative Wedding Ideas for Modern Couples

Gone are the days when weddings were all about formal dress codes, traditional vows, and grand, conventional venues. Today’s couples are looking for unique and meaningful ways to celebrate their love and personalise their special day. While some wedding traditions stand strong, others are changing to reflect couples’ unique priorities and interests! If you’re a modern couple looking for alternative wedding ideas, here are some creative options to inspire you, from choosing your ceremony features and wedding party members to your fashion and entertainment.

Alternative venue

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Nearly one-in-five of today’s couples choose a unique venue or location for their wedding. Now that they’re legal, why not take advantage of an outdoor wedding? Whether it’s a garden, park, beach, or forest, the freedom is yours! Outdoor weddings are perfect for couples who want to keep things simple and intimate. For an even more low-key option, consider eloping. You can exchange vows with your partner in a stunning natural setting, surrounded by just a few loved ones.

Alternative catering

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For a more relaxed, informal vibe, swap the traditional sit-down meal for something fun like a buffet or hog roast, or something fancy like afternoon tea. Alternative catering can also be helpful if you’re on a budget, as you can save money spent on silver service or waist-coated waiters. For something more immersive, consider a more interactive dining experience or live cooking. There are plenty of fun options, from chef’s theatres and live cooking, to DIY dining experiences with make-your-own options such as pizzas, cooking with hot stones, Korean-style BBQs, or a giant fondue.

Non-traditional wedding ceremony features

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From non-traditional wedding party members to unique celebrants, you have the freedom and flexibility to choose exactly what wedding features you wish to include in your own wedding. Maybe you want your mum or best friend to walk you down the aisle, maybe you want bridesmates or groomsmaids, page girls rather than page boys, flower boys rather than flower girls. Or you might want to involve your own children in your wedding, or have a pet play a starring role in your wedding party. You can choose whichever combination reflects your own priorities and values.

From our Bridebook couples…

  • “Mum walked down the aisle with Dad”
  • “I had my two brothers as my best men instead of bridesmaids”
  • “Our best friend did the ceremony, and it was totally personal”
  • “All our speeches were gender equal” (e.g. groom’s mum, bride and bridesmaids)

Alternative entertainment and activities

Weddings should be fun! And what better way to create joy than by incorporating activities and games into your wedding? From archery and country line dancing, to kid’s party and lawn games like egg and spoon races and welly wanging, there are so many exciting possibilities! In fact, nearly one-in-five modern couples are incorporating activities or games into their weddings.

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From our Bridebook couples…

  • “We had the surprise of a wedding singer dressed in the uniform of the hotel staff”
  • “Chose archery as an activity for guests between the ceremony and reception”
  • “We had a country line dancing instructor come and run a session”
  • “Bouncy castle, bouncy slide, welly wanging, tug of war, limbo and piñata”

Alternative wedding fashion

Not a fan of the classic white wedding dress? No problem! Colourful wedding dresses are en vogue – from blush pink to crimson red to orange to black. In fact, over half of the dressmakers we spoke to are seeing wedding dresses in alternative colours to the traditional bridal white. David and Nathan were finally married in July of 2022…in a heatwave…in a velvet dress! Thankfully the aircon was fully functional and Nathan stole the show in their Billy Porter inspired gown.

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Alternative wedding themes

Themed weddings are a great way to get creative with your partner and guests. They also allow you to truly express your individual personalities and interests, whether that’s a favourite movie like Harry Potter, or favourite time period like the regency era. From your invites and decorations, to your food and costumes, let your chosen theme run wild! If you’re getting married on a special holiday, like Valentine’s Day or Halloween, you might also want to showcase that.

Photo © Zane Corlett Photography | See their Bridebook profile

There you have our alternative wedding ideas for modern couples. From unique venues and theatrical catering, to fun activities and non-traditional dress, the possibilities are endless. The key is to find an option that reflects your unique priorities and values – and your individual personalities. Whatever you go with, make it personal, meaningful and memorable!

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Mastering the “Bridal Chop”: TikTok Hairstyle Trend Uncovered

There’s no time like your wedding day to make a bold statement and awe your guests. And there’s more than one way to do it, from your dress to your hair, and the subtle to the extreme.

Most often, brides revamp their reception or evening look by changing into an entirely new gown. But one trend we’re seeing is brides shaking up their look without purchasing an additional gown. For example, restyling their existing outfit with a detachable skirt, or wearing a flexible ‘multi dress’. Check out our article on 2023 Wedding Fashion Trends to learn all about it.

The latest TikTok craze, the so-called “bridal chop”, is by far the most daring bridal transformation. Featuring a head-turning haircut in between the ceremony and reception, it’s the ultimate grand reveal moment. Many brides choose not even to let their partner in on it. We spoke to some of our expert hairdressers and stylists, to get their opinion on such a dramatic on-the-day transformation, as well as their top tips on how to style short hair on your wedding day.

Plus, with celebrities from Paris Hilton to Sarah Michelle Gellar and Camila Cabello rocking bobs lately, there’s no denying that a shorter, cropped style is on-trend. So what are you waiting for?

Colette Johnson | CJ Beauty & Co

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“I think the trend is brilliant! We have incorporated this as an option for brides under our full day package or with our evening turnaround service. It’s a brave option and a confident statement! But why not? Most brides grow their hair for their wedding day and then have it chopped off either before their honeymoon or when they get back – so why not have it done on the day as you enter married life and your first few hours as Mrs…”

Any top tips for styling short bridal hair?

“Brides are dressing up shorter hairstyles with bows, glitzy hair slides, or simple pearl headbands.”

Eileen Nugent | Eileen Nugent Hair & Makeup

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“Regarding the latest “bridal chop” trend, I did do this a few years ago for a bride on her wedding morning and surprised her bridesmaids and husband to be. It was a great success.”

Eva Pisanu | Foreva Hair

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“I love this trend! As a bridal hairstylist that is also a qualified hairdresser this is right up my street! Such a great way to surprise your guests instead of a dress change. I quite often get asked for a hairstyle change for the evening do, but I haven’t had a haircut request, but I would love to do this!”

Any top tips for styling short bridal hair?

“There are so many hair accessories that suit a long bob or short hair. One of my favourites would be the floral hairbands!”

Hayley Laws | Freelance Hair & Makeup Artist

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“This trend of cutting your hair off between the wedding service and the reception is definitely a unique take on having a second dress for your evening guests. It isn’t something that I have been asked about yet. My brides have opted for another dress or a bold red lip for the evening. Cutting your hair off can be scary when most brides spend so long growing it for their big day. The quirkiest thing a bride has asked me is to put fairy lights in her hair to switch on when the sunset came. I love a dramatic haircut. It empowers the client and gives new confidence. As long as the bride is committed to the change, why not!”

Any top tips for styling short bridal hair?

I would make the process as easy as possible to take less time out of your day. Maybe opt for a down style for the morning ceremony so that a ‘dry cut’ in a similar hairstyle won’t take too much time away from your guests. For short hairstyles in general I love a soft Hollywood wave or any wave at all. Part the hair deep to one side. It is a powerful style but is always a cute look for a short do. Add a simple vintage slide or a thick chunky headband as a statement piece. You could always add a side braid for an edgier style.

Kate Fletcher | Flashkate Bridal Hair & Make Up

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“I love this trend! Most brides grow their hair for the wedding day, so they can have a traditional ‘up do’. They mostly plan to chop their hair off after the wedding so why not AT the wedding. I’ve seen it a couple of times, paired with an outfit change, but not personally cut the hair. It’s a ballsy move and not for the faint hearted but has the real ‘WOW’ factor.”

Laura Anne | The Bridal Stylists: Wedding Hair & Makeup

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“We haven’t yet [come across this] but we are totally down for this request! We think it’s fab! Such a unique way to transition to the evening.”

Any top tips for styling short bridal hair?

“If you are thinking about doing this, some pointers to consider: it really would only work if you have already had your hair shorter in the past and loved it. Don’t let this be the first time going shorter. Also, make sure the style you go for first is lightly styled without a ton of product, so that the changeover is shift and successful. Plus, your hairstyle needs to be an experienced hairdresser too! We love a choppy, textured wave on shorter hair. Maybe with one side pulled back with a fab statement accessory. Or perhaps you prefer a simple, sleek ‘lob’ letting the hair shine through.”

Laura Glanville | Wishbone & Comb Bridal Hair & Makeup

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“As a bridal hair stylist for over 10 years, I must say this new trend is one that I am a huge fan of! As most brides are opting for a change of outfit for the evening, then why not surprise everyone even further, by adopting a whole new hairstyle too? I have lost count of how many brides tell me, when I compliment them on their long hair, that they can’t wait to have it “chopped off” after their wedding. With this in mind, why not incorporate just that into their schedule as well!”

Any top tips for styling short bridal hair?

“I suggest that if they are not going to be away from their reception for too long – I recommend opting for a simple one length cut that can be easily styled with a pretty tiara headband, or with a hairslide clipped to one side, that will showcase their new shorter hairstyle beautifully.”

Melissa Clare | Melissa Clare Makeup & Hair

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“I personally haven’t had any brides do this but I think the idea is fab. In the same light as brides who love to have more than one dress and change halfway through the day to create a new vibe for the second half, why not add in a totally new cool chop too!”

Any top tips for styling short bridal hair?

“My advice would be if you are having a chop resulting in short-mid length tresses, then show it off, don’t hide your new look in a bun. Keep it down, whether you prefer casual beachy waves or a more glamorous Hollywood or vintage wave, you can accessorise this look with an on-trend headband or comb worn on the side behind the ear. If you prefer to have your new do off your shoulders you could try a low textured ponytail with chunky bow/ribbon.”

Olga Taylor | Barnet and Boatrace

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“We’re absolutely loving the new bridal chop trend, but yet to find a bride that is brave enough to go through with this on their big day! Many are talking about it at their trial appointments though. It’s common practice for brides to grow their hair as they are led to believe that this is something that they ‘should do’ in preparation for their big day. Fuller, thicker, longer princess hair. We totally get it. Then suddenly, not long beforehand, they’ve been known to chop it as they feel totally fed up with the extra length or that it’s not really them. Within our team we have qualified hairdressers as well as stylists so we’d love to meet a bride who just holds off a couple more weeks and trusts us to transform them not once but twice on their big day!”

Any top tips for styling short bridal hair?

“A jewelled clip placed strategically above one ear on one side with brushed out waves looks simple yet super cute and guaranteed to wow guests at your evening ceremony!”

Vicki Lord | Vicki Lord Hair Wedding Hairdresser

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What do you think of the latest bridal chop trend?

“Having a mid-day haircut can definitely be a fun and unexpected way to completely transform and switch up your look for your wedding day, and add an unexpected twist to your wedding day style! Being a multi award-winning bridal, red carpet, celebrity, fashion, cut and colour hairstylist, it’s not uncommon to see brides grow out their hair in anticipation of their wedding day, and it’s understandable that they may want to have longer hair or an up-do hairstyle for their big day. However, without regular trims, long hair can become unruly and difficult to manage, which can make it harder to achieve the desired wedding day style. In any case, in recent years, there has been a trend towards more unique and individualised bridal hairstyles.”

Any top tips for styling short bridal hair?

“Short hair can be just as beautiful and elegant as longer styles and can be styled in a variety of ways to suit the bride’s taste and wedding theme. A skilled hairstylist can work with the bride to create a bridal transformation that highlights her features and personality. Incorporating a cool and elaborate hairpiece can add an extra touch of glamour and individuality. Ultimately, the goal is to create a hairstyle that makes the bride feel confident, beautiful and true to herself on her special day!”

So if you were thinking of taking the plunge with a bridal chop of your own, this is your sign! With these top tips and tricks, you’re all set to turn heads more than once on your big day.

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Wedding Industry People Awards | Advice from our Industry Experts

At the end of last year, we asked our wonderful venues to nominate the fantastic people they work with, who go above and beyond, day in – day out for a Wedding Industry People Award

Take a look at some of our amazing industry experts, with tips on being the best in their field…

Samantha Gilchrist | Gilchrist Collection

SG

Award: Best Venue Owner

“What are your top tips for other CEOs in the wedding industry?”

  • Invest in marketing. You have to promote to be able to produce. Marketing is the key to all bookings.
  • Learn to delegate. You can not do everything yourself as you will burn out. Get good people that believe in your vision!
  • Set a vision – what is your purpose for doing what you are doing and what is your goal. Each day make a list of things you need to do to get you a step closer to that goal.
  • Remove negativity from your team. Happy staff is the key to an effective, positive and productive team.
  • Research the Disney method and other successful brands that deal in hospitality successfully and implement their policies.
  • Make friends with successful business people and learn from each other, find mentors that inspire you, every day you are learning, be inspired by others’ success.
  • The most successful businesses are built by individuals…. You don’t need approval from others to be awesome. Hold your vision and don’t listen to anyone that says it can’t be done. You are amazing… keep going!

Cindy Marshall-Day | Walcot Hall

CMD

Award: Best Venue Owner

“What are your top tips for other venue owners in the wedding industry?”

  • Always treat your staff with compassion and love.
  • Make sure your team are as invested in your goals and love their job as much as you do!
  • Make sure your venue is always impeccably clean and ready to present at a moment’s notice.
  • Always be ready to go the extra mile for your prospective clients.
  • Always exceed guests’ expectations.
  • Stay true to yourself and your business’s vision.
  • Every year, try and make at least two new improvements to your business to maintain growth.
  • Always be prepared to jump in and help out with any little details which can help the day to run more smoothly.
  • Maintain a level of professionalism and ensure your clients have as little stress as possible when it comes to their Big Day.
  • Always seek feedback from guests about how your service can be further improved and work these suggestions into your everyday working practices where possible.
  • Build good relationships with local suppliers and support local businesses whenever you possibly can.
  • Remain consistent in your approach.

Iain Winnard | Hilltop Country House

IW

Award: Best in-house Caterer

“What are your top tips for other General Managers/Chefs in the wedding industry?”

  • Good, effective and clear communication.
  • Build a trustworthy relationship with your team.
  • Always take 5 minutes to brief the team so they all know exactly what’s going on and when.
  • Time management is crucial on a wedding day so ensuring your team all have this attribute is very important.
  • Most of all have fun and enjoy being part of someone’s most special day of their lives.

Carissa Fullwood | Blakelands Country House

CF

Award: Best Events Manager

“What are your top tips for other Service and Event Managers in the wedding industry?”

  • Always listen to your couples – you want to tell them all about your venue and that’s great but it’s important to gauge what it is they need from you
  • Remember, while it is the couples day, their guests are equally as important. You want their guests to have the best day ever as well.
  • Don’t put your couples under pressure to stick to certain times, the day needs to evolve naturally for a relaxed and happy day.
  • At the end of the evening, don’t rush couples and guests out the door. The last half an hour is as important as the first half an hour.

Katie Comber | The Ravenswood

KC

Award: Best Events Coordinator

“What are your top tips for other Wedding Coordinators in the industry?”

  • Always go above and beyond. You must think one step ahead and remind couples of the things they wouldn’t usually think of (like swapping their engagement ring over to the other hand on the morning of their wedding so they don’t have an odd red line in pictures during the ceremony!). This includes focusing on the details – focusing on the small details can make a huge difference and will give your couples even more confidence in you.
  •  Lead every member of staff by example – never ask someone to do something you wouldn’t do yourself! Your entire team will have so much more respect for you if they see you doing this. You should be radiating enthusiasm to help encourage your team to deliver an unforgettable event.
  • Get to know your couples and understand their interests, what they personally think the most important part of their day is so you can keep this in mind and make it even more special for them. Take time to get to know them and their story.
  • Plan for contingencies! You never know when something like a power cut may happen, so take the time to write processes so you and your team can refer to these when/if the unfortunate does happen! Have the confidence to adapt and make decisions quickly if needed.
  • Be event ready at least 2 weeks prior, so you don’t bombard your wedding couple and allow them to enjoy the last few weeks of their engagement! This gives your couple confidence in you as well that everything is in hand and ready to go. I always like to call my couple a day or two prior just to touch base, say hello and ask if there is anything at all that I can do to help. It helps to create a detailed timeline for you to refer to so you can keep track of when you need certain things from your couple as well.
  • Be genuinely excited for their special day. Your couple will feed off of how you act and this is incredibly reassuring for them when they may be feeling a little nervous. It is also such an honour to be part of such an important life event for them, so you should be buzzing!
  • Ensure your team of Event Managers are all delivering events and admin to the same high standard. You want to be sure that you are all using similar templates (and make sure that you have these all in place and people are aware of these) so your staff are used to the format, and also if someone is ill the team can easily pick up this information and ensure a smooth transition takes place between staff.

Ebony Wimbush | Cheshire Woodland Weddings

EW

Award: Best Events Coordinator

“What are your top tips for other Wedding Coordinators in the industry?”

  • While maintaining a professional manner also become friends with your couples! Couples are leaving their big day in your hands and they need to be able to trust you as well as be relaxed and have fun in the process.
  • Engage all the senses for showrounds. Not only do you need to make your venue LOOK the part but incorporate their hearing with relaxing music throughout, scent with candles lit & feel with making sure the venue is warm and cosy.
  • Always get to know what your couples are looking for BEFORE the initial meeting so they feel like you have put in the effort ahead of time to learn about their dream day.
  • On the wedding day make sure to make yourself known to all guests. Dress Smart and blend in while also being a point of contact for any queries throughout. It works well if you introduce yourself on the door as guests arrive.
  • Lastly (but definitely not least), I am always on hand via email & phone to help couples who have questions. There is no question too big or too small. Creating a relaxed communication is integral to the coordinator/ client relationship. I strive to make my couples feel like they can contact me whenever a question arises.

Jennifer Turton | Walcot Hall

JT

Award: Best Marketing Leader

“What are your top tips for other Heads of Marketing in the wedding industry?”

  • Always provide value – whether this be sharing helpful tips on wedding planning, budgeting, vendor selection or something appealing to a wider audience. This can help build trust with your customers, as well as keeping them engaged in the long-term. 
  • Share customer testimonials wherever possible, and always ask your customers to provide them. These form another important element of trust, and research has shown that a huge 97% of customers look for relevant reviews before making a booking or purchase. Bonus points for pictures! 
  • Never underestimate the value of SEO – by optimising your website and social media profiles using keywords relevant to the wedding industry, you can help to increase visibility and drive more traffic.
  • Ensure that you have a clearly defined Unique Selling Point (USP). For example, is your venue in a unique location? Does it have a unique history? Is it environmentally friendly? Does it have a particularly large capacity? By defining this and carrying it throughout your marketing materials, you can help your venue to stand out from its competitors.
  • Stay up-to-date with the latest wedding industry trends, incorporating them into your marketing strategy to appeal to prospective customers. Use high-quality images or video where possible, which will help to showcase your venue’s best features and adaptability to your clients.
  • Go over your marketing materials and campaigns at least every six months, being sure to update images, video footage, and other details such as pricing. Is an element of your marketing plan not working? Don’t be afraid to overhaul! Take what works and move forward – try something new!

Supplier Showcase: Brilliant Female-Owned Wedding Businesses

In celebration of International Women’s Day, we’re shining a light on the achievements of female wedding business owners. Women have long played a prominent role in the wedding industry. From wedding planners and coordinators to wedding designers, photographers, florists, cakemakers, caterers, and more, women make up 80% of the wedding industry! Read the success stories, achievements and advice of some of Bridebook’s top female business owners below.

Mercedes | 4YaParty Weddings and Events

About Mercedes: Mercedes (she/her) is a qualified venue stylist and prides herself on having great customer service and high attention to detail. She owns and manages 4YaParty Weddings & Events, specialising in providing eco-friendly and sustainable wedding and event decor, upcycled wedding decor, prop hire, and sweet treats. She says no to balloons and no to single-use plastic. Plus, for every booking she makes, she’ll have a tree planted in your honour!

Proudest achievement to date: “Becoming an accredited member of the Sustainable Wedding Alliance, making weddings eco-friendly by being carbon neutral for 2 years!”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Being a black, queer, disabled, female business owner comes with many challenges! But the biggest challenge I have is believing in myself and knowing my worth! Believing in the value that my service brings to the wedding industry. But I have an epic support network in family, friends, the SWA and wedding suppliers, who have become friends!”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Meeting lovely couples from all walks of life and hearing their love stories, watching their personality as a couple unfold in their wedding decor!”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “My biggest advice for any woman who wants to start their own business is to make sure you’re passionate about whatever you choose! Running your own business is not a get rich quick route at all! It’s a very slow burner lol so if you don’t truly love it, then when it gets hard, it will be too easy to give up!”

Gemma | The Isla Gladstone Conservatory

About Gemma: Gemma is a leading entrepreneur and businesswoman in the hospitality industry with a number of nationally recognised restaurants, hospitality venues, catering companies and social enterprises under her guiding hand. She began her career in her teens, when she famously became the youngest licensee in the country. Over the last two decades she has developed a wide portfolio across the UK, successfully building iconic venues that are rooted in their communities. ****She opened The Isla Gladstone Conservatory in 2014 in the heart of Stanley Garden.

Proudest achievement to date: “They all said it couldn’t be done…A glass house in Liverpool…We have gone from strength to strength each year and have an all-women management team!”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “COVID…To see your hard work and dream stopped with nothing you could do about it. Having to break bride’s and groom’s hearts postponing their date time and time again, when we didn’t know when we could open again. It was truly the hardest time ever.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “It’s a happy place to be. Guests arrive happy, venue looks beautiful, and we get to be one of the happiest memories for brides and grooms.”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Believe in what you do…Look for support…Employ the best people to be around you…And enjoy!!!”

Stacey | The Venue Experts

About Stacey: Stacey, a.k.a. the “turbocharged wedding booking superstar”, is founder and CEO of The Venue Experts. She comes with over 20 years’ experience in the industry. From managing wedding venues and developing businesses in the hospitality sector to hosting large-scale events at some of the East Midlands’ best-known events companies, she is ready to take on any challenge. Stacey has extensive knowledge of managing venues in-house, having had business development and sales consultant roles at properties including Belvoir Castle and Hodsock Priory.

Proudest achievement to date: “I was recognised as one of the top 100 Female Entrepreneurs to watch by The Telegraph and NatWest.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Starting a business in the pandemic.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Making a difference in the industry and being considered as one of the leading experts.”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Believe in yourself, know your worth, and remember that it is worth the risk.”

Natalie | Velvet Moon Ceremonies

About Natalie: Natalie is an independent celebrant and proud founder of Velvet Moon Ceremonies. She loves crafting bespoke, personal ceremonies that reflect each couple as individuals and their story together so far. This includes matching both the tone (be it fun and laidback, or sentimental and romantic) and theme (traditional or alternative), and learning what’s most important to the couple. She weaves all this together into their script, to create a truly unique ceremony.

Proudest achievement to date: “I’m proud that within my first proper year of weddings I already got to do one of my dream ceremonies – one themed around the video game series Final Fantasy! I love being able to write meaningful, special ceremonies for couples that reflect who they are and what they enjoy whilst they celebrate their love for each other.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Having 2020 as what should have been my first wedding season! Obviously everything got pushed back and it’s been slow going, but I’m proud of what I achieved last year and I couldn’t have asked for better couples to work with.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Being part of someone’s wedding day, surrounded by so many talented women who are amazing at their work! There’s so much build up, and being a 2023 bride myself I know how much work goes into the planning and the trust you have to have for every supplier involved to understand what you want and bring it together on the day.

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Network – there are so many other amazing women in this business who have been through what you have or struggled in similar ways. They can provide support and advice on any issue you’re facing as well as cheer you on and celebrate your wins.”

Jemma | Charlesworth Classics Ltd

About Jemma: Jemma is the proud owner and director of Charlesworth Classics Ltd. She works with couples from start to finish to choose and arrange the perfect transport for their special day. From vintage and classic London taxis to iconic Rolls Royces, there’s something for everyone. She hand-picks all the drivers herself, and prides herself on the service she provides.

Proudest achievement to date: “Breaking through the wedding car industry! I am not aware of another female director in this field local to me currently. This is still a very male dominated role, and there is still a very strong “boys’ club” mentality, which I hope will change in years to come. I have been very fortunate to have the support of my husband (which has made interactions with other wedding car companies a little easier), and to have been included with a select few individuals with whom I work very closely and experience no prejudice.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “I think my biggest challenge/lesson has been to follow my instincts. Prior to starting my company I was a stay-at-home wife. I had no experience what-so-ever. I just knew this was something I wanted. When COVID came, I refused to jump on the panic bandwagon. I made the most of the down-time and grew my business and feel I was in a good position to move forward once normality was restored.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “My couples! I love hearing the stories behind why my couples want to book my cars, whether it’s because we have been recommended by friends or family, or they simply just love our cars. There is always a story there and I love hearing them. Looking back at photos and receiving a review, reading the appreciation of the service my team and I have provided, there really is no better feeling!”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Believe and achieve! Mindset is one of the most important parts of owning your own business. Find other women with your mindset and work together, pick each other up. Owning your own business can be very lonely. You spend a lot of time alone so a good support network is very beneficial – you don’t even need to work in the same field.”

Nyssa | Edinburgh School of Food & Wine

About Nyssa: Nyssa is the owner and manager of the Edinburgh School of Food & Wine. She prides herself on delivering a first-class service, having a dedicated wedding team to ensure each couple’s day runs perfectly from beginning to end. She organises and manages everything from wedding catering, bar services, room set up, lighting options, and prop selection. Couples can also choose from stag and hen do packages at the cook school, ranging from cocktail masterclasses to champagne, whisky or wine tasting, to BBQ cookery and food masterclasses.

Proudest achievement to date: “Finalist for 3 wedding awards as caterer of the year.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Taking over the business mid-COVID and making it a success whilst also being mum to three young kids.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Making specials for our clients, the delight of delicious food and great service!”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Take the leap! It is so fulfilling to run your own business. It is hard work but worth every minute.”

Lily | Lily Kerbey Musician

About Lily: Lily is a passionate professional singer-guitarist who has been performing in and around Yorkshire at wedding and other private milestone celebrations for the last 10 years. A true expert in her field, she has played at all types of weddings, from cliff tops in Portugal to a DIY woodland wedding. She strives to make every couple’s day special, from singing as you walk down the aisle, to entertaining guests during the photos, and can create custom playlists of wedding songs.

Proudest achievement to date: “Singing at my first wedding abroad was very special! Also the fact I managed to get so many bookings that I could leave my full-time teaching job, which made me so stressed I got ill. I’m now happy and thriving and working at 10% of the capacity I was before.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Making the move from part-time to full-time. The instability of self-employed work is so scary, but now I’m in it I could never go back!

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Getting to be involved in the best day of people’s lives. Everyone is happy at a wedding, and that happiness spreads.”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Find something that doesn’t feel like work. And enjoy every moment! When you genuinely love your job, everything else in your life fits into place. Take every opportunity you can but also look after yourself and put aside time for yourself!”

Sarah | The Purple Pumpkin Cake Company

About Sarah: Sarah is an award-winning professional cake artist and proud owner of The Purple Pumpkin Cake Company. After a career in retail management, she made the inspiring decision to turn her hobby into her profession. She creates bespoke wedding cakes and fresh designs for every couple, to make your cake individual and unique to you. Having inherited baking from her mum, and now with four children of her own, family is everything to her.

Proudest achievement to date: “I’ve won two business awards alongside cake awards. Being awarded for my business skills was amazing!

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Apart from COVID you mean? Being a mother of four, then taking on the custody of my six-month old grandson, while caring for my dying mum, while running a successful business, off the back of COVID, and still smiling always!”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “I get to meet loads of excited, varied and different couples, and be part of their stories! I also love working alongside other fantastic suppliers.”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “People buy from people, so be more you. Don’t look at others and try to copy them. Be yourself, and you’ll be successful. If you’re always comparing yourself to others you’ll never get there!”

Emily | Emily’s Moments Photography

About Emily: Emily is empathetic and quirky Belgian-born photographer with a passion for being who we are unashamedly. Her commitment is pure and simple – to tell each couple’s unique story sensitively and with humanity. Based in St Albans, Hertfordshire, but working across the UK, she produces images and photo albums that you will treasure for decades to come. She has been lovingly described as “approachable, upfront, honest, hopeful, curious, quirky.”

Proudest achievement to date: “Being back at square 1 in a brand new career aged 37 and building a sustainable business from scratch.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Managing my own expectations of what can be achieved. Owning a business is a few full-time jobs in one with a huge variety of skillsets to be acquired over time. I have to accept that I can’t acquire them all at once. I have to be patient.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Being totally independent when making my own decisions to grow my own business. My daily successes are mine and mine alone to celebrate.”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Don’t ever believe any unsupportive voices…whether they come from others or from yourself. Us women have a tendency to have in-built doubt in what we are capable of. We have to fight that inner voice. We can achieve whatever we set our mind to in our own way, using our own strengths and our own uniqueness.”

Jade | Hushabye Films

About Jade: Jade is an experienced film maker, videographer and owner of Hushabye Films. She spent over 15 years in broadcast television, working as a shooting producer/director, with experience across channels such as the BBC, ITV, MTV, E4, C4, Sky and various other satellite channels, with credits on high-profile programmes including the BAFTAs, Big Brother, T4, Comic Relief and V Festival. She has also created hours of online, YouTube and corporate content. She takes a cool, calm and personalised approach to shooting wedding films.

Proudest achievement to date: “When I decided to shoot weddings, I knew straight away I was going to do things differently! I took everything I had learnt from my 10+ years working as a TV producer and used it to make wedding films that people actually wanted to watch! When I started there were no “fun” wedding videographers. There was a HUGE gap in the market and I grabbed it with both hands! I’ve now shot over 200 weddings.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “COVID!!! We were NOT prepared for that!!! But somehow I managed to shoot some small weddings and make promotional films to earn some income and spend hours everyday moving dates and making sure I could still film all the weddings the following year whilst also shooting all the new ones!”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Working with the clients you want to work with and being creative everyday. I love the wedding industry and all the talented supplier friends I’ve made.”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Don’t worry about what other people are doing with their businesses. Do what’s right for you and recognise that everyone is at a different stage of their own journey. Don’t carbon copy a business because it looks like it’s successful. Take inspiration if you have to but always put your own spin on it so you can be proud of your achievements.”

Harriet | Harriet Alice Fox Designs

About Harriet: Harriet is a Sheffield-based illustrator and graphic designer who specialises in creating hand-drawn bespoke wedding stationery. Working on a friend’s wedding stationery made her fall in love with the creative process. Since then, she has gone on to showcase her work at wedding fairs and attract a whole host of couples wanting something special for their wedding stationery. Harriet is passionate about creating unique designs that celebrate the wedding venue, reflect the couple’s interests, or even feature a beloved furry friend who can’t attend the big day.

Proudest achievement to date: “I’m most proud of my portrait seating plans! I’m so excited whenever couples want to work with me on them. The amount of work put into drawing every guest individual portraits and piecing it together is massive but so rewarding, and such a fabulous keepsake for the couples themselves.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Realising that your product/style might not be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s a good thing. Because it makes what you do so much more unique and custom.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Delivering all the stationery goodies! There’s so much excitement from the couples, and I’m very grateful to be part of the buildup.”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Believe in yourself and your product. If you’re giving it 100% then your passion will shine through.”

H | Lawley Fine Jewellers

About H: As well as looking after the marketing and social media side of Lawley Fine Jewellers, H is a passionate jeweller and specialist in handmade engagement and wedding rings. She loves being at the bench and mastering the technical skills required to make beautiful pieces.

Proudest achievement to date: “Our biggest achievement is definitely the popularity and feedback of our Make Your Own Wedding Rings experiences. This year was our busiest yet!”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Definitely the pandemic, which really hit the industry hard. We consider ourselves fortunate in that we were able to keep going. It was a stressful time both for couples organising their big days and for all the suppliers serving them.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Being involved in a small way in each couple’s plans – especially with their wedding rings, which will be worn and cherished every day – is something amazing and we feel honoured. Also, making such great friends with other local talented wedding suppliers has been a wonderful surprise, as it’s something we didn’t expect. Being able to support each other and recommend trusted suppliers to our couples is fantastic.”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Follow your own path and be authentic. Have each other’s backs and support each other, be it to share and recommend or offer friendly advice.”

Amy | Beewildblooms

About Amy: Amy is the founder and owner Beewildblooms, a family-run floristry business in Scotland. She specialises in unique wedding flowers and decor, as well as floral masterclasses and 1:1 classes. She is proud to have been featured in both Rock N Roll Bride Magazine and Rock My Wedding. Her style is rustic, wild, romantic, and most certainly one-of-a-kind!

Proudest achievement to date: “Starting our family floristry business during lockdown with no clients – selling £16 arrangements to doorsteps and now becoming a finalist for best wedding florist [for the Scottish Confetti Wedding Awards 2023] and being fully booked for 2023.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “Having zero funding or savings after redundancy and building my business whilst also being a full-time mum at home.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Delivering a bespoke and personalised service to our lovely couples – we keep numbers small to deliver big joy!”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Be authentic – YOU are your own super power! Keep trying different things until you find something that makes you happy and fills your cup. You are running your own business for a reason, because you can and you want to – so never forget your why! Don’t compare to others as everyone is at a different stage in business!”

Becky | Lavelle Bridal Couture

About Becky: At Lavelle Bridal Couture, it’s just Becky, all the way. From booking your very first private bridal appointment to the big day, she’s with you every step of the way. Having learnt to sew at the age of 10, she pursued a career in fashion and textiles, working for various design houses and retailers before opening her own bridal boutique right in the heart Warwick. Before opening her shop, she first studied wedding dress design at the London College of Fashion, so knows exactly what’s involved in the construction and how to advise on dress customisations and alterations.

Proudest achievement to date: “My biggest achievement happens every day in my small business… The majority of women feel super nervous when it comes to wedding dress shopping, and I always feel so proud when a bride leaves my boutique with the biggest smile on her face, having had the most amazing wedding dress shopping experience with me. I pride myself on helping brides feel comfortable and confident in their own skin so they feel gorgeous in their dream wedding dress.”

Biggest challenge to overcome: “COVID was a huge challenge for any business, but also supporting brides through such tough times was very challenging at times. The uncertainty of weddings was tough to navigate but I’m very proud to say that I’ve come through it and thrived.”

Best part about owning a wedding business: “Feeling honoured to be chosen by my brides to take a part in their special day and the emotions that brides feel and experience when they find the perfect dress. It’s such a special moment and I love that I can be a part of that!”

Advice to aspiring female business owners: “Collaboration over competition, every day. I always think there is no competition as no-one can be you. Just be yourself and you’ll find the people who love what you do. If you support one another it will always pay you back at some point and then you’ll make great friends across a variety of industries who can support you through your journey.”

The wedding industry owes a great debt to the countless female business owners who have dedicated themselves to making couples’ special days truly unforgettable through their creativity and hard work. We hope that the inspiring stories and insights shared by the female business owners featured here will encourage more women to follow in their footsteps and continue to make a mark on the wedding industry for many years to come.

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Top Tips For Your Destination Wedding

A destination wedding can be a memorable and unique way to celebrate your special day with your friends and family. But planning one can be a daunting task! There are so many decisions to make and details consider. That’s why we’ve put together our top tips for planning a destination wedding. They’ll help you make your big day a success, no matter where you are in the world. From choosing the perfect wedding venue, to being aware of the legalities, we’ve got you covered.

1. Choose the right location

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The location you choose for your destination wedding is crucial. Consider factors like climate, accessibility, price and venue availability. You may want to choose a place that has a special meaning to you and your partner. How about where you first went on holiday together? Or somewhere with stunning, picture-perfect scenery for your wedding photos?

If you’re not sure where to start, check out our handy guide on the top 10 destination wedding locations. From a romantic Mediterranean beach wedding on a Greek island to a cosmopolitan urban getaway in New York, the world is your oyster!

2. Give your guests plenty of notice and information

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When planning a destination wedding, give your guests plenty of advance notice. This will allow them to make travel arrangements and organise their holiday time accordingly (particularly important for very far-flung locations). Send out save-the-date cards at least 6-8 months before the wedding to give your guests plenty of time to plan, and the invitations 3-4 months in advance.

Be sure to include all the important details on a separate information card along with the invitations themselves. We recommend the following as a bare minimum:

  • How to reach your destination and where to stay (include your venue’s address)
  • Information on the weather at the time of year (so your guests can plan their outfits)
  • Tips for places to visit and eat in the area (ask your venue for recommendations)

We recommend listing any extra wedding-related activities, like dinner the day before, or lunch the next day, on your RSVP card. That way, your guests can tick off which ones they’ll be attending.

3. Hire a specialist local wedding planner

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Hiring a local wedding planner can be a game-changer when planning a wedding abroad. They’ll help you create the perfect wedding itinerary and handle all the necessary logistics, so you can focus on simply enjoying your big day and being present in the moment.

A local wedding planner will have specialist knowledge of the area and wedding suppliers, and can help you navigate any language or cultural barriers. Let them serve as your personal directory of recommendations, from accommodations and restaurants, to activities and attractions.

4. Choose the right wedding dress and attire

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When it comes to deciding on your dress code, be sure to consider both the location and nature of your wedding. Depending on the destination, you might need to choose materials that are comfortable in the heat or cold, and shoes that are suitable for the terrain.

If you’re getting married on the beach or very hot country, consider wearing slip-on sandals or going barefoot for a more relaxed feel. If you’re getting married somewhere cold like Iceland, think long sleeves and plenty of warm layers you can change into if necessary.

5. Plan group and honeymoon activities

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An overseas wedding is a great opportunity to spend quality time with your guests. You can organise a rehearsal dinner or post-wedding lunch to extend the celebration and make a holiday of it. Plan group activities to create fun, memorable experiences. We recommend beach bonfires, water sports like snorkelling, hikes and day trips, or food and wine tastings.

Or plan activities for your honeymoon, to make the most of your flight tickets and journey! In fact, with honeymoons being a top splurge for newlyweds, combining your destination wedding with your honeymoon can be a great way to optimise both your budget and your time.

6. Don’t forget the legal details

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If you’re hoping to tie the knot in a foreign country, be prepared to navigate some legal requirements that might be different from what you’re used to in your home country.

  • Make sure your marriage or civil partnership is recognised by the law back home. This might involve getting certain licenses or translations of documents (for example, if you’re a Brit marrying abroad, a certificate of no impediment (CNI) from the UK government).
  • Make sure you follow all the necessary procedures in the country where you’re planning to get married abroad. You’ll need to reach out to the local authorities to learn what to do.

The bottom line is that you don’t want to get caught out by any legal technicalities that could put a damper on your big day. So be thorough with your research!

Planning a destination wedding requires a bit more effort than a traditional wedding at home, but the results can absolutely be worth it. By following these top tips, you’ll be well on your way to planning the destination wedding of your dreams with all of the joy and none of the stress.

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How Much Does a Wedding Cost? The 2023 UK Average

Want to know how much the average wedding costs this year? Introducing our UK Wedding Report 2023: our annual wedding industry study revealing year-on-year changes. This year, we surveyed almost 4,000 married and engaged couples, representing a mix of regions and demographics, to find out what couples like you are spending on. Time to start planning your own wedding budget

Average Cost of a Wedding in the UK

2022 was the year of the Corona Comeback. The lifting of pandemic restrictions saw the highest wedding spend ever! Average wedding spend grew by 15% to an all-time high, rising by £2,500 year-on-year to £19,184 (£24,069 including the ring and honeymoon). It goes to show that couples are prioritising their marriage, and not letting the economic climate impact their wedding spending.

Average Wedding Costs by Supplier Category

Average wedding spend increased in almost every category between 2021 and 2022. The most significant increase was in venue cost (£7,944 average, an increase of 20% vs 2021). We’ve put together a wedding cost breakdown below! These are the average supplier costs for UK weddings:

  • Average cost of a wedding venue – £7,944
  • Average cost of catering – £5,103 (with an average of 88 guests)
  • Average cost of a photographer – £1,357
  • Average cost of a videographer – £1,354
  • Average cost of hair and makeup – £657
  • Average cost of a florist – £1,114
  • Average cost of a wedding cake – £376
  • Average cost of a wedding dress – £1,424

If you’re looking to save money on your suppliers, savvy wedding planning is a must! Our top tip is to enquire to several suppliers to do more price comparisons.

Total Wedding Costs by Region

Couples spent nearly £10K (or 50%) more to marry in London (£29,085) compared to the national average (£19,184). That’s even more than marrying outside the UK, where the average cost is £25,525. Yorkshire and the Humber is the region with the lowest cost (£16,103), making it the most budget-friendly option. So, if you’re looking to save money, the location of your wedding matters!

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Total Wedding Costs by Day of the Week

Weekend weddings are the most expensive, with Saturday weddings costing £20,141 on average. Tuesday is the least costly option (costing £16,804 on average). So, if you’re on a budget and looking for a cheaper alternative, consider a midweek wedding. This can make a huge difference!

  • Monday – £17,327
  • Tuesday – £16,804
  • Wednesday – £17,505
  • Thursday – £17,898
  • Friday – £18,401
  • Saturday – £20,141
  • Sunday – £19,715
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Total Wedding Costs by Month of the Year

Wedding costs tend to be higher in the from June through September, with June weddings costing the most (£21,287). Costs are lowest in the winter, with February being the cheapest month to get married (£15,826), which is ideal if you’re trying to save on your wedding spending.

  • January – £16,179
  • February – £15,826
  • March – £19,200
  • April – £18,733
  • May – £18,174
  • June – £21,287
  • July – £20,369
  • August – £19,403
  • September – £20,620
  • October – £18,913
  • November – £17,270
  • December – £17,659
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Total Wedding Costs by Guest Count

It probably comes as no surprise that wedding spending is heavily influenced by the number of guests attending. The more guests you invite, the more your wedding will cost. Catering accounts for just over 1/5 of this. So, if you’re looking to cut costs, consider having fewer guests to feed!

  • 50 or fewer guests – £12,757
  • 51-100 guests – £18,757
  • 101-150 guests – £23,308
  • 151 or more guests – £29,709
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Top Wedding Spending Splurges

We found that couples are most likely to splurge on their honeymoon, followed by the wedding dress, venue and photographer. With beach honeymoons remaining the most popular honeymoon style (47% of couples married in 2022 chose a beach honeymoon), this is hardly surprising. The honeymoon splurge is heavily linked to the post-pandemic wedding boom and the fact that travel is back on the map. 2/3 of couples married in 2022 planned a honeymoon abroad, which represents a significant jump from 2021, when only 1/4 planned to go abroad.

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So, if you’re hoping to have a wedding in 2023, you’re looking at an average spend of £19,184, up £2,500 year-on-year. The average cost may be more or less depending on the region, day of the week, month of the year, and any optional splurges (for example, on a honeymoon overseas). For a more thorough category-by-category breakdown of the cost of UK wedding suppliers, check out our article on the ultimate wedding budget breakdown. And for a budget breakdown that’s tailored for you, look no further than Bridebook’s one-of-a-kind personalised wedding budget planner.

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