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“The gift list innovators, Patchwork removes the stigma of asking for cash.” ELLE.
Who are Patchwork?
Patchwork is a global platform that lets friends contribute cash, time and skills towards a group gift or event. You can use Patchwork to organise all sorts of celebratory occasions from weddings and baby showers to surprise birthday parties.
You can use the platform to collectively fund all kinds of unique gifts and experiences, from honeymoons to handbags, campervans to cookery classes and bikes to beehives.
Common ways to use the Patchwork platform:
As a Wedding Gift Registry:
Patchwork allows couples to create an alternative wedding gift registry to allow your guests to collectively fund and chip in towards that one gift you really want. Whether it’s a piece of art or a weekend in Paris, with Patchwork wedding guests come together to fund one big gift – piece by piece.
Patchwork enables couples to show wedding guests their dream honeymoon as a collection of images. So friends and family can choose which part of the trip to treat them to – £200 for a night in a hotel, £50 for dinner or £5 for beers on the beach.
Patchwork is used by thousands of couples planning DIY weddings:
The organiser sets up a Patchwork to show all the things they need help to fund, make or do (from buying beer to making cakes, doing the decorations or promising to DJ)
Then everyone chooses whether to contribute cash, time or skills to help make it happen.
Why use Patchwork?
With customisable templates and gorgeous image gallery, it’s easy to set up your Patchwork gift page and the Pinterest-style layout and mobile friendly shopping experience makes it easy and fun for friends to contribute too.
100,000 people (and counting) already love and trust Patchwork. Here’s why:
Your friends can give you money (or contribute their time, or their skills) and feel great about doing it.
We don’t try to sell you anything. You can spend the money you receive when, where and how you like.
You can collect funds in any currency from friends and family wherever they are in the world.
Why Patchwork is so unique?
Fund, make, do
Patchwork is the only gift list in the world that lets people register not just things they want friends and family to fund but also things people can make and do.
For example, a couple using Patchwork as a honeymoon fund can ask friends and family to treat them to a night in an Airbnb for £100 or pay for a coconut on the beach for £1. But they can also ask people to make them a travel playlist as a present, lend them a rucksack, teach them some Spanish or drive them to the airport.
Collect gift money direct
Patchwork is independent of all retailers and so it’s entirely flexible. Patchwork also doesn’t hold customer funds. Instead the creator of a patchwork receives cash gifts (in their chosen currency) directly via PayPal or Stripe so they can pay for gift items or experiences when, where and how they like.
Despite the COVID-19 pandemic, Clare and Natalie were still able to plan the wedding of their dreams. Their special day was a romantic elopement at Berwick Lodge in Bristol, a year after their engagement:
“We always dreamed that our wedding day would be intimate and cosy… Covid gave us a great excuse to achieve that by eloping!”
While the couple eloped just a year after their engagement, they met for the first time many years before:
“Clare was actually the one to propose, even though we’d openly chatted about it. THe day started with a mystery trip out, during which we visited various places we’d lived together… With the final stop being outside the school gates where we’d first met!”
“We wanted a venue with plenty of character, beautiful gardens and scrummy food… A quick search on Google for “elopement weddings” during lockdown found us this gem of a place!
“The simplicity of eloping was so appealing to us and the elopement package at Berwick Lodge included everything we wanted, making it stress-free!”
Finding dresses to suit the natural, elegant style they were after didn’t mean breaking the bank either. Instead of going bespoke, Clare and Natalie hit the highstreet — and ended up looking absolutely fantastic!
“We always knew we weren’t going to go for traditional white wedding dresses so hitting the high street was perfect for us. As it turns out, we were spoilt for choice so we would definitely recommend doing the same to others!”
Holding beautiful bouquets of white flowers picked from Berwick Lodge‘s very own gardens, the newly married couple walked out with beaming smiles.
Clare and Natalie were thrilled with Berwick Lodge, which “provided such a beautiful backdrop for [their] photographs.” They gave special thanks to their hair and makeup artist, Maria Lucas MUA, and their photographer, Christy Blanch Photography: “We absolutely love the photos by Christy! We’re so pleased with them – they’re amazing!”
So what advice do Clare and Natalie have for couples planning a wedding during a pandemic?
“Remind yourselves that it’s all about just the two of you. We found it easiest to focus solely on us and to choose the things that were important to us. Local suppliers were great as it was easy and quicker to make decisions.”
There’s one more thing Clare and Natalie would recommend to any couples in the South West (pandemic or no pandemic!):
“One big tip – choose an elopement package at Berwick Lodge!”
9th November 2020: Parliament debates Weddings – everything you need to know.
Last night, we saw MPs from across Britain discuss E-petition 329339, the petition relating to the number of guests permitted at weddings during the coronavirus pandemic. Below is a summary of the main highlights, the video recording and the full debate transcript.
Summary:
Overall, this was a brilliant debate that finally shone a light on the struggles we are facing and the urgent needs of our industry. Bridebook, the Association of British Wedding Businesses (ABWB), Wedding Venues and suppliers across the country have been looking for a platform to voice their opinions and this was that platform.
MPs in attendance were focused on 3 main arguments:
Increasing the guest numbers at venues to fall in line with venue capacity.
The need for a clear roadmap for reopening so that businesses can start to rebuild and plan for the future.
Financial support to assure that we are able to survive as an industry.
The debate highlights:
Elliot Colburn strongly opened the debate, clearly informed by the ABWB briefing note stating: “Weddings take months and even years of intricate planning. Myself and many others believe the maximum number of guests authorised at wedding ceremonies should be increased. The number of guests permitted at weddings should be calculated according to venue capacity.” He closed his opening by urging the government to “set out a clear road map for reopening so that businesses can begin to bounce back.” This was to set the tone for the rest of the debate.
MPs in attendance continued to stress the real need for a roadmap and clear guidelines & instructions to assure that the industry survives.
It was further explained that the wedding guest number should be based on venue capacity with social distancing being observed.
Also highlighted multiple times was the ripple effect stemming from venue capacity limits. Venues are the key to unlocking the industry as many suppliers rely on the venue’s business. The industry is an ecosystem with venues at the helm.
The unfairness of pubs & restaurants being able to hold receptions when wedding venues can’t was almost scoffed at. The Ministers explained that wedding venues and suppliers would do anything they can to assure they were COVID safe and that risk assessments were met.
MPs also plead for financial support, stating that the majority of grants, to date, have not reached or supported businesses within the wedding industry
January & February were highlighted as crucial months for the industry. In just two short months, venues are able to recover a substantial amount of lost revenue, as they market for future business, specifically for 2022 bookings.
MPs explained that there is no substantial evidence that suggests that weddings have a direct impact on COVID numbers. Specifically highlighted was that in NI, where weddings have been able to take place with higher numbers, that again there has been no direct evidence of weddings having an impact.
Death bed weddings – MP urged the minister to increase the restriction to allow for more family members to attend death bed weddings.
Sadly, the minister Paul Scully closed the session without giving any real clarity as to solutions, nor did he show any real urgency in providing further guidance or support. Scully explained that the hospitality industry has put a lot in place to assure covid-safe rules but that this would be more difficult with wedding venues as friends/family are within the given area for longer periods of time so social distancing rules would be challenged.
What’s next?
Scully, although lacking conviction, did state that he is working on measures to bring the industry together. He proposed to introduce a task force that would support encouraging the government to engage with the industry.
The ABWB will be writing an official response and will be reaching out to Paul Scully to gain clarity on the next steps.
Bridebook will be monitoring progress closely and will continue to share regular updates with our community.
The Law Commission held a public Q&A session to discuss their Consultation paper. Below is a summary of the main highlights and the Q&A.
Law Commission: Weddings – the home of all the information you need on the proposed reform of Wedding Law.
Provide your thoughts and feedback on the Law Commission’s proposal here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/7R3TH65
Main highlights of the Law Commissions proposal
The Law Commission’s proposal recommends that weddings will be able to take place anywhere with a revised focus on dignity & existing health and safety legislation.
Rather than noting where the weddings take place. The new law would notify the officiant instead. In the case of registration officers, it may not be possible for a registrar to be identified and in this case, the location would then be listed. Once a schedule is listed, it will need to be signed and returned. Scheduled system to be introduced.
There will be 5 categories of officiants including independent officiants (celebrants)
Officiants will have to go through training in order for them to perform the legal requirements of marriage. Training has not yet been defined fully.
Questions asked with a summary of the Law Commission’s answers
Q: Registration Services have their own rooms, for example in the Town Halls where they’re based, to be able to conduct marriages in. Is it proposed that registrars still have exclusivity over their own venues? This isn’t clear in the consultation.
Yes they would. Those who own buildings can still control who has access to those buildings. Local authorities could say that only their registrars can hold weddings in town halls.
Q: I don’t have an issue with the concept but I think it is ill-timed. The industry needs to recover after COVID and does not need any more to deal with
We understand this. Our review is a general review. It was set up before COVID happened. And it is looking at wedding law and how weddings will happen in the future. We believe there is still a need to reform for the future.
What we have been able to do is look at what has happened during covid.
We know looking at other jurisdictions – outdoor weddings: outdoor weddings are less risky – future law much more resilient for future pandemics.
Also, we have been thinking about how emergency powers could help to support weddings to take place. E.g. enabling formalities – virtual weddings. We understand the impact that covid has had – we believe that this proposal will
Q: The wedding industry has been decimated by Covid-19, how on earth will existing wedding venues have the opportunity to recover if the new proposal will allow more venues to host weddings. The venues market is already overcrowded.
To remove the residency requirement – this will make it possible for couples coming from overseas to get married.
New revisions will make Eng & Wales more attractive – would lessen people going abroad – 73000 individuals go oversea to get married
The number of officiants – they had to turn business away because of the difficulty for registrars to book. Only one officiant would be needed.
Greater flexibility
Existing venues have an existing business – service they offer – not all of the weddings that take place – smaller/family weddings
Heard from existing venue owners – venues would be able to offer a wedding outside their buildings
Q: You’ve said by end 2021 that’s unfair
We will publish recommendations to the government in mid-2021. The legislation would have to go through parliament – changes wouldn’t be in place by end of next year.
Q: If a venue for marriage / civil partnership isn’t stated on the schedule, how will registration services know which marriages / civil partnerships are taking place in their district? Without knowing this, it’s difficult to ensure all are registered.
Rather than noting where the weddings take place. They would notify the officiant instead.
Registration officers may not be able to be identified – location would then be listed.
Once a schedule is listed, it will need to be signed and returned. Scheduled system to be introduced. Rather than listing the venues, it would be focused on the officiant.
Q: Has the proposal concerned the risks hosting weddings in venues/spaces that aren’t managed professionally eg wedding suppliers will not be vetted correctly, risk of poor service, food poisoning etc.
Discussed Venues in chapter 7 of the consultation paper. The marriage act – only governs where weddings take place. Already wedding law does not vet reception venues. Planning law, licence & health and safety laws – people providing services are governed under that law.
Safety & dignity would be the focus.
Officiant would be trained to address.
Q: You would not suddenly effectively deregulate the car industry without properly investigating the impact on the industry
We will do an impact assessment – chapter 13 and respond.
Q: I am in favour of most of the proposals. My query is how celebrants will be properly regulated – will some form of training and regulation fall on registrar services? What sort fo checks and balances are suggested?
Regulations will be focused on officiants – regulation will need to be met in order to officiate.
Chapter 5 – all officiants would have the same legal requirements – express consent and requirements are met and signed. They would have a responsibility for safety.
5 categories of officiants – independent officiants – independent celebrants: these individuals would be able to conduct ceremonies – more detailed requirements to show that they are fit and proper – completed training or that they have been approved.
Q: Have you noted this year how when wedding receptions are (often illegally) held in private houses/gardens, they tend to be more unsafe and unregulated, and that enabling people to get married at home could have similar health/safety concerns in the future?
Other underlying health and safety regulations all continue to apply.
It is not illegal to hold a wedding reception – what we anticipate is that the couple that owns the house – put concerns in the consultation response
Q: Would it still be a requirement to hold the ceremony under a cover/structure in order to keep the registers dry, or would anybody be able to get married literally anywhere?! This could be disastrous for already struggling venues if people are to be allowed to literally marry anywhere!
A wedding could take place at any place which is agreed between couples & officiant. Has to be safe.
If you are organising a wedding, you would need to take into account the weather conditions
Impact on existing venues, some of the venue owners we have spoken to are keen to use their outdoor space – marketing this.
That approach is not novel – it already happens in Scotland already.
The demand by couples – structures outdoors that are then licenced as approved premises
Issues – there are different applications across England and Wales and these decisions are made by local authorities. There are a lot of differences across local authorities – this is an issue that needs to be addressed in reformed law.
Q: Q from Ribble Valley Wedding Partnership Alcohol – clearly this is not currently permitted at or around the ceremony, what are your views regarding your proposals and if relaxed how will the dignity of the event be ensured. There doesn’t seem to be any mention in the consultation
We do in chapter 7 – currently, the only regulations relate to approved premises. Nothing currently to alcohol/decency.
Nothing to stop people before the wedding or in another part. Some local authorities dictate you can’t serve weddings before.
We focus on dignity and officiant to manage. Couples & officiant cannot be intoxicated.
Q: If a venue had a nominated responsible person (currentl required by the licence), could they also supply a celebrant to run a ceremony? Two separate people. Also could venues have control over who could run a ceremony – and have the freedom to decline particular celebrants or individuals?
Our schemes propose this – independent officiants – propose that there will be a rule
Q: Why has a report to reform the wedding law been commissioned?
We have a weddings law from 1836 that hasn’t been reviewed properly since.
The wedding law isn’t working for a lot of couples and proposes a number of restrictions
Out of date based on other countries
Asked to do scoping work by the government – immediate catalyst – focused on humanist
Current law doesn’t work for religious groups – recognised by religion but not by law.
Q: This seems to be an academic approach without any regard for the effects on a £10bn industry
Chapter in about impact – keen to collect thoughts. We will publish an impact piece.
We do try to take into account the opinions of those affected
Q: from Ribble Valley Wedding Partnership Could the new ‘Officiant’ be an employee of a venue, this would make everything easier
Conflict rules have suggested that we will not permit that
Q; what about the dignity and the legal seriousness of marriage. Naked Celebrant? People can be very strange so are we condoning that to an unlimited degree?
Officiant would be in control of this – proposal focuses on dignity.
Current law only relates to the dignity of approved premises
Q: What will the celebrant training look like?
We don’t prescribe this – we do talk about it in general terms – it would focus on the legal requirements – duties, consent & schedule signed.
The guidance given focused on forced marriage. We don’t prescribe but do ask you to share your thoughts on this.
Q: So basically all those unlucky couples who have had to postpone or cancel their weddings due to covid will now be able to sack off their original venue and potentially their associated suppliers and opt for a home-based wedding which will put so many venues and businesses out of work at the worst possible time! Why is this not now being stalled in order to give our industry a fighting chance?
We are not looking at those who supply services.
Nor is out consultation paper looking at existing couple contracts.
Looking at what wedding law will look like in the future.
Proposals are not going to provide a solution for changes to wedding plans this year
Q:Q from Ribble Valley Wedding Partnership The term ’guidance’ to officiants feels a little weak and open to interpretation, which is a concern, especially when it relates to health and safety, and accessibility. Is there not an argument for something more structured, maybe even qualified?
We welcome your views in the consultation response. The training that they would have to undertake will have to reflect that. If there are particular thoughts we would like to receive
Q: Is there any merit in proposing a “certification” standard or exam that all officiants should achieve, regardless of how they are appointed, to ensure consistency across celebrants?
The difficulty is that this already exists and it might not be prop0ortionate to influence or affect this if is it is working.
E.g. religious training exists. There would be concerns if priests have to take new training.
Q: I asked earlier about keeping the register dry – not sure you understood the question… I am asking whether if a couple choose to get married on a beach or a hilltop for example, do they have to be under a structure still (not a building, just a structure)
No, they would not. They would not need to be near a building.
Schedule system – authorised to go ahead. The registrars wouldn’t need to bring the registrar book to the wedding.
There will be one simple form for the record of marriages.
Q: Much of the decision re the setting safety seems to be suggested will now rest with the celebrant, but you’ve said anybody can be a celebrant. They will not be qualified to make that decision
There will be clear processes around officiants and the training that they will have.
We are not envisaging that officiants will be experts on health & safety or building experts. Officiants would look at other existing legal requirements.
Q: How would a venue check whether a celebrant was qualified and who is responsible if there is an incident? would there be a governing body for celebrants to call them to account?
All nominated officiants & independent officiants would be on a central database. There will be a means of checking.
Governing body – the general registry body with oversight
Nominated – by religious groups / non-religious belief – nominated
Q: A lot of room for profiteering re independent celebrants being paid to perform a legal marriage – trafficking/forced marriage
All marriages would need to be preceded by preliminaries.
Criminal activities – laws in place to support this.
Q: Giving a couple a meaningful ceremony in a place and form that has significance for them, led by someone who understands them and uses the words that they would like is a wonderful and beautiful aspiration. Has any thought been given to explicitly ruling out certain places, however – for example abattoirs, sewage works and so on? That may seem extreme, and certainly, those places may be special to some but there should be some exceptions?
Interested in consulting these views.
Q: We have spent a fortune ensuring disabled access and H&S – is that need out the window now if people can get married on top of a tree?
We do look at accessibility – existing rules on health & safety still apply independently of weddings law.
Q: I’d be interested in the timescale you expect for any changes to be implemented.
Publish in the second half of next years – we will be providing recommendations not draft legislation.
The government then to decide to accept/prepare legislation
The expectation that the government will give an initial response in the first 6 months and a full response within a year.
Q: is there any way that existing venues which are already licensed could automatically be ‘approved’ as a future venue, thereby making a pre-visit / inspection by an officiant unnecessary = saving cost
Good point. We do suggest that local authorities can keep their own list of venues that host weddings. This would prevent the need for officiants to go.
That is something that we are keen on considering.
Q: Are you prepared for say, 100,000 new celebrants and keeping a check on all of them?
I suspect that the number of celebrants will depend on demand.
I’m not sure there would be 100,00 and as we’ve highlighted, these are questions for the government to decide.
Q: What about giving notice? What would the rules be and who do they go and see?
Would be the same as they are now. With Anglican weddings – give notice to the registrar.
Q: To not consider the ancillary services of weddings demonstrates your lack of understanding of how weddings operate and are delivered.
We are looking at Weddings Law – looking at the weddings itself.
Q: would the general registrar office know whether they later got a criminal record for instance?
There would be an ability to withdraw their officiant authorisation withdrawn
Disclosure of disclosing criminal records. These rules will continue to apply.
Please put in your consultation responses to us!
Additional comments
“We manage outdoor venues and this is a huge growth industry. We’ve also been hugely affected by Covid-19. Couples hold an outdoor blessing and then a reception in a marquee of tipi. Our couples would love it if their outdoor ceremony, could also be the legal ceremony. I think existing venues with licences should be confident that couples would still choose their venue, for service, location, catering etc rather than trying to hold onto their competitive advantage and limiting choice for couples. Venues with licences do not comprise the full wedding industry.”
Is there any evidence at all that the demand for traditional (country house, hotel, church) weddings will decline? These types of weddings are hugely popular – people can already have a celebrant wedding in their back garden if they want to! people seem worried that the industry will collapse which is unfounded – there will be a huge surplus of couples in the coming years who haven’t been able to marry. it may be worth showing the evidence that ‘traditional’ venues will be just as needed – if not more now that they can use their gardens/outdoor spaces?!
I do not support your proposal to allow weddings to be hosted virtually anywhere. This idea is very ill-thought-out and will result in the closure of many dedicated wedding venues, as the market will become saturated with the number of venues.
Scotland has now restrictions for weddings but we do see that weddings are still taking place
One thing that I do agree with is that there should only be one registrar in attendance as this would vastly improve availability and costs
Tuesday 3rd November 2020
On Tuesday, I was asked to represent our industry and the Bridebook community in the latest Law Commission consultation. A small group of industry professionals met on Zoom to discuss the provisional proposals to Wedding Law Reform. Here’s everything you need to know ahead of Friday’s public Law Commission Q&A event on weddings law reform.
The scenario
The Law Commission proposed that if the new law is passed, anybody will be able to apply to become an officiant.
Anyone looking to become an officiant will need to go through thorough training and will need to be approved by Registrars.
There will be a published list of official registrars and when couples give notice, they will have to list who the officiant will be.
Couples will be able to get married in any safe and dignified location agreed by the officiant.
As I see it, the benefits to wedding venues
With plentiful officiants, couples will be able to book dates and times of their marriages instantly with their venues.
This will speed up the venue booking process
There will be no more fees or red tape to be an approved premise
Multi-faith ceremonies can occur at your venue
The risks to wedding venues
There will be increased competition in venue market place. But, we must remember that couples who have religious ceremonies are already free to choose any venue for their reception. Couples already prefer and choose approved premises already, so I believe this is a low risk.
Benefits to couples
Increased choice on where they get married
Increased ease of securing a registrar
More personalised ceremony
Lower cost, as wider choice of officiants
Hugely beneficial to many faiths and religious weddings which are rather excluded by current law.
Risks to couples
Increased costs as officiants become a standalone professional supplier with increased demand during seasonality.
Officiants will require significant formal training to become an officiant, so it isn’t as easy as just asking your friend to host your ceremony.
I predict
Most likely this will cause an increase in the cost of weddings. Weddings will become even more personal or unique, and even a small registry office wedding will be replaced with become something much more personal, and likely more expensive. Eg Marrying on a boat or on the beach etc. Large weddings likely unaffected except for outdoor moments.
Conflict that officiants choose where is safe. Currently this is the responsibility of the approved venue, hence being approved. If the officiant says they are happy to host a wedding up a mountain, are they liable for the safety of all the guests?
Likely damaging impact to religious premises, where marriages are a vital revenue stream eg small village churches, and due to the convenience of ceremony and reception being in one location, many of these will lose out.
The industry will become even more creative as social media imagery of ceremonies occurring on boats, trains, outdoors, mountains, inspires couples to hyper-personalise even further, which often comes with added expense.
Law Commission Agenda:
We have invited a range of organisations to discuss our provisional proposals, particularly as they relate to wedding venues and other vendors. The purpose of the roundtable is to facilitate an open discussion among attendees about our provisional proposals for reform.
The proposed requirements governing the ceremony
Couples will have to give notice to the registration service before getting married.
We provisionally propose that all wedding ceremonies must be attended by an officiant.
Registration officers will officiate at civil weddings;
Anglican clergy will officiate at Anglican weddings;
Officiants nominated by religious organisation will officiate at all other religious weddings;
If authorised to conduct legal weddings, officiants nominated by non-religious belief organisations will officiate at non-religious belief weddings; and
If authorised to conduct legal weddings, independent officiants will also be able to officiate at civil weddings.
Every officiant will have duties to ensure the requirements of the ceremony are complied with, and to uphold the dignity and solemnity of marriage.
We propose that couples will be able to get married in any safe and dignified location agreed by the officiant. There will be no requirement for venues to be pre-approved by the state. Both civil and religious weddings will be permitted to take place in any type of location (but religious groups will be able to impose their own requirements about where their officiants will agree to officiate at weddings).
Couples will not have to say prescribed words during the ceremony, but will have to express their consent in the presence of the officiant, each other, and two witnesses. Religious content (such as religious readings, hymns or religious imagery) will be permitted at civil wedding ceremonies. Weddings will not have to take place with open doors.
At the end of the ceremony, the couple, officiant and witnesses will be required to sign the schedule.
Questions
Q. Is it your experience that couples want to have their wedding ceremonies in non-approved areas of approved premises (such as outdoors)? Or in venues and locations that are not approved (eg due to cost) or that cannot be approved (eg because they are outdoors or on moving vehicles, including on water)?
Q. Is it your experience that some couples having religious weddings want to be able to marry in secular or commercial venues?
Q. Will venues benefit from being able to offer these options to couples? Will any types of venue benefit in particular? Will any types of venue not benefit?
Q. Will venues benefit from not having to pay approval fees? From not having to meet the requirements for approval (and if so, which ones)?
Q. Are there reasons why the location of wedding ceremonies needs particular regulation, as compared to other types of events or gatherings?
Q. How do you think the officiant agreeing to officiate at a wedding in a given location, considering safety and dignity, would work in practice? How does it work in practice currently in relation to weddings that are not legally recognised taking place in locations that are not necessarily approved premises?
Q. Would an optional system for venues to be pre-approved be useful, or efficient?
Friday 1st November 2019
Last week I asked venues owners and managers across the UK to share their views on the Law Commission’s proposal on Wedding Law reform. Hundreds of you spoke up and as a result, Beth Wright and I were able to share representative opinions at the pre-consultation meeting on Monday.
Here’s what YOU had to say, and everything you need to know about Monday night’s meeting…
Your opinions on the proposed Wedding Law changes.
This report, along with other Bridebook couple and industry insights have been shared with the Law Commission for their use during this project.
UK wedding venues employ 50+ employees and work with 20+ local businesses on average.
Almost two-thirds of venues could not stay in business without weddings.
Half of the responding venues have not experienced any growth in the last 3 years due to economy, competition and couple preferences.
Venues’ Current Experience with Ceremonies
Ceremony space: The majority of venues host weddings ceremonies as well as receptions, and two thirds do not have an outdoor approved premise. Many express frustration related to not being able to host weddings outdoors, especially when planning permission prevents them from erecting an approved structure.
Regulations: While a third feel costs are too high and regulations too much, most are satisfied with current costs and regulations. They do mention that some regulations feel antiquated (e.g. room licenses) and sometimes restrictions limit business growth.
Registrar experience: While most report a good experience with registrars, many venues mention difficulty for couples to book registrar and overly strict registrar rules which can limit business growth.
Fees: Fees are inconsistent across venue and council and can range from +£100 to over £1,000.
Venue Preferences for Future
Location: Venues feel that approved premises should still be regulated, but that rules should be relaxed with regard to outdoor space and different room options at approved premises.
Celebrant: Venues feel that approved celebrants should be able to administer weddings, but that these celebrants should be regulated (e.g. not friends of the couple).
Other Ceremony Requirements: Venues are happy with regulations across many aspects of civil wedding ceremonies, and find that the current set of regulations are suitable for the formality and sanctity of marriage. However they do feel that some ceremony requirements could be relaxed.
What happened at the pre-consultation meeting on the Government Reform to Wedding Law.
What the Law Commission is doing: The Law Commission is focused solely on reviewing the law governing how and where people can marry in England and Wales.
Who are the Law Commission? The Law Commission are funded by the government but work independently in order to provide potential Law reform for the government. On average, 2/3 of the projects put forward by the Law Commission will be enacted and law will be amended.
The Facts:
The current laws date back from 1836 so are very dated in some places and not representative of today’s market and modern couple’s needs.
Based on government research 42.8% of legal marriages take place in hotels.
Jewish and Quakers wedding ceremonies can currently take place anywhere.
Currently:
There are different ways to give notice for different types of weddings.
Almost all wedding must take place in certain buildings
A wedding must be either civil or religious
The law is not clear as to the status of a wedding that was not celebrated in one of the legally authorised ways and some religious ceremonies have not been recognised
The law is complex and contains different rules about where a wedding can take place, depending on the type of ceremony.
Who attended the Commission meeting? 12 wedding venue professionals with differing backgrounds in the industry including local authority representatives, registrars, London wedding venue owners and managers, outdoor wedding company owners and industry community representatives.
What the Law Commission & Government reform will consider:
Whether everyone getting married should have to give notice to the register office.
Where couples should be able to marry such as: outside, in a private home, on board a ship, on trains – or even in Tescos!
Opinions for couples to express their commitment in a way that is more personal to them.
How the law might allow non-religious belief organisations and independent celebrants to conduct weddings.
What should be the minimum requirements for marriage to be recognised by law, such as: giving notice, the consent of each member of the couple, signing the paperwork etc.
How to eliminate unnecessary red tape.
What was discussed?
Venues’ experience with the approved premises regulations, including:
the costs and how they affect venues and couples;
problems that arise during the approval process, or during ceremonies; and
hosting religious weddings on approved premises;
Where couples want to get married;
Experiences of working with registrars, religious or belief celebrants, or independent celebrants;
Where civil weddings should be able to take place;
What rules or guidelines there should be about civil weddings venues; and
How a more permissive system might work.
Main discussion points and opinions raised:
Everyone agreed that the dignity and sanctity of marriage needs to be kept in mind.
There were many frustrations regarding the limitations the law has on allowing outdoor ceremonies and also ceremonies in specific rooms: why is it that only 4 out of the 5 rooms in my venue can host ceremonies? It is not clear.”
It was agreed that there is a higher demand in today’s couple market for a wider variety of wedding ceremony location options. Wedding venues can satisfy this demand by the Law allowing more flexibility in terms of outdoor and building regulations for weddings.
It was posed that hosting Religious ceremonies/blessings is one of the highest heard requests from couples and that there is confusion as to why it is not possible to have such religious blessings held at approved venues.
Safety regulations both in terms of the security that venues provide and the implications of safety on couples and guests in outdoor / at home weddings has to be taken into consideration.
The local authorities’ ‘free reign’ on approved premises regulations and on costs are seemingly subjective and can be restrictive for smaller venues. More clarity needed on the reasons why different authorities have such differing costs and regulations.
Registrar restrictions on conducting ceremonies based on ceremony timings, the weather and location impacts couples preferences and venue flexibility massively. Standardisation and clarity is necessary.
There were mixed opinions on who should be able to conduct a legal ceremony. Many agreed that celebrants should have legal rights however there are concerns regarding friends or family of couples.
It was also noted that no one in the room has ever seen or experienced a disruption during a wedding yet, if public access is granted to wedding ceremonies this could become more of an issue.
What’s next?
A public consultation will take place in Spring 2020. This is the industry’s opportunity to have their say on the proposed changes. Based on this consultation, the Law Commission will make their detailed recommendation to the Government, with any legal changes being implemented in 2021.
Bridebook will be continuing to work with the Law Commission and I will continue to share any updates I receive with our Venue Community. If you have any further thoughts or feedback please do not hesitate to get in touch.
Bridebook is excited to announce the launch of Searcys intimate wedding packages and our partnership ahead of engagement season. Searcys run some of London’s most iconic stand alone restaurants and Champagne bars, including St Pancras Grand Brasserie and Champagne Bar.
Although not new for 2020, micro weddings offer a perfect way to create your big day, where every detail can be tailored to meet any want or need. Hosting up to 15 guests, the Searcy’s team have created bespoke intimate wedding packages available for our couples.
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Things may be a little different right now, but Searcys Exclusive Events team is on hand to create bespoke wedding experiences to make our couple’s day one to remember. In the past fortnight alone, the team at Searcy’s has received over 60 enquiries for weddings until the end of 2020, with 5 confirmed bookings, some within a week’s notice.
Throughout this year, Searcys Exclusive Events team has been helping brides and grooms plan their big day in the new normal. Over the past few months, the team have been curating bespoke weddings for couples, customising options from menus to music, as well as quirky touches of personalised bride and groom face masks, ensuring all is done in a secure way for all guests. Interesting food and drink themes, from miniature champagne bottles for a toast to touch-free menus delivered in stylish boxes, let your personality shine.
While a traditional big celebration may be on hold for the next few months, micro weddings offer the chance for an intimate and personal ceremony. As part of the new normal, don’t compromise and look to Searcys and the Exclusive Events team to make sure your day goes off without a hitch.
Choose from one of Searcys iconic and historic venues, including:
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For unrivalled sky-high views across London, there are few spots as striking as Searcys at The Gherkin. Able to adapt to suit the size and style of any event, the Gherkin offers majestic views, with options including a private dining room, beautifully designed and flooded with natural light, for an intimate celebration dinner, while for a more exclusive feel, dine at the very top levels of 39 and 40 to a truly remarkable backdrop.
Home to The British Academy in the heart of Westminster, the Grade I listed Georgian Townhouse offers 10 elegant private rooms, each with its own character. Carlton House Terrace is a stylish townhouse charm with views across London’s iconic landmarks offering a picture-perfect setting.
The Barbican Conservatory is a botanical oasis famous for its cascading plants, a high glass roof and tranquil fish pools. Licensed to host wedding and civil partnership ceremonies, it is a magical space in which to entertain your friends and family. After the ceremony in the breath-taking Conservatory, you can proceed to a reception set against the lush green background or choose to enjoy your wedding breakfast at our Osteria restaurant overlooking the City.
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Located in the heart of the City and steeped in history, The HAC offers four striking event spaces stretched across the estate, each licensed to hold wedding and civil partnerships. It is a six-acre estate and the home of the Honourable Artillery Company, a charity set up by Henry VIII in 1537 to support the Regiment that shares its name. The HAC offers a stunning, 18th century manor house and a contemporary, self-contained conference suite. What’s more, five acres of beautiful lawns provide an unforgettable background to wedding photographs and reception drinks, with all food and drink catered by Searcys to meet any requirement.
