How To Deliver Your Wedding Speech Like A Pro

For many people, speaking at a wedding can seem like a total nightmare. For help, we chatted to Lawrence Bernstein at Great Speech Writing who, together with his team of writers, has written 1000’s of wedding speeches for brides and grooms over the past ten years. He shared a few simple tips with us to ensure that your speech on the big day is remembered for all the right reasons.

Preparation is key.

Start planning early. Know your speech well enough so that by the time you stand up to deliver it, you only need to glance at your paper to remember what comes next. You don’t want to be ‘reading’ it, however well written the speech is.

Talk slowly…

and take your time. An average wedding speech typically lasts about 8 to 10 minutes. While we normally speak at a rate of around 220 words per minute in everyday conversation, a speech should be much slower—aim for about 120 words per minute. This slower pace gives you room to pause, breathe, and let your words sink in.

When writing your speech, include these pauses in your script. Mark them clearly to remind yourself to take a moment—whether it’s for a deep breath, a smile at the audience, or a chance to let an emotional moment land. Although it may feel like you’re speaking at a crawl, your audience will find it much easier to follow and fully appreciate your words. A measured pace makes all the difference between a speech that feels rushed and one that resonates.

Speak clearly and loudly!

The audience will be on your side and eager to hear what you are saying.

Emphasize keywords.

You do this in conversation, but it’s easy to forget in a ‘formal’ setting. If you’re telling people you’re “so happy”, make it clear – “I’m so happy!”

Remain calm!

Try not to let nerves (or shaky hands) show. Adrenalin can be a positive and enhance your delivery.

Make eye contact with your audience.

Looking up will give you extra confidence and engage your audience.

Body language is vital.

Gesticulate to emphasize a point, don’t forget to smile, and if you are addressing someone, look at them.

Check your posture.

Good posture can make you look and feel more in control. Stand tall, feet shoulder-width apart and project your voice.

Anticipate interruptions.

Pause for applause or laughter instead of speaking over it—it’s better to let the moment land than to rush through it. And just in case someone decides to throw in a cheeky comment or two, be prepared with a few light-hearted comebacks. Even a simple, ironic “Thanks for that…” can keep the mood fun and show you’re in control. Remember, handling interruptions with humor can make your speech even more memorable!

Stay off the booze!

It may be tempting, but getting drunk will not help you deliver a great speech… save the drinking for when the speeches are over and everyone’s toasting you!

If you would like any help on writing your wedding speech, you’ll find lots of tips and examples in our advice section.