Month: November 2024

Little girls wearing the most adorable dresses while walking down the aisle with flowers on their heads can be a super cute addition to your wedding ceremony. So if you or your beloved have a daughter or maybe some adorable nieces or younger cousins, we’re sure you’ve thought about including them in your wedding party as a flower girl. While we all know a flower girl should look sweet, what do you need to think about to make sure your flower girl is cute and up for the job?

In this post, we’re going to look at everything you need to know when it comes to flower girls, including what they do, how old they are and whether or not you need to have one at your wedding.

What are flower girls?

What does a flower girl do at a wedding?

A flower girl is usually the daughter of a friend or relative, and is someone happy to play a part in your wedding. The flower girl will walk down the aisle, after the bridesmaids but before the bride, holding a basket of rose or other flower petals, which they’ll scatter on the floor. They will then either stand with the rest of the bridal party, or rejoin their parents to sit and watch the rest of the ceremony.

Some flower girls may also be given bubbles to add an extra touch of magic. This is particularly beautiful if you have two or more flower girls, with one scattering petals while the other blows bubbles. 

How do you choose a flower girl?

A flower girl is often someone who’s close to you, such as a younger sister, niece, cousin, or daughter of a close friend.

Sometimes it will be an obvious choice. But, if you’re part of a large family, and have more than one potential flower girl, don’t panic, this will only work in your favour. It can be a little overwhelming for one flower girl to be the centre of attention, especially if she’s very young or shy. This is why it’s nice to have a pair of flower girls, so that they can look after one another and help each other with their duties. Besides, if there’s a little group of flower girls, they’re guaranteed to have more fun and look extra cute as they walk down the aisle in their gorgeous dresses.

How old can a flower girl be for a wedding?

Traditionally, a flower girl is somewhere between the ages of four and nine. Any younger and they might find your wedding a challenge and any older and they’re more likely to be promoted to junior bridesmaid. 

Do you need a flower girl at your wedding?

Flower girls are a familiar sight at weddings across Australia and around the world. They’re a delightful way to involve younger guests in your celebration and add a charming touch as they introduce the bride. However, if you don’t have children under nine in your family or social circle, are hosting an intimate wedding, or simply don’t want a flower girl, there’s no need to feel obligated to include one.

While having a flower girl can be an adorable addition to your big day, it’s not a necessity. Your wedding will be just as special and memorable, with or without this traditional role. It’s entirely up to you and your vision for your celebration.

How many flower girls can you have at your wedding?

The traditional number of flower girls to have at your wedding is one, but it’s becoming increasingly more common to have two or even three. Basically, if you have several cute contenders and you can’t decide who gets the part, you can have as many flower girls as you like. That being said, you might want to avoid things getting out of hand if you have too many, so it’s probably best to stick to a smaller number. If there are older girls in your family and you’d love for them to be a part of your wedding, why not ask them to be a bridesmaid instead?

What is the flower girl etiquette?

Flower girls may not play a large or key role in your wedding, but it’s still important and requires them to follow a few simple rules. So, your chosen flower girl will need to follow a few guidelines so you can be confident everything goes to plan, such as:

• They’re happy to have attention on them from admirers at your wedding, including during the ceremony as they walk down the aisle.
• They can follow instructions and are happy being told what to do.
• They can attend any rehearsals you might have.
• They’re enthusiastic and excited to play a part in your big day.
• They can be on time and well-behaved.

They’ll also need to be happy to be included in the customary photo shoot, which usually requires a little more patience than it does for other guests, as the wedding party invariably are usually featured in more photographs.

What does a flower girl do on the morning of the wedding?

On the morning of the big day, it’s common for the flower girl to get ready with the rest of the bridal party. It’s a great way to help your flower girl feel included and a big part of your special day. This does depend on your relationship with the flower girl and if she’s old enough and has enough confidence to spend time away from her parents (unless she has other relatives, such as her mum, who are also part of the bridal party).

If your flower girl can’t get ready with the rest of the bridal party, then ask her parents to arrive at the venue in plenty of time to make sure they’re happy and settled before their big moment.

Do flower girls walk down the aisle before the bride (and bridesmaids)?

Yes, the flower girl usually walks down the aisle before the bride, but after the bridesmaids, maid of honour, page boy and ring bearer.

How do you prepare your flower girl?

As the youngest (and most adorable) members of your wedding party, your flower girls may not fully understand what’s expected of them on your wedding day or why it’s such an important role in your wedding. A nice way to get your flower girls excited ahead of the big day is to present them with a children’s book about flower girls. This way, you’re giving their parents an opportunity to fully explain what’s required of them on the day of the wedding, to calm them if they’re feeling nervous and make them feel special. After all, if a book is written about their role, it must be important!

Another nice idea is to organise a lunch with all the flower girls before the big day. That way everyone can become besties beforehand and you can talk them through what they have to do.

On the day itself, it’s a good idea to allocate one of your bridesmaids to look after them and make sure they walk at the right time, know where to sit and feel happy about what they’re doing.

How do you dress your flower girl?

Traditionally, a flower girl’s dress strikes a balance between the bride’s and the bridesmaids’ attire, creating a cohesive look for the bridal party. Most flower girl dresses feature a long, puffy skirt silhouette with a high neckline, with or without sleeves, depending on the season. While these flowing skirts look absolutely adorable and often make the flower girls feel like little princesses, it’s important to ensure the dress length doesn’t cause them to trip as they walk down the aisle.

Flower girl dresses are typically white but often include a sash or a small pop of colour to tie them in with the bridal party’s theme. This subtle detail adds a touch of charm and helps create a beautifully coordinated look.

Can your flower girls match the bridesmaids?

If you’d like your flower girls to look less like the bride and wear a dress similar or identical to that of your bridesmaids, then you can absolutely do this. Not only will this look beautiful, but your flower girls will love wearing the same dress as other members of the bridal party. 

Who buys the flower girl dress?

Traditionally, the mother of the flower girl pays for the dress, while the couple or the bride’s parents (whoever is footing the bill) cover the cost of the flowers, basket and anything else the flower girl might need.

However, this all depends on your budget. These days, more and more couples are paying for their own wedding. For more information, read our post on who traditionally pays for what at a wedding.

Do you buy the flower girl a gift?

Just as you might give your bridesmaids a token gift to show your appreciation for being part of your wedding, you may want to consider doing the same for your flower girls. It’s by no means required, but it’s a thoughtful and kind gesture to show them how much their role in your special day meant to you.

A gift for your flower girls doesn’t need to be extravagant or expensive. Something simple, like a small toy, a book, or a teddy bear, is more than enough and won’t add significantly to your wedding budget. It’s the sentiment behind the gift that will make it meaningful and memorable for the little ones.

5 tips for a successful flower girl experience

If you’re excited to ask one of the little girls in your life to be a flower girl at your wedding, bear in mind the following five tips to make sure everything is as close to perfect as it can be.

1. Don’t ask more than two or three girls to be flower girls at your wedding. Any more and it might be difficult to get them to do what you need them to do. Plus, the more flower girls you have, the more they’re likely to get up to mischief.
2. Be as open and honest as possible with your flower girls, and invite them to make decisions so they feel part of your day. They’re probably used to being told what to do, but they’ll be far more enthusiastic if they feel empowered by being allowed to make some decisions, no matter how small they might be.
3. Make sure you order the dresses as close to the wedding date as possible, as children grow exceptionally quickly! The shop assistants will be able to help you, as they have years of experience in this. Be prepared to go up a size from the girl’s current age when ordering, to make sure the dresses won’t be too small once the big day arrives.
4. Make sure that the dress design you choose is a practical and comfortable one. Kids run around, fidget and generally don’t have the patience for restrictive designs, so prevent any tantrums ahead of time and think cute but comfortable.
5. Instead of (or as well as) a book, some brides give a piece of jewellery or a small gift to the little ones to say thank you for being part of the wedding. Obviously, they love this and feel very important!

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Okay, so you’ve found two or three wedding venues you love – now it’s time to quiz ‘em! But what should you ask? Well, we’ve got you covered. Here are twenty-two questions to ask your wedding venue before you make it official.

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The wedding planning video course: questions to ask your wedding venue

In this video, Bridebook founder (and qualified wedding planner!) Hamish Shephard gives the lowdown on the questions you should ask your wedding venue, as well as some expert tips and tricks on coming up with wedding venue ideas and finding your wedding venue. And all this while keeping your wedding budget on track!

1. Which Dates Are Available In Our Chosen Month?

We’d love to promise that your dream venue will be available on your ideal date… but it’s not always that simple. To avoid disappointment, ask your venue about available dates as soon as you reach out, and try to keep an open mind. In Australia, weekends — especially Saturdays — in spring and summer are prime wedding dates and often get booked over a year in advance. If you’ve found the perfect venue, you might want to consider a weekday wedding instead.

2. How Many Guests Can You Accommodate?

On the whole, most couples start by making their guest list then look for a venue that can accommodate it. Others, however, are more willing to shape their guest list to fit their dream venue. Whichever camp you fall into, you’ll still want to know how many guests your venue can host, as well as whether this number varies between rooms and locations.

Top Tip: If you search for wedding venues using our Venue Search Tool, let us know how many guests you expect to be hosting and we’ll only show you venues that can accommodate that.

3. Can We Have Our Ceremony Here Too?

Not every venue is able to host wedding ceremonies as well as wedding receptions, as this requires a special licence. Even if they can, you may only be able to hold your ceremony in certain locations at the venue – so make sure to check out your options. Use our Venue Search Tool to filter for venues with a marriage licence to narrow things down if you know you want to hold your ceremony and reception at the same venue.

4. How Long Do We Have The Venue For?

Restrictions vary from venue to venue, but as a rule, we expect venues in more densely populated areas (like cities) to have noise restrictions or even a full curfew. Hotels, for example, may set a firm end time for celebrations. If you go for a rural barn or manor house, on the other hand, you’re much more likely to be able to party until dawn. Make sure to check before you book so you can make plans to accommodate this.

5. Will You Be Hosting Any Other Weddings At The Same Time?

If you want complete privacy for your wedding, this is what’s called “exclusive use” and you can filter for it using our Venue Search Tool. If you don’t have exclusive use, it’s possible that not only will there be other people in the venue, but that there might even be other weddings taking place at the same time. This is most common in hotel wedding venues which will be hosting other guests. Now, there isn’t much you can do about this – so make sure you know in advance.

6. When Can We Start Setting Up?

Usually, you’ll be able to start setting up the day before or early in the morning the day of your wedding – but make sure to find out for sure. You’ll want to communicate this to your other suppliers as well as to your wedding party if they’ll be helping you out. 

7. What Kind Of Decorations Can We Have?

Some venues have restrictions surrounding the use of candles and confetti or on flash photography (particularly if they’re an art gallery or museum). Make sure you know exactly what your venue does and doesn’t allow to avoid any conflicts or nasty surprises later down the line. You don’t want to spend hundreds of dollars on tealights – only to find you can’t light any of them.

8. What Do You Provide And What Should We Rent?

A lot of venues will offer a package that includes decorations and furniture as well as glassware and table linens. If you choose to do this rather than providing your own, make sure to get all the details in writing – otherwise, they might change their colour scheme and you’ll end up with clashing colours!

9. Do You Have A List Of Preferred Caterers?

At some venues, you may not be allowed to bring in external caterers and will need to choose from their approved list. Other venues might have preferred caterers they recommend but don’t require you to use. Either way, it’s always helpful to check out who they suggest.

10. Can We Bring Our Own Alcohol? Do You Charge Corkage?

Not all venues will allow you to bring in your own alcohol and may require that you purchase it directly through them. If they do allow outside alcohol, they’ll likely charge a “corkage” fee — a surcharge for each bottle opened. Sometimes, these corkage fees can be high enough that it actually ends up being cheaper to buy directly from the venue. Be sure to discuss their options and pricing to see what works best for your budget.

11. Is A Cash Bar An Option?

You might not want to provide alcohol at all, instead asking your guests to pay for their own drinks. If that’s the case, you’ll want to know whether this is an option – and if it is, make sure to find out if there’s a minimum spend. Otherwise, you might find yourself facing unexpected costs at the end of the day!

12. Can We Have A Band or DJ?

Even if you haven’t already booked your band or DJ, you’ll want to find out whether or not your venue can actually accommodate their needs. You don’t want to have booked your dream DJ, only to find out that there are no electrical sockets available for them or that there’s nowhere to set up their equipment.

13. Do You Have Any Special Facilities For Children?

If there is a spare room that could be used for children, we’d always advise you to use it! Having somewhere where you can put on a Disney movie or set up a few games is a great way to occupy children at a wedding, leaving the adults to enjoy themselves.

14. Do You Have Disabled Access?

If anyone on your guest list has access needs, make asking your venue about accessibility a priority.

15. When Do We Need To Pay Our Holding Deposit? Are There Any Other Fees?

When you pay your deposit, you lock in your venue for the agreed-upon date. Be sure to confirm when this payment is due to avoid any surprises. It’s also a good idea to ask about any other potential fees, taxes, or service charges at this stage to ensure there are no hidden costs down the line.

16. Will There Be A Venue Coordinator Available On The Day?

If there is a venue coordinator available, we’d always recommend at least looking into working with them. They’ll be the person who’s most familiar with the venue, so they can ensure that everything runs smoothly and you have a stress-free experience on the day.

17. Is VAT Included In The Price?

Always double-check if taxes are included in the quoted price. You might think you’ve scored a great deal, only to find out that taxes weren’t included, which can significantly increase the total cost — often by up to 10% in Australia. This can make a big difference to your budget, so be sure to confirm upfront.

18. What Are Our Bad Weather Options?

This is only really relevant if you’re planning an outdoor wedding – but if so, it absolutely is! Find out what inside spaces will be available to use as a back-up and make sure to view them so you can give at least a little thought to how you might use them. If there aren’t any suitable inside spaces, you’ll need to hire a marquee instead – and this can be very expensive.

19. Are Fireworks Allowed?

Not every venue permits fireworks, so if ending your big day with a fabulous fireworks display is a must for you, make sure to check this nice and early.

20. What Car Parking Is Available On The Day?

If you’re not arranging transport for your guests, question number one is whether there’s enough parking spaces for everyone driving in. This is particularly important if you have elderly relatives who may find it difficult to travel any great distance to your venue. If it’s not obvious, you’ll also want to check whether there will be someone to show your guests how to get from the carpark to the venue. And don’t forget to reserve spaces for your suppliers too.

21. Is There Anywhere Guests Can Stay Overnight?

If you’re expecting to have guests coming from all over the country (or even from abroad), it’s good to get an idea of what possibilities there are for accommodation well in advance. It could be a dealbreaker for you and your partner if there’s no accommodation available. If your guests can stay at the venue, fantastic, but if not, can the venue recommend anywhere nearby? 

22. Do You Have Liability Insurance?

We’re wishing you all the best — but some things are beyond anyone’s control! For peace of mind, ask your venue if they have insurance coverage for any (thankfully unlikely) accidents that might happen on your big day. Confirming their insurance coverage in advance is always wise to ensure you’re fully protected.

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With wedding season fast approaching, it’s time to pull out your best outfit and get ready to hit the dance floor! But first things first — what are you going to wear?

Whether you’re a close friend, a distant relative, or the plus-one, deciding on wedding reception attire can be a challenge. You’ll want to balance style, etiquette, and a touch of personal flair to create a look that’s distinctly you. Not an easy task!

If you’re wondering what to wear to a wedding reception, read on! We’ve got tips on formal, casual, and cocktail attire to help you feel comfortable, confident, and celebration-ready for the big day.

What is a wedding reception?

A wedding reception is the evening portion of a wedding day. It’s usually framed as a party to celebrate the happy couple’s big day and as a display of hospitality to those who attended and supported the wedding. Think of it as the grand finale of the special day!

It’s common for someone who isn’t immediate family or a close friend of the newlyweds to be invited to the reception only. You may also be invited as a plus-one or an extended part of the couple’s social circle. While the ceremony is more intimate, the reception opens its arms wider, inviting a wider group of guests to share in the love and happiness.

What do you wear to a wedding reception?

If you’re feeling stuck on what to wear to a wedding reception, check out the following guidance. Formal, cocktail, or casual are three safe bets when dressing for an evening wedding reception. 

What is formal attire for a wedding reception?

Formal attire is the epitome of elegance and sophistication. It’s all about fitting in with the beauty of the big day and making an impression.

Ladies

For a formal wedding reception in Australia, ladies might opt for a floor-length gown, a sophisticated tea-length dress, or an elegant jumpsuit. Luxurious fabrics like silk, velvet, or satin are ideal, and deep shades or jewel tones can add that dramatic flair. If you’re a fan of a bit of glitz, a touch of sparkle is perfectly suited to a formal event!

Complete your look with sparkling jewellery, a stylish clutch, and perhaps even satin gloves for a timeless touch of elegance. Remember, formal attire is about the whole ensemble, not just the dress—so embrace those details to pull your look together.

Men

Men can’t go wrong with a well-tailored suit in a dark colour. Pair with a crisp shirt, a contrasting tie, and polished dress shoes to complete the ensemble. Black, charcoal, and deep navy are all acceptable suit colours, and shirts should be white or pale blue. 

Accessorise with cufflinks, a pocket square, and a dress watch. You should look clean and well-groomed, with clean nails and a well-maintained beard (if you have one). It’s also a good idea to get a haircut a week or so before the wedding. This way, you’ll look tidy without worrying about itchy hairs ruining the day. 

Gender-neutral or non-binary

A jumpsuit, tailored suit, or formal separates are all great gender-neutral or non-binary options. The most important thing is striking the balance between formality and being true to your own style. Don’t feel the need to wear a suit if you’d never usually wear one; likewise, don’t wear a jumpsuit if you’re going to be uncomfortable all day. Instead, opt for an ensemble that makes you feel confident and fabulous, ensuring you can fully enjoy the celebration.

A great tip is to express yourself with accessories. For example, if you’re more flamboyant, opt for chandelier earrings to offset a classic suit look. Alternatively, consider going bright with your makeup while opting for a jumpsuit in a dark or jewel tone. This will help you infuse your personal style into your outfit while still respecting the formality of the occasion. 

Shoes should be classic and comfortable to ensure you can dance the night away without issue. 

What is casual wear for a wedding reception?

Casual wear usually means a more relaxed or informal dress code. Similar to ‘come as you are,’ casual dress codes are all about feeling comfortable while still dressing appropriately for a family party. 

Ladies

Ladies can wear sundresses, midi dresses, or a nice top with flowy trousers. You could also wear a pretty blouse with dressy shorts or a casual jumpsuit if that’s more your style. Bring a light cardigan or denim jacket to keep off the chill. 

Accessories should be understated, and you can wear clean trainers, sandals, or other flat shoes.  Try an effortless hairstyle like a side braid or loose waves to tie into the laid-back style. 

Men

For a polished yet casual look at a wedding reception, try pairing a button-down shirt or polo with some smart chinos. Add a casual blazer or a sharp jumper if the weather’s a bit chilly. Finish off the outfit with stylish yet comfortable footwear — loafers, slip-ons, or clean trainers all work well for a relaxed vibe.

Opt for pale, neutral colours and subtle patterns to keep the look timeless and versatile.

Gender-neutral or non-binary

Casual separates are a good gender-neutral or non-binary option. For example, a stylish blouse with flowy trousers, a tunic top with leggings, a smart shirt with chinos — the choices are endless. Mix-and-match however feels right to you and accessorise accordingly. Consider a belt, a dress watch, and understated jewellery. 

Remember that fashion is a form of self-expression. Choose an outfit that’s true to you and reflects your personality. Wear it with confidence and you’ll look fabulous.

What is cocktail attire for a wedding reception?

Cocktail attire is a great balance between casual and formal attire. It allows guests to dress to impress while still maintaining a sense of ease and approachability. Here’s a detailed guide on what cocktail attire entails for women, men, and non-binary guests.

Ladies

Men

Men can either wear a tailored suit or a shirt, tie, and dressy trousers. Black, navy, and charcoal are all great options. However, you can also opt for something jazzier with cocktail wear. For example, dark purple, dark green, or even burgundy can be both stylish and unusual. 

Choose polished dress shoes such as Oxfords or loafers. Match the shoe colour to your suit for a cohesive appearance.

Add refined details with a pocket square, tie bar, cufflinks, and a dress watch. These accessories contribute to an overall sophisticated look and tie in well to the cocktail theme.

Gender-neutral or non-binary

Cocktail wedding receptions offer flexibility when it comes to guest outfits. So long as they’re dressy, fashionable, and well-groomed, almost anything goes! This is great for non-binary or gender-neutral guests who want to express themselves through their clothing. 

Opt for a tailored suit, a jazzy jumpsuit, or fashionable separates for a look that reflects your personality. Experiment with a range of colours, from classic neutrals to vibrant hues, depending on your mood and the season. Cocktail receptions often allow for a broader colour palette.

You can wear whatever shoes complement your outfit. Whether it’s heeled boots, dressy sandals, or even polished Oxfords, the most important thing is that you’re both comfortable and well-presented. 

The bottom line on dressing for a wedding reception

No matter the dress code, the secret to dressing for a wedding reception is balancing comfort with style. There’s nothing worse than having your night cut short by blisters or an overly tight outfit. Instead, go for something that fits well, matches the dress code, and lets your personality shine. This way, you can enjoy the celebration to the fullest without stressing over wardrobe issues.

Frequently Asked Questions

What do brides wear to a wedding reception?

It’s becoming increasingly fashionable for brides to change into a ‘party dress’ during their wedding reception. These dresses are usually shorter and made with less fabric than a traditional wedding dress. This means your wedding dress will stay perfect, and you can dance the night away without all the skirts and petticoats weighing you down. 

Do you have to dress up for a wedding reception?

You don’t necessarily have to, but it is nice to. Even casual wedding dress codes often call for a slightly more polished and put-together look than everyday attire. While the level of formality can vary depending on the couple’s preferences and the specified dress code, dressing up for a wedding reception is a thoughtful way to honour the happy couple and the significance of the big day.

What is the best color to wear to a wedding reception?

There’s no single ‘best’ colour to wear to a wedding reception—it all depends on your style, the formality of the event, and the wedding’s colour scheme. Generally, though, pale colours, pastels, and neutrals work beautifully for summer weddings, while darker colours or jewel tones are perfect choices for winter celebrations.

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Muslim wedding ceremonies are intimate and romantic, and also filled with  incredible rituals and traditions that make them wonderful and joyous occasions.

If you’re planning your own ceremony, you might not be sure where to start. Who do you ask to arrange one? Does a ceremony contain a religious service? What’s the order of a Muslim wedding ceremony? What traditions do you want to include and which might you want to adapt?

And, did you know that Muslim wedding traditions vary depending on region? 

There are so many questions that if you’re planning your own wedding ceremony it can be complicated and confusing. However, the good news is that it doesn’t have to be. We’re here to answer all of the common questions and make your wedding planning a breeze.

So, in this post, we’re going to go into detail about everything to do with Muslim wedding ceremonies, from how long they last to what happens before, during and after.

What is a Muslim wedding ceremony?

A Muslim wedding ceremony, also known as a nikah, is when a Muslim couple comes together to get married. The ceremony is filled with traditions and rituals, including readings from the Qur’an.

Traditionally, the bride doesn’t need to be present at the nikah so long as she has previously given her express consent and permission. However, in many modern ceremonies, the bride often chooses to be there to share in the celebrations and spend time with her new husband.

What date should you have a Muslim wedding ceremony?

A Muslim wedding ceremony can take place on any day except for the two days of Eid, known as Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha.

What time does a Muslim wedding ceremony take place?

There are no specific times for when a nikah should take place. However, it’s common for a nikah to begin around lunchtime, to ensure there’s still plenty of time for the Walima, which is a celebratory feast that usually takes place afterwards.

Is it common for Muslim weddings to include a religious service?

Yes, during the nikah there are many religious rituals and a sermon, which includes readings from the Qur’an.

How popular are Muslim wedding ceremonies?

As you might assume, Muslim wedding ceremonies are popular within the Muslim community. You can only get married in a nikah if both the bride and groom are Muslim.

What type of couples usually choose a Muslim wedding ceremony?

Because a nikah is so closely tied to Islam, only couples who are Muslim will choose to have a Muslim wedding ceremony.

Are Muslim weddings expensive?

According to our Australian Wedding Report, the average cost of a wedding is around $37,000, which is comparable to the cost of a typical Muslim wedding. However, a wedding only needs to be as expensive as your budget allows. It’s entirely possible to host a beautiful Muslim wedding for about $7,000 or less. On the other hand, for a truly extravagant celebration, you might spend $60,000 or more.

How do Muslim wedding ceremonies vary across the world?

Islam is the second-largest religion in the world and spans different cultures and continents. This means, much like other religions, there are variations depending on which region you’re in.

For example, in Middle Eastern Muslim weddings, the bride is presented to the groom, while in South Asian Muslim weddings, the groom is presented to the bride. Similarly, in the Middle East, the Walima is the main post-ceremony celebration, while in South Asia there are two: the Shaadi and the Walima.

Who officiates a Muslim wedding ceremony?

A nikah is usually officiated by an Imam, who is a Muslim cleric, or sometimes a Qazi, an Islamic judge.

Is a Muslim wedding legally binding?

In Australia, a nikah ceremony conducted by an authorised officiant can fulfill both Islamic and legal marriage requirements. For a marriage to be legally recognised, it must be solemnised by an individual authorised under Australian law, such as a registered religious officiant or a marriage celebrant.

If the nikah is performed by a registered officiant, it acts as both the religious and civil marriage ceremony. However, if the nikah is conducted by someone not legally authorised to solemnise marriages, the couple will need a civil ceremony to ensure their marriage is recognised under Australian law.

Where are Muslim wedding ceremonies held?

Couples have a wide range of options when it comes to where their nikah might take place. The traditional choice of venue is a mosque, the Muslim place of worship, before moving on to a separate venue in the afternoon and evening for the Walima.

Other couples may choose to get married in different venues, such as a home, hotel or venue space.

How long are Muslim wedding ceremonies?

The nikah will usually last between 30 and 45 minutes, though this can vary depending on the Imam and the number of traditions the couple chooses to incorporate into the ceremony.

What words are exchanged at a Muslim wedding ceremony?

Traditionally, during the nikah, there is minimal verbal exchange between the bride and groom, and vows are often not part of the ceremony. While some couples may opt to include personal vows, the primary phrase spoken by both is the repeated word qubool, meaning “I accept”.

If the couple chooses to exchange vows, there are no specific legal phrases required, allowing them the freedom to make their words as personal and meaningful as they wish.

Do men and women sit apart at a Muslim wedding ceremony?

Traditionally, men and women will sit apart at a nikah. In some ceremonies, the men and women may even sit in separate rooms.

However, this all depends on your beliefs, culture and preferences. Many modern nikah take place with no gender segregation.

What traditions are there at a Muslim wedding ceremony?

As we’ve already highlighted, there’s a wide range of traditions that take place during Muslim wedding ceremonies. These traditions also differ depending on where in the world you’re from. Below are just some of the most popular nikah traditions from different regions.

South Asian nikah traditions

• Mehndi. A pre-ceremony event that brings the bride together with female guests who will design henna patterns on the bride’s hands.
• Reading from the Qur’an. The first chapter of the Qur’an is read, called Surah Al-Fatihah.
• Arsi Mushaf. A mirror is held between the bride and groom so the groom can see his bride’s face.
• Baraat. Traditionally, the groom enters the ceremony on the back of a white horse. However, many modern-day grooms choose a car or carriage.
• Joota Chupai. A fun tradition that involves guests hiding the groom’s shoes and holding them until the groom pays a fee.

Middle Eastern nikah traditions

• Tolbe. Before the ceremony, the groom asks the bride for her hand in marriage, which is known as the Tolbe.
• Maher. The Maher is a gift given by the groom to his bride as a gesture of respect and to mark her independence.

What do you wear at a Muslim wedding?

Traditionally, a Muslim groom would wear an embroidered kurta, a collarless tunic, with pyjamas or churidars. At modern Muslim ceremonies, the groom may choose a sherwani, a long-sleeved coat.

Muslim brides will traditionally wear a salwar kameez, a beautiful combination dress, with a dupatta to cover her head. Other brides may choose to wear a saree or scarf to cover their head.

Guests are expected to dress modestly and avoid bare arms. If the nikah takes place at a mosque, guests will also be asked to remove their shoes as a sign of respect.

What is the order at a Muslim wedding ceremony?

A nikah usually sticks to a relatively set order, so you’re likely to find that any Muslim wedding you attend will follow the same sort of structure. They do allow for some personalisations, but not as many as other types of wedding ceremonies.

Nikah will follow an order that resembles the following:

1. The tolbe

Ahead of the ceremony itself, the tolbe takes place. This is a short meeting between the groom and the bride’s parents when he asks them for permission to marry their daughter. After receiving permission, everyone joins in saying a prayer called Surah Fatiha.

2. The mehr

A little bit like a traditional dowry, the mehr is a gift given to the bride by her groom. Many brides consider an engagement ring to be the mehr, but if not, she’ll be presented with a gift or money before the ceremony.

3. The consent

The bride and groom are asked three times about whether they consent to the marriage. Each time, they must say qubool hai, which means I accept.

4. The Nikah-Namah

The Muslim marriage contract is called the Nikah-Namah, which the bride and groom both sign. It’s then read aloud by the officiant so all the guests can hear the promise they’re making to each other.

5. The readings

The officiant will read verses from the Qur’an in a short sermon. This is the point when the bride and groom are declared married.

6. Savaqah

The final part of nikah is Savaqah, when gifts are given. This includes throwing money at the bride.

How do you book a Muslim wedding ceremony?

Once you’re engaged and looking to plan your nikah, speak to the imam at your local mosque. They can work with you to decide on a date that’s available so you can begin to plan everything else around it, such as a venue for the Walima, transport, decor, flowers and more.

Who plans a Muslim wedding ceremony?

Traditionally, the parents play a heavy role in planning a nikah. However, many modern Muslim couples like to plan their own wedding, but still welcome input and suggestions from both sets of parents.

Alternatively, you may want to hire a wedding planner, who can take a lot of the work from you. 

What comes after a Muslim wedding ceremony?

Traditionally, following the nikah, the bride and groom join their guests for the Walima — a celebratory event similar to a wedding reception. Unlike typical receptions, however, a Walima can be an extended celebration, sometimes lasting up to two days.

In many cases, the Walima is held right after the nikah, on the same day. But depending on personal preferences and circumstances, it may also be scheduled for the following day or even two days later.

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The wedding speeches are a traditional and much-anticipated part of any wedding reception. First comes the father of the bride, then the groom, then the best man, then… it all starts to get a little hazy. 

The thing is, there are a number of wedding speeches that need to be made on the big day. Guests can quickly become bored if speeches drag on too long, while short speeches might leave the speakers feeling they haven’t properly honoured the bride or groom. So, how do you find the perfect balance while keeping everyone engaged?

No need to stress! We’ve put together a detailed guide on how long each wedding speech should be, along with tips on what to include to ensure both heartfelt moments and a captivated audience.

What is a wedding speech?

A wedding speech is a speech made by members of the wedding party during the wedding reception. There’s a traditional order of speeches that most people usually follow. However, it’s your big day, so you can absolutely shake it up if you want. 

The tradition is for wedding speeches to be delivered after the main course but before dessert during the reception. This timing ensures that your guests are well-fed and relaxed, creating a natural pause before they enjoy dessert. However, if you prefer to change it up, you can opt for speeches after dessert or even during the ceremony itself — it’s your day, so you can choose what works best for you!

While it’s possible to schedule speeches before the meal, it’s generally not recommended as guests might be hungry after the ceremony, and distracted by their rumbling stomachs rather than focusing on the heartfelt speeches.

How long should a general wedding speech be?

Generally, wedding speeches should last between 5 and 7 minutes to ensure there’s enough time for everyone who wants to speak. The entire “wedding speech” segment of the reception should last no more than 40 minutes to keep your guests engaged, but it usually wraps up within 20 to 30 minutes.

You can adjust the length of each speech to ensure everyone has a fair chance to speak. For instance, if you only have two or three speakers, you can allow for longer speeches. However, if several members of the wedding party wish to say a few words, it’s a good idea to shorten each speech to maintain the flow of the event and stick to the schedule. This way, every speaker gets their moment without overwhelming the guests or dragging out the timeline.

Pro tip: To keep things balanced, divide the total time allotted for speeches by the number of speakers. For instance, if you plan to spend 30 minutes on speeches and have five people speaking, each speech would last around 5.5 minutes, with a 30-second pause in between.

Wedding Speech Lengths: Quick Reference Guide

If you’re in a rush, check out the below quick reference guide to see how long your wedding speech should ideally be. Otherwise, read on for the full breakdown, and be sure to save this infographic for future use. 

How long should a father of the bride speech be?

The father of the bride’s speech is traditionally the longest speech in the order of speeches. It’s usually the first speech made during the wedding reception and is a beloved and much-anticipated part of the bride’s big day. 

The father of the bride’s speech should typically last between 7 to 9 minutes, and ideally no longer than 12 minutes, to keep the overall flow of speeches smooth and engaging. These speeches generally include heartfelt sentiments, advice, and sometimes a touch of humour, ensuring they honour the bride without taking too long.

• A thank you to everyone involved in putting together the big day (don’t forget the staff working at the reception)
• An ode to your little girl and what makes her so special
• Your words of wisdom on love and marriage 
• You could round off with some quotes about love or a beautiful wedding reading

How long should a groom’s speech be?

The groom’s speech can be a little longer than the best man’s speech. It should last between 6 and 8 minutes, but no longer than 10 for the guests’ sake. 

It’s usually second in the order of speeches and should be positioned as a thank-you note to all the people who have supported your relationship and wedding planning. As a basic structure, we recommend the following general structure:

• Introduce yourself and your new bride (a guaranteed cheer!)
• Thank the groomsmen, best man, bridesmaids, and maid of honour for their continued love and support throughout your wedding planning
• Thank your parents and new parents-in-law
• A recap of your wedding vows
• Toast to your new spouse and your future together

How long should a best man speech be?

The ideal length for a best man speech is around 5 minutes. However, it can be a little longer or a little shorter, depending on your personal preferences and the overall speech order.

The best man’s speech is usually the third in the order of speeches. It should include things such as:

• A warm introduction to the reception
• Compliments about the bride 
• A playful roast of the groom
• Well-wishes from the best man and groomsmen 
• The Bride and Groom’s love story
• A toast to their future

How long should a maid of honour speech be?

While not a traditional element, the maid of honour’s speech can be a touching and memorable part of the wedding reception. Like the best man’s speech, it’s best to keep it brief, ideally between 4 and 6 minutes.

The beauty of the maid of honour speech lies in its flexibility — there are no strict expectations, so you can structure it however you’d like. That said, it’s a good idea to include personal anecdotes, well wishes for the couple, and a heartfelt message for the bride.

• The adventures you’ve shared with the bride
• Anecdotes about wedding planning 
• How the couple’s love story unfolded
• Heartfelt advice on relationships
• A toast to the happy couple

How long should a bridesmaid’s speech be?

As with the maid of honour speech, a bridesmaid’s speech is untraditional, so there are no expectations on how long the speech should be or what it should include. We recommend keeping the speech to around 5 minutes long (less if you’d like multiple bridesmaids to make a speech). 

Having a bridesmaid’s speech after the maid of honour speech may be nice way to keep things flowing. We suggest that you consider the following structure:

• Happy memories you share with the bride
• Your thoughts on love and marriage
• How beautiful the other bridesmaids look
• Your well-wishes for the happy couple

How long should a mother of the groom speech be?

The mother of the groom speech may not be part of traditional wedding speeches, but it’s a beautiful opportunity for a mother to share her love, support, and best wishes for her son and his new spouse. This speech typically lasts between 3 to 5 minutes and, if you’re following traditional speech order, it’s likely to be one of the final speeches at the reception (though this is flexible).

There’s no strict format for a mother of the groom speech, but we recommend including:

• A welcome to the family for the new bride
• Your happiness that the groom has found someone so special
• Fond memories of the groom’s childhood 
• Heartfelt advice
• A final, celebratory toast

The bottom line on speech length 

Wedding speeches are a cherished and traditional part of the reception, offering a special opportunity for the wedding party and loved ones to express their heartfelt sentiments to the newlyweds.

As mentioned earlier, the ideal length for a speech is around 5 to 7 minutes. This allows enough time for meaningful thank-yous, advice, and stories, while keeping the flow enjoyable and maintaining your guests’ attention.

We’ve got plenty of great tips, tricks, and wedding speech structures to help you get started if you’re unsure about what to include. And, to see how long your wedding speech should be in practice, check out our wedding speech examples. 

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When planning your perfect wedding day, you might not be sure where to start. You might know what your ideal ceremony, venue, food, cake and everything else looks like, but one of the biggest questions you may have is how exactly they all fit together.

Organising a wedding is a little bit like putting a jigsaw together, only you don’t have instructions, so you have to do it the best you can. One of the key parts of this is creating a wedding day timeline, so everyone knows where they have to be, what time they have to be there and what’s going to happen once they’re there.

In this post, we’re going to explore what the best wedding day timeline might look like, including what order everything happens throughout the typical wedding day, how long each part usually takes and the most popular time couples choose to have the ceremony.

Do all weddings follow the same timeline?

No, not all weddings follow the same timeline. However, every wedding you go to will generally follow a timeline that is at the very least reminiscent of every other wedding you might have been to. Whether you choose to have a traditional wedding, religious wedding, registry office wedding, destination wedding or something else entirely, there will always be some similarities – especially at the ceremony itself, which has to follow certain legal processes.

Some of the major factors that can influence a wedding day timeline include:

• Cultural and religious traditions – For example, many Indian weddings span over several days and there are a lot of other cultural wedding traditions that also go beyond the big day.
• The type of wedding – A traditional wedding will often last from late morning through until late at night, while a destination wedding might only last a couple of hours.
• The time of the ceremony – Traditionally, couples get married around lunchtime, but twilight weddings are quickly becoming more popular and start much later in the day.
• The formality – Less formal weddings will usually have a more relaxed structure, as they’re often far more intimate.
• The size of your guest list – The larger your guest list is, the more likely you’ll need to allow extra time for arrivals, transport, seating, photos and more.
• The time of year – Believe it or not, the season your wedding takes place in can also have an effect, especially during the winter when you might need to account for icy or snowy conditions.
• The location of your venues – The location of your venues (if your ceremony and breakfast/reception venue aren’t at the same place), specifically if they’re far apart from each other, can potentially slow things down.
• Personal preferences – Finally, your own personal preferences can dictate your wedding day timeline. At the end of the day, it’s your big day, so do whatever makes you happy.

What time does a wedding ceremony usually take place?

The majority of weddings in Australia usually start between 2pm-4pm. However, depending on the type of wedding you have, this can vary. For example, many religious wedding ceremonies start in the late morning, while ceremonies at registry offices tend to start in the afternoon. Of course, if you’ve chosen to have a twilight wedding, it will start much later in the day, often as it starts to get dark, which can be at different times depending on the season you’re getting married in.

What is the longest part of a wedding?

Generally, the longest part of your wedding day will be the evening reception, which will last around four or five hours (though this can be longer if you’ve invited a few party animals). 

What is the shortest part of a wedding?

Believe it or not, despite months (or even years) of planning, the shortest part of a couple’s wedding day is often the ceremony itself. The ceremony takes approximately 45 minutes from the moment the procession starts, though it can sometimes be longer, such as with a religious ceremony where there might be hymns and readings.

A registry office wedding or civil ceremony can be as short as 10 minutes, but  longer if you want to include extras like readings, or if you’ve hired a celebrant.

How long do various parts of a wedding day take?

To give you an idea as to how long various parts of your wedding day will take, you can use the below times as an approximation when planning your big day.

Getting ready (including hair, makeup and getting dressed) – Approximately two hours. This may take longer if the artist you’ve hired is also doing the bridesmaids’ hair and makeup.

Pre-wedding photos (bridal party and groomsmen) – 30 to 45 minutes.

Ceremony – 45 to 60 minutes, but this can vary depending on whether it’s a religious ceremony or you have specific personal preferences. Registry office weddings can be as short and sweet as 10 minutes.

Photographs – Around one hour, but it can depend on the size of your wedding party and whether you have to travel to a specific location to take photos.

Reception drinks – Approximately an hour, which may start while you and your new spouse are having photos taken. It gives time for everyone to have a drink and unwind before the breakfast. You might want to add 10 or 15 minutes if you’re having a receiving line to welcome guests to the reception venue.

Evening reception – Once evening guests arrive, usually between 6pm and 8pm, the evening reception will go on for the rest of the night, which depends on you, your guests and the venue. The evening reception will usually last at least four hours and will often include food, such as a buffet, as well as drinks and music (and some dancing, of course). The speeches and the cutting of the cake also take place during this part of the evening.

• Speeches – This varies depending on who’s giving a speech, but there are usually at least three speeches; the father of the bride, the groom and the best man. Allow 10 minutes per speaker, so around 30 minutes in total, though this might be longer if others wish to say a few words as well.
• Cutting of the cake – 5 to 10 minutes, but most of that is the time taken getting everyone together and allowing people to take photographs.

What is a typical wedding timeline?

Depending on the type of wedding you have, wedding timelines can have a few key differences. Below are some examples of how you might expect a wedding day to look based on some of the most popular types of weddings couples go for.

Example traditional wedding day timeline

As we highlighted above, traditional wedding ceremonies commonly start between 2pm-4pm. The below example of a traditional wedding day timeline is what your day might look like if your ceremony were to start at midday.

9am – Your alarm goes off and it’s time for a shower (speak to your hairstylist beforehand about whether you should wash your hair that morning or not).

9.30am – Breakfast. Don’t skip this step because you’ve got a long day ahead of you. You might want your bridesmaids/groomsmen to join you and start the celebrations early with a mimosa.

10am – If you’ve hired a photographer, they’ll arrive to capture everyone getting ready. Your hair and makeup artist(s) will likely arrive around the same time.

10.15am – Hair and makeup starts on the bridal party (if they’re doing it for them).

11am – The flowers and bouquets are delivered and the vendors you’ve hired will arrive at the venue to start setting everything up.

11.30am – The bride’s hair and makeup start.

12.30pm – The bride gets dressed. At the same time, the groom will head to the venue to begin greeting guests.

1pm – Bridal party photos and the wedding transport arrives (if you need it).

1.30pm – The bride sets off for the venue as your final guests arrive.

1.45pm – Your guests are asked to take their seats.

1.55pm – The bride arrives at the venue and everyone takes their place. The photographer will take some last-minute photos of the bride and whoever she is walking down the aisle with.

2pm – The ceremony starts.

2.45pm – The ceremony ends and the couple leaves the venue with the photographer for photographs, also joined by friends and family.

3pm – Time for family photos (and photos with close friends of the couple). Other guests leave to the venue where the cocktail hour is being held.

4.30pm – The couple and those involved in the photos arrive at the cocktail hour. Time to mingle and for any additional photos to be taken.

5pm – Evening guests begin to arrive

5.30pm – Guests start being seated for dinner service.

6pm – Dinner service begins.

7.15pm – Dinner service ends and the wait staff pours fizz for the speeches to begin. The cutting of the cake may also take place during this time. 

7.45pm – The speeches start, usually with the father of the bride. If you’d like golden hour photos, do these around this time (or a little earlier, depending on the season) and shift the timeline accordingly.

8.15pm – First couple dance and parents dance.

8.30pm – Open dance floor! Time for you to celebrate with your guests! 

11.45pm – The couple leaves the venue.

12pm – The evening reception finishes and your guests leave the venue.

Example registry office wedding day timeline

Registry office weddings are often the most affordable type of wedding, which means they don’t usually include as many individual steps. If you’re having a registry office wedding, it might follow something similar to the following timeline:

8am to 10.30am – A leisurely morning, ensuring you have a good breakfast. If you have a small budget, this is a great time to visit a hairstylist and make-up artist, as going to them rather than them coming to you keeps costs down.

11am – Get ready with family and friends close by.

12.30pm – Set off for the registry office.

12.50pm – Arrive at the registry office and your guests take their seats. If you’ve hired a photographer they will begin taking photos.

1pm – The ceremony begins.

1.15pm – The ceremony ends.

1.30pm – A short photography session outside the registry office with the couple and friends and family.

2.15pm – A meal at a local restaurant or hotel, including the speeches.

6pm – The wedding party moves on to a different local venue, such as a bar or hotel, to host a party for wider family and friends. This will include the cutting of the cake, the first dance and a buffet. However, this all depends on your budget and preferences.

Example twilight wedding timeline

A twilight wedding starts much later in the day, which means there’s not as much time as with a traditional wedding. However, many of the same things are still included, just condensed, which makes it great for getting married on a budget.

8am to 2pm – A leisurely morning and lunchtime spent with family and friends. You may take the time to relax (a morning spa session with the rest of the bridal party goes down a treat) or visit your local beauty stylist to save money on hair and makeup.

3pm – You start to get ready as vendors arrive at the venue to prepare. If you’ve hired a professional stylist and photographer, they’ll also arrive around this time.

4.30pm – The groom arrives at the venue to welcome guests.

5pm – The bride gets dressed.

5.30pm – The bride leaves for the venue.

5.45pm – Guests take their seats.

5.55pm – The bride arrives at the venue and everyone gets into position.

6pm – The ceremony begins.

6.45pm – The ceremony ends.

7pm – The couple and their guests take photographs to take advantage of the setting sun (depending on the season, the timing of this would need to shift slightly).

8pm – Now it’s time for the evening reception and dinner to begin. This will also include the speeches, cutting of the cake and first dance.

11.45pm – The couple leaves the venue.

12pm – The reception finishes and your guests leave the venue.

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Watching your little girl walk down the aisle is one of the best moments in a mother’s life. It’s a beautiful mix of nostalgia, pride, and joy set against the backdrop of the happiest day of your child’s life. What better way to express your love and happiness than through a heartwarming speech that tells everyone how proud you are?

However, writing the best mother of the bride speech can be tricky. It’s a delicate balance of heartwarming stories, genuine advice, special memories, and just a sprinkle of laughter. But don’t worry — whether you’re a seasoned wordsmith or struggle with public speaking, we’ve got the advice to help you write a brilliant wedding speech.

In this post, we explain our top tips and guidance for writing the best mother of the bride speeches. We include some words of wisdom on how to structure your speech, some top tips for writing a great wedding speech, and our top 10 best mother of the bride speech examples.

What is a mother of the bride speech?

A mother of the bride speech is a mother’s speech at a daughter’s wedding. It usually lasts between 5-7 minutes, and its main focus should be thanking your guests for joining you on this special day, and telling everyone how proud you are of your daughter. 

Typically, the mother of the bride’s speech is delivered after the father of the bride’s speech and before the groom’s speech. However, as a mother of the bride speech isn’t considered a traditional wedding speech, you can mix up the order of speeches however you want to include your heartfelt message.

What should you include in a mother of the bride speech?

When writing your mother of the bride speech, you might want to consider including the following key elements:

• What makes your daughter so special. This is the perfect opportunity to let everyone know exactly what makes your daughter so special. Tell everyone about her amazing qualities, how kind and caring she is, and how proud you are of her. This is also a good opportunity to playfully tease her — maybe by letting her new spouse know how untidy she is, any lighthearted or embarrassing anecdotes, or any of her other quirks. Remember, the point isn’t to embarrass her on her special day. Instead, the stories you pick should highlight the special bond you share and showcase the wonderful person she has grown into.
• The bond you share. The relationship between a mother and her daughter is like no other. It’s a unique and beautiful connection that spans a lifetime, filled with love, understanding, and unbreakable support. This speech is the perfect opportunity to share that bond with your guests and let everyone know just how much your daughter means to you. Be sure to let the guests know that she gets it all from you!
• Childhood memories. You had the unique privilege of helping raise your daughter, and this is the perfect opportunity to share any special memories that have shaped your journey together. Share with your guests how you felt when she took her first steps versus how it felt to watch her walk down the aisle. Tell them about watching her grow up, the first moment you felt her, or when you met her future spouse. All these stories will evoke feelings of love and nostalgia, making your speech special and memorable.
• A toast to the happy couple. The perfect way to round off a mother of the bride speech is to raise a toast. Raise your glass, and invite your guests to toast to the health and happiness of the new couple. Cheers!

Mother of the bride speech structure

If you’re worried about writing your mother of the bride speech, following a clear and logical structure is a good place to start. Try using the following structure to help you feel more confident as you plan your speech. 

Introduction

Start off by introducing yourself to the guests and thanking everyone for attending. As the mother of the bride, it is likely you will already know most of the guests. However, it adds a nice sense of occasion to the speech and is always a strong starting point.

All about the bride

The second point in your speech should be talking about your wonderful daughter and the relationship that you share. Tell your guests how it feels to see your little girl all grown up, how proud you are of her, and what a beautiful bride she is. 

Share some happy memories

You can then move on to share some funny stories about your daughter’s childhood or the time you’ve shared together. These could be light-hearted or emotional, but should always reflect the unique and wonderful relationship you share with your daughter.

Welcome your daughter’s partner 

You should then turn your attention to your daughter’s partner and their parents. 

Reminisce about the first time you met, highlight their endearing qualities, and thank them for the happiness they bring your daughter. By incorporating your daughter’s partner into your speech, you demonstrate your wholehearted support for the relationship and nurture a strong bond between both families.

Offer guidance and wisdom

Now move on to sharing some pearls of wisdom with the newlyweds.

Feel free to speak from the heart about love, commitment, and their future together, as they embark on this beautiful journey as a married couple. Building a strong family is an essential aspect, and your insights will surely guide and inspire them.

To the happy couple!

Finally, invite your guests to raise their glasses in a toast to the happy couple. Congratulate them on their big day, drink to their health, and wish them a lifetime of love and happiness. 

Mother of the bride speech template

To help you navigate the complete breakdown of your speech, it can be helpful to have a visual guide to refer to. Check out our handy infographic below:

Top tips for delivering the best mother of the bride speech  

Practice makes perfect

It’s natural to feel nervous before you present your speech. However, practice makes perfect, and the more times you’re able to rehearse, the more confident you’ll feel. Try practicing in front of a mirror, to trusted friends, or recording yourself on your mobile phone to watch back. You’ll be grateful you did when the nerves kick in.

Mother knows best

You know your daughter better than anyone, so you know what advice she’ll need to support her through married life. You know her dreams, her strengths, and her vulnerabilities, and that insight will continue to be invaluable as she navigates the journey of married life. Offer her your best pearls of wisdom during the speech: you were her guiding light during the early years of her life, and she looks up to you more than anyone — there’s no reason that should change now. 

Speak from the heart

In sharing your heartfelt words, remember that this is a moment of celebration and joy. Let your emotions flow freely as you speak from the heart. Your sincerity and genuine love for your daughter and her new spouse will surely resonate with everyone present.

If you’re really stuck, consider presenting a nice wedding reading, poem, or famous quote about love. Often, poets and creatives can articulate how you’re feeling in a way your own words can’t. 

Think about your audience

Each person in attendance holds a special place in either your daughter’s or her new spouse’s life. The guests will likely include grandparents, work colleagues, old friends, neighbours, and more. That’s why it’s important that you consider the audience when writing your speech. Steer clear of any stories that are too embarrassing or paint the bride or groom in a bad light. Keep it positive, upbeat, and warm.

Top 10 mother of the bride speech examples

If you’re looking for some inspiration, check out our top 10 examples of great wedding mother of the bride speech ideas, from the short and simple, to the funny and personal.  Use them as templates for your own speech and personalise them with your own unique examples and anecdotes.

A lot of mother of the bride speech examples will refer to a bride and groom, but you can simply change the references to your daughter’s partner and the appropriate pronouns if you’re attending an LGBTQ+ wedding.

Speech Example 1: The Heartfelt Reminiscence

Introduction: “Hello, everyone! I’m [your name], and I’m so happy to see all of you here today. Your presence makes this day even more special.”

All about the bride: “As I stand before you, I can’t help but reflect on the journey my daughter, [bride’s name] and I have shared. From the moment she took her first steps to this day, where she takes her first steps into marriage, my heart swells with pride and love.”

Share some happy memories: “Oh, the adventures [bride’s name] and I have had! From impromptu dance parties in the living room to our baking escapades that left the kitchen a flour-covered disaster zone. These memories are etched in my heart forever.”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “And now, I’d like to extend a warm welcome to [partner’s name] and his wonderful parents. From the day I met [partner’s name], I knew he was the perfect match for my daughter. His kindness, humour, and unwavering love have brought immense joy into [bride’s name]’s life.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “As you both step into this new chapter, always remember to listen with your hearts, communicate openly, and treasure the simple moments that life offers. Your journey together will be filled with ups and downs, but facing them together will only make your bond stronger.”

To the happy couple: “Ladies and gentlemen, let’s raise our glasses to [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. May your love continue to grow, your days be filled with laughter, and your adventure together be nothing short of extraordinary. Cheers!”

Speech Example 2: The Playful Tribute

Introduction: “Good evening, everyone! I’m [your name], and I want to express my gratitude for joining us on this joyous occasion. Your presence truly warms our hearts.”

All about the bride: “From the moment [bride’s name] was born, my life gained an extra sparkle. Today, as I see her in that stunning gown, I’m reminded of the little girl who used to twirl around the living room, spreading laughter wherever she went.”

Share some happy memories: “Our journey has been filled with giggles and cherished moments. I’ll never forget the time [bride’s name] decided to give our cat a ‘makeover’ with her art supplies. Let’s just say Whiskers had a colourful personality for a while!”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “Joining our family today is [partner’s name], a man who has captured [bride’s name]’s heart completely. His sense of humour, his passion for life, and the way he looks at her make me believe in true love all over again.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “As you both start this new chapter, remember to keep laughing, hold each other close during the tough times, and always communicate openly. Love is an incredible journey, and I have no doubt you two will make it a beautiful one.”

To the happy couple: “Let’s raise our glasses to [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. May your days be filled with shared dreams, boundless joy, and a love that only grows stronger with each passing year. Cheers!”

Speech Example 3: The Nurturing Supporter

Introduction: “Hello, everyone! I’m delighted to see all your familiar faces gathered here to celebrate this beautiful day. Your presence adds a touch of warmth to this special occasion.”

All about the bride: “Today, as I look at my radiant daughter, [bride’s name], I can’t help but feel a mixture of emotions – pride, joy, and a touch of nostalgia. It feels like just yesterday she was picking wildflowers in the garden.”

Share some happy memories: “From tea parties with stuffed animals to late-night heart-to-hearts, [bride’s name] and I have shared countless precious moments. I’ll always treasure the laughter that echoed through our home.”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “I want to extend a heartfelt welcome to [partner’s name] and his lovely parents. From the day we met, I could see the love and happiness he brings into [bride’s name]’s life. We are truly blessed to have [partner’s name] as part of our family.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “As you embark on this beautiful journey of marriage, remember that a strong marriage is built on patience, understanding, and unwavering support. Through life’s twists and turns, always hold each other close.”

To the happy couple: “Ladies and gentlemen, let’s raise our glasses to [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. May your days be filled with shared dreams, endless laughter, and a love that continues to blossom with each passing day. Cheers!”

Speech Example 4: The Best Friend 

Introduction: “Good evening, everyone! I’m [bride’s name]’s mum, and I want to thank you all for joining us in celebrating this wonderful day. Your presence means the world to us.”

All about the bride: “Today is a rainbow of emotions – the little girl I held in my arms is now a stunning bride before us. [Bride’s name], you’ve grown into a remarkable woman, and my heart is bursting with pride.”

Share some happy memories: “As [bride’s name]’s confidante and partner-in-crime, we’ve shared countless laughs, secrets, and even a few late-night snacks. Our bond has always been a very special one.”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “Joining our family is [partner’s name], a man who has shown us that love is patient, kind, and enduring. His presence has brought immense happiness to [bride’s name]’s life, and we couldn’t be more grateful.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “Remember that a strong marriage is built on mutual respect, open communication, and a willingness to grow together. Through the highs and lows, you have each other to lean on.”

To the happy couple: “Here’s to [bride’s name] and [partner’s name], two souls who have found their perfect match. May your journey be filled with love, laughter, and countless beautiful moments. Cheers!”

Speech Example 5: The Colourful Adventure

Introduction: “Good evening, everyone! What a joy it is to have you all here to celebrate [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]’s love story. Your presence makes this day even more special.”

All about the bride: “As I stand here today, I see not just a beautiful bride, but a reflection of all the love, care, and nurturing that went into raising [bride’s name]. My heart swells with pride.”

Share some happy memories: “From the finger-painting masterpieces to the ‘secret’ bedtime stories, [bride’s name] has always kept life colourful and imaginative. She has taught me that laughter truly is the best medicine.”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “Joining us today is [partner’s name], a man whose warm smile and kind heart have stolen [bride’s name]’s heart. From the first moment we met, it was clear that he is a perfect match for our family.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “In this beautiful journey of marriage, always cherish the little moments, for they are the ones that create a lifetime of memories. And remember, love is an art that you both are mastering together.”

To the happy couple: “Let’s raise our glasses to [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. May your love story continue to be as vibrant and inspiring as the colours on a canvas. Here’s to a future filled with endless love and happiness. Cheers!”

Speech Example 6: The Proud Mother

Introduction: “Hello, everyone! Your presence today is a true testament to the love and support that surrounds [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. Thank you for being part of this memorable day.”

All about the bride: “As I look at [bride’s name] today, I am reminded of the incredible journey we’ve shared. She has grown into an amazing woman, and my heart is overflowing with pride.”

Share some happy memories: “From adventurous road trips to late-night movie marathons, [bride’s name] has filled our lives with unforgettable moments. Her laughter has been a constant source of joy.”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “I want to extend a warm welcome to [partner’s name] and his wonderful family. From the moment we met, it was clear that his love and devotion to [bride’s name] run deep.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “As you navigate the path of marriage, always remember that open communication, empathy, and a good sense of humour are your strongest allies. Embrace each other’s individuality and grow together.”

To the happy couple: “Let’s raise our glasses to [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. May your journey be filled with exciting adventures, shared dreams, and a love that only deepens with time. Cheers!”

Speech Example 7: The Poetic Reflection 

Introduction: “Greetings, dear friends and family! Today, we gather to celebrate the enchanting union of [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. Thank you for being part of this magical day.”

All about the bride: “From the moment [bride’s name] was born, I knew I was in for a beautiful adventure. She’s grown into a gorgeous bride, and I feel truly blessed to witness this moment.”

Share some happy memories: “As a child, [bride’s name] had a wild imagination. We would have tea parties with teddy bears and go on imaginary expeditions. She has brought boundless joy into my life.”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “Today, we not only gain a son-in-law in [partner’s name], but also a dear friend. His presence has brought an extra sprinkle of joy to our lives.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “In the journey ahead, may you both nurture your love like a delicate flower. Water it with kindness, the sunlight of understanding, and the gentle breeze of laughter.”

To the happy couple: “Let’s raise our glasses to [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. May your marriage be a fairy tale filled with love, laughter, and countless ‘happily ever afters.’ Cheers!”

Speech Example 8: The Lyrical Musings

Introduction: “Ladies and gentlemen, it warms my heart to see so many beloved faces gathered here. We are here to celebrate the radiant love between [bride’s name] and [partner’s name].”

All about the bride: “In [bride’s name], I found a confidante, a best friend, and a bundle of joy. Today, as I look at her, I’m reminded of the beautiful journey we’ve shared.”

Share some happy memories: “From the impromptu dance parties in the living room to the heartfelt conversations under the stars, [bride’s name] has filled my life with precious moments.”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “Let’s extend a warm welcome to [partner’s name] and his family. Our hearts have been enriched by his presence, and his love for [bride’s name] shines brightly.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “As you begin this new chapter, may your love story be a tapestry woven with patience, understanding, and a touch of spontaneity. Embrace each moment.”

To the happy couple: “Let’s raise our glasses to [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. May your journey be a symphony of love, and may each day be a verse of happiness. Cheers!”

Speech Example 9: The Heartwarming Touch 

Introduction: “Hello, everyone! Your presence today fills our hearts with gratitude and joy as we celebrate the union of [bride’s name] and [partner’s name].”

All about the bride: “As I stand before you today, I see a strong, independent woman in [bride’s name]. She makes a remarkable bride, and I couldn’t be prouder.”

Share some happy memories: “From baking mishaps to spontaneous road trips, [bride’s name] has kept our lives full of laughter. Her adventurous spirit has taught me to cherish every moment.”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “Let’s give a warm welcome to [partner’s name], a man whose love and dedication to [bride’s name] shines brightly. Our family has been enriched by his presence.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “In the journey of marriage, remember that it’s the small gestures and shared smiles that build a strong foundation. May your love story be a beautiful mosaic.”

To the happy couple: “Let’s raise our glasses to [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. May your days be filled with simple joys, and may your love grow stronger with each passing year. Cheers!”

Speech Example 10: The Happy Wishes

Introduction: “Good day, dear friends and family! We gather here to celebrate the wonderful union of [bride’s name] and [partner’s name]. Thank you for joining us on this happy occasion.”

All about the bride: “As I look at [bride’s name] today, I’m reminded of the spirited child who filled our home with laughter. She has transformed into a beautiful bride, and my heart bursts with pride.”

Share some happy memories: “From science experiments gone awry to impromptu dance-offs, [bride’s name] has brought endless delight into our lives. Her creativity knows no bounds.”

Welcome your daughter’s partner: “Let’s warmly welcome [partner’s name], a man who stole not only [bride’s name]’s heart, but ours as well. His presence has marked a wonderful new chapter in our lives.”

Offer guidance and wisdom: “As you embark on this journey together, remember that life is a grand adventure. Embrace each challenge as an opportunity, and may your love be the compass.”

To the happy couple: “Here’s to [bride’s name] and [groom’s name], the architects of their own love story. May your journey be filled with laughter, adventure, and a love that defies the ordinary. Cheers!”

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The mother of the bride speech is a beautiful, but non-traditional, part of a wedding reception. As such, you have the freedom to make what you want of it without the pressures felt by more traditional speeches (such as the best man’s speech or the father of the bride’s speech). 

This is your chance to tell the world how amazing your little girl is and highlight how beautiful she looks on her big day. Speak from the heart, share your favourite childhood memories of your daughter, and offer your advice and guidance to the newlyweds on their happy day. 

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On your wedding day, you’ll be surrounded by your friends and family. Among them, your bridesmaids will be some of the closest allies and will have a key role to play not just in the wedding itself, but as part of the build-up as well.

But, when it comes to what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for, how do you know who picks up the bill? Is it you, your family, or your bridesmaids themselves?

Your bridesmaids will do a lot to support you already, and as tough as it is to talk about costs, it’s a must. Establish from the beginning what they’re responsible for and what you’ll be covering for them. Then hopefully that’ll mean there are no awkward arguments during the lead-up to your wedding.

But, how do you know who pays for what? What are the traditions and the unwritten rules about what you should pay for and what your bridesmaids should pay for themselves? In this post, we’re going to explore exactly that, including who should pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, who pays for the hen party, and what else you should be aware of as your big day approaches.

Who pays for the bridesmaids’ dresses?

One of the most difficult subjects to talk about with your bridesmaids is who pays for their dresses. Traditionally, the bride and her family are the ones who pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses. However, it’s becoming increasingly more common for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses.

It’s also traditional for each of the bridesmaids to wear the same outfit, which will complement the bride’s beautiful dress. But, it’s also becoming more popular for each of the bridesmaids to wear a different dress, but one that usually sticks closely to the theme or colour scheme of the wedding.

Of course, this does depend on the costs involved. If the dress you’re asking your bridesmaids to wear comes with a high price tag, it’d be unfair of you to expect them to pay, so you’d probably want to foot the bill on that occasion.

Whatever you choose to do, or whatever your budget allows you to do, just make sure you’re open and honest with your bridesmaids at all times. If you’re asking them to pay, give them as much notice as possible, so they’ll have a long time to save. Asking bridesmaids at modern weddings to pay for their own dresses is relatively common, but it’s important to give them plenty of time to afford it. Saving for a $350 dress is a much easier task if your wedding is two years away, compared to just a couple of months.

Who pays for the bridesmaids’ shoes?

While many brides and their families offer to pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, it’s not as common to offer to pay for their shoes. Shoes may be a part of their outfit, but there’s usually far more flexibility when it comes to footwear than the dress. So, this will often be something the bridesmaids pay for, whether it’s flats, heels or wedges.

Who pays for the bridesmaids’ accessories?

Similar to the shoes, it’s usually the responsibility of the bridesmaids themselves to pay for any accessories they might want to wear, such as any jewellery or bags.

How much do bridesmaids’ dresses cost?

The cost of bridesmaids’ dresses can vary hugely depending on whether you choose to buy dresses from a wedding boutique or an online retailer. Neither is the right answer – both offer wonderful dresses – it just depends on your style, taste and budget.

Specialist bridal shops that also sell bridesmaid’s dresses, have ranges that suit a variety of budgets, with prices starting from around $300.

Online retailers such as Billy J and Hazel & Folk offer a great selection of affordable bridesmaids’ dresses, with prices ranging between $100 and $300. There are also many platforms that provide the option to rent a dress, although this isn’t quite as popular with dresses as it is with wedding suits.

What if your bridesmaids can’t afford the dress you want them to wear?

If you’ve asked your bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses (which you’re well within your right to do) then you may face an additional challenge: what if your bridesmaids can’t afford it?

If you’re asking your bridesmaids to pay for their own dress, then you possibly already knew about their financial situation. Similarly, you hopefully gave them enough of a heads-up so that they could save money for their dress. Even then, you may face the awkward situation where they’re not able to pay for the dress.

If this happens to you, where possible we’d recommend that this is something you try to find a little more budget for, and offer to pay for your bridesmaid’s dress. It wouldn’t be fair on that particular bridesmaid to expect them to pay, especially if it means them getting into debt. The only other option would be to uninvite them from being a part of the bridal party, which will almost certainly cause tension and could damage your relationship with them forever.

It’s a tough situation, and one that’s hard to offer advice on, as every situation is different. Just make sure that you let your bridesmaids know they can speak to you about any concerns they have, because you definitely don’t want anyone to feel stressed or anxious because they’re struggling to find the funds to pay for their dress.

Do your bridesmaids pay for your hen party?

Often, your bridesmaids will cover the costs of arranging your hen party, such as travel, accommodation and activities. But, expect to pay for a few drinks for your hens along the way.

The only exception to this is if you’ve had a heavy hand in the planning process. It would be unfair to expect your hens to pay for a long weekend to Bali – especially if you were the one to suggest it. Travel can be pricey, and not all of your bridesmaids will be in a position to pay for additional costs, especially if they’re not exactly cheap to begin with.

Complete list of what your bridesmaids should and shouldn’t pay for

Check out our below guide to discover what you might ask your bridesmaids to pay for. Just remember, every wedding is unique – just like your bridesmaids – so these aren’t strict rules that you should stick to.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Your bridesmaids should pay for their own shoes and accessories. However, a great gift to thank your bridesmaids for being a part of your big day would be a token piece of jewellery that they can wear on the day.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Hen party costs are also up to the bridal party – they can split this between them and still give you the best pre-wedding party of your life. The only caveat to this is if you have ambitious plans, such as a trip abroad or something else on the pricier side.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Travel and accommodation associated with your big day are the duty of your bridesmaids to organise and pay for. However, you could help them out by booking a block of rooms at a discount price, or if your venue is far away, you could arrange for a large group of you to travel together to cut down the cost.

Your bridesmaids should pay for:

If your bridesmaid chooses to give you a wedding gift (and they may not as they’ve already spent a lot of money and effort on your wedding) the cost is up to them. It may only be something small, but it will be a lovely keepsake to mark them accompanying you on your big day.

Your bridesmaids should pay for: 

Aside from any welcome drinks and wine/fizz with meals, unless you’re offering an open bar your bridesmaids will expect to pay for their own drinks, particularly as the evening reception begins.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

The bride is expected to pay for any floral accessories and the bouquets being held by the bridesmaids. Don’t forget about any extras, like corsages.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

If you choose to have your bridal party stay with you in your hotel suite on the eve of your wedding, that’s your responsibility, and you should cover the cost of this.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

Transportation on your wedding day is also up to the bride and her family to pay for. Your bridesmaids will have enough to think about on the day, so do them a favour and arrange how they’ll get from the altar to the reception. You could save these costs by having the ceremony and reception at the same location.

Your bridesmaids shouldn’t pay for:

This one almost goes without saying, but your bridesmaids shouldn’t have to pay for any food on the big day. This includes any pre-ceremony food as you get ready, such as salmon and scrambled eggs and a cheeky mimosa.

What about the grey areas?

As we’ve already highlighted, it’s entirely up to you and your budget to decide whether or not you offer to pay for your bridesmaids’ dresses. If you’re expecting your bridesmaids to wear a dress that’s on the pricier side, then this is something you should probably offer to pay for. One of the unofficial rules is that if you’re giving your bridesmaids certain ‘rules’ they have to stick to, then that usually means it’s something you should pick up the bill for.

Hair and makeup is another tricky one. If you’re not that fussed and want to save some pennies, ask them to do their own hair and makeup (they will look stunning anyway). However, if you specifically want a glamorous or particular look for your bridesmaids, you will have to pay for a professional. Your chosen hair and makeup artist can probably offer you a deal if they’re looking after several people in your wedding party. 

Alternatively, if your bridesmaids are being a little diva-ish and want to hire a professional without your requesting it, they’re probably better off picking up the cost – or you could split the bill in goodwill to keep them sweet. Remember, your wedding photos will last a lifetime, so make sure you’re happy with the final looks.

How to talk about money with your bridesmaids

The most important thing you can do is keep money talk open and honest. Talking about money can be difficult at the best of times, but doubly so when you’re asking someone to spend some of their own hard-earned cash. As soon as you know your plans, communicate them to your bridal party so they know exactly what’s expected of them and how much they’re going to have to save.

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The role of a page boy at a wedding is an honorary position typically given to a young boy who plays a special part in the wedding ceremony. Because the role of a page boy is relatively small, they’re not necessarily imperative, but if you have a boy of appropriate age in your family, asking them to be a page boy is a thoughtful and loving gesture. Plus, it allows you to get a few ‘ahhs’ from your guests before the tears start to flow as you exchange your vows.

In this post, we’ll take a look at what a page boy is, what they wear, and their responsibilities as part of your big day, as well as some helpful tips for ensuring everything goes down without a hitch.

What are page boys?

A page boy is usually a young boy, often a close family member or friend, chosen for a special role in the wedding ceremony. His duties can range from carrying symbolic items to assisting the bridal party, depending on the couple’s traditions and preferences. However, the role is mostly symbolic, so there’s no need to worry if the page boy becomes fidgety or if you don’t have someone the right age. It’s really about adding a charming touch to your big day!

‘Page’ is a medieval word that refers to a male attendant or servant to noble figures or knights. A page would work in a castle or home from between the ages of 7 to 14 in exchange for food, lodgings, clothes and a basic education.

Today, the term has evolved to mean a young boy who has a small role at a wedding, and will help in a small, token way, such as by helping to hold the train of the bride’s wedding dress, throw flowers or petals, or simply look adorable in a little suit as they walk down the aisle.

How old can a page boy be for a wedding?

Typically, page boys are aged between 3 and 10. This is because boys younger than 3 can be much harder to give instructions to, and boys older than 10 may be given responsibilities much closer to that of an usher (if in fact, they want to play a role in your wedding at all).

Is there a difference between a page boy and a ring bearer?

Yes, there are differences between a page boy and a ring bearer. At modern weddings, because there isn’t as much need for someone to help the bride with a long train on her dress, the role of a page boy is far more honorary than it used to be. Meanwhile, a ring bearer has an important role to play, as they carry the ring pillow down the aisle so the happy couple can exchange rings during the ceremony.

Do you need a page boy at your wedding?

Page boys are traditionally seen at weddings, especially if you’ve invited a lot of guests and would like to include younger family members in the ceremony. However, if your wedding is small, there are no boys under the age of 10 in your family, or you simply don’t want one, there’s nothing to say you need a page boy. As we highlighted above, it’s more of an honorary position these days and is seen more as a loving gesture than giving someone in your family a job that could make or break the big day.

Can you have 3 page boys at your wedding?

Unlike the ring bearer, who is typically limited to one, you can have as many page boys at your wedding as you like. If you come from a large family, you might opt for up to three page boys to keep things manageable, as having a group of young boys can sometimes lead to playful chaos. However, there’s no rule stopping you from including more if you want everyone to have a role — just be prepared for a bit of lively energy on your big day!

What does the page boy do on the morning of the wedding?

On the morning of the wedding, the page boy can participate in whatever makes him comfortable as everyone gets ready. If he’s close to the groom, he may enjoy joining the groom, best man, and ushers. However, this depends on how well he knows the group and whether his parents are nearby. It’s a good idea to discuss with the page boy’s parents what would make him feel at ease, especially if he’s very young. Modern weddings often give the page boy a small, symbolic role, so there’s no pressure.

What is a page boy’s role? 

Traditionally page boys are in charge of carrying the bride’s train down the aisle, but nowadays, with fewer brides choosing to have long, flowing trains, their responsibilities have evolved. That being said, if you do have a dress with a long train, asking the page boy to uphold this traditional part of the job should be something they can do without any issues.

Today, the page boy might have a dual role where they also carry the rings down the aisle. However, this depends on the age of your page boy and if you trust them to safely hold on to the rings. What a responsibility for the little man! If you’re worried about your precious rings disappearing, you may like to replace them with replicas and have your page boy carry those down the aisle instead. You can squirrel your actual rings away with one of your bridesmaids or ushers so it’s one less thing for you to worry about.

Other things you might ask your page boy to do could be:

• Hold a symbolic object – The page boy may be tasked with holding a symbolic object, such as a ring cushion, a bouquet or a special item that represents the couple’s love or cultural traditions. The page boy presents this object during the ceremony to the appropriate person.
• Escort the flower girl – In some cases, the page boy may accompany and walk down the aisle with the flower girl or another young member of the wedding party. This adds a sweet and charming touch to the procession.
• Scatter petals – If you don’t have any little girls in the family or you know a page boy would enjoy it, why not have them scatter petals down the aisle as an adorable and romantic gesture?
• Carry a sign – You might ask your page boy to carry a sign down the aisle that says something like, ‘Here comes the bride’ or ‘Please stand’, which gives them an important but very cute thing to do.

Do page boys throw flowers or petals?

Petal scattering isn’t just for flower girls! Both page boys and flower girls can take on this sweet task, symbolising joy and blessings as the bride walks down the aisle. Whether you choose one, both, or multiple children to scatter petals, it adds a charming touch to the ceremony and offers beautiful photo moments. And if petal scattering isn’t your thing, that’s perfectly fine too — your ceremony should be about what feels right for you!

What does a page boy wear?

Page boys are a fantastic combination of elegant and cute, so you’re welcome to dress them in any style that’s in keeping with your wedding. This could be a tuxedo or a suit with a waistcoat and tie. 

Do page boys need to match the groom?

It’s common for the page boy to wear an outfit similar to that of the groom, but that’s not something set in stone. So, be as adventurous as you like. But, when it comes time for photos, the groom, best man, ushers and page boys will all look equally as fabulous if there’s some cohesion.

Do page boys wear buttonholes?

Yes, along with the groom, dads, best man and ushers, the page boy will usually wear a buttonhole. Just make sure the page boy understands it might be delicate and become damaged if fiddled with.

Do you buy the page boy a gift?

Like you might do for other members of the wedding party such as the bridesmaids and mums, you might also want to show your page boys and flower girls how much of a great job they did by giving them a small gift. It doesn’t have to be something big and expensive (and definitely not a bottle of wine) but a small toy, game or teddy bear would likely be hugely appreciated.

5 tips for a successful page boy experience

Excited to have a close friend or family member take on the role of page boy at your wedding? Just bear in mind these five tips so it all goes exactly as planned:

1. Make sure your page boy attends any wedding rehearsals to familiarise them with the ceremony proceedings and their specific role. Encourage them to ask questions, listen to instructions and practise their tasks so they can feel confident on the wedding day.
2. Make sure the parents of your page boy know exactly what the page boy has to wear and where they’re going to get ready on the morning of the big day. It’s often a miniature version of the groomsmen’s attire or a suit that matches the wedding theme. Make sure the page boy’s clothes fit well and are comfortable to wear throughout the day (which will prevent fidgeting).
3. Make sure everyone knows what time to arrive at the wedding venue, allowing ample time for preparation and to get dressed. Being punctual ensures stress and anxiety are kept to a minimum, which can otherwise rub off on your page boy.
4. Be thoughtful and understanding towards your page boy, but remind them to be on their best behaviour throughout the day. Make sure they know how important their role is and that they can ask you questions at any point if they’re not sure about something.
5. While it’s your day and you or your wedding planner will be in charge, keep your page boy included so they don’t feel like yet another grown-up is telling them what to do. Ask them what they’d like to do and let them make some decisions to help them feel included.

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